Now, I definitely don't share her style. I think her heart's in the right place on a lot of things and surely she'll outgrow whatever it is she's in now.
My UO is I am so over being pregnant. I know some of us have expressed similar feelings, but I just don't like it. I'm thrilled about my kids, love once they are here, hate the growing process. My OB is doing a scheduled c-section this time since it's twins and I wish we could do it even earlier than it's already scheduled (assuming they have been growing fine of course).
I really don't like people who tell me what I should be getting and not getting for the baby. "Oh you're using a pack and play? Yeah that won't work. You need to buy a bassinet" , no. No I don't. I need to be able to move in my apartment and the baby has a sleeper built in. But thanks! Also, on the same topic, moms who judge other moms. Ugh. I find this photo relevant!
This! My SIL has asked me at least 3 times if we've registered for a bumbo. The first time I was like, "no, what's that?" and then looked it up. I've decided I don't want to get one, so I haven't put it on the registry. She's looked at the registry and the other day asked again if we registered for one. I was like no . . . we haven't (in my mind I was like ummm you know we haven't and I don't appreciate you constantly asking as if we need to add it. WE'RE NOT ADDING IT!)
She also said she was surprised we didn't register for a boppy but understood why when I said we got one from a friend. But that isn't why I didn't register for one. I registered for a different brand of nursing pillow that I thought I'd like better. Which she saw. She just thinks somehow a boppy is still essential.
I have a feeling I may be getting some unwanted gifts from her even after telling her we don't want/need these things.
Try being married into a LARGE family that all live within 15 min of each other and are Extremly opinionated. I got a lot of unwanted advice before my first. I just smiled and walked away because I researched everything and knew what I wanted for my family/lifestyle. Afterwards I found most of those people just hopped on the bandwagon of what others were doing. For example I was the first to use Tommee Tippee bottles and to baby wear and now they all use both and think they're experts. And they all say they EBF and use cloths diapers but don't
My first UO is that even the UO's threads are boring. *YAWN* My second UO is I hate people who go on and on about stretchmarks being hereditary and how there's nothing you can do about it. First and foremost, that's a theory you came across on the internet. Secondly not all skin specialists are on board with the theory. So excuse me while I drown myself in cocoa butter or try every stretchmark product known to mankind.
Seriously though, labeling something bullying that ISN'T EVEN REMOTELY CLOSE TO BULLYING is so fundamentally irresponsible I can't even begin to rationalize with someone who actually thinks that.
I never knew! This means I bully people daily! On the phone, on the internet, while I'm driving, at the grocery store... The list goes on.
My UO is that I don't understand why someone would complain about rampant bullying on a board and have no intention of leaving. Do you like it here, or not?
Just to clarify...I'm not asking anyone to leave. It's just confusing. Like, if I went to a party and wasn't having fun, I'd leave.
@baya5 My husband's family is not completely huge, but he is the youngest of 4 boys (all married men now) and all 3 of my SIL's can be VERY opinionated. This one in particular just happens to have 4 kids so she thinks she knows everything about parenting at times. Plus we get the "little brother and his wife" lack of respect a lot of the time. I love them all, but there are some things I just am not taking your advice on because I'm capable of my own research and decisions. Thank goodness my MIL is pretty much the nicest most laid back person ever!
I got a pacifier in a swag bag I received so I have one just in case, but as I mentioned, I don't plan on using them unless it's the only option. I just feel like a lot of people use a pacifier as a crutch in place of trying to soothe their baby without shoving something in their mouth
Sucking is a very soothing thing for a baby. It's not laziness on the parent's part.
I agree that sometimes it's the best thing to soothe the baby. In my experience, I've seen parents just shove a pacifier in their child's mouth to stop them crying instead of actually interacting with their child or even looking at them. That's why I said I feel like a lot of people use it as a crutch, not all.
My first UO is that even the UO's threads are boring. *YAWN* My second UO is I hate people who go on and on about stretchmarks being hereditary and how there's nothing you can do about it. First and foremost, that's a theory you came across on the internet. Secondly not all skin specialists are on board with the theory. So excuse me while I drown myself in cocoa butter or try every stretchmark product known to mankind.
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I've never seen a single stretch mark on my mom. So I am just praying that they are hereditary as I put all the lotion on the world on.
I am 27, DH is 26. We have been married since September 28, 2013. We had our first child, Zoey, February 7, 2016.
