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Questions I will never ask an expectant mother because I'm tired of hearing them now. ..

steffnstuffsteffnstuff member
edited October 2015 in December 2015 Moms
OMG! 4?! Are you done after this? / When are you going to stop?
Are you sure there's only one in there?
What are you having?
Why don't you know? /How could you not know? /Didn't you have an ultrasound?
You know and you're just not telling, right?
What do you hope it is?
Would you be disappointed if it's a..?

These are all the ones I could think of right now. As you can see I've gotten a lot of questions about the gender of the baby. I may be being overly sensitive but I'm beyond tired of hearing these questions! What are you tired of hearing?
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  • kvp1203kvp1203 member
    "What name do you have picked out?" We want some surprise for when she's born! But everyone always asks!
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  • warrensmamawarrensmama member
    Mine is "are you done after this?" Maybe it's just me but I think it's the number one most annoying question.
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  • missphilmissphil member
    Were you hoping for a boy or a girl?
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  • Mizuiro007Mizuiro007 member
    Are you having a c section?
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  • steffnstuffsteffnstuff member
    sarahgn said:

    Was this planned?

    None of your business!
    I hate that question as well. I also hate any questions related to how we will manage financially with such a "large" family and what our plans are for room arrangements (which of our older children will have to share a room) or for a larger car (we currently have an SUV that seats 8 and a smaller car that only seats 5) like we didn't already think about our vehicle situation. I think people are just being nosy more than curious.
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  • amm0512amm0512 member
    We already have DS, so ever since we announced the pregnancy, people have been asking if we only want a girl. Once we found out she is indeed a girl, people ask if we are so relieved that we can "be done". What if we wanted four? What if it was another boy? Do they honestly think we would be less happy if we didn't have one of each?
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  • angelicmommyangelicmommy member
    sarahgn said:
    Was this planned?
    Luckily no one that knows us have asked us this as EVERYONE knows I have been baby crazy for months before our wedding. We practically just got married in order to start trying. 
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  • Gingermom15Gingermom15 member
    edited October 2015
    angelicmommy said:


    sarahgn said:

    Was this planned?

    Luckily no one that knows us have asked us this as EVERYONE knows I have been baby crazy for months before our wedding. We practically just got married in order to start trying. 

    QBF***


    SO and I have been together for quite awhile now, but haven't had the chance to plan and do a wedding because of his military duties being unpredictable. So we decided to have our baby first because we wanted to start in our mid-twenties and if we waited until timing was perfect we would be in our 30's. We didn't tell anyone we were trying, so nobody expected it. I'm not exaggerating when I say everybody but my own parents and siblings have asked if it was planned. His whole family, all our friends and co-workers all asked pretty much as soon as we announced. I started asking why they wanted to know if our son was an accident. It makes things super uncomfortable and awkward for them.
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  • sbodman82sbodman82 member
    Omg mine is: are you sure your 30 weeks because you dont really have a bump... Or are you nervous about giving birth for the first time? I actually had one person tell me i better get drugs. Im like no drugs and they told me im crazy. Wtf my body my choices mind your own buisness!!
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  • USCnurse42USCnurse42 member
    So after answering the What are you having question with our 3rd boy, we get are you going to try for a girl? No.... Are you sure? Yes....You say that now, but... I stop them by saying my husband and I are both getting fixed. I then get the isn't that a little drastic? Nope we aren't taking any chances thanks.
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  • AnnH74AnnH74 member
    These aren't from this pregnancy yet but previous ones...

    What are you doing here (meaning why haven't you had the baby-especially hard when the due date was a week ago)?

    How are you feeling (at 39-41 weeks pregnant)? Yes it's nice that people are thinking of you but sometimes to be reminded how you are feeling is not the best tactic.

    These are questions from well meaning people though that at least some have never experienced pregnancy so would have no clue that it might not be the right thing to say.
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  • mrs14678mrs14678 member
    "Have you scheduled your induction/c-section?"
    No, I'm planning on doing things unmedicated and whenever baby comes, he comes.

    "Aren't you nervous??"
    Why should I be? Women have been having babies for thousands of years.....planning exactly when baby is born and how is only VERY recent.

    "Why aren't you inducing if it's so close to your husband's graduation and when you'll be moving?"
    Repeat point 1.
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  • esscapelleesscapelle member
    "Are you ready?"

    "You're only ____ weeks?"

    "Are you tired? You look tired."
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  • dp1320dp1320 member
    AnnH74 said:
    These aren't from this pregnancy yet but previous ones... What are you doing here (meaning why haven't you had the baby-especially hard when the due date was a week ago)? How are you feeling (at 39-41 weeks pregnant)? Yes it's nice that people are thinking of you but sometimes to be reminded how you are feeling is not the best tactic. These are questions from well meaning people though that at least some have never experienced pregnancy so would have no clue that it might not be the right thing to say.
    I know it's well intentioned but I HATE this questions. And at the end you know they really want to just know if you feel like you're going to have that baby in the next 5 minutes.
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  • theawc42theawc42 member

    ALWAYS get these same 4 questions in this order ....

    "How much longer you got?"

    "When are you due?"

    "Do you know if its a boy or girl?"

    "Do you have a name?"


