Ok so I've done my best to lurk and Google my little heart out but I feel like theirs soo many conflicting reports of what your cervix placement and firmness says about your status in TTC. Open, closed? High, mushy, "pursed lips"? I feel like every link I click on tells me something new.
I'm currently 5dpo and experiencing the "school glue" cm with a high, soft, closed cervix.
Before the hounds get all over me, I am NOT asking if I am pregnant. I am aware that the only thing that can confirm that is a test.... Just trying to gain some insight from the experts on what I should be looking for or tracking when it comes to cervical placement. Thank you in advance for your input and please no put downs, I've had a rough few months and seem to be "snappy" lately lol
Re: The cervix secrets
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I personally don't bother checking my cervical position because I don't feel like it tells you very much. That, & it's not comfortable for me. So I just kind of wing it.
It's only a small part of your total fertility puzzle.
I am doing you a solid when I say that you aren't the only person who has had a rough summer or even rough couple of years.
If you are quick to the defensive/tantrum over a message board, then perhaps re-evaluation of your participation is in order?
Maybe even re-think TTC if you are going through that much of an emotionally volatile time? Because newborns & toddlers don't get the memo that you are tired/sick/having a rough time. I don't say that with any snark-- I'm dead serious.
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And until the strangers in this forum force their way out of my vagina and change my life forever, their snarkiness isn't something I HAVE to tolerate.
SA for DH pending.
Married Sept '13
TTC Dec '13
BFP 10/8/2014 MMC 11/20/2014 D&C 11/26/14
BFP 9/20/2015 MMC 10/7/2015 D&C 10/15/15
It would be a shame since I do value the information on this board, I however do not value someone relating my rough few months with my ability to be a parent. That isn't a feeling I wish on anyone. I am aware that I can't force people to play nice but seeing as this is a board that's meant to offer support regardless of their stage in trying to conceive, it's a little shocking to see so many people quick to shun me away.
The Cervix Feels Like a Penis
Beautiful Cervix (NSFW)
How To Detect CP and CM For Your Charts
3/2015: Start TTC
8/2015: PCOS Dx
4/2016: BFP, Loss (4+5)
2/2017: BFP
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3/16 - Started infertility testing
4/16 - SA results: borderline low count/morph
8/16 - Ultrasound and HSG: all clear! Prescribed Bromocriptine for elevated Prolactin levels.
9/16 - Prolactin down to normal levels!
IUI #1 - 9/21/16 - Clomid 50mg, Estrace, Ovidrel, Progesterone/Estradiol - 4 follies - BFP! EDD 6/15/17 Team PINK!
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If it feels like the tip of a penis/nose = Firm
Pursed lips = Medium
Relaxed lips, or almost blends in with the vaginal wall = Soft
For me....(you'll have to come up with your own reference points)
If I had to insert my entire finger to reach it = High
If it was at my middle knuckle = Medium
If it was anywhere below the knuckle = Low
Also, check your cervix in the same position each and every time. I would also pick a time of day and stick to that time because sometimes the position can fluctuate at different times of the day.
Honestly you can use any definitions you want in terms of describing CP. It's really all relative to you anyways. The most important thing is to notice the changes from day to day.
There's a reason I don't go to them anymore. And FWIW if you hadn't mentioned snark and shunning, you would have been pointed to the same links quickly with some empathy for your journey.
All of this.
DX - MFI Antibodies, High DNA fragmentation
IUI #1 November 2015 - 0% Motility
IVF #2 May 2016 - (FAIL/25 eggs, 1 5BB xx, PGS abnormal)
3/2015: Start TTC
8/2015: PCOS Dx
4/2016: BFP, Loss (4+5)
2/2017: BFP
Honorable mentions: Biggest IF support sister, sweetest bumpie, most genuine, LFAFer you'd most like to visit, great things come in small packages, pocket sized babe
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The women here are wonderful, supportive, caring and they have tons of knowledge. If anyone runs off because of a little snark they are only doing themselves a disservice. Besides, like I said snark is fun!
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Listen, I'm not sure why you have to be so resistant to any & all advice given to you here. You say you want advice/help/info, but when folks try to give it to you then you get upset & hair flip.
@Litterateur was giving you solid advice & you just shut her down. That's not terribly respectful or positive contribution to our community. :-??
It's relevant Because I've seen folks go crazy on these boards contacting spouses, jobs. It's frighteningly easy to find a lot of info even if it's just crafts. You can find other friends that will eventually lead to your FB etc. if you acquire someone that dislikes you enough to go to the deuce over finding you. It can be a real problem.
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I'm pretty sure @Litterateur was just trying to be nice and make sure your aware that your fb can easily be found as well as personal information such as where you live can also be seen. No need to be nasty when she was just trying to make sure your aware.
SA for DH pending.
I am unsure where the threat lies here? So my SN takes you from a social board to a social networking site? Nothing on the Internet is safe so I'm unsure how knowing what kind of crafts I've pinned will bring me harm. Also unsure how this is relevant to the topic I posted about.
I'm pretty sure @Litterateur was just trying to be nice and make sure your aware that your fb can easily be found as well as personal information such as where you live can also be seen. No need to be nasty when she was just trying to make sure your aware.
Yes I bet she was, and in her efforts to be nice and make me aware, she also publicly announced that everyone can go find me on Facebook. Pardon if I feel that her concern could have been welcomed better in a private message...
Well your clearly in the wrong place then maybe try a board like glow. This is obviously not working out.
TL;DR: Some people on the internet are psycho. Don't leave an easy trail of breadcrumbs from your online identity to your real identity! @Litterateur was doing you a favor pointing that out.
SA for DH pending.
You do realize that we talk about more than just TTC things right?
That there are ladies here in all stages (waiting, benched, active NTNP) of TTC?
So it's not entirely reasonable to say that all non-TTC things are irrelevant therefore shouldn't be discussed.
It's not very nice or appreciated to come waltzing into this board & try tell us how to post & where. We've been doing just fine. Threads can turn & the subject if internet safety is always relevant-- because we are a message board on the internet.
Please explain why you have to give us the attitude?
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