My UO is that everytime someone says something about the aggressive way in which some (not all) threads are responded to everyone gets hung up on the word "bullying". Why not just acknowledge the basic sentiment that SOMETIMES posters get treated like complete idiots for posting something that others deem completely wrong or just asinine.
I agree that bullying is a heavy word and it doesn't exactly incapsulate what happens on TB but to act as if there have not been times when posters have been torn to pieces over a post is ridiculous.
I can't tell you how many times I read a thread to DH just because of how agressive the responses were. I just think it's crazy that so many posters are suprised to hear someone feels that some posts lack a respectful tone. I mean come on how many times are agressive responses then followed up with the explanation of, "well you cant control how people respond on a public forum" Who cares if this forum is public; you can still chill and respond with only a spoonful of sarcasm instead of a bucket full..
My UO is that everytime someone says something about the aggressive way in which some (not all) threads are responded to everyone gets hung up on the word "bullying". Why not just acknowledge the basic sentiment that SOMETIMES posters get treated like complete idiots for posting something that others deem completely wrong or just asinine.
I agree that bullying is a heavy word and it doesn't exactly incapsulate what happens on TB but to act as if there have not been times when posters have been torn to pieces over a post is ridiculous.
I can't tell you how many times I read a thread to DH just because of how agressive the responses were. I just think it's crazy that so many posters are suprised to hear someone feels that some posts lack a respectful tone. I mean come on how many times are agressive responses then followed up with the explanation of, "well you cant control how people respond on a public forum" Who cares if this forum is public; you can still chill and respond with only a spoonful of sarcasm instead of a bucket full..
So when you say "people are bullying" you mean "this response doesn't give me warm fuzzies". Got it.
@bizzerbee I think the issue is that misusing a word like "bullying" devalues the word. Actual bullying should be taken very seriously, as it often results in very serious consequences and actions. Typically, what happens on TB does not qualify as "bullying" and does not have the same ramifications as actual bullying, nor does it produce the same results or have the same impact on the affected person. When we use a word like that lightly or apply it against a situation it does not relate to, it takes away from the weight of the word, and people are less likely to take actual bullying situations seriously. This is why people get hung up on the word, and I think it is a word worth distinguishing.
I have a third UO. I find some of the regs on the trimester boards extremely superficial. On one hand lets promote equality, LGBT rights and lets use proper terminology but on the other lets promote or prefer "women" only showers because men would rather lick toilet seats. I hate showers and won't be having one, but if I did it would probably be organized by my two of my guy friends. I find it rude to suggest all men are the same.
A friend with a 4 month old told me her husband insisted no pacifier. The nurse looked at him and said "would you rather him get used to soothing with something you can eventually wean him off of OR would you rather him suck his thumb?" Needless to say, sweet baby has a pacifier.
A friend with a 4 month old told me her husband insisted no pacifier. The nurse looked at him and said "would you rather him get used to soothing with something you can eventually wean him off of OR would you rather him suck his thumb?" Needless to say, sweet baby has a pacifier.
I don't think the thumb is something you necessarily choose for your child. Dd simply hated pacifiers and soothed without then she started sucking her thumb months later.
@wisco29 I think that situation can be more chalked up to men "knowing everything" and insisting their way is the only way lol. My BF said our baby wasn't going to pacifier. I laughed in his face. When baby is crying, you will do whatever it takes. Even if it is YOUR knuckle they are sucking on.
@dragonfly321, @ashton2190 - DS has a pacifier initially to save my nipples (no bleeding or cracked nipples, YAY). But around three months, he decided he HATED them. So, we stopped trying to give it to him and he actually never started sucking his thumb either. I'm hoping I'm just as lucky with number 2 but my main goal is just to keep everyone alive and mostly happy.
@bizzerbee I think the issue is that misusing a word like "bullying" devalues the word. Actual bullying should be taken very seriously, as it often results in very serious consequences and actions. Typically, what happens on TB does not qualify as "bullying" and does not have the same ramifications as actual bullying, nor does it produce the same results or have the same impact on the affected person. When we use a word like that lightly or apply it against a situation it does not relate to, it takes away from the weight of the word, and people are less likely to take actual bullying situations seriously. This is why people get hung up on the word, and I think it is a word worth distinguishing.
And that is why I said that bullying is not the right word to use however instead we should think about the sentiment behind the word and not ignore what someone says entirely because of the poor wording. Obviously people are trying to express a feeling. Okay, so they used the wrong word we got that. Does that mean that their opinion should be tossed out the window entirely because of it? What I was implying was instead of throwing the baby out with the bath water just look past the poor word choice for a second and acknowledge that some people could stand to just respond to SOME posts with a little less bite.
