I admittedly have never paid much attention to Obamacare because we had insurance even before. My stepmom works for an international organization in DC so I'm not even sure how her insurance plan operates, I just know I showed the card and voila. I think the smart thing for me to do is call the company and ask if she can drop me before my 26th birthday.
I have to run to class and then work but thank you all for your suggestions and the sharp reality checks. I will get right on that.
My step mum has me on hers now that she knows I'm pregnant. My dad won't speak to me at all.
I do need to follow up on the mental health stuff, I just hate labels and don't like the idea of medication. I've functioned all these years without it so if I can keep doing that it would be good. I assure you I am taking steps to get a stable job and apartment. I've even considered dropping out of school and just making one degree work, though that would screw me for medical school since I need the science. I'm trying to figure a lot of stuff out now, I've always had other people to make my choices for me.
Points very well taken everyone. Not looking for pity---did that for the first six months. Done with it now. I am determined to do a good job with this whole parenthood thing...I know I'll figure it out.
This approach to mental health seriously makes me really angry.
If you had cancer, ALS, diabetes, a broken leg, pneumonia, etc... You would want it to be labeled (ie, diagnosed) and treated (ie, medicated and monitored.). Why would you not want the same for a mental health problem???
Just as some other health conditions can pop up even though you have been fine for years, so can mental health issues. Just as some other health issues need simple medication and are resolved easily, so are some mental health issues. Just as some other health issues need long term monitoring and medication, so do some mental health issues.
Most importantly, ignoring that there is an issue will make any health issue worse, and probably harder to help than it could have been had it been addressed earlier.
@thegingeravenger no you are not automatically enrolled on your parents' plan. You are eligible to be on their plan, but they have to enroll you during open enrollment. For example my husband and I are both covered by my employer instead of our parents even though we are both under 26, since my employer has better insurance.
@PetitNightingale ...that doesn't really make since either. If you are covered under multiple plans you have to let the other Insurance plan know, and it will be billed as primary and secondary insurance. If you don't the insursnce company can choose not to pay or take back previous payments. Speaking from experience because i had this happen due to a mix up.
You keep saying you are telling the truth, but people telling the truth don't have this many inconsistencies or things they have to explain. Not accusation, just pointing out the obvious.
Edit to answer your question, yes you can 100% be dropped before your 26th birthday.
I admittedly have never paid much attention to Obamacare because we had insurance even before. My stepmom works for an international organization in DC so I'm not even sure how her insurance plan
operates, I just know I showed the card and voila. I think the smart thing for me to do is call the company and ask if she can drop me before my 26th birthday.
I have to run to class and then work but thank you all for your suggestions and the sharp reality checks. I will get right on that.
To my knowledge, a person can be dropped from a policy at any time.
I've probably given you a couple dollars worth of my 2 cents by now, but here is a few more. Your priorities should be:
1) Aid. Apply for absolutely everything even if you don't think you're eligible. (Hint: You have no assets, negligible income, and you're pregnant. You're eligible for everything.)
2) Education. You've got a degree, but you sound incredibly ignorant about your body and how this whole pregnancy thing works. Borrow a book or two on pregnancy and infant care. What to Expect When Expecting or Ina May's Guide to Childbirth are great places to start.
3) Stability. First thing with this is to get yourself stable mentally. Stop ping ponging all over the place and living like a piece of driftwood in an ocean of victimhood. You're the captain of your own ship and you've decided to take a passenger on for the ride. Own it. You steer this thing now whether it's into the rocks or towards safe harbor. Once you have your ducks in a row mentally and the ball rolling on aid you can decide how to move forward on housing, transportation, and jobs. My suggestion is to move into Section 8 housing. It will not be a nice neighborhood. It will be your place that no one can kick you and your son out of on a whim. If your area has decent public transportation that's awesome - use it. It will not be convenient. You will have to plan ahead. It will be hot and frustrating and you may hate it. Use it anyway. Figure out a budget based on aid and child support you will receive. Make some tough decisions on whether school is something realistic right now or if you should take your bachelors degree and start applying for jobs. Move forward in that direction.
