My best friend from college (like 10+ years) and her husband had a baby girl in April. My friend was only 24 weeks pregnant. Olivia lived for 12 days and then passed away. I was there at the hospital and there afterwards for her as best as I could be. I am really torn on how to tell them my husband and I are expecting...any suggestions?
Re: How should I tell my best friend who lost a child that we are expecting?
First Pregnancy
Second Pregnancy
- BFP: 09/11/2015
- EDD: 05/25/2016
Baby Born04/15/2016
PGAL
And I just want to add this...My best friend had just been through her second miscarriage, when I got pregnant with my first. They had been trying for a very long time, so I tried to avoid telling her. When I finally did tell her, she was actually kind of mad that I felt like I had to keep it from her. She said it was a little tough to hear, but that she was so happy for us. I appreciated her honesty.
@angiem8207 please tell us if you already told her and how are both of you.
Last time, they were one of the first we told. This time, we waited until successful US because I didn't want them worrying with us those first weeks. We had the appointment yesterday-- all is well. Now we are deciding how we will tell them. The distance makes it hard.
I will update when we do so.
One of my good friends that I've gotten to know through my daughter's playgroup has been having a hard time with secondary infertility. She had a failed IUI this month, revealing that news after I asked her how she was doing (knowing she had the procedure done). Then she asked me how I was doing in a hopeful, curious tone (you know that tone I'm talking about). Immediately after her telling me about her news, I told her mine and she was happy as well, although I could tell it was bittersweet, and totally understandably so.
As hard as it might be for your friend to hear the news, you should give her the benefit of the doubt when it comes to telling the news. Do what feels comfortable for you and your friendship (for instance, I couldn't tell my best friend over an email, but for another friend, it might be appropriate).