@cantobean what? I am confused by your response. Had we been having a conversation in person I would have whipped my head around to see if you were responding to someone else. I literally began my post saying I in fact DONT agree that bullying is the right word to use so I am not sure why your response is a "clarification" on how I judge something to be bullying. So strange...
Why do some people comment on multiple month boards? Can't you pick one and stay with it? I would never comment on the Jan month board unless it was super important. Am I the only one who feels this way?
I really don't like people who tell me what I should be getting and not getting for the baby. "Oh you're using a pack and play? Yeah that won't work. You need to buy a bassinet" , no. No I don't. I need to be able to move in my apartment and the baby has a sleeper built in. But thanks! Also, on the same topic, moms who judge other moms. Ugh. I find this photo relevant!
This! My SIL has asked me at least 3 times if we've registered for a bumbo. The first time I was like, "no, what's that?" and then looked it up. I've decided I don't want to get one, so I haven't put it on the registry. She's looked at the registry and the other day asked again if we registered for one. I was like no . . . we haven't (in my mind I was like ummm you know we haven't and I don't appreciate you constantly asking as if we need to add it. WE'RE NOT ADDING IT!)
She also said she was surprised we didn't register for a boppy but understood why when I said we got one from a friend. But that isn't why I didn't register for one. I registered for a different brand of nursing pillow that I thought I'd like better. Which she saw. She just thinks somehow a boppy is still essential.
I have a feeling I may be getting some unwanted gifts from her even after telling her we don't want/need these things.
Try being married into a LARGE family that all live within 15 min of each other and are Extremly opinionated. I got a lot of unwanted advice before my first. I just smiled and walked away because I researched everything and knew what I wanted for my family/lifestyle. Afterwards I found most of those people just hopped on the bandwagon of what others were doing. For example I was the first to use Tommee Tippee bottles and to baby wear and now they all use both and think they're experts. And they all say they EBF and use cloths diapers but don't
You just described both sides of my family. In laws and my direct family. Too much breeding going on!! Lol but I seriously hate when they force their opinions on me. Like okay great, you have 6 kids whigh you raised differently each time. Doesn't mean I need to do what you did or buy what you did. I can not tell you how much flak we are getting for not moving and giving out newborn baby their own room. Uh, they're going to need me like every hour and I can guarantee this is the only way I or my husband will get up. Psh, family. You have to love them but.. Wait.. No you don't! (I do love them but sometimes I want to punch them)
I'd also like to add that I think the batman craze is ridiculous. I also don't like star wars.
I do however obsess over LOTR and LOZ. I have a triforce tattoo and my cats are Aragorn and Arwen. I just can't get into the batman thing, I think the stories are kinda sucky; and Star Wars bores me to sleep every time.
So there we go. If there's any nerds lurking around here I have probably just set off a time bomb.
Oh wait, one more thing. Bacon tastes disgusting. EWW EWW AND EWW.
@bizzerbee I think the issue is that misusing a word like "bullying" devalues the word. Actual bullying should be taken very seriously, as it often results in very serious consequences and actions. Typically, what happens on TB does not qualify as "bullying" and does not have the same ramifications as actual bullying, nor does it produce the same results or have the same impact on the affected person. When we use a word like that lightly or apply it against a situation it does not relate to, it takes away from the weight of the word, and people are less likely to take actual bullying situations seriously. This is why people get hung up on the word, and I think it is a word worth distinguishing.
And that is why I said that bullying is not the right word to use however instead we should think about the sentiment behind the word and not ignore what someone says entirely because of the poor wording. Obviously people are trying to express a feeling. Okay, so they used the wrong word we got that. Does that mean that their opinion should be tossed out the window entirely because of it? What I was implying was instead of throwing the baby out with the bath water just look past the poor word choice for a second and acknowledge that some people could stand to just respond to SOME posts with a little less bite.
@cantobean what? I am confused by your response. Had we been having a conversation in person I would have whipped my head around to see if you were responding to someone else. I literally began my post saying I in fact DONT agree that bullying is the right word to use so I am not sure why your response is a "clarification" on how I judge something to be bullying. So strange...