If there's something strange underneath the hood. Who you gonna call? Your Doctor. If there's something weird and it don't look good. Who you gonna call? Your Doctor. Immediately. If it's new, painful, and possibly pregnancy related get your ass off the internet and call your doctor. It's for your health and your child's.
My step mum has me on hers now that she knows I'm pregnant. My dad won't speak to me at all.
I do need to follow up on the mental health stuff, I just hate labels and don't like the idea of medication. I've functioned all these years without it so if I can keep doing that it would be good. I assure you I am taking steps to get a stable job and apartment. I've even considered dropping out of school and just making one degree work, though that would screw me for medical school since I need the science. I'm trying to figure a lot of stuff out now, I've always had other people to make my choices for me.
Points very well taken everyone. Not looking for pity---did that for the first six months. Done with it now. I am determined to do a good job with this whole parenthood thing...I know I'll figure it out.
This approach to mental health seriously makes me really angry.
If you had cancer, ALS, diabetes, a broken leg, pneumonia, etc... You would want it to be labeled (ie, diagnosed) and treated (ie, medicated and monitored.).
Why would you not want the same for a mental health problem???
Just as some other health conditions can pop up even though you have been fine for years, so can mental health issues. Just as some other health issues need simple medication and are resolved easily, so are some mental health issues. Just as some other health issues need long term monitoring and medication, so do some mental health issues.
Most importantly, ignoring that there is an issue will make any health issue worse, and probably harder to help than it could have been had it been addressed earlier.
This!! I hate the mentality that diagnosis = labeling a person and labeling a person = a negative thing. Without a diagnosis you can't treat an illness. Teachers were reluctant to even refer my DD for special education evaluation because they were afraid of "labeling" her. I want my daughter to get the help she needs. Who gives a damn about a label. We all have multiple labels. I'm a woman, mother, sci-fi fan, empathetic, kind, impatient, intelligent, resourceful and many other things. I suffer from anxiety, depression, gestational diabetes and a couple other health issues. One set of labels doesn't negate the other. Just because a ball is red doesn't mean it's not also round and made of rubber.
If there's something strange underneath the hood. Who you gonna call? Your Doctor. If there's something weird and it don't look good. Who you gonna call? Your Doctor. Immediately. If it's new, painful, and possibly pregnancy related get your ass off the internet and call your doctor. It's for your health and your child's.
** before you get defensive read the entire comment, sorry it is so long** It doesn't seem to me that you have functioned all these years without it, seems more like you were deprived of the help you need bc your abusive father babied you so much you dont know how to take care of yourself or a child and think that your okay when clearly you are not. -Dropping out of school when that can help you in the long run after stating that it's already been paid for and that there is nothing you can do about it now... -Your going to risk your dad and step mom's relationship and screwing up their insurance bc you won't take care of yourself medically now instead of later or at all.. -Relying on "friends" you have had in your life for 2 weeks.. TWO WEEKS, to put in extra of their money and support for themself to supply for YOU and YOUR child.. -And knowing you need counseling for non baby related things but not taking the time to look for the help.
