FFFC adult edition!

lovethatcolosun · September 2015

The baby version was a lot of fun, but I think it's time for the moms to confess a few things. Let's here it ladies!

KaLikeAWind · September 2015

I took LO to the bowling alley for the preseason league meeting and then hung out talking to some people afterward. He was a total charmer and really good. And inside I was kinda pissed cause at home he's been so cranky! So much so I debated not going at all and stationed myself by the door during the meeting so I could whisk him out if he started to madly cry (like he has been doing pretty much for the past 4 days).
And I almost dropped my phone on his head again just now

lwhrmomma · September 2015

I was supposed to go to an essential oils party tonight.... But LO was so darn cute today that I didn't want to leave him, so I made up an excuse for why I couldn't go. I snuggled with him all evening instead. Now he is in bed, and I'm drinking a Not Your Fathers, and watching Kendra On Top. This is heaven.

Sammy K · September 2015

I used to hate the drive into work. Today I realized it's the only 30 min stretch I have all to myself every day of the week. Now I love my drive in to work.

klkonwi · September 2015

@mellymar my guy is always the best when we go somewhere crowded or even just a friends house. So strange.

carajeanp37 · September 2015

I sometimes get bored of LO. Don't get me wrong I am obsessed with her but there's only so much we can do together and sometimes I just want to sit and be lazy and watch tv instead of having to brainstorm some new way to entertain her. I'm starting to look forward to going back to work next week which then makes me feel guilty, it's a vicious cycle.. MOTY for sure.

HayesRN13 · September 2015

I really am disappointed in myself I forgot how to post gifs.. Src= img > .. Something?! Please someone give me the code .. I have weird dreams (well all the time since giving birth that's another story) but dreams about finding the gif code.. In an adventure like Indiana jones.. But I always wake up before cracking the code .. Lmao (You can tell I'm not back at work yet)..

And my real confession, I've been waking LO up out of his crib at night to bring him in bed with us because I just miss him. DH is not happy but I told him it's because he woke up.. Total fib- but he stays asleep what's the big deal? :-??

aliciaspinnet · September 2015

DH took LO for a few hours today so I could have some me time, and he gave DH hell for the last hour of it. I've been struggling to cook and clean for the last week because LO has been a bit more demanding than usual, and I'm secretly a little glad that DH now knows why.

dancegurl1118 · September 2015

After my 2 beers last night I went on a wild Amazon reviewing spree

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KaLikeAWind · September 2015

@HayesRN13

ETA and now I can't get it to work. What the hell? Standby...

KaLikeAWind · September 2015

OK. Remove asterisks from formula below. Asterisks are only to prevent it from trying to gif. <**img src="web source address of gif"**>

ETA I have the entire tutorial as taught by @Westypet (I believe) if anyone wants me to post it in its entirety

virginiaunicorn11 · September 2015

I can't read the Parenting Fails thread any more. It makes me embarrassed and my heart hurts. (This is about me, none of the posts - absolutely zero judgment.) It's like way too big of a mirror for my perfectionist side. It totally caught me off guard to be reacting that way!

lovethatcolosun · September 2015

I went in for my pp check up at a second location my doctors have. There was a scheduling mistake and I didn't see the doctor. I haven't rescheduled and don't want to. DH is getting snipped so I don't need bc and I just don't feel like going.

JessHeppell · September 2015

i havent gone for my PP check up yet.

virginiaunicorn11 · September 2015

We skipped the two-month baby check up. No doctors between 6 weeks and 4 months unless a big issue arises.

He got 36 tests in the hospital, a sonogram of his hips, a 6-week check, and got his first vaccinations (at the Health Department, at 2 months). So we feel he's been thoroughly examined and is fine. We will take him to a pediatrician after our next move, when we are a little more settled.

7425cait · September 2015

DH and I are going to a birthday party at a beer garden. It'll be at 7 pm on a Friday. I'm seriously contemplating taking LO, and so is another mom with a baby the same age. Your life only changes as much as you allow it to, right? Am I a bad mom?

mishmardhiono · September 2015

cait7425 said:
DH and I are going to a birthday party at a beer garden. It'll be at 7 pm on a Friday. I'm seriously contemplating taking LO, and so is another mom with a baby the same age. Your life only changes as much as you allow it to, right? Am I a bad mom?