No need to whip anything, please. You said that when people use the word "bully", we should just acknowledge that they didn't like the responses they got instead of getting hung up on the word "bully". I'm not really sure why you think it's ok for people to claim they are bullied by strangers on the Internet. Like other posters said, it devalues the actual meaning behind the word.
Not every post here is met with a positive reaction, but I have not seen many interactions on here that I would call anything close to bullying.
@bizzerbee I think the issue is that misusing a word like "bullying" devalues the word. Actual bullying should be taken very seriously, as it often results in very serious consequences and actions. Typically, what happens on TB does not qualify as "bullying" and does not have the same ramifications as actual bullying, nor does it produce the same results or have the same impact on the affected person. When we use a word like that lightly or apply it against a situation it does not relate to, it takes away from the weight of the word, and people are less likely to take actual bullying situations seriously. This is why people get hung up on the word, and I think it is a word worth distinguishing.
And that is why I said that bullying is not the right word to use however instead we should think about the sentiment behind the word and not ignore what someone says entirely because of the poor wording. Obviously people are trying to express a feeling. Okay, so they used the wrong word we got that. Does that mean that their opinion should be tossed out the window entirely because of it? What I was implying was instead of throwing the baby out with the bath water just look past the poor word choice for a second and acknowledge that some people could stand to just respond to SOME posts with a little less bite.
@cantobean what? I am confused by your response. Had we been having a conversation in person I would have whipped my head around to see if you were responding to someone else. I literally began my post saying I in fact DONT agree that bullying is the right word to use so I am not sure why your response is a "clarification" on how I judge something to be bullying. So strange...
You questioned why people got hung up on the word bully, so I provided an explanation.
It is kind of hard to take people seriously when they overstate the gravity of a situation, and of course that's going to elicit responses laced with sarcasm or of a straightforward manner. So when someone cries bully, it's going to get addressed, and it may not be all cupcakes and roses.
I also think we have different definitions of the word "aggressive", a word used several times in your original post. Very rarely do I see posters become hostile or antagonistic towards others. More often, posters with unrealistic expectations about how an online community will react to their statements become upset or worked up when other posters respond to them in a straightforward or sarcastic manner (sarcasm and gifs are not aggressive). If posters cross a line, the bump gods shut it down. If they don't intervene, its probably because while the directness of a poster may have felt abrupt or confrontational, it wasn't hurtful or untrue.
I find it hilarious when people claim other's posts are aggressive. The written word takes on whatever tone the reader gives it. One sentence can be different to every person who reads it. The truth is, if the writer did mean ill intention, you really have no clue unless they distinctly tell you. Anything else is inference, and that's entirely on the person who is reading
I tried with the bacon comment. Lol this bullying stuff is just annoying at this point and dragging everything down. Let's drop it and move on with some entertainment , please!!
Why do some people comment on multiple month boards? Can't you pick one and stay with it? I would never comment on the Jan month board unless it was super important. Am I the only one who feels this way?
If you're close to either one I might go there occasionally but I think people just think they might go 6 weeks early so you know that could be there board ) We were March and had babies born in December, she never went to December
Why do some people comment on multiple month boards? Can't you pick one and stay with it? I would never comment on the Jan month board unless it was super important. Am I the only one who feels this way?
Why does it bother you?
Some of us use the search function to find answers to questions we can avoid repeating. (Like we're instructed to do) and another BMB just happens to have that question already answered. I also like to follow multiples groups because a multiples pregnancy is a whole new world. If one of the expecting twin moms has a high risk question or is concerned and I've been there to experience it first hand...I'm going to comment and hope it answers their question and eases their mind.
I'd also like to add that I think the batman craze is ridiculous. I also don't like star wars.
I do however obsess over LOTR and LOZ. I have a triforce tattoo and my cats are Aragorn and Arwen. I just can't get into the batman thing, I think the stories are kinda sucky; and Star Wars bores me to sleep every time.
So there we go. If there's any nerds lurking around here I have probably just set off a time bomb.
Oh wait, one more thing.
Bacon tastes disgusting. EWW EWW AND EWW.
Here we go! I def have to respond to this one (especially with the nerds lurking comment . . . nerd alert over here!)
I LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE BATMAN!!! However, not due to any "Batman craze"
I got hooked when I was like 12 on the old Adam West & Burt Ward show on TV Land. Honestly, I like Nightwing best, but since he is less popular that doesn't come up as much.
Also, I LOVE Star Wars! Definitely the original 3 more, but I grew up with the new 3 so those hold a place in my heart as well.
