Preparing for Delivery/Coming Home

lyankowi · September 2015

OK OP like other people said just get it straight, get it together and good luck. As a STM I was debating trying the whole L&D thing by myself last time H didn't help a whole lot other than bother the shit out of me. I was pissed off when he was sleeping, I was pissed when he was breathing on me, I yelled when I thought he moved my birthing ball which he did not do my gown did. I probably would of been better with a stranger just sitting on the couch than with H. Since he left me at the beginning of this pregnancy he will not be in the room this time. I hired a doula.

Edit because I was not pissed on I was pissed off

SweetTooth126 · September 2015

I kept reading it as "quit f******* posting" as well.. Haha!

Gapeach83 · September 2015

I really think you need to take some time away from here and figure your shit out. You aren't going to make people believe your story especially since every other post is some new tale. I really hope you are prepared for the challenges of a newborn. You need to take the time you are spending on here posting to go and get resources for you LO. If you are struggle like you have said a baby is not going to help. Adoption is a wonderful option I wouldn't cast that away to quick.

If this is all MUD or catfish you need to get a life. You definitely haven't proven you're not by a new trouble in your life coming up every post.

nmwheel1 · September 2015

I am exhausted from the sugar crash of drinking the nasty orange crap today and my eyes are tired from numbing drops after seeing the neuro ophthalmologist today and reading through this just made me brain dead. I'm so confused.

OP - you need to do what is best for the baby. That's all I really want to point out. This baby didn't ask for any of this, so if you do keep the baby do it for the right reasons and make sure that baby is loved and cared for every single day. Having a baby is a big deal, and they need to come first, which means you need to do some serious growing up and realize it isn't all about you now.

That's really all my brain can formulate into words right now.

jesshock22 · September 2015

Geez, just stop with the catfish insinuations. She's defiantly telling the truth about MD. I'm from MD and know all the areas and schools she just named. My dad was director of admissions at Gilman for 10 years.

urby87 · September 2015

PetitNightingale said:

Really, it does? I lived in Roland Park. Dated a kid from Gilman for six years. Went to Park School for elementary, switched to school in DC for HS. Born in Richmond. I went crab picking just last week, and I use the word hun. I don't know what else you want from me, I have tried to be patient but I'm losing that patience. I have been through hell this year, you are't required to believe that but I am done defending myself when I've apologized and tried to explain I struggle to communicate 100+ times. If you were actually interested in the truth I'd say please message me and I'll tell you whatever you like, including personal details that would make it painfully obvious, with a simple google search, who I am and where I'm from.

But I don't think this is about the truth anymore, at least not for everyone. It seem almost like a witch hunt.

In your original thread you refused to give information of a much less identifiable nature (how did you have money to buy the stuff your dad was threatening to take from you or to pay for doctor's appointments out of your own pocket with no job, why didn't you take public transportation to get your license, etc.) on the grounds that somebody might find out who you are... Now you're throwing out a lot of specific details. Sorry, but that's really weird.

WeirdAlice · September 2015

What really gets me is why need to try so hard to get strangers approval from a forum of people you will most likely never meet. And even here in the comments you have changed so much it still doesn't add up and only gets more confusing. My advice: stop caring so much about the response of strangers period. Post a question, thank the helpful responses and move past the negative ones. That and food posts will help you fit in a lot better, no need to constantly defend yourself resulting in a confusing constant change of background. Not everyone will agree or like you. But that's life.

Btw ANY photo you post on any social media or the Internet in general can be found, you just have to know what your doing.
In relationships class my senior year of highschool our teacher showed us that she could find any of our posted photos from fb on Google as a lesson to be careful what you post. Anything.. facebook, twitter, the bump..

As for your question.. you CAN go through labor on your own BUT I wouldn't suggest it.
With my first it was just my ex and i, and it was horrible. I needed my family. They were not supportive at all when they found out, not really up until my c-section.
My mom kicked me out as soon as she found out I was pregnant. My grandma let me stay with her until I could move hours away in a different state. And from then (middle of second trimester) until 3 months after DD1 was born it was just my ex and I and he was gone ALL the time so it was just me for the most part. My friends were all at home hours away finishing school.
No friends, no family, just us.
So speaking from experience of doing it alone, you will want someone there. Someone you know well and trust.

lovearoo · September 2015

jesshock22 said:
Geez, just stop with the catfish insinuations. She's defiantly telling the truth about MD. I'm from MD and know all the areas and schools she just named. My dad was director of admissions at Gilman for 10 years.

