Confession: I'm probably on here too much because I realized I can recognize who wrote a post based on writing style even if I miss seeing the name at the top. @virginiaunicorn11 and @mellymar in particular, you have distinct voices - hope that doesn't sound creepy.
Oh and another crazy mom confession: I had my annual physical today and I've had the same awesome primary care doc for years. She didn't ask to see a photo of LO and it's been bothering me ever since I left! I'm like, irrationally offended
Oh and another crazy mom confession: I had my annual physical today and I've had the same awesome primary care doc for years. She didn't ask to see a photo of LO and it's been bothering me ever since I left! I'm like, irrationally offended
I feel irrationally offended when a lot of people don't ask to see a picture. Like, I have 500 pictures of LO on my phone... Don't you want me to show them all to you?
Oh and another crazy mom confession: I had my annual physical today and I've had the same awesome primary care doc for years. She didn't ask to see a photo of LO and it's been bothering me ever since I left! I'm like, irrationally offended
I feel irrationally offended when a lot of people don't ask to see a picture. Like, I have 500 pictures of LO on my phone... Don't you want me to show them all to you?
But isn't it great when someone asks do you have a photo lol
Confession: I'm probably on here too much because I realized I can recognize who wrote a post based on writing style even if I miss seeing the name at the top. @virginiaunicorn11 and @mellymar in particular, you have distinct voices - hope that doesn't sound creepy.
I'm not gonna lie, I look forward to reading comments by @virginiaunicorn11. She is so eloquent and well spoken and no matter what the topic is I find myself agreeing with her. Thanks @virginiaunicorn11 for always being a voice of reason in this group!
Confession: I'm probably on here too much because I realized I can recognize who wrote a post based on writing style even if I miss seeing the name at the top. @virginiaunicorn11 and @mellymar in particular, you have distinct voices - hope that doesn't sound creepy.
I'm not gonna lie, I look forward to reading comments by @virginiaunicorn11. She is so eloquent and well spoken and no matter what the topic is I find myself agreeing with her. Thanks @virginiaunicorn11 for always being a voice of reason in this group!
Aw, thanks! Wow, that's so kind of you. After @hoodoll82 's comment (which I also find cool, not creepy), I was going to confess I know I write WAAAY too much in my posts. My favorite author is Hemingway because he can say so much more with so fewer words...!
I know I can always count on @virginiaunicorn11 to give a well thought out and reasoned reply to anything. And usually there is something in it I haven't thought of.
Yeah, @virginiaunicorn11, have you heard of ask.metafilter.com? It's a question-answering site I am also a member of and I think you would be really appreciated there, too.
Oh and another crazy mom confession: I had my annual physical today and I've had the same awesome primary care doc for years. She didn't ask to see a photo of LO and it's been bothering me ever since I left! I'm like, irrationally offended
I'm working at an internship a few days a week now. My supervisor hasn't asked to see a picture yet. And really she seems rather uninterested in my baby period. She is really nice so it's kind of strange. I keep thinking, "why don't you want to see my adorable, new baby?"
Aw, thanks ladies!! I just cried to DH about how I feel all our moves may be the wrong decision and I already miss Grandma. And here you are, cheering me up. So sweet, thank you!
@mellymar You've always reminded me of a very good friend of mine, named Erin. Your similarities are uncanny, except she never married or had a baby. I see you as her sliding door. Have I already told you this??
@MaliKaela DH met up with some of our couple friends without me a few weeks ago. Later, the husband told DH that his wife said, "The first time he brings out his phone to show baby pictures, I'm leaving." He told DH because they were so impressed it never happened. But they're TTC so their day will come, the jerks! ;-) Hopefully your supervisor isn't having trouble TTC... And actually, my friend Erin hates babies but is a nice person. So maybe your supervisor is one of those.
Oh and another crazy mom confession: I had my annual physical today and I've had the same awesome primary care doc for years. She didn't ask to see a photo of LO and it's been bothering me ever since I left! I'm like, irrationally offended
I feel irrationally offended when a lot of people don't ask to see a picture. Like, I have 500 pictures of LO on my phone... Don't you want me to show them all to you?
