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Miscarriage Now TTC

I had a miscarriage of twins about 12 weeks ago. I had no idea I was pregnant. No idea what so ever. I was having my period like norma, we'll I would call them normal then one day I had started my period and there was something odd, different, very different that I had never seen before. It was almost like I knew right then and there what it was. My body knew. I did not. So I had finished wiping and knew I was going to call the doctor because something wasn't right, so I went to bed. I woke up the next morning to call my doctor and right before I did I went to use the bathroom and change my tampon and there was something so similar to what I had saw the night before. I was in a panic. I had no idea what it was.
When I called my doctor, she wanted to see me that same day. So I go into the doctor, she checks me and sits down and talks with me, asks me questions, and the next thing I hear her say is, you've had a miscarriage. What? Mind you I'm only 19, but I have my head on my shoulders better then you typical 19 year old. Accidents happen, but what was different with this is that it upset me. It upset me bad. I didn't know I was pregnant. I had no signs, nothing. And my doctor guessed I was 8-10 weeks. Like wow! And with twins. Me and my boyfriend were devastated. I wish I would've knew. I do. I had to go to the hospital. I did my ultrasound. Luckily, I didn't have to have a d&c. I had passed everything at home.
Since my miscarriage, no one really talks about it. My family doesn't really know or they don't bring it up, but me and my boyfriend we talk about it all the time. All the time. We are parents to two little angels up above. Yet now we realize we want a baby. We want a family, we are doing good as a couple and we realize that we do want one of our own. My boyfriend has a son already, but he doesn't get to see him because of where his mother lives and how she acts. I know I want a baby. I am TTC! And I know this because all my friends are getting pregnant. All I see anymore are babies. I just wish it wasn't so hard. I don't really know much about TTC because I am new to all this. I'm new to bump and everyone here. Anyone have advice?
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  • Uh, how in the world would your doctor know that you had miscarried twins? 


    How do you know you were pregnant? I'm sorry, but there are some holes here you need to fill in first. 
    And this. Definitely this.
      

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  • Okay, so I didn't post this to be put down. I know what I am getting myself into. And as far as how did my doctor j now I want pregnant, there was tests that was down and showed levels. Like I said before, I know I am young, but I also know where I stand in my financial situations and work situations. I do not have to include my whole life story. I am going through pain and do not need to put down. I know you don't mean no harm, but being told or asked if I am ready that shouldn't be a question. I never said I wasn't trying before my miscarriage. All my home test just showed negative and I wasn't showing any signs.
  • I understand the the home test should have read it at 10 weeks, but I wasn't testing all the time. That's my fault. I quit testing at probably 5 weeks. I went to the hospital like I said and they did tests and ultrasound because I have a blood type of O negative. I ended up getting the Rh negative shot for future pregnancies.
    I'm not jumping anyone's gun. I just typed quickly and I can read over it for edit.
  • I am soo confused with this post !

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  • I know what you all are saying, I do. But to be honest, I'm not taking this lighty. I am not at all. And I'm not at all saying I want a baby because my friends do. I have had friends for years have babies. I know when the right time comes around. I know what comes with being a mother. I do. I'm not saying that to be ignorant. I'm not stupid. I am not one of those young girls that goes out and parties all the time eother. Nothing against anyone who does. I used to. I used to be in the wrong crowd. From the replies. I'm just going to quit with bump for awhile. And for whoever thinks my babies who not be supported that's a low blow. You don't know me. And I understand that is also a reason to why some of you feel the need to go off. But like I said, I'm just going to delete and move on. I asked for advice and saying hello to bumo, not to get put down.
  • You got advice, nobody put you down.

    I had my first at 19 and it was hard ! It seems like a red flag to me that you want to have kids with someone who doesn't get to see the child that they have already. The excuse for that seems like crap too in my opinion, but whatever.

    Good luck with whatever you decide to do, but if you were my friend or family member I would tell you to wait a little while and really think about "what you are getting into".