Stop with the WK already, and I can name off areas and schools from anywhere (Google is my friend) does that mean I actually live there? Nope.

jesshock22 · September 2015

lovearoo said:

jesshock22 said:
Geez, just stop with the catfish insinuations. She's defiantly telling the truth about MD. I'm from MD and know all the areas and schools she just named. My dad was director of admissions at Gilman for 10 years.
Stop with the WK already, and I can name off areas and schools from anywhere (Google is my friend) does that mean I actually live there? Nope.

I'm not WK'ing! My opinion is that she is telling the truth although a little dramatically and your opinion is that she isn't. I'm expressing my opinion just like you are on an Internet board. The specifics that she named about the schools and geographic area would be a little hard to make up so fast from a Google search.

And to the previous poster who told her to stop defending herself and you all would take her more seriously. Unfortunalty I don't believe that's how it would go done. Seen it here too many times. She would get blasted for ignoring their accusations and her lack of response would be an admission of guilt to all of you.

JessicaS0914 · September 2015

jesshock22 said:

Geez, just stop with the catfish insinuations. She's defiantly telling the truth about MD. I'm from MD and know all the areas and schools she just named. My dad was director of admissions at Gilman for 10 years.
Stop with the WK already, and I can name off areas and schools from anywhere (Google is my friend) does that mean I actually live there? Nope.
I'm not WK'ing! My opinion is that she is telling the truth although a little dramatically and your opinion is that she isn't. I'm expressing my opinion just like you are on an Internet board. The specifics that she named about the schools and geographic area would be a little hard to make up so fast from a Google search. And to the previous poster who told her to stop defending herself and you all would take her more seriously. Unfortunalty I don't believe that's how it would go done. Seen it here too many times. She would get blasted for ignoring their accusations and her lack of response would be an admission of guilt to all of you.

This whole thread aside, you think that a school district and area private schools can't be deciphered from a 2 minute Google search (along with the two most stereotypical things about Baltimore - eating crab and saying 'hun')???

In that case, I grew up in Glencoe, went to New Trier HS, dated lots of guys from Northwestern. I prefer Lou Malnati's to Gino's and now live in Naperville. Guess what? I've been a tourist to Chicago a few times. I live on the east coast, and have my whole life.

scw89 · September 2015

Pretty much anything is accessible VIA the Internet today. Just remember that.

PetitNightingale · September 2015

urby87 said:

PetitNightingale said:

Really, it does? I lived in Roland Park. Dated a kid from Gilman for six years. Went to Park School for elementary, switched to school in DC for HS. Born in Richmond. I went crab picking just last week, and I use the word hun. I don't know what else you want from me, I have tried to be patient but I'm losing that patience. I have been through hell this year, you are't required to believe that but I am done defending myself when I've apologized and tried to explain I struggle to communicate 100+ times. If you were actually interested in the truth I'd say please message me and I'll tell you whatever you like, including personal details that would make it painfully obvious, with a simple google search, who I am and where I'm from.

But I don't think this is about the truth anymore, at least not for everyone. It seem almost like a witch hunt.

In your original thread you refused to give information of a much less identifiable nature (how did you have money to buy the stuff your dad was threatening to take from you or to pay for doctor's appointments out of your own pocket with no job, why didn't you take public transportation to get your license, etc.) on the grounds that somebody might find out who you are... Now you're throwing out a lot of specific details. Sorry, but that's really weird.

Because I was pissed off and besides, everyone knows I'm knocked up now and I don't care anymore.

Reveals too little information and creates confusion...reveals too much information...google. Ignoring posts...proof of catfish. Defending myself...proof of catfish. I had to google catfish when people started calling me that.

I'm not playing anymore.

And there are a lot of people in Baltimore County who went to schools like Gilman, Park, Friends, Bryn Mawr, etc....a google search would not reveal that they