This is all pity, YOU are still in pity party land. YOU are POOR, and I do take offense (which is why I took the time to write and explain everything to the best I could) as a "poor person" myself struggling but actually taking action to get in a better situation, to everything you are saying because you are doing close to nothing to prove you are trying to get out of this situation while there are some of us working our asses off to do everything we can without all the extra handouts you are supposidly getting. I would love to have school paid for and not have to worry about something going wrong to take the opportunity away. To throw away all that money is stupidity and selfish espically to who ever paid for it all. Take a break for recovery, but don't drop out if it is, as you said, already ALL paid for. Screwing around with someone else's medical insurance is not something to take lightly. Not only that but if your father is as abusive as you say when he finds out that she is supporting your medical needs and will most likely end up paying for the rest since it is her insurance, did you consider what he would do/say to her? Have you considered that at all? Probably not bc it's not you so you don't have to worry. Those people are not your friends. Or your bank account. They will get fed up of you using them and when they do, your child is the one that suffers because you can't do any of it on your own. You say you need all this stuff, but that you are stable enough that you dont, then you are waiting for authorities to tell you what to do. Get off the forum and do it. Or as stated above open a new tab it doesn't take that long and it is not that difficult. In a post before you mentioned conflicting stories with an adoption family, the way things are going I wouldn't drop that idea completly. If you don't get your shit together the authorities that your waiting to tell you what to do, will tell you that your not stable enough to keep your child. It's time to grow up and try to better yourself.
-get your story straight - stop the I need to do this crap and just do it -for the love of chocolate covered caramel apples, get help in any way you can. -apply for wic, link, anything that can help. - keep your options open. Don't make your child suffer BC you think you have it all figured out in your head but have done nothing to prove it.
I am 21, have one child already, I am having another girl, the midwife and OB both thinks it was supposed to be twins and that I lost one early on due to extreme bleeding for a 24 hr period when we found out i was pregnant this time, im disappointed at the possibility but have accepted that it is what it is, so I have everything I need for this one and I was not struggling this much when I had DD1 or at the beginning of this pregnancy. I have wic and link and I have applied all over town for jobs, I live between my bf's and my grandmother's, I still continue to fill out apps hoping every night I will get a call and so far iv gotten nothing even when i call them.. I'm head to toe in medical problems and doctor appointments. I am not on anyone else's medical insurance and neither is my child, I'm on my own and have her, and will have this baby, put on mine as well. My bf is in the same job situation as I am but with more work experience and possibly has a great opportunity once they review his application and call him back again. I supply diapers and food and everything else DD and I need and yes I do it with assistance (I mentioned wic and link) I also do small jobs for people around me that I know who offer help even when I don't ask for their help (babysit, yard work, grocery shopping for them.. simple things they need help with), my gma and bf only supply a roof over our head, support that I can and will get through this rough patch, and a bed with blankets to sleep on, we help eachother as much as we can. I'm filling out my FAFSA for my associates of art degree to start classes once DD2 is here. I was all signed up for it before and only had to take my compass test then was hit by a medical tornado, divorce(he was physically abusive towards me and cheated on multiple accounts.. we were together 5 years) ,name change (which I have court for next week) and family problems that would have all kept me out of class a majority of the semesters, not a good enough excuse and I know that. Shit happens, I'm struggling, but at least I can say I am trying my best and doing all I can plus more. Yes it is hard, and overwhelming. But sitting back and throwing a pity party won't solve anything. If I can get through this and I can get all this stuff taken care of, then so can you (YOU CAN DO IT- in a voice from an Adam Sandler movie haha), you can become an amazing parent and have an amazing life that you built for yourself. You just have to want it bad enough.
EDIT- bc I left this out: once you get all the stuff filled out and taken care of (link wic job applications.. all that fun stuff) it will take time. There will be days when you are sitting on your ass "seeming lazy" waiting for it to go through, waiting for call backs, waiting for a good amount of time to call them yourself and be like "hello my name is A and I turned in an application on B day (or B amount of weeks ago) and I was wondering if it it has gone through yet or what the status of it is" Often times they will tell you they either didn't get to it yet, will have the hiring manager call back, or that it has been declined, BUT they at least know you want the job bad enough to call at least once and make sure It had been looked at. Have patience, but never give up trying. There is an opportunity someplace you just have to find it.
@WeirdAlice I am sorry I offended you. I have to say I really admire that you have been able to do all of that. I admit I've been sheltered and privileged. Real life, apparently, is really fucking hard. I appreciate everything you (and everyone else) has said. I submitted some applications/inquiries online just now and am working on some others--I am going to apply for everything because chances are I will not get all of it. I just want to say I'm not interested in freeloading off of anyone, I do as much as I can around here--all the cleaning, cooking etc...anything I can do to help because I am so grateful to her and her DH for taking me in. But I can't live here forever, I know that.