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  • I tell you what, you people are really mature.
  • knhedrick said:
    I had a miscarriage of twins about 12 weeks ago. I had no idea I was pregnant. No idea what so ever. I was having my period like norma, we'll I would call them normal then one day I had started my period and there was something odd, different, very different that I had never seen before. It was almost like I knew right then and there what it was. My body knew. I did not. So I had finished wiping and knew I was going to call the doctor because something wasn't right, so I went to bed. I woke up the next morning to call my doctor and right before I did I went to use the bathroom and change my tampon and there was something so similar to what I had saw the night before. I was in a panic. I had no idea what it was. When I called my doctor, she wanted to see me that same day. So I go into the doctor, she checks me and sits down and talks with me, asks me questions, and the next thing I hear her say is, you've had a miscarriage. What? Mind you I'm only 19, but I have my head on my shoulders better then you typical 19 year old. Accidents happen, but what was different with this is that it upset me. It upset me bad. I didn't know I was pregnant. I had no signs, nothing. And my doctor guessed I was 8-10 weeks. Like wow! And with twins. Me and my boyfriend were devastated. I wish I would've knew. I do. I had to go to the hospital. I did my ultrasound. Luckily, I didn't have to have a d&c. I had passed everything at home. Since my miscarriage, no one really talks about it. My family doesn't really know or they don't bring it up, but me and my boyfriend we talk about it all the time. All the time. We are parents to two little angels up above. Yet now we realize we want a baby. We want a family, we are doing good as a couple and we realize that we do want one of our own. My boyfriend has a son already, but he doesn't get to see him because of where his mother lives and how she acts. I know I want a baby. I am TTC! And I know this because all my friends are getting pregnant. All I see anymore are babies. I just wish it wasn't so hard. I don't really know much about TTC because I am new to all this. I'm new to bump and everyone here. Anyone have advice?
    I'm sorry for your loss. Ask your doctor about when you can start trying. How far along were you when you miscarried? Normally doctors want you to have your first cycle after your MC to start TTC again. Then once you get CD1 (your period) you can start charting just to get more information. Go to fertility friend and take the tutorials. That way you can TTC with purpose.

    Your first 6 or so cycles could be very long and very weird. Your body is still healing and most likely has some hormonal flux going on post MC. Again, I'm so very sorry for your loss.


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  • Agree ^^ wholeheartedly! No one was beating you up on here. Some of us just know from experience. You do you, but think about it before making any rash decisions. Bc it isn't just effecting you. But I am sorry for your loss. Mine from when I was 18 is especially effecting me today, before you even posted.. So I'm a bit of a b**** right now. But these ladies help me get through my days by either laughter or today just well wishes, so please don't go telling us we are all so mean for just giving you out true opinions.


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    I could be wrong here but I was on a BMB with a woman who liked to stir the pot. She knows I lost twins. Hmmmmm... CMK?

    OP- I'm very sorry for your loss. It's true that there is no way to know you were carrying twins without an u/s BEFORE your natural m/c to confirm. Betas vary tremendously. I'm sure you felt awful but it was very lucky that you didn't need a D&C. For me, it was terrible and painful. By fa the worst of my losses physically. I'm amazed you didn't go straight to the ER that night before. Or the morning when you woke up.

    It's also AMAZING if you were pregnant with twins and didn't turn a home test at 5 weeks. Even at 10 weeks, you could have the hook effect but you'd likely see a faint line.

    Please take it from another loss mama that it takes time to heal. More than just physical time but emotional. Please consider therapy before jumping into TTC again, especially because at 19, you have the luxury of taking all the time you need to heal.

    @nlwz123 If one has a loss with a - blood type, Rhogam is administered immediately (as best as I know, I'm +.)

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  • ^^ exactly. No way to know gestational age or singleton/twins.
  • @BostonBaby1, interesting.  The more you know!




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  • nlwz123 said:

    @BostonBaby1, interesting.  The more you know!

