My UO is that I really don't care what people think of what I share on social media. I always hear people say stuff like, "Ugh, I hate when people share their workouts/kids/breakfasts/vacations/political opinions/work woes/whatever on Facebook, blah blah blah." Well, guess what? I'm not maintaining a FB account for you, random acquaintance from high school or former coworker. I'm doing it for me. I think it's a great tool for connecting and being social, but it's also a virtual scrapbook of my life. Because I get to look back and remember details of my life that I'd never remember otherwise (I am addicted to TimeHop, haha). I figure if people don't like looking at my seriously adorable child or knowing what I think about current events, they can unfollow or unfriend me and it doesn't matter to me.
I can get on board with being annoyed by vaguebooking, though. That's just fishing for an attention in a whiny way and then not actually talking to people about your problems when they ask. haha.
@AdventureMama - totally agree! I also think if they don't like seeing my posts, then just unfriend me, it's that easy. Whenever someone annoys me on FB, usually those vague booking, I just unfriend. Not a big deal!
Traveling inside the US is not a substitute for traveling to other countries. Not that everyone needs to or can travel the world but I hear people in my son's group comparing seeing different cultures around the US to going to other countries and I think it's hard to understand that the differences aren't so vast here until you've really immersed yourself in other cultures/countries.
I am getting really tired of " I ate a piece of __________ , did I harm my baby?" questions. I really want to reply to all of them saying "OMG you totally killed your baby", but 1) I know that's insensitive and could be taken as offensive to moms with previous losses, and 2) it's probably not worth a warning.
This UO is inspired by my best friend who just had to put her dog down when we had to put ours down, everyone kept telling me about their dog and how hard it was when they passed away blah blah blah. It took everything in me not to yell at everyone and say "I don't give a crap about your dog! Your dog was clearly not as awesome as my dog and you actually don't know how I feel! Just tell me you're sorry and walk away!"
I guess it would apply to any loss but that's when I heard it most. In that moment that I'm telling you about my grief, I literally couldn't care less about yours. Judge me.
@ashton2190 that's not judge worthy (or shouldn't be!) Rule #1 to being a good friend/caregiver when someone is going through a loss or new diagnosis is to NOT compare/tell them about your own experience, not make "at least..." statements, etc. It is hard, because that's our natural response to try to feel connected to the person.
When people are grieving, they don't need or want to hear about your story. They just want someone to listen. Hopefully your not so unpopular UO opens up some peoples' eyes
@ashton2190 that's not judge worthy (or shouldn't be!) Rule #1 to being a good friend/caregiver when someone is going through a loss or new diagnosis is to NOT compare/tell them about your own experience, not make "at least..." statements, etc. It is hard, because that's our natural response to try to feel connected to the person.
When people are grieving, they don't need or want to hear about your story. They just want someone to listen. Hopefully your not so unpopular UO opens up some peoples' eyes
I know some people think "well it's hard to know what to say to someone that's grieving and you shouldn't be mad at someone for trying to be nice to you." Well if you don't know what to say, just say you're sorry for their loss and move along with your day. I don't have to be happy with them saying something that irritates me just because they were nice enough to acknowledge my loss
I hated them too. I just had one of the "new recipe" ones from Starbucks this weekend and it actually wasn't bad..I still probably won't drink them though.
My UO is stemming from a conversation with H last night: he said that if he gets a new job where he's making more money I'm not getting an option, I WILL be a SAHM. My opinion on it is, if I wanna work, I don't care if we can afford for me to stay home I'm gonna work dammit! Really irritated right now he took my option away from me..
@brushesbrunch If staying at home becomes an option for you, that's great. but it should be just that, AN OPTION, not a requirement. If you aren't losing money by working and paying for daycare, working/ not working is solely your decision. And even if you net negative income by working and paying for daycare, it's not up to your husband to decide whether you work or not, it should be a joint decision.
My UO, which may not be too unpopular with this group of ladies, is that I think men are the WORST when they are sick. My H took off yesterday because he didn't feel well. He slept all day, I had to pick up soup on the way home (which he didnt eat after I made it), he rolled alllllll over the place on the couch whimpering until I finally was like "You should go to bed. Sleep in our room. I will lysol the entire down stairs and I am sleeping down here." Because I know if I laid in that bed he'd be tossing and turning all night complaining and keep me up!
My UO, which may not be too unpopular with this group of ladies, is that I think men are the WORST when they are sick. My H took off yesterday because he didn't feel well. He slept all day, I had to pick up soup on the way home (which he didnt eat after I made it), he rolled alllllll over the place on the couch whimpering until I finally was like "You should go to bed. Sleep in our room. I will lysol the entire down stairs and I am sleeping down here." Because I know if I laid in that bed he'd be tossing and turning all night complaining and keep me up!
Have you ever seen the YouTube video about the man cold? It's the most accurate thing I've ever seen.