I wouldn't do it from a selfish POV. Imagine that delicious icy cold ever and that awesome adult interaction to be interrupted by our perfect bundle of joys wanting to remind us this fun part of our life is over. Haha. If you can get a babysitter Id use one but if not take LO along.

dancegurl1118 · September 2015

@cait7425 how is your LO when out and about? Mine isn't great so I try not to take her adult places especially at that hour. If yours is great and naps then I would say do it. How close will that be to bed time though? Will it mess up your whole night if she gets overtired?

rklinge0 · September 2015

@cait7425 I took my lo to an adult party last night. She passed out later than usual but we got a great night of sleep at home so it was worth it. She is definitely a social butterfly and I keep threatening her if she is bad, she can't come again. I know a little crazy but it seems to work.

hudson202 · September 2015

@cait7425 we take LO with us where ever we go. She has been to many restaurants/ bars/happy hours in her short 11.5 week life. I say do it!

7425cait · September 2015

^^^LO is usually great out. We took her to my SIL's wedding this weekend and she slept in someone's arms a good portion of the time. The only thing I'm concerned about is that it is her witching hour and she goes to bed around 9. I just feel bad passing her off to my parents again. Although, I'm sure they love the alone time.

ksimo6 · September 2015

My 2 yr old is on a nap strike this week. I sit on a stool in her doorway and tell her to lay down about every two minutes for a minimum of an hour... Yesterday I decided that I get to drink vodka during the strike. I'm not sorry. Or embarrassed. Let's do this.

princessbmw · September 2015

Our 2 year old gets locked in his room for an hour. Mama needs down time!

HayesRN13 · September 2015

mellymar said:

OK. Remove asterisks from formula below. Asterisks are only to prevent it from trying to gif. <**img src="web source address of gif"**>

ETA I have the entire tutorial as taught by @Westypet (I believe) if anyone wants me to post it in its entirety

Ahhhh thank you!

katyqv · September 2015

Our fur baby has been away for the last week at obedience training and while I miss his little face, I'm secretly loving him being gone. No constant barking for attention, no stealing the remote or LOs toys, no nipping at my hands when I'm holding LO and best of all, we've gotten our bed back!

mvargas12 · September 2015

LO woke up while DH and I were having sexy time so we just let her cry. Is that awful

rklinge0 · September 2015

@mvargas12 nope its not. The first time pp we did it, she was crying in her crib. I said she was cock blocking dh.

KaLikeAWind · September 2015

@cait7425 do it. We've taken LO to tap rooms. We usually do it during the middle of the day vs the evening, but we've done it. I'm not going to stop enjoying good, local craft beer cause I have a baby, and I'm not going to hire a sitter for an outing like that, where we are in there only an hour or so. With regards to it being witching hours, I actually took LO out last night during his witching hours and was nervous about it, but he did fine. I just kept rocking his carseat when he was awake and there were a bunch of people looking at him and talking to him so he was just looking around at everything and everyone. I did drive around for 20 minutes prior trying to put him to sleep, but it didn't work. Didn't matter tho. He was quiet from 6 to 830ish while we were out and didn't cry until we got home. Didn't even act like he was going to cry while we were out, I just bailed cause I knew he had to eat soon and was trying to forestall him starting to cry while out. You don't know until you try! (My kid also enjoys the car seat and outings in general, so there's that)

LolaMarley23 · September 2015

Just took LO out for the day bar hopping for our towns festival. I am glad it was in Wisconsin or i may have gotten dirty looks for drinking whilst LO was in his wrap. Gotta love Wisconsin!

KaLikeAWind · September 2015

^^^ hey, I'm in WI, too. :-h

ETA @Steph0727

henrytviii · September 2015

MN here. We take our LO's out to the tap rooms all the time. Seems like everyone is cool with it any time of day/night until they are walking. Then we generally start to limit it. I'll admit I took DS1 to a nightime party at a tap room when he was 1.5. I needed to get out and we couldn't find a sitter. He loved the live band and no one said a word or gave us any weird looks.

janat1717 · September 2015

I'm originally from WI too. SE side. Totally miss it but visit family a lot and do quick trips. so many places I want to take LO like House on the Rock... And New Glarus LOL. @mellymar @Steph0727

Sammy K · September 2015

janit368 said:
I'm originally from WI too. SE side. Totally miss it but visit family a lot and do quick trips. so many places I want to take LO like House on the Rock... And New Glarus LOL. @mellymar @Steph0727

WI native here too, but from the center of the state. DH is from the Janesville area. We met in school at Platteville.

katyertl · September 2015

@Steph0727 & @mellymar I'm in wisconsin too!!!!! Go us!

virginiaunicorn11 · September 2015

LO will chill during his witching hours if we get him out of the house. It's a fine balance though because if we keep him out too long and he gets overtired, he cries harder because he can't get to sleep as easy. So we have about a 20-30 minute window where we HAVE to be home, or just expect a 15-20 minute public meltdown.