But isn't it great when someone asks do you have a photo lol
The best!! But, such a dilemma choosing which one!
I agree with all the above! I find myself thinking "can we be best friends??" When I read most of @virginiaunicorn11 's posts. I'm creepy. I'll own that.
Aw, thanks ladies!! I just cried to DH about how I feel all our moves may be the wrong decision and I already miss Grandma. And here you are, cheering me up. So sweet, thank you!
@mellymar You've always reminded me of a very good friend of mine, named Erin. Your similarities are uncanny, except she never married or had a baby. I see you as her sliding door. Have I already told you this??
@MaliKaela DH met up with some of our couple friends without me a few weeks ago. Later, the husband told DH that his wife said, "The first time he brings out his phone to show baby pictures, I'm leaving." He told DH because they were so impressed it never happened. But they're TTC so their day will come, the jerks! ;-) Hopefully your supervisor isn't having trouble TTC... And actually, my friend Erin hates babies but is a nice person. So maybe your supervisor is one of those.
Maybe I'm your Erin in bizzaro bump world .. Only because I'm Erin
Aw, thanks ladies!! I just cried to DH about how I feel all our moves may be the wrong decision and I already miss Grandma. And here you are, cheering me up. So sweet, thank you!
@mellymar You've always reminded me of a very good friend of mine, named Erin. Your similarities are uncanny, except she never married or had a baby. I see you as her sliding door. Have I already told you this??
@MaliKaela DH met up with some of our couple friends without me a few weeks ago. Later, the husband told DH that his wife said, "The first time he brings out his phone to show baby pictures, I'm leaving." He told DH because they were so impressed it never happened. But they're TTC so their day will come, the jerks! ;-) Hopefully your supervisor isn't having trouble TTC... And actually, my friend Erin hates babies but is a nice person. So maybe your supervisor is one of those.
Hey, cool! I usually have someone that I remind someone else of, that happens often. And... To boot - I used to hate babies. I actually worked hard at avoiding scenarios where I would feel I had to play nice and acknowledge a new baby other than a congrats, so I never asked for pictures. If baby was present with mom I would make appropriate 'awww...' and find something about baby to pick out and talk about ('look at those eyes! Omg, that hair! Oooohh, cheeks!') but that was polite societal interaction that was not rooted in any actual interest in a squishy little thing that could cry abruptly at any second and for no reason at all I could see.
Aw, thanks ladies!! I just cried to DH about how I feel all our moves may be the wrong decision and I already miss Grandma. And here you are, cheering me up. So sweet, thank you!
@mellymar You've always reminded me of a very good friend of mine, named Erin. Your similarities are uncanny, except she never married or had a baby. I see you as her sliding door. Have I already told you this??
@MaliKaela DH met up with some of our couple friends without me a few weeks ago. Later, the husband told DH that his wife said, "The first time he brings out his phone to show baby pictures, I'm leaving." He told DH because they were so impressed it never happened. But they're TTC so their day will come, the jerks! ;-) Hopefully your supervisor isn't having trouble TTC... And actually, my friend Erin hates babies but is a nice person. So maybe your supervisor is one of those.
Hey, cool! I usually have someone that I remind someone else of, that happens often. And... To boot - I used to hate babies. I actually worked hard at avoiding scenarios where I would feel I had to play nice and acknowledge a new baby other than a congrats, so I never asked for pictures. If baby was present with mom I would make appropriate 'awww...' and find something about baby to pick out and talk about ('look at those eyes! Omg, that hair! Oooohh, cheeks!') but that was polite societal interaction that was not rooted in any actual interest in a squishy little thing that could cry abruptly at any second and for no reason at all I could see.
However, NOW I would ask to see a photo.
Same here, and to be honest I still don't like kids that much beyond my own. So I get it! I do all of the sudden think all babies are super cute though!
I'm actually terrible at offering to others to hold LO - not because I'm against it, I just assume that other people are as disinterested in holding babies as I was, pre-LO!