I don't like the new pumpkin spice latte from Starbucks. It's supposed to be better with "real" pumpkin but I don't like it.
(I've only had it iced so far this year. Waiting for cool weather to try it hot)
I don't plan on trying one from Starbucks this year, I used to like them, but the last two years they have tasted gross and I didn't even finish my drink. We have some coffee shops around here with better options.
I personally would take an eggnog latte over PSL any day. Can't wait!
@brushesnbrunch - I agree with @monkeybutt80. It doesn't all boil down to money. It also has to do with quality of life, career, and personal sanity. My husband and I have decided I'll be a SAHM mom when the baby comes in part for financial reasons, but I'm free to change my mind at any time (he personally thinks I'll go crazy within a month and be back on the job hunt).
My UO is that I have no desire to be a SAHM - when I had my son I remember thinking, begging my husband to let me stay home and then he started crawling and walking super early (crawling @ 6 months, walking by 9 months) and I was like ummm nope, I want to work lol, sounds terrible to some but I am much, much happier when I get to go to work! Plus, I couldn't take my son out of his early education center at this point, he's actually bored when he stays home with us on weekends.
@brushesbrunch If staying at home becomes an option for you, that's great. but it should be just that, AN OPTION, not a requirement. If you aren't losing money by working and paying for daycare, working/ not working is solely your decision. And even if you net negative income by working and paying for daycare, it's not up to your husband to decide whether you work or not, it should be a joint decision.
This is how I feel exactly. If I can stay home and it is something that I want to do, great! If I want to continue to work, I should be able to. I just hated how he had said, exact words, "You will not have a choice, if I get this new job, you will stay home." Um, no. Eff off dude.
Apparently this is a UO, at least for my husband. I will let baby play in the kitchen with my spoons, spatulas, etc. I don't care that they're not her "baby toys" she wants to explore, I let her! He flips out that I let her play in there "and make a mess." Oh okay buddy.
I've been working since I was 16 and up until last year when I got pregnant with our DS I had complications and couldn't work and now pregnant again with same issues its too much to work right now so I definately have a new appreciation for SAHMs, (and enjoy being at home with LO) but gawd I long for the day when I can go back to work
Apparently this is a UO, at least for my husband. I will let baby play in the kitchen with my spoons, spatulas, etc. I don't care that they're not her "baby toys" she wants to explore, I let her! He flips out that I let her play in there "and make a mess." Oh okay buddy.
What? this was the only way I could make dinner when my first was younger. Before my husband and I customized a toy kitchen set from IKEA, I used to keep all my plastic and metal mixing bowls and random utensils in one of the lower cabinets and let him go to town banging and playing. Now he 'cooks' in his own kitchen next to ours when I cook; (this was our main Christmas present for him last year)
Apparently this is a UO, at least for my husband. I will let baby play in the kitchen with my spoons, spatulas, etc. I don't care that they're not her "baby toys" she wants to explore, I let her! He flips out that I let her play in there "and make a mess." Oh okay buddy.
What? this was the only way I could make dinner when my first was younger. Before my husband and I customized a toy kitchen set from IKEA, I used to keep all my plastic and metal mixing bowls and random utensils in one of the lower cabinets and let him go to town banging and playing. Now he 'cooks' in his own kitchen next to ours when I cook; (this was our main Christmas present for him last year)
I let me children okay with pretty much anything as long as it's not harmful. When FIL came to visit he kept scolding my kids for playing with kitchen stuff and anything other than toys. I got pretty upset, he is never in their lives, he doesn't have the right to come here an tell them what they can't do, if I'm not saying anything, let it go!
@Monkeybutt80 that's adorable!! I will definitely have pots and pans and plastic stuff stored low so baby can play! I used to love playing in the cabinets when I was younger!
DS was playing with (read, emptying out) our sheet/towel cupboard last night while we were making dinner and DH cleaned up after him twice while he was still set on playing there until I finally said, "Oh just let him do it and we'll clean up later. He isn't hurting anything!" Once he had the cupboard emptied out he transferred all of our baking supplies (oil, vinegar, some spices, vanilla, corn starch, that kind of thing) to the blanket cupboard and was neatly arranging them in there. It was really cute how determined he was.
I figure if he's not breaking stuff or making a ridiculous irreversible mess, I'm cool with it.
And I thought that all babies played with spoons and pots and pans in the kitchen
I cant imagine anyone getting mad about that
Same here! When my sister and I were babies we would play in the kitchen all the time! I even went in the recycling and tried playing with empty beer bottles haha (they were rinsed out and I was supervised for anyone that thinks my parents were irresponsible)
My UO, that I've been thinking about since last week - I don't think it's body shaming to say that I don't like a certain outfit, style or look. If I don't like the way it looks when someone wears leggings as pants, I don't think that I'm wrong for having that opinion. Or shirts that show a lot of cleavage or really short shorts (I actually like booty shorts, just not when you can see buttcheeks). I also don't like mother of the bride-type dresses that go way up past ones collar bone, gaucho pants, denim overalls. If I say that I don't like a certain look, and it happens to be one that shows more skin, I don't think that it is always body shaming.