I also joined a program that's going to help me get my license because that seems like a big deal. I don't want to quit school and I don't know when I'll be able to afford it again so it is probably best I somehow find a way to make it work until December and then I'm done.
For what everyone is saying about the mental health issues, I have mentioned them to my counselor and we will get to them I am sure. I think right now she's just trying to make sure I don't end up on the street with a newborn. I also refuse to allow that to happen.
I'm not fifteen, I have a good education and I like to think I'm fairly intelligent. Clearly, there is a way. I just have to be brave and patient enough to find it. I have two perfectly good feet and it's time to stand on them.
Edit because I cannot type today and lecture is slow today so I can multi-task and keep doing apps.
@WeirdAlice I am sorry I offended you. I have to say I really admire that you have been able to do all of that. I admit I've been sheltered and privileged. Real life, apparently, is really fucking hard. I appreciate everything you (and everyone else) has said. I submitted some applications/inquiries online just now and am working on some others--I am going to apply for everything because chances are I will not get all of it. I just want to say I'm not interested in freeloading off of anyone, I do as much as I can around here--all the cleaning, cooking etc...anything I can do to help because I am so grateful to her and her DH for taking me in. But I can't live here forever, I know that.
I also joined a program that's going to help me get my license because that seems like a big deal. I don't want to quit school and I don't know when I'll be able to afford it again so it is probably best I somehow find a way to make it work until December and then I'm done.
For what everyone is saying about the mental health issues, I have mentioned them to my counselor and we will get to them I am sure. I think right now she's just trying to make sure I don't end up on the street with a newborn. I also refuse to allow that to happen.
I'm not fifteen, I have a good education and I like to think I'm fairly intelligent. Clearly, there is a way. I just have to be brave and patient enough to find it. I have two perfectly good feet and it's time to stand on them.
Edit because I cannot type today and lecture is slow today so I can multi-task and keep doing apps.
I panic for you @PetitNightingale. as a soon to be single mum myself, reading through your stories and your lack of organisation and urgency to get prepared gives me anxiety for you and this child, this baby's lively hood is not a game! being able to care and provide for this child is serious. I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant at 5+3 and from that minute my life completely changed every single moment has been about preparing for this baby, looking into every option that is going to benefit her in the long run it hasn't been easy at all and it's just the start. The fact that you have nothing prepared to care for this baby is scary, you are all she has to rely on when she enters this world and it's heartbreaking for her that you seem to be putting your needs first and putting off her needs because there's no one telling you what to do or doing the work for you. Feel free to private message me if you want to talk about your situation more and I can give you a bit of insight on how I've handled everything on my own. x
** before you get defensive read the entire comment, sorry it is so long**
It doesn't seem to me that you have functioned all these years without it, seems more like you were deprived of the help you need bc your abusive father babied you so much you dont know how to take care of yourself or a child and think that your okay when clearly you are not.
-Dropping out of school when that can help you in the long run after stating that it's already been paid for and that there is nothing you can do about it now...
-Your going to risk your dad and step mom's relationship and screwing up their insurance bc you won't take care of yourself medically now instead of later or at all..
-Relying on "friends" you have had in your life for 2 weeks.. TWO WEEKS, to put in extra of their money and support for themself to supply for YOU and YOUR child..
-And knowing you need counseling for non baby related things but not taking the time to look for the help.
This is all pity, YOU are still in pity party land.
YOU are POOR, and I do take offense (which is why I took the time to write and explain everything to the best I could) as a "poor person" myself struggling but actually taking action to get in a better situation, to everything you are saying because you are doing close to nothing to prove you are trying to get out of this situation while there are some of us working our asses off to do everything we can without all the extra handouts you are supposidly getting.
