I have 1 coworker constantly ask me why am I at work and why haven't I delivered yet. My due date has been between DECEMBER 11th-13th, 2015 since I told the job. She has her own child and just became a grandmother DECEMBER of last year. I don't comprehend why she KEEPS asking me this as if she does not know how babies work. I'm lost. Dumbfounded. EVERY TIME I see her this is a thing. EVERY GOT DAMN TIME. My other coworkers even told her that he baby is not done developing/cooking... she went on a rant about birth is beautiful and natural and so on. This is how I felt:
So after answering the What are you having question with our 3rd boy, we get are you going to try for a girl? No.... Are you sure? Yes....You say that now, but... I stop them by saying my husband and I are both getting fixed. I then get the isn't that a little drastic? Nope we aren't taking any chances thanks.
We are also expecting our 3rd boy and everyone asks if we are going to try for a girl. I always respond with.... Have you seen the story about the lady who just welcomed her 13th boy? Lol our family is complete thanks!
I don't mind the questions as much as their comebacks after I give my answer. Any time someone asks a question just so they can tell me how THEY did it differently/better annoys me. You want to know how I'm feeding the baby? I'll tell you. I don't care how you fed yours. Or how you gave birth. Or where your infant slept. Or what type of bathtub you had. Or if your child took a pacifier. Etc.
Yes!! I don't mind the questions because honestly those are a lot of the questions I ask other pregnant women that I run into. It's mostly just small talk. It's the unwanted advice that comes after I answer the question that drives me nuts. I do hate when people ask if I plan to breastfeed. I got a huge lecture from a lactation consultant when I said I wasn't sure b/c it did not go well with my son the first time but I was going to try in the beginning. Got the whole run down on how selfish I would be if I didn't, giving me her information, and showing me apps on her phone that would help. I just find that to be a very personal question.
My biggest piss off is being 5'3 and looking like im 16. I mean nothing's wrong with young mothers but im 20 And I literally have people come up to me and the first thing they say to me is how old are you. Shame on you !!
My biggest piss off is being 5'3 and looking like im 16. I mean nothing's wrong with young mothers but im 20 And I literally have people come up to me and the first thing they say to me is how old are you. Shame on you !!
Someone, after congratulating me on the pregnancy, asked me what grade I was in, "sophomore or junior?" It was all I could do to smile and not tell him to f off.
My biggest piss off is being 5'3 and looking like im 16. I mean nothing's wrong with young mothers but im 20 And I literally have people come up to me and the first thing they say to me is how old are you. Shame on you !!
Someone, after congratulating me on the pregnancy, asked me what grade I was in, "sophomore or junior?" It was all I could do to smile and not tell him to f off.
As someone who has a perpetual face of a 16 year old, this pisses me off to no end. I've been asked by strangers if I will "finish high school". STFU and mind your own business, people.
Questions in general surrounding my pregnancy have become irritating and redundant. Are you breastfeeding? And "will you go back to work" have become this week's top two. I now reply with "why do you ask? "
I don't mind most of the questions so much as some of the looks, especially now that (as I was told) it's gotten obvious. DS isnt quite 20 lbs, he's pretty small over all and I worked with a physical therapist on safe ways for me to be able to carry him (he could walk more but it's more comfortable for me to carry him than to stoop down to hold his hand to walk).
I'll be carrying him and see eyes go to him, then down to my bump, and what follows is either joy (rarely but I love this one most because I'm excited), pity and understanding, or disgust (wtf! I want to punch these people in the face and today even got it from another pregnant woman).
Questions/comments I'm tired of hearing are "Wow, that's going to be one big baby!" "Are you sure your due date is right? "Are there twins in there?!" (I'm a twin so it's been a popular joke my whole pregnancy) and "Are you going back to work after baby?"
Why can't people just ask how far along you are and just say something nice like "you look great!"
The first nurse I saw for confirmation of the home pregnancy test...asked how many HPTs I took. It weirded me out because false negatives are fairly common if you take them to early but I'm here because it was positive...how many sticks do I need to pee on at home to qualify for yours? It is a confirmation for a reason!
The other day I was walking home from work, feeling really tired and achy. I passed by this guy sitting on a very short wall and I could feel him staring at me as I approached and passed him. Then he points to my stomach as I pass, and says "Pregnant!" I tell you, there are some real geniuses out there! Of course I ignored him and kept walking.
