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UO Thursday 10/1

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  • jefinley1jefinley1 member
    @AndreaBiel I was in a similar state of denial, although my midwife center's average, out of their 400 some women each year, is 41.5. EEK! But I was convinced my baby would come around 38 like my mom's. 4 days from EDD and she seems just as comfy as could be. I think that now that I'm so far past when I thought, irrationally, that she would come, I've reached this odd peace about the whole thing and don't really care anymore. Aside from the searing pain in my ribs. That I'm kind of over. If I get to 41.5 though, and still no baby, I will start to panic.
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  • emeraudecephiroemeraudecephiro member
    @cbolton19 I loathe bacon.
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  • cbolton19cbolton19 member
    @emeraudecephiro right?! It's not good. I also hate ham (which is pretty much just like bacon).

    @tate62610 I'm with you on the puppy breath. It's gross. I don't know why people think it smells good. They still eat dog food and lick their butts, so how is puppy breath any better than grown dog breath?!
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  • dchiapelladchiapella member
    @cbolton19 and @emeraudecephiro I thought I was alone on this bacon thing! So glad I'm not! I mean, I enjoy an occasional piece of bacon, but it makes me so freakin' sick to my stomach that I just don't enjoy anything about it now! 
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  • CCasey2015CCasey2015 member
    nianicho777 said:

    CCasey2015 said:

    My UO... I'm so tired of the I'm 36 or 37 weeks & I haven't started to dilate threads. Everytime I read one I just want to scream.... "YOU STILL HAVE 3 TO 4 WEEKS!!! JUST RELAX & BE PATIENTS!!!!"

    Well I'm 40 todayand I haven't yet....can I complain now? Lmao jk
    Yep! You sure can LMAO! I'm 39 weeks today. Congrats Momma!

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  • VioletandRoseVioletandRose member
    My UO: I'm seriously considering banning my mom from the delivery room, or devising a plan with the L&D nurses to make her leave when I start pushing. She never even really asked if she could be there, just assumed, and I haven't had the balls to tell her no. She is a NERVOUS WRECK and is stressing me out already. She is completely paranoid about missing the baby's birth. Every nurse and doctor I've spoken to said it's highly unlikely that will happen with a first time labor. Now she's telling me to call her as soon as I start contractions, whether I'm going to the hospital or not. She wants to be at our house, it will "make her feel better." Those contractions could last for hours or days. I don't want her there!! The last thing I need when I'm in pain is her up my @ss.

    I know a lot of people wish they had a mom to be there, but mine is very narcissistic and overbearing, and is getting worse by the day. I can't take it anymore. She's not the type I can just tell to leave me alone...she'll take it very personally and start a big fight. I just don't know what to do anymore.
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  • babymazzeibabymazzei member
    I'm not sure that this is an UO but I hate having to be dependent on my SO. Tomorrow is my last day of work for at least a year (Canada mat leave) and I am starting to get really nervous. I know with his income we'll be able to live comfortably but I just have this weird feeling of guilt falling over me. He's always covered more costs than I have because of his higher income but I've still always contributed my part. Now that I'll be making about half of my earnings, I'll no longer be able to do that. And don't get me wrong, he by no means makes me feel bad about it. This is all created from my own emotions but ugh. I just want to feel excited to have that time with my LO and not feel guilty about it.
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  • Knottie16832459Knottie16832459 member
    @VioletandRose I feel like this is a common unpopular opinion. I've seen it pop up several times and I'm on the same page. My mom is actually just overly nurturing and I've always been more comfortable when alone. I'll probably want some initial alone time.
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  • Knottie16832459Knottie16832459 member
    Can I get 2?
    I don't think that we should pay more attention to our soon to be older brother or get him a gift to compensate. We have split custody and he already gets 2 birthdays, 2 Christmases, 8 grandparents that spoil him, and he already demands that the other side buys him things randomly and they do on command. We don't do new toys outside of holidays on our side and he knows that. In exchange for that, we go all out on holidays. His grandma on my DHs side has already said she's going to give him special attention, and I really want to ask that she doesn't. He's 3 and already tells me he cries with her just to get what he wants when I'm not around. I can teach him responsibility, fairness and moderation all day long but it's hard to hold him accountable when I'm not around. Err.
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  • babymazzeibabymazzei member
    cbolton19 said:
    I'm not sure that this is an UO but I hate having to be dependent on my SO. Tomorrow is my last day of work for at least a year (Canada mat leave) and I am starting to get really nervous. I know with his income we'll be able to live comfortably but I just have this weird feeling of guilt falling over me. He's always covered more costs than I have because of his higher income but I've still always contributed my part. Now that I'll be making about half of my earnings, I'll no longer be able to do that. And don't get me wrong, he by no means makes me feel bad about it. This is all created from my own emotions but ugh. I just want to feel excited to have that time with my LO and not feel guilty about it.
    Maybe think of it like that money would be going to daycare if you didn't get to stay home, so you are breaking even (or kind of close to even)! Maybe that will help? ETA: I'm so jealous of the Canadian maternity leave! That is awesome.