@HayesRN13 you're my SIL if she was her nice self full-time! She's a nurse who calls it like she sees it, and takes no prisoners with stoopid
I've made several of you online versions of my favorite people. And many others are the friends I wish I had or have lost touch with IRL.
Yesterday at BuyBuyBaby, a mom with twins was talking to me. A) I had terrible stage fright about what not to say, and still put my foot in my mouth (ugh, I asked if twins run in her family - no. "So they must have been a fun surprise?!" "Well... I had to have help, so I knew I'd probably have multiples.") and I almost said, "Are you a J15 Bump Mom?!" but then realized her babies are only 2 months old so probably not. She was super nice though.
@hoodoll82 I usually say pretty quickly, "Our rule is you take the baby if you want him, or you give him back or don't take him, if you don't want him."
I have no idea how old l/o is...I mean I know but I'm confused. Lol She's 3 months according to me. She was born June 16 and it's now Sept 18. The Bump says she's only 2 months and 4 weeks. I know they have to go by weeks, but is my l/o really 3 months or so I need to stop saying that she is?!
Sorry if this is dumb (Ha!) we had major storms all night so we didn't sleep. Did catch a few giggles on camera though.
Weeks I go by Wednesday's (LO was born at 210am Wednesday morning) but months I go by the 24th's. If that makes sense. So, LO is 12 weeks old this week, but won't be 3 months until 9/24. Which means that he will actually be 13 weeks old before he is 3 months old, which is weird, but it works for me
@mellymar I do the same thing. Months are not 4 months exactly and we won't say they're 1 at 52 weeks, we'll say they're one when it's been a year since birth. June 22nd for my dude, 24th for yours. Except I realized they'll get an extra day because next year is a leap year
@virginiaunicorn11 No, not ttc. She's probably in her 50's with two grown children she has told me about. And I listened nicely, silently wishing she would ask about my child. It sounds so lame to admit "out loud," but darn it, she's really nice and she should be interested in my super awesome baby!
I do months and weeks by Thursdays. Thursday to Thursday = 1 week. 4 thursdays = 1 month. Any other way just doesn't make logical sense to me. I know some months are longer and some shorter, but there is still 52 weeks in a year. I was really confused about this for awhile and just decided to go with that.
The what would you say if someone asked you thread makes me sad. Since LO was breach and I had a scheduled c section, other than some intense Braxton Hicks, I didn't get to experience the excitement of true labor. I know it was probably painful and scary, but I'll never know. I don't even want to click on it. For the most part I'm glad for the c section and have made peace, but sometimes I still feel betrayed by my body
The what would you say if someone asked you thread makes me sad. Since LO was breach and I had a scheduled c section, other than some intense Braxton Hicks, I didn't get to experience the excitement of true labor. I know it was probably painful and scary, but I'll never know. I don't even want to click on it. For the most part I'm glad for the c section and have made peace, but sometimes I still feel betrayed by my body
Same here, we were induced with failure to progress resulting in c section. I had some contractions but only got to 4cm. I love my birth experience with LO but God I feel sad sometimes that I didn't do it, I hope next time I can have a VBAC. But the dr said my pelvis might be too small.
@KarasTwin I went in to be induced and only ever made it two the two I came in at before I had an emergency c section and yes I have a hard time relating to that thread as well.
stupid question here since i didnt see a FFFQ thread. (also looking for advice) am i the only one here who still hasnt had sex yet post delivery?
its not that im scared or worried about the pain. i just have 0 interest in anything sexual right now, i dont feel attractive, i hate the way i look, im attached to this baby practically 24/7 (we cosleep and all he does is eat in the daytime) and of course DH wants some. i dont want to give in to him and start equating sex with negative feelings.
@JessHeppell I'm technically July 15, baby boy came July 3rd so I mainly lurk around here. Anyway no you are not alone, thought I was...LO was 11 weeks yesterday and we still haven't done it. For all the same reasons as you. Even if we did decide to start something (although he's as exhausted as I am) we are both scared of having LO wake up crying in the middle. And plus I am scared of boob leakage for some reason, I think that would be even grosser than how I look.