That being said, I'm a LOTR fan too And I have no problem with someone not liking what I like. It actually bugs me more that the things I like are becoming a "craze" or popular with people who don't really care about backstory and the origins of these characters. I also hate that if you're a girl and want Batman stuff you pretty much have to shop in the guy's section or suffer through pink and glitter. Props to anyone who wants a pink glittery Batgirl shirt, but guess what? Batgirl didn't wear pink!!!
So my UO is that "fake" nerds annoy me Also people who say that cute girls who are into nerdy stuff are just posers because they didn't get bullied the same . . . guess what? Just because I'm reasonably attractive doesn't mean I didn't get picked on for my nerdyness! Jeesh!
Why do some people comment on multiple month boards? Can't you pick one and stay with it? I would never comment on the Jan month board unless it was super important. Am I the only one who feels this way?
I do - my due date was moved up to January so I lurk there sometimes. Sorry, Feb. is not alive enough for me to stay on one board. Plus since I'm further many discussions relate to where I am now in pregnancy.
My UO is that if you are eating enough calories during the day, you should not eat in the middle of the night. I occasionally wake up and feel hungry, but never get up and eat something. I just eat breakfast at my normal time in the morning. My doctor has assured me that baby gets all the nutrition needed from only 300 extra calories a day. I'm positive I eat more than that during the day!
My UO is that if you are eating enough calories during the day, you should not eat in the middle of the night. I occasionally wake up and feel hungry, but never get up and eat something. I just eat breakfast at my normal time in the morning. My doctor has assured me that baby gets all the nutrition needed from only 300 extra calories a day. I'm positive I eat more than that during the day!
If I'm hungry I'm going to eat. Pregnant or not. If I wake up hungry with stomach pains there is no way I'm going to be able to get back to sleep without getting something in my stomach.
@MichelleAG05, hunger pangs are real and they HURT. I never actually had to wake up in middle of the night but I did wake up to eat at 5am with DS starting around 8 months. If you don't eat, it physically hurts a lot. I LOVE sleep. I'd pretty much always choose it over food if it was an option. I can see someone getting them in MOTN and needing a snack.
Why do some people comment on multiple month boards? Can't you pick one and stay with it? I would never comment on the Jan month board unless it was super important. Am I the only one who feels this way?
If you're close to either one I might go there occasionally but I think people just think they might go 6 weeks early so you know that could be there board ) We were March and had babies born in December, she never went to December
I'm heading over to January right now..you never know!! I'm due the 1/02, I might be due a day early I get lurking and commenting when it's important.. but being apart of two bmb's is OTT in my opinion.
@MichelleAG05 if I wasn't pregnant, I wouldn't bother getting up to eat in the middle of the night. But right now, if I wake up hungry and ignore it, I'm going to throw up. So bring on the food!
I'd also like to add that I think the batman craze is ridiculous. I also don't like star wars.
I do however obsess over LOTR and LOZ. I have a triforce tattoo and my cats are Aragorn and Arwen. I just can't get into the batman thing, I think the stories are kinda sucky; and Star Wars bores me to sleep every time.
So there we go. If there's any nerds lurking around here I have probably just set off a time bomb.
Oh wait, one more thing.
Bacon tastes disgusting. EWW EWW AND EWW.
Why do some people comment on multiple month boards? Can't you pick one and stay with it? I would never comment on the Jan month board unless it was super important. Am I the only one who feels this way?
If you're close to either one I might go there occasionally but I think people just think they might go 6 weeks early so you know that could be there board )
We were March and had babies born in December, she never went to December
I'm heading over to January right now..you never know!! I'm due the 1/02, I might be due a day early I get lurking and commenting when it's important.. but being apart of two bmb's is OTT in my opinion.
You mean 2/2?
ETA: OH duh, you put the day/month. Gah, I"m so slow today!!
Re: UO 10/15
"8 you're fine, 9 you're mine!"
Now, I definitely don't share her style. I think her heart's in the right place on a lot of things and surely she'll outgrow whatever it is she's in now.
Try being married into a LARGE family that all live within 15 min of each other and are Extremly opinionated. I got a lot of unwanted advice before my first. I just smiled and walked away because I researched everything and knew what I wanted for my family/lifestyle. Afterwards I found most of those people just hopped on the bandwagon of what others were doing. For example I was the first to use Tommee Tippee bottles and to baby wear and now they all use both and think they're experts. And they all say they EBF and use cloths diapers but don't
My second UO is I hate people who go on and on about stretchmarks being hereditary and how there's nothing you can do about it. First and foremost, that's a theory you came across on the internet. Secondly not all skin specialists are on board with the theory. So excuse me while I drown myself in cocoa butter or try every stretchmark product known to mankind.
