@theletlers I know EXACTLY what you mean! Yesterday DH and I were going back and forth about who was going to clean the kitchen. And it wasn't 'you do it' 'no, you do it'. It was 'I'll clean the kitchen' 'no, I will'. Because I just want even a little bit of time to do something that isn't baby related. And do without having to worry about hurrying because I think LO will wake up soon, or with half an ear cocked for a baby cry. I want to be able to empty the dishwasher, fill it, wipe down the counters, sweep and mop, and sanitize the new pacifers I bought (I'm not crazy for sanitizing - I only do it when something is brand new). And have the mental relief of NOT HAVING BABY ON MY MIND. He thinks he will do it and he is doing me a favor by doing it. But then I have to watch and entertain the baby. I've *been* entertaining and watching the baby. Its all I do! I'd just like the satisfaction of doing a normal, adult function without having baby crowding on my thoughts.
Its absolutely a rant within a rave. Or vice versa. Who knows.
Oh I have a rant, last week I heard an animal in my chimney! DH would not let me call someone to get it out! His fix was light a fire and smoke it out(I completely disagreed with this). Now I have an animal that has been rotting in my chimney and the house smells horrible and I have had a stomach/headache all day! He is home now, go figure he had duty last night when I first starting smelling it and is burning a HOT fire to hopefully turn this poor dead animal(probably a bird, and I LOVE my birds) to ashes!!! It stinks, I'm furious and I will be spending the next few days out or at the neighbors until the smell clears! And I've called the chimney sweep in our area that deals with wood burning chimneys and he has yet to call me back!
@mellymar I totally agree! My husband is the cook but I think I need to learn. I'll do anything for a break in the mental exhaustion of entertaining baby all day, planning naps in between Feedings, trying to make them actually happen....
@jmott22 I had the same thing happen at a house we rented once. A raccoon has her babies in there. Our dogs would not leave it alone so finally we investigated and DH decided to light fireworks off in there to scare off whatever was in there. After momma raccoon ran off, only then did we find the babies. We felt so bad. DH then rescued the babies and took them to a wildlife rescue.
@theletlers and @mellymar Ditto on needing some space from LO! Somehow LO always gets "hungry" when DH takes over for a while, so DH will brig me a crying baby, then say, "I'll give you some space" and close the door on us. Nothing says "space" like being trapped in a closed room with a screaming baby, amiright?!
Just once, I would like to move without an explosive fight with DH. Once. I am someone who can put up with a lot, but then I completely and totally lose. it. when you cross a line. DH is someone who uses me as his scapegoat when he's stressed. It's such a bad combination. Sigh.
DH for the win tonight! He cooked dinner (which he normally does, I can't cook to save my life) AND he cleaned up AND he did bedtime!!! All without any prompting! Any time I offered to take over he told me that is was 'me and babe time' and sent me away! Bonus- when she was down we watched hockey and he massaged my feet...the man must want something lol
I'm so exhausted. My baby has been suffering from gas pain since Sunday night. It just came out of no where! Hes on gentlease and has been for two months. we jadnt had any problems with it, also he has dr. Brown bottles so i dnt know why its happening. It's draining me. I feel like I won't see the end of this, it's so hard to see him in pain. I'm giving him gripe water and tylenol sometimes it wrk sometimes he's still screaming in pain. I'm just tired.
the other day i asked DH if he would like to make dinner tonight. he didnt tell me until 5 pm that he wouldnt be able to anymore because he is going to the gym. like dude.. you got off work at 2:30/3:30. why couldnt you have mentiomed that before. or even gone earlier. luckily i had a skillet meal stashed in the freezer for just such an occasion
eta: i just realized i totally skipped over the new thread for this.. oops. my bad ladies.
Re: DH / SO rants or raves - Month of September
Its absolutely a rant within a rave. Or vice versa. Who knows.
@swaugh14 Your post cracked me up!
Just once, I would like to move without an explosive fight with DH. Once. I am someone who can put up with a lot, but then I completely and totally lose. it. when you cross a line. DH is someone who uses me as his scapegoat when he's stressed. It's such a bad combination. Sigh.
eta: i just realized i totally skipped over the new thread for this.. oops. my bad ladies.
Why does my grown man DH have to be such a grouch sometimes... Why is it so hard for him to understand what things are like for me?
Answer that for her, and then pass it on to the rest of us, please. I promise you the Nobel Peace Prize in exchange.
Sincerely,
Ditto