Confession: I get a lot of mental and physical enjoyment out of breastfeeding. Absolutely not in a creepy, sexual way - just that it feels really calming, and I enjoy the feeling and knowing I'm giving him sustenance. I feel guilty for this for some reason though, and wonder if I'd feel less weird about enjoying it if I had a girl.

A friend, who has a girl, asked me about how I felt about breastfeeding. Her baby is 3 months older, and she's always been refreshingly real with me. So I told her the above and she said she feels the same, but thought maybe having a boy would be different.

ETA: she thought maybe she wouldn't feel as weird about it if she had a boy. And hearing that I felt weird about it with a boy, and thinking it would be less weird with a girl, was interesting to her. We both had a "Huh!" moment.

MaliKaela · September 2015

@virginiaunicorn11 I don't think you should feel guilty at all. I think you should feel like a badass. So what if you enjoy it? Thank god, because you certainly spend enough time doing it.

I mostly pump although I try to bf once a day just because it helps me feel closer to LO. Anyway, the night before last we had company over and I think it interfered with LO's being able to fall asleep at his bed time. I finally went in the other room and tried to calm him down in the glider. It wasn't working so I pulled out the boob. LO usually drinks a little but has not been super efficient bf'ing lately. Well, he seriously went to town and was GUZZLING. I realized it felt really good. I had a moment where I thought, "is that weird/creepy somehow?" And then I decided it wasn't. Because, you know what? Our bodies are designed to do this. There is an evolutionary advantage to it being enjoyable for mom and baby. And in that moment I was able to sustain him and calm him down and it was awesome.

So, anyway, I think it is all normal and good, and absolutely nothing to feel guilty about.

mrs1374a · September 2015

@virginiaunicorn11 There is nothing "wrong" with the way you feel. This is my second time breastfeeding (they are both girls) but I don't think I would feel weird if one was a boy. This is what our bodies were made to do but somewhere down the line our boobs became sexualized, which is fine too, but my boobs first priority is feeding my newbie

KaLikeAWind · September 2015

katyertl said:
@Steph0727 & @mellymar I'm in wisconsin too!!!!! Go us!

I remembered you were here, we're actually about an hour away from each other.

>-

7425cait · September 2015

@virginiaunicorn11 not strange at all! Your body releases oxytocin when you breastfeed. It's like a natural high. I really love bfing my LO now too. At the beginning, not so much, but now it's a great way to feel close to her. It's our special time together. It's also a get out of jail free card when you need time away from company. "Oops, baby is hungry, I'm gonna go seclude myself to the bedroom for a half hour".

KaLikeAWind · September 2015

@virginiaunicorn11 @MaliKaela I enjoy it, too, even tho I can't sustain / provide for him. I enjoy that he enjoys it (we're a house where boob fixes everything). He may still be fussy after some boob because he's still hungry, but boob will always calm the savage beast crying and avert a meltdown. Especially the first boob session of the morning. Because he's going about 4-6 hours between feedings overnight, there's more in there and he's so hungry from waiting longer I don't bother to stop him after our usual 15 minutes and just let him linger if he wants (its not like I have anything else going on). He always finishes his top o' the morning boob drink smiley and making cute faces. He's also usually quite hangry before he gets his morning boob and so he almost dives at it once we're all set up. Boob time is our time together. Even tho he's probably now getting more of his actual growing calories from formula, and I could shorten his feeding times dramatically by stopping bfing, this is when we both relax and share warmth and just take comfort from one another. He's my little dude and he likes it, so I keep doing it. :x

lovethatcolosun · September 2015

@virginiaunicorn11 I love BF LO. It is so much easier the second time around too. I am much more confident this time and BF in public without a care. I secretly dare anyone to say something to me. I feel empowered by it. I did encounter a short period of time this go round with "weird feelings" of euphoria when she would nurse mainly because of a conversation with a friend. She told me one of our other friends actually stopped BF because it felt too sexual and it made her uncomfortable. It just put something in my head and I started feeling weird. Then something just shifted and that's when things became easy and I felt this sense of "women power"! The ability to feed and nourish my child with my body is a huge accomplishment for me. It's bond that only she and I share. It's our quiet time away from the hustle and bustle of the world (aside from me playing on TB).

PS. Our bodies were designed to make it feel good and release oxytocin for a reason. To keep us BF for as long as you desire.

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