The other day I was walking home from work, feeling really tired and achy. I passed by this guy sitting on a very short wall and I could feel him staring at me as I approached and passed him. Then he points to my stomach as I pass, and says "Pregnant!" I tell you, there are some real geniuses out there! Of course I ignored him and kept walking.
Haha! I don't know why that visual is hilarious to me! It kind of reminds me of the old fruit of the loom commercials where the men walk by and people try to guess if they're wearing boxers or briefs. It also reminds me of the "game" DH and I played in the hospital when I had DD2. We were bored after being there a few days and started watching the women walk by pushing their babies in the little bassinet things and guessing whether or not they had a c-section or vaginal delivery by how they walk.
Definitely sick of being asked if I am going to breastfeed. It just seems so personal and it's about MY body. It feels like sexual harassment lol
REALLY sick of everyone telling me not to lift things, clean things, worry about things. I am not crippled, I am an adult and I'm not a freaking idiot!
When people find out that I'm having a boy, sometimes come the question - "Are you having him circumcised?" I don't get it. What on Earth makes you think I want to talk about something as personal as my baby's penis with you?
Definitely sick of being asked if I am going to breastfeed. It just seems so personal and it's about MY body. It feels like sexual harassment lol
REALLY sick of everyone telling me not to lift things, clean things, worry about things. I am not crippled, I am an adult and I'm not a freaking idiot!
Oh don't lift or clean things? Is that your way of offering to get things done for me? How nice of you! (internally rolls eyes. Lol)
When people find out that I'm having a boy, sometimes come the question - "Are you having him circumcised?" I don't get it. What on Earth makes you think I want to talk about something as personal as my baby's penis with you?
I'd totally respond with either " Idk, are you circumcised?" or "Idk, is your husband circumcised?" But I like to weird people out. There's also the occasional dumba** that will actually answer either of those questions too.
We are having twins, so the questions are even more fun... (Said no twin mom ever). My most favorite one "oh, did you do IVF?"
Well gee, I would love to tell you random stranger all about my road to pregnancy and two babies in one womb - but will the simple answer of "no" suffice?
I work retail in an outdoors clothing, camping, and packs kind of store. It is so annoying when I'm just rearranging or getting something for someone and they say "are you sure you should be doing that!?" (I bent over to open up a backpack to show someone for example... Omg!) I just say back "well if I stop doing anything I'll still look pregnant a year after I give birth! So I gotta keep active!" one of my coworkers also told me I wasn't allowed to go on the ladder any more!! I'm talking like a 2 step ladder... Yeah right! If I don't feel I can safely do something or physically unable to do it, then I obviously won't... But come on, what have I done, lost a leg or something!? Also as someone else said earlier, anything that ends with "... In your condition" grr!! I also am about 4'10" 100 lbs prepreg at age 25, I don't necessarily look like a teenager in the face, but I am still very petite and I just hope sooo much that when I walk past people they aren't thinking the things that some of you other ladies have said!!
Stop asking me if we picked a name. Please. Especially if I don't know you or barely know you. A lady I've only met once asked me if we had a name yet, I lied and said no because I didn't want to get into it.
This same woman asked me to call her to let her know when I had the baby. Again, only met you ONE TIME! Will probably never see you again! No, I won't be calling you after I have my baby, it's none of your business!
Funny experience today at the store. After the guy in front of me practically took my basket out of my hands, because I shouldn't be holding such a "heavy" load, he asked me how far along I was... 4 months? Um try almost 8. The shocked look on his face was so awesome.
"Ohhh you've actually gained almost 20 pounds? Well that's good, because you still just look so thin for how far along you are" this is a new one I got today. No I'm not trying to gain as much weight as possible but people act like I'm starving myself. Just because I take care of myself doesn't give you the ok to bash how "tiny" you think I am compared to how "not tiny " we're.
I get there are way worse problems haha but it's annoying all the same.
Stop asking me if we picked a name. Please. Especially if I don't know you or barely know you. A lady I've only met once asked me if we had a name yet, I lied and said no because I didn't want to get into it.
This same woman asked me to call her to let her know when I had the baby. Again, only met you ONE TIME! Will probably never see you again! No, I won't be calling you after I have my baby, it's none of your business!
I had someone ask me about baby's name and I was so annoyed I just decided to be Very blunt about it and didn't care how it came off. I told her that we do in fact have a name but we're not sharing it because we don't want anyone's unsolicited advice on how to spell it, nor do we want to hear about who else you know with that name. I got no response from her. ..crickets. ..I walked away feeling pretty good about that interaction. She'll probably not ask me anything else. Lol
When people find out that I'm having a boy, sometimes come the question - "Are you having him circumcised?" I don't get it. What on Earth makes you think I want to talk about something as personal as my baby's penis with you?