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  • RratledgeRratledge member
    This is a little off topic, but when I was pregnant with my son I never did this but really wanted to. When I'm really obviously pregnant (38 weeks or more) and a stranger asks me a question or comments on my pregnancy, I want to very seriously tell them, "I'm not pregnant." Haha!
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  • FencingMonkeyFencingMonkey member
    I'm tired of hearing "are you excited" uh what do you think... I'm having my first baby!! Duh! :)
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  • crisobrewhacrisobrewha member
    PocoHR said:
    People's questions don't bother me, they are almost always just curious/interested/concerned/being chatty. I tend to actually like other people though, and quickly forgive minor faux-pas, maybe I'm crazy... 
    Ditto!  I usually don't get mad with specific questions, mainly with specific attitudes.  The thing that pisses me off most is when I know someone is pumping me for information so that they can go and tell other people what I've said, with their own twist, of course.  It hasn't happened often, but when it does I'll shut that down right away.
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  • tmmonfretmmonfre member
    Not really queations, more statements. But my two "favorite" so far are: "I hope it's not catching" (2 women in an office pregnant at the same time). And anything that ends with or sounds like "... in your condition".
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  • Gingermom15Gingermom15 member
    tmmonfre said:

    Not really queations, more statements. But my two "favorite" so far are: "I hope it's not catching" (2 women in an office pregnant at the same time). And anything that ends with or sounds like "... in your condition".

    I'm one of the 20 some number of pregnant women where I work (hospital with a lot of employees) and everyone jokes that there's something in the water. Someone asked me if I drank the water and I said "no, it was just a long winter". Those comments from then don't bother me. They're humorous.
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  • mrs14678mrs14678 member
    tmmonfre said:

    Not really queations, more statements. But my two "favorite" so far are: "I hope it's not catching" (2 women in an office pregnant at the same time). And anything that ends with or sounds like "... in your condition".

    My dad changed the oil in my car for me, cos hubby is out of town and I couldn't "in my condition". :D in that case, it's nice... But yeah, don't act like we have a disease or something. Haha!
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  • betocarolbetocarol member
    The one question i do hate so when are the babies coming (having twins) oh hold on let me ask them and i let ya'll know ok lol seriously ppl i wish i knew what day they will decide to pop out
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  • RSB1982RSB1982 member
    I will never ask a mom to be about gender/sex ever again.  We are team green and I'm so sick of hearing 'Do you want a boy or a girl?' or 'What do you think it is, a boy or a girl?'.  Um..... well I want a healthy baby.  I don't know if it's a boy or a girl, thats the whole point of being team green.  Old wives tales are garbage and no, my intuition is not telling me what the sex is.  


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  • neanerbeaner4neanerbeaner4 member
    edited October 2015
    Not sure why it posted under my old name but I am jdenton531 also. I guess some stuff has changed since then...

    I also get comments on how I don't look 7.5 months along... I'm just not a very large person to begin with. It did REALLY bother me for the last month because I was dealing with the month wait in between specialists visits where the last I'd heard baby was in the 7th percentile for size, so obviously I'd be small but it stung because I felt like something was wrong with the baby and people were seeing that from my belly size. Found out today that he gained a whole bunch of weight and is right on track again, so bring on the crazy comments.
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  • ssn109ssn109 member
    edited October 2015
    I will admit I enjoy people who do things for me just because I'm pregnant. Like when my mom basically detailed my car after I told her that was what I planned to do that day. On the other hand, I am not a big fan of people telling me not to lift something because of pregnancy. I know my limits, if I'm picking it up and carrying it, it's because I can do so without discomfort. I'm not too proud to ask for help if something is too heavy for me to lift safely. I feel like "I'm pregnant, not disabled" has become my motto. I think I've said that more than "I'm good" to answer questions about how I am.

    *autocorrect
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  • Catherine1021Catherine1021 member
    Most of the questions I've been asked don't bother me- even being asked over and over again if it's a boy or girl. I've never been asked if this child was planned, but it annoys me that people just seem to assume she is a surprise. (Which she's not, we went through fertility treatments to get pregnant.)

    The comments that annoy me are usually in regards to my older children. Things like they've heard so many stories of families adopting children and then bam, they can finally get pregnant. Or they comment on how it will be nice that I have so many potential baby-sitters, and I really don't feel like explaining to them why I'm not comfortable with doing that.
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  • bbrady1031bbrady1031 member
    My favorite right now is "Do you think he will be big? Because he looks big." Ummmmm..... Thanks!!! And my next favorite is "Do you think you'll make it to Decemeber? Well I think I just may because I'm stubborn!
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  • stephaniearthursstephaniearthurs member
    This is not so much a question, but a statement... I know everything will be fine. When I voiced a concern about something, I heard that so much. The thing is, you don't know, and you can't know. I THINK everything is fine, but talk to your doctor, is a much better answer.
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    steffnstuff said:
    OMG! 4?! Are you done after this? / When are you going to stop? Are you sure there's only one in there? What are you having? Why don't you know? /How could you not know? /Didn't you have an ultrasound? You know and you're just not telling, right? What do you hope it is? Would you be disappointed if it's a..? These are all the ones I could think of right now. As you can see I've gotten a lot of questions about the gender of the baby. I may be being overly sensitive but I'm beyond tired of hearing these questions! What are you tired of hearing?
    This one.  So much.  From everyone.  No, I don't know.  If I did why wouldn't I tell?  What would be the point of that??!
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  • amshu001amshu001 member
    Random person: far are you?
    Me: 30 weeks (or however long)
    Random person: oh wow you still have a ways to go

    I finally freaked out on someone and said when you start out having 40 weeks to go...10 suddenly doesn't sound like much. I think she felt bad. But seriously saying I have a ways to go does not help me feel any better!!
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  • rzarembarzaremba member
    I'm tired of people asking me when I'm going on my leave...like they want to get rid of me at work or something...And when am I scheduling my c section?...do women not have vaginal births anymore or something!! Yeesh.
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  • MegStarkMegStark member
    I don't mind the questions as much as their comebacks after I give my answer. Any time someone asks a question just so they can tell me how THEY did it differently/better annoys me. You want to know how I'm feeding the baby? I'll tell you. I don't care how you fed yours. Or how you gave birth. Or where your infant slept. Or what type of bathtub you had. Or if your child took a pacifier. Etc.

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