@JessHeppell i haven't.. Lo just turned 3 months on the 17th. I just don't feel like it, and we didn't have sex much at all while I was pregnant so it's been a long time! Tomorrow is our 7 year dating anniversary so I think I might have to do it finally
Absolutely zero judgment. And I can relate to low libido. But I started feeling like myself again, and DH and I started finally reconnecting again, once we started hooking up again. Nothing major, just once a week-ish. And I had to force myself for a while (and still kind of do, but at least now I enjoy it once we start).
Absolutely zero judgment. And I can relate to low libido. But I started feeling like myself again, and DH and I started finally reconnecting again, once we started hooking up again. Nothing major, just once a week-ish. And I had to force myself for a while (and still kind of do, but at least now I enjoy it once we start).
Ditto. I do have to kind of force myself but I end up enjoying it!
I agree on the sexy time. The more, the better it seems and it's important to have that adult connection back and time not think about LO for 2 seconds! Well, hopefully longer than 2 seconds
Also, I have the leaky boob fear, so I just wear a bra or nursing tank. DH doesn't mind, and sometimes when I feel it's safe, I let him explore. He's happy to be getting any action, so he's fine with these "rules." @klirwin82
Re: FFFC adult edition!
But isn't it great when someone asks do you have a photo lol
@mellymar You've always reminded me of a very good friend of mine, named Erin. Your similarities are uncanny, except she never married or had a baby. I see you as her sliding door. Have I already told you this??
@ChardeeMacDennis interesting, will check that site out, thanks!
@MaliKaela DH met up with some of our couple friends without me a few weeks ago. Later, the husband told DH that his wife said, "The first time he brings out his phone to show baby pictures, I'm leaving."
He told DH because they were so impressed it never happened. But they're TTC so their day will come, the jerks! ;-)
Hopefully your supervisor isn't having trouble TTC... And actually, my friend Erin hates babies but is a nice person. So maybe your supervisor is one of those.
I agree with all the above! I find myself thinking "can we be best friends??" When I read most of @virginiaunicorn11 's posts. I'm creepy. I'll own that.
However, NOW I would ask to see a photo.
I'm actually terrible at offering to others to hold LO - not because I'm against it, I just assume that other people are as disinterested in holding babies as I was, pre-LO!
I've made several of you online versions of my favorite people. And many others are the friends I wish I had or have lost touch with IRL.
Yesterday at BuyBuyBaby, a mom with twins was talking to me. A) I had terrible stage fright about what not to say, and still put my foot in my mouth (ugh, I asked if twins run in her family - no. "So they must have been a fun surprise?!" "Well... I had to have help, so I knew I'd probably have multiples.") and
@hoodoll82 I usually say pretty quickly, "Our rule is you take the baby if you want him, or you give him back or don't take him, if you don't want him."
Sorry if this is dumb (Ha!) we had major storms all night so we didn't sleep. Did catch a few giggles on camera though.
I do months and weeks by Thursdays. Thursday to Thursday = 1 week. 4 thursdays = 1 month. Any other way just doesn't make logical sense to me. I know some months are longer and some shorter, but there is still 52 weeks in a year. I was really confused about this for awhile and just decided to go with that.
am i the only one here who still hasnt had sex yet post delivery?
its not that im scared or worried about the pain. i just have 0 interest in anything sexual right now, i dont feel attractive, i hate the way i look, im attached to this baby practically 24/7 (we cosleep and all he does is eat in the daytime) and of course DH wants some. i dont want to give in to him and start equating sex with negative feelings.
I'm technically July 15, baby boy came July 3rd so I mainly lurk around here. Anyway no you are not alone, thought I was...LO was 11 weeks yesterday and we still haven't done it. For all the same reasons as you. Even if we did decide to start something (although he's as exhausted as I am) we are both scared of having LO wake up crying in the middle. And plus I am scared of boob leakage for some reason, I think that would be even grosser than how I look.
I'm tired don't feel like it and he works all day and can barely stay awake long enough to spend time with the baby when he's home.
Eventually we will get there...
@klirwin82