I'd totally respond with either " Idk, are you circumcised?" or "Idk, is your husband circumcised?" But I like to weird people out. There's also the occasional dumba** that will actually answer either of those questions too.
Bahahahahaha!!!! Love this response. Just say it totally serious like you're really asking too. "you know. I haven't decided yet. Are you/your husband/ your sons?"
Stop asking me if we picked a name. Please. Especially if I don't know you or barely know you. A lady I've only met once asked me if we had a name yet, I lied and said no because I didn't want to get into it.
This same woman asked me to call her to let her know when I had the baby. Again, only met you ONE TIME! Will probably never see you again! No, I won't be calling you after I have my baby, it's none of your business!
I also just lie to most people about not having chosen a name. There's something very voyeuristic about it. It's curiousity but they also don't care about you. I only share with the people who genuinely care.
I was waiting for an elevator and this woman just said to me "boy or girl" nothing else. WTH... I'm not finding out and that freaks people out. and who cares what it is- like they want to be like oh cool or oh poor you. When I got to the top floor some stranger said "oh looks like someone swallowed the watermelon" wink wink... I wanted to say loudly, yeah I had sex.
Other than that I have avoided a lot of the stupid questions - other than someone I work with getting mad that I am not finding out the sex. When I was born no one got to find out the sex and could figure out how to buy gifts. Like people can't figure out gifts now if they are not pink or blue. No imagination!!!
I despise being called "mama" for some reason I can't explain. It makes me cringe.
I still hate it. My oldest is 7 years old, and the only ones who can call me " mama " are the children. It just feels wrong coming from an adult....especially given the fact that my children aren't participating in the conversation. Ehhhh
I hate it when people ask, "Should you be carrying that/doing that?" And then just stare at me. Like many of you pointed out, I wouldn't be doing it if I couldn't handle it. But also, if you're going to ask if I should be doing it, wouldn't it be polite to offer to help? Also people ask me why I'm taking the stairs at work all of the time, ummm because I'm not disabled?!?
Re: Questions I will never ask an expectant mother because I'm tired of hearing them now. ..
Uggghhhh this one PISSES me off!!
Me:34 DH:41 1 son: 6 2 step sons: 18, 12
BFP: 4/24/08 - Missed Miscarriage found 5/29/08
BFP: 11/21/08 - DS born 7/13/09
BFP:5/8/14 - Chemical pregnancy
BFP: 4/11/15....stick baby stick!!!
I mean nothing's wrong with young mothers but im 20
And I literally have people come up to me and the first thing they say to me is how old are you.
Shame on you !!
It was all I could do to smile and not tell him to f off.
I'll be carrying him and see eyes go to him, then down to my bump, and what follows is either joy (rarely but I love this one most because I'm excited), pity and understanding, or disgust (wtf! I want to punch these people in the face and today even got it from another pregnant woman).
Questions/comments I'm tired of hearing are "Wow, that's going to be one big baby!" "Are you sure your due date is right? "Are there twins in there?!" (I'm a twin so it's been a popular joke my whole pregnancy) and "Are you going back to work after baby?"
Why can't people just ask how far along you are and just say something nice like "you look great!"
I tell you, there are some real geniuses out there! Of course I ignored him and kept walking.
REALLY sick of everyone telling me not to lift things, clean things, worry about things. I am not crippled, I am an adult and I'm not a freaking idiot!
Well gee, I would love to tell you random stranger all about my road to pregnancy and two babies in one womb - but will the simple answer of "no" suffice?
Also as someone else said earlier, anything that ends with "... In your condition" grr!!
I also am about 4'10" 100 lbs prepreg at age 25, I don't necessarily look like a teenager in the face, but I am still very petite and I just hope sooo much that when I walk past people they aren't thinking the things that some of you other ladies have said!!
This same woman asked me to call her to let her know when I had the baby. Again, only met you ONE TIME! Will probably never see you again! No, I won't be calling you after I have my baby, it's none of your business!
I get there are way worse problems haha but it's annoying all the same.
Bahahahahaha!!!! Love this response. Just say it totally serious like you're really asking too. "you know. I haven't decided yet. Are you/your husband/ your sons?"