Thank you everyone for the advice, I've decided to definitely use my last name but not go for child support. I'm keeping him off the birth certificate. The agreement between us for now is he can see her whenever and pick up things as needed but I don't want to get into legal stuff if he decides to leave, I'd rather just let him. I know that doesn't make sense to some people but I feel like it would be better for me. I can love and support her with or without him.
It makes sense to me.. I think it's a smart decision.. Even with legal stuff in place some guys really just don't care.. My real dad had never paid child support and has been to jail for not paying and still refuses to pay.. some men are truly just idiots.. not all but some..
Thank you everyone for the advice, I've decided to definitely use my last name but not go for child support. I'm keeping him off the birth certificate. The agreement between us for now is he can see her whenever and pick up things as needed but I don't want to get into legal stuff if he decides to leave, I'd rather just let him. I know that doesn't make sense to some people but I feel like it would be better for me. I can love and support her with or without him.
You need to do what is best for you and your LO. Good for you for making the decision you are comfortable with. And creepy Internet hugs, this cannot be easy for you.
Thank you everyone for the advice, I've decided to definitely use my last name but not go for child support. I'm keeping him off the birth certificate. The agreement between us for now is he can see her whenever and pick up things as needed but I don't want to get into legal stuff if he decides to leave, I'd rather just let him. I know that doesn't make sense to some people but I feel like it would be better for me. I can love and support her with or without him.
That's makes perfect sense. You are being the responsible one by giving him the chance to be in his daughters life. Hopefully he won't ever take that for granted and be a great father but if not, you'll have alot less stress and headache without him and the courts involved. Good decision. Good luck, I know this is very difficult for you.
Thank you everyone for the advice, I've decided to definitely use my last name but not go for child support. I'm keeping him off the birth certificate. The agreement between us for now is he can see her whenever and pick up things as needed but I don't want to get into legal stuff if he decides to leave, I'd rather just let him. I know that doesn't make sense to some people but I feel like it would be better for me. I can love and support her with or without him.
I completely respect your decision and hope it turns out well. I do want to point out with this arrangement he has as much right to take the child and not return him/her to you as you have to not allow him to see the child if things should turn nasty. I wish you the best.
If there's something strange underneath the hood. Who you gonna call? Your Doctor. If there's something weird and it don't look good. Who you gonna call? Your Doctor. Immediately. If it's new, painful, and possibly pregnancy related get your ass off the internet and call your doctor. It's for your health and your child's.
Thank you everyone for the advice, I've decided to definitely use my last name but not go for child support. I'm keeping him off the birth certificate. The agreement between us for now is he can see her whenever and pick up things as needed but I don't want to get into legal stuff if he decides to leave, I'd rather just let him. I know that doesn't make sense to some people but I feel like it would be better for me. I can love and support her with or without him.
I completely respect your decision and hope it turns out well. I do want to point out with this arrangement he has as much right to take the child and not return him/her to you as you have to not allow him to see the child if things should turn nasty. I wish you the best.
Exactly what VexyMommy said. Do what you think is best but without something legal put in place he could easily just take the child, especially if he was feeling particularly vendictive. This happened with my sister. I've never seen a person hire a lawyer so fast as she did after that happened.
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And creepy Internet hugs, this cannot be easy for you.