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    Good point! and true! Lol we would just break even if we had to pay for daycare. Mind you, there are very few day cares here that will take any child under a year so my hands are tied! ;)   
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  • ColoradoHikerColoradoHiker member
    edited October 2015
    VioletandRose said:

    My UO: I'm seriously considering banning my mom from the delivery room, or devising a plan with the L&D nurses to make her leave when I start pushing. She never even really asked if she could be there, just assumed, and I haven't had the balls to tell her no. She is a NERVOUS WRECK and is stressing me out already. She is completely paranoid about missing the baby's birth. Every nurse and doctor I've spoken to said it's highly unlikely that will happen with a first time labor. Now she's telling me to call her as soon as I start contractions, whether I'm going to the hospital or not. She wants to be at our house, it will "make her feel better." Those contractions could last for hours or days. I don't want her there!! The last thing I need when I'm in pain is her up my @ss.

    I know a lot of people wish they had a mom to be there, but mine is very narcissistic and overbearing, and is getting worse by the day. I can't take it anymore. She's not the type I can just tell to leave me alone...she'll take it very personally and start a big fight. I just don't know what to do anymore.

    Do yourself a favor and tell her before you're in the delivery room. I just had this talk with my mom- if I go in to the hospital at two am, I'm not calling her and dad (they live three hr away) and I don't want them waiting for who knows how long in the waiting room.

    Truthfully, she sounds like a handful. You also have the option of not telling her until the baby is out. That may be easier to deal with than having her there.

    Edited bc phone typing is hard.
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  • margies2010margies2010 member
    ColoradoHiker said:

    VioletandRose said:

    My UO: I'm seriously considering banning my mom from the delivery room, or devising a plan with the L&D nurses to make her leave when I start pushing. She never even really asked if she could be there, just assumed, and I haven't had the balls to tell her no. She is a NERVOUS WRECK and is stressing me out already. She is completely paranoid about missing the baby's birth. Every nurse and doctor I've spoken to said it's highly unlikely that will happen with a first time labor. Now she's telling me to call her as soon as I start contractions, whether I'm going to the hospital or not. She wants to be at our house, it will "make her feel better." Those contractions could last for hours or days. I don't want her there!! The last thing I need when I'm in pain is her up my @ss.

    I know a lot of people wish they had a mom to be there, but mine is very narcissistic and overbearing, and is getting worse by the day. I can't take it anymore. She's not the type I can just tell to leave me alone...she'll take it very personally and start a big fight. I just don't know what to do anymore.

    Do yourself a favor and tell her before you're in the delivery room. I just had this talk with my mom- if I go in to the hospital at two am, I'm not calling her and dad (they live three hr away) and I don't want them waiting for who knows how long in the waiting room.

    Truthfully, she sounds like a handful. You also have the option of not telling her until the baby is out. That may be easier to deal with than having her there.

    Edited bc phone typing is hard.
    I royally pissed off my mom. We had a rcs and I told her that I didn't even want her, or anyone, sitting in the waiting room. I did lie to her and tell her the hospital policy changed since DS1 was born, and there was now a "mandatory two-hour bonding for mom, dad and LO" I sent a text to her and family when we got out of the OR to let them know he was here, then specifically told them not to head to the hospital until we said we were ready. I have no regrets, and I was actually the second set of ungloved hands (DH before me) to hold DS this time. With DS1, everyone held him before me and it has bothered me ever since.
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  • ehebaeheba member
    Yesssss I so want to hear some birth stories! I've stalked the september group and all of them posted their birth stories! Let's do the same!
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  • leighann1leighann1 member
    @millereliz13, that happened?! Ugh. I can't even with that. People are annoying. 
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  • nianicho777nianicho777 member
    CCasey2015 said:

    nianicho777 said:

    CCasey2015 said:

    My UO... I'm so tired of the I'm 36 or 37 weeks & I haven't started to dilate threads. Everytime I read one I just want to scream.... "YOU STILL HAVE 3 TO 4 WEEKS!!! JUST RELAX & BE PATIENTS!!!!"

    Well I'm 40 todayand I haven't yet....can I complain now? Lmao jk
    Yep! You sure can LMAO! I'm 39 weeks today. Congrats Momma!

    Thanks. Same to you!
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  • cbolton19cbolton19 member
    leighann1 said:

    This is probably more a WTF than an UO, but I swear, if one more woman uses the term hormonal to label a dissenting poster, I will lose it.

    That is the most condescending term you can throw around. I may be pregnant, but I'm a grown ass woman capable of having thoughts and opinions that aren't reduced to "hormones." For f's sake.

    Preach!
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  • jslikojsliko member
    My UO is that I get rather annoyed when folk give non-US maternity leave such glowing reviews. Granted, I completely think the US system is majorly flawed, but most *other* countries do not give months and months of full paid time off. Many countries only give a fraction of one's salary, and usually for only a limited amount of time. Still flawed. Esp if mom is the primary income for the house.
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