I would love to have school paid for and not have to worry about something going wrong to take the opportunity away. To throw away all that money is stupidity and selfish espically to who ever paid for it all. Take a break for recovery, but don't drop out if it is, as you said, already ALL paid for.
Screwing around with someone else's medical insurance is not something to take lightly. Not only that but if your father is as abusive as you say when he finds out that she is supporting your medical needs and will most likely end up paying for the rest since it is her insurance, did you consider what he would do/say to her? Have you considered that at all? Probably not bc it's not you so you don't have to worry.
Those people are not your friends. Or your bank account. They will get fed up of you using them and when they do, your child is the one that suffers because you can't do any of it on your own.
You say you need all this stuff, but that you are stable enough that you dont, then you are waiting for authorities to tell you what to do.
Get off the forum and do it. Or as stated above open a new tab it doesn't take that long and it is not that difficult.
In a post before you mentioned conflicting stories with an adoption family, the way things are going I wouldn't drop that idea completly. If you don't get your shit together the authorities that your waiting to tell you what to do, will tell you that your not stable enough to keep your child. It's time to grow up and try to better yourself.
-get your story straight
- stop the I need to do this crap and just do it
-for the love of chocolate covered caramel apples, get help in any way you can.
-apply for wic, link, anything that can help.
- keep your options open. Don't make your child suffer BC you think you have it all figured out in your head but have done nothing to prove it.
I am 21, have one child already, I am having another girl, the midwife and OB both thinks it was supposed to be twins and that I lost one early on due to extreme bleeding for a 24 hr period when we found out i was pregnant this time, im disappointed at the possibility but have accepted that it is what it is, so I have everything I need for this one and I was not struggling this much when I had DD1 or at the beginning of this pregnancy.
I have wic and link and I have applied all over town for jobs, I live between my bf's and my grandmother's, I still continue to fill out apps hoping every night I will get a call and so far iv gotten nothing even when i call them.. I'm head to toe in medical problems and doctor appointments. I am not on anyone else's medical insurance and neither is my child, I'm on my own and have her, and will have this baby, put on mine as well.
My bf is in the same job situation as I am but with more work experience and possibly has a great opportunity once they review his application and call him back again.
I supply diapers and food and everything else DD and I need and yes I do it with assistance (I mentioned wic and link) I also do small jobs for people around me that I know who offer help even when I don't ask for their help (babysit, yard work, grocery shopping for them.. simple things they need help with), my gma and bf only supply a roof over our head, support that I can and will get through this rough patch, and a bed with blankets to sleep on, we help eachother as much as we can.
I'm filling out my FAFSA for my associates of art degree to start classes once DD2 is here. I was all signed up for it before and only had to take my compass test then was hit by a medical tornado, divorce(he was physically abusive towards me and cheated on multiple accounts.. we were together 5 years) ,name change (which I have court for next week) and family problems that would have all kept me out of class a majority of the semesters, not a good enough excuse and I know that.
Shit happens, I'm struggling, but at least I can say I am trying my best and doing all I can plus more. Yes it is hard, and overwhelming. But sitting back and throwing a pity party won't solve anything.
If I can get through this and I can get all this stuff taken care of, then so can you (YOU CAN DO IT- in a voice from an Adam Sandler movie haha), you can become an amazing parent and have an amazing life that you built for yourself. You just have to want it bad enough.
EDIT- bc I left this out: once you get all the stuff filled out and taken care of (link wic job applications.. all that fun stuff) it will take time. There will be days when you are sitting on your ass "seeming lazy" waiting for it to go through, waiting for call backs, waiting for a good amount of time to call them yourself and be like "hello my name is A and I turned in an application on B day (or B amount of weeks ago) and I was wondering if it it has gone through yet or what the status of it is" Often times they will tell you they either didn't get to it yet, will have the hiring manager call back, or that it has been declined, BUT they at least know you want the job bad enough to call at least once and make sure It had been looked at.