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Just to clarify...I'm not asking anyone to leave. It's just confusing. Like, if I went to a party and wasn't having fun, I'd leave.
I agree that sometimes it's the best thing to soothe the baby. In my experience, I've seen parents just shove a pacifier in their child's mouth to stop them crying instead of actually interacting with their child or even looking at them. That's why I said I feel like a lot of people use it as a crutch, not all.
We have been married since September 28, 2013.
We had our first child, Zoey, February 7, 2016.
I agree that bullying is a heavy word and it doesn't exactly incapsulate what happens on TB but to act as if there have not been times when posters have been torn to pieces over a post is ridiculous.
I can't tell you how many times I read a thread to DH just because of how agressive the responses were. I just think it's crazy that so many posters are suprised to hear someone feels that some posts lack a respectful tone. I mean come on how many times are agressive responses then followed up with the explanation of, "well you cant control how people respond on a public forum" Who cares if this forum is public; you can still chill and respond with only a spoonful of sarcasm instead of a bucket full..
So when you say "people are bullying" you mean "this response doesn't give me warm fuzzies". Got it.
The nurse looked at him and said "would you rather him get used to soothing with something you can eventually wean him off of OR would you rather him suck his thumb?"
Needless to say, sweet baby has a pacifier.
When baby is crying, you will do whatever it takes. Even if it is YOUR knuckle they are sucking on.
@cantobean what? I am confused by your response. Had we been having a conversation in person I would have whipped my head around to see if you were responding to someone else. I literally began my post saying I in fact DONT agree that bullying is the right word to use so I am not sure why your response is a "clarification" on how I judge something to be bullying. So strange...
You just described both sides of my family. In laws and my direct family. Too much breeding going on!! Lol but I seriously hate when they force their opinions on me. Like okay great, you have 6 kids whigh you raised differently each time. Doesn't mean I need to do what you did or buy what you did. I can not tell you how much flak we are getting for not moving and giving out newborn baby their own room. Uh, they're going to need me like every hour and I can guarantee this is the only way I or my husband will get up. Psh, family. You have to love them but.. Wait.. No you don't! (I do love them but sometimes I want to punch them)
I do however obsess over LOTR and LOZ. I have a triforce tattoo and my cats are Aragorn and Arwen. I just can't get into the batman thing, I think the stories are kinda sucky; and Star Wars bores me to sleep every time.
So there we go. If there's any nerds lurking around here I have probably just set off a time bomb.
Oh wait, one more thing.
Bacon tastes disgusting. EWW EWW AND EWW.
No need to whip anything, please. You said that when people use the word "bully", we should just acknowledge that they didn't like the responses they got instead of getting hung up on the word "bully". I'm not really sure why you think it's ok for people to claim they are bullied by strangers on the Internet. Like other posters said, it devalues the actual meaning behind the word.
Not every post here is met with a positive reaction, but I have not seen many interactions on here that I would call anything close to bullying.
It is kind of hard to take people seriously when they overstate the gravity of a situation, and of course that's going to elicit responses laced with sarcasm or of a straightforward manner. So when someone cries bully, it's going to get addressed, and it may not be all cupcakes and roses.
I also think we have different definitions of the word "aggressive", a word used several times in your original post. Very rarely do I see posters become hostile or antagonistic towards others. More often, posters with unrealistic expectations about how an online community will react to their statements become upset or worked up when other posters respond to them in a straightforward or sarcastic manner (sarcasm and gifs are not aggressive). If posters cross a line, the bump gods shut it down. If they don't intervene, its probably because while the directness of a poster may have felt abrupt or confrontational, it wasn't hurtful or untrue.
Baby F.......02/02/2016
We were March and had babies born in December, she never went to December
Some of us use the search function to find answers to questions we can avoid repeating. (Like we're instructed to do) and another BMB just happens to have that question already answered. I also like to follow multiples groups because a multiples pregnancy is a whole new world. If one of the expecting twin moms has a high risk question or is concerned and I've been there to experience it first hand...I'm going to comment and hope it answers their question and eases their mind.
Baby F.......02/02/2016
ETA: OH duh, you put the day/month. Gah, I"m so slow today!!
Baby F.......02/02/2016