@monkeybutt80 I wish we had enough room to put her play kitchen in the kitchen, but yeah, I keep all the plastics and large spoons in a jar in the cabinets so she can play as she wishes. I also grew up playing like this with pots and pans, so maybe that has something to do with it?
And I thought that all babies played with spoons and pots and pans in the kitchen
I cant imagine anyone getting mad about that
Yeah we got into a fight over it because he claimed it showed I wasn't being respectful of him and his decisions. He's generally really laid back, so it seems so weird for him to take a stance on that!
And I thought that all babies played with spoons and pots and pans in the kitchen
I cant imagine anyone getting mad about that
Yeah we got into a fight over it because he claimed it showed I wasn't being respectful of him and his decisions. He's generally really laid back, so it seems so weird for him to take a stance on that!
I wonder if it's from a "we eat off those things so I don't want the baby playing on the floor with them." I could see that. I probably still won't care lol
@Achae It took my H a long time to chill out about stuff like that. I would give her a bowl of dry rice to measure, scoop, stir up next to me while I cooked and of course it ended up everywhere. H always got annoyed that I have gave her something messy. Who cares. She had fun exploring and I got dinner made. We own a broom and vacuum. I'd rather let her explore her world and make a little mess and deal with the (5 second) cleanup.
My UO, that I've been thinking about since last week - I don't think it's body shaming to say that I don't like a certain outfit, style or look. If I don't like the way it looks when someone wears leggings as pants, I don't think that I'm wrong for having that opinion. Or shirts that show a lot of cleavage or really short shorts (I actually like booty shorts, just not when you can see buttcheeks). I also don't like mother of the bride-type dresses that go way up past ones collar bone, gaucho pants, denim overalls. If I say that I don't like a certain look, and it happens to be one that shows more skin, I don't think that it is always body shaming.
It's not body shaming to have that opinion.. It's body shaming when you take your opinion on it and confront whomever is doing what you don't like and tell them they can't/shouldn't wear it because it's going against your thoughts on the matter. At least that's how I took that argument anyway.
My UO, that I've been thinking about since last week - I don't think it's body shaming to say that I don't like a certain outfit, style or look. If I don't like the way it looks when someone wears leggings as pants, I don't think that I'm wrong for having that opinion. Or shirts that show a lot of cleavage or really short shorts (I actually like booty shorts, just not when you can see buttcheeks). I also don't like mother of the bride-type dresses that go way up past ones collar bone, gaucho pants, denim overalls. If I say that I don't like a certain look, and it happens to be one that shows more skin, I don't think that it is always body shaming.
It's not body shaming to have that opinion.. It's body shaming when you take your opinion on it and confront whomever is doing what you don't like and tell them they can't/shouldn't wear it because it's going against your thoughts on the matter. At least that's how I took that argument anyway.
I am not sure if that's body shaming still but that would be just plain rude and obnoxious! Even if I thought someone's outfit was horrendous, I would NEVER walk over to someone and say that they shouldn't wear it; unless it was a close friend or my husband who asked for my opinion.
I didn't think anyone on that thread was confronting anyone else on that thread, criticizing what she was wearing. I mean, no one posted a picture of themselves wearing leggings as pants or revealing clothes. But maybe that's just how I read that thread/ discussion.
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I can get on board with being annoyed by vaguebooking, though. That's just fishing for an attention in a whiny way and then not actually talking to people about your problems when they ask. haha.
That's a confession, not a UO.
I guess it would apply to any loss but that's when I heard it most. In that moment that I'm telling you about my grief, I literally couldn't care less about yours. Judge me.
When people are grieving, they don't need or want to hear about your story. They just want someone to listen. Hopefully your not so unpopular UO opens up some peoples' eyes
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(I've only had it iced so far this year. Waiting for cool weather to try it hot)
I personally would take an eggnog latte over PSL any day. Can't wait!
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I let me children okay with pretty much anything as long as it's not harmful. When FIL came to visit he kept scolding my kids for playing with kitchen stuff and anything other than toys. I got pretty upset, he is never in their lives, he doesn't have the right to come here an tell them what they can't do, if I'm not saying anything, let it go!
I will definitely have pots and pans and plastic stuff stored low so baby can play! I used to love playing in the cabinets when I was younger!
I figure if he's not breaking stuff or making a ridiculous irreversible mess, I'm cool with it.
I wonder if it's from a "we eat off those things so I don't want the baby playing on the floor with them." I could see that. I probably still won't care lol
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