Have patience, but never give up trying. There is an opportunity someplace you just have to find it.
If there's something strange underneath the hood. Who you gonna call? Your Doctor. If there's something weird and it don't look good. Who you gonna call? Your Doctor. Immediately. If it's new, painful, and possibly pregnancy related get your ass off the internet and call your doctor. It's for your health and your child's.
Re: Nightmares
This approach to mental health seriously makes me really angry.
If you had cancer, ALS, diabetes, a broken leg, pneumonia, etc... You would want it to be labeled (ie, diagnosed) and treated (ie, medicated and monitored.).
Why would you not want the same for a mental health problem???
Just as some other health conditions can pop up even though you have been fine for years, so can mental health issues. Just as some other health issues need simple medication and are resolved easily, so are some mental health issues. Just as some other health issues need long term monitoring and medication, so do some mental health issues.
Most importantly, ignoring that there is an issue will make any health issue worse, and probably harder to help than it could have been had it been addressed earlier.
@PetitNightingale ...that doesn't really make since either. If you are covered under multiple plans you have to let the other Insurance plan know, and it will be billed as primary and secondary insurance. If you don't the insursnce company can choose not to pay or take back previous payments. Speaking from experience because i had this happen due to a mix up.
You keep saying you are telling the truth, but people telling the truth don't have this many inconsistencies or things they have to explain. Not accusation, just pointing out the obvious.
Edit to answer your question, yes you can 100% be dropped before your 26th birthday.
I've probably given you a couple dollars worth of my 2 cents by now, but here is a few more. Your priorities should be:
1) Aid. Apply for absolutely everything even if you don't think you're eligible. (Hint: You have no assets, negligible income, and you're pregnant. You're eligible for everything.)
2) Education. You've got a degree, but you sound incredibly ignorant about your body and how this whole pregnancy thing works. Borrow a book or two on pregnancy and infant care. What to Expect When Expecting or Ina May's Guide to Childbirth are great places to start.
3) Stability. First thing with this is to get yourself stable mentally. Stop ping ponging all over the place and living like a piece of driftwood in an ocean of victimhood. You're the captain of your own ship and you've decided to take a passenger on for the ride. Own it. You steer this thing now whether it's into the rocks or towards safe harbor. Once you have your ducks in a row mentally and the ball rolling on aid you can decide how to move forward on housing, transportation, and jobs. My suggestion is to move into Section 8 housing. It will not be a nice neighborhood. It will be your place that no one can kick you and your son out of on a whim. If your area has decent public transportation that's awesome - use it. It will not be convenient. You will have to plan ahead. It will be hot and frustrating and you may hate it. Use it anyway. Figure out a budget based on aid and child support you will receive. Make some tough decisions on whether school is something realistic right now or if you should take your bachelors degree and start applying for jobs. Move forward in that direction.
It doesn't seem to me that you have functioned all these years without it, seems more like you were deprived of the help you need bc your abusive father babied you so much you dont know how to take care of yourself or a child and think that your okay when clearly you are not.
-Dropping out of school when that can help you in the long run after stating that it's already been paid for and that there is nothing you can do about it now...
-Your going to risk your dad and step mom's relationship and screwing up their insurance bc you won't take care of yourself medically now instead of later or at all..
-Relying on "friends" you have had in your life for 2 weeks.. TWO WEEKS, to put in extra of their money and support for themself to supply for YOU and YOUR child..
-And knowing you need counseling for non baby related things but not taking the time to look for the help.
This is all pity, YOU are still in pity party land.
YOU are POOR, and I do take offense (which is why I took the time to write and explain everything to the best I could) as a "poor person" myself struggling but actually taking action to get in a better situation, to everything you are saying because you are doing close to nothing to prove you are trying to get out of this situation while there are some of us working our asses off to do everything we can without all the extra handouts you are supposidly getting.