    Sadly, not something one ever wants to know... Still with you on all your points though!
  • It was my gynecologist that said since it was two sacks it could've been twins. So I took it as it was. It is something that runs in my family very frequently. I'm sorry for the loss of information, I am new to this and it is very different for me. I want to thank everyone for there time for helping me through this hard time. Nothing can replace what I lost, but I know I am a mother to an angel or angels. Only God knows. As for going to the ER, my gynecologist did send me straight to the hospital after my visit with her. And just like @Kristin712 that's how my uterus look during my ultrasound. She herself even had questioned if I was pregnant. I had told her my doctor had sent me over because of her belief of me having a miscarriage. The radiologist doing the ultrasound then told me well you won't have to do a d&c because you have passed everything natural. Honestly I do not believe I was 8-10 weeks because when I had passed the sacks at home, it was not even developed to where I would've been able to tell straight on. Guessing for what she said 8-10 weeks was a guess about taking a test at 5 weeks. It could've been sooner. I'm not for sure.
  • Maybe she means that the material she passed looked like two sacs? As in, two larger items that were passed? This is the only thing I can think of that would remotely make sense. 


    OP: If you were 8-10 weeks along, the embryo would be over an inch in size and clearly recognizable as such. Are you saying that you passed two items over an inch in size that were visibly an embryo? 


    knhedrick said:

    Honestly I do not believe I was 8-10 weeks because when I had passed the sacks at home, it was not even developed to where I would've been able to tell straight on. 

    This makes it sound like what you passed was much smaller/less conclusive than an 8-10 weeks clearly identifiable embryo. Do you mean that you passed a large clot? How large? 

    I ask because it is entirely possible to pass clots during your period that are NOT related to miscarriage.


    I completely get where you're coming from, but having been through this before… I can tell you that placenta can be about the same size as the fetus at that time period. And there is no telling how many pieces of placenta could come out. It would be very hard to tell especially not knowing when the miscarriage actually occurred.
  • I personally passed down them. I saw them and held them in my hand. As far as being 8-10 weeks, I believe I wasn't as far as my doctor said I was. Believe me I thought they were clots at first, but describing them to my doctor with her asking me questions she came to the conclusion what it was. My levels were high just like I had been pregnant. I had to go back to the hospital days later to check on my levels.
  • edited October 2015
    knhedrick said:
    It was my gynecologist that said since it was two sacks it could've been twins. So I took it as it was. It is something that runs in my family very frequently. I'm sorry for the loss of information, I am new to this and it is very different for me. I want to thank everyone for there time for helping me through this hard time. Nothing can replace what I lost, but I know I am a mother to an angel or angels. Only God knows. As for going to the ER, my gynecologist did send me straight to the hospital after my visit with her. And just like @Kristin712 that's how my uterus look during my ultrasound. She herself even had questioned if I was pregnant. I had told her my doctor had sent me over because of her belief of me having a miscarriage. The radiologist doing the ultrasound then told me well you won't have to do a d&c because you have passed everything natural. Honestly I do not believe I was 8-10 weeks because when I had passed the sacks at home, it was not even developed to where I would've been able to tell straight on. Guessing for what she said 8-10 weeks was a guess about taking a test at 5 weeks. It could've been sooner. I'm not for sure.
    I thought you had passed it BEFORE you went to your GYN? how would she know it was twins, I don't think she would just assume you were pregnant and give you a gestational age WITHOUT an ultrasound being done first, not trying to be mean maybe you had a chemical?? I have very heavy menstrual cycles, so i have seen clots you wouldn't believe. When i m/c'd at 5 weeks there was no ultrasound just a blood test that revealed my levels had went down from 15-0.
  • knhedrick said:
    I had a miscarriage of twins about 12 weeks ago. I had no idea I was pregnant. No idea what so ever. I was having my period like normal, we'll I would call them normal then one day I had started my period and there was something odd, different, very different that I had never seen before.

    this is also confusing as well??
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