I would love to have school paid for and not have to worry about something going wrong to take the opportunity away. To throw away all that money is stupidity and selfish espically to who ever paid for it all. Take a break for recovery, but don't drop out if it is, as you said, already ALL paid for.
Screwing around with someone else's medical insurance is not something to take lightly. Not only that but if your father is as abusive as you say when he finds out that she is supporting your medical needs and will most likely end up paying for the rest since it is her insurance, did you consider what he would do/say to her? Have you considered that at all? Probably not bc it's not you so you don't have to worry.
Those people are not your friends. Or your bank account. They will get fed up of you using them and when they do, your child is the one that suffers because you can't do any of it on your own.
You say you need all this stuff, but that you are stable enough that you dont, then you are waiting for authorities to tell you what to do.
Get off the forum and do it. Or as stated above open a new tab it doesn't take that long and it is not that difficult.
In a post before you mentioned conflicting stories with an adoption family, the way things are going I wouldn't drop that idea completly. If you don't get your shit together the authorities that your waiting to tell you what to do, will tell you that your not stable enough to keep your child. It's time to grow up and try to better yourself.
-get your story straight
- stop the I need to do this crap and just do it
-for the love of chocolate covered caramel apples, get help in any way you can.
-apply for wic, link, anything that can help.
- keep your options open. Don't make your child suffer BC you think you have it all figured out in your head but have done nothing to prove it.
I am 21, have one child already, I am having another girl, the midwife and OB both thinks it was supposed to be twins and that I lost one early on due to extreme bleeding for a 24 hr period when we found out i was pregnant this time, im disappointed at the possibility but have accepted that it is what it is, so I have everything I need for this one and I was not struggling this much when I had DD1 or at the beginning of this pregnancy.
I have wic and link and I have applied all over town for jobs, I live between my bf's and my grandmother's, I still continue to fill out apps hoping every night I will get a call and so far iv gotten nothing even when i call them.. I'm head to toe in medical problems and doctor appointments. I am not on anyone else's medical insurance and neither is my child, I'm on my own and have her, and will have this baby, put on mine as well.
My bf is in the same job situation as I am but with more work experience and possibly has a great opportunity once they review his application and call him back again.
I supply diapers and food and everything else DD and I need and yes I do it with assistance (I mentioned wic and link) I also do small jobs for people around me that I know who offer help even when I don't ask for their help (babysit, yard work, grocery shopping for them.. simple things they need help with), my gma and bf only supply a roof over our head, support that I can and will get through this rough patch, and a bed with blankets to sleep on, we help eachother as much as we can.
I'm filling out my FAFSA for my associates of art degree to start classes once DD2 is here. I was all signed up for it before and only had to take my compass test then was hit by a medical tornado, divorce(he was physically abusive towards me and cheated on multiple accounts.. we were together 5 years) ,name change (which I have court for next week) and family problems that would have all kept me out of class a majority of the semesters, not a good enough excuse and I know that.
Shit happens, I'm struggling, but at least I can say I am trying my best and doing all I can plus more. Yes it is hard, and overwhelming. But sitting back and throwing a pity party won't solve anything.
If I can get through this and I can get all this stuff taken care of, then so can you (YOU CAN DO IT- in a voice from an Adam Sandler movie haha), you can become an amazing parent and have an amazing life that you built for yourself. You just have to want it bad enough.
EDIT- bc I left this out: once you get all the stuff filled out and taken care of (link wic job applications.. all that fun stuff) it will take time. There will be days when you are sitting on your ass "seeming lazy" waiting for it to go through, waiting for call backs, waiting for a good amount of time to call them yourself and be like "hello my name is A and I turned in an application on B day (or B amount of weeks ago) and I was wondering if it it has gone through yet or what the status of it is" Often times they will tell you they either didn't get to it yet, will have the hiring manager call back, or that it has been declined, BUT they at least know you want the job bad enough to call at least once and make sure It had been looked at.
Have patience, but never give up trying. There is an opportunity someplace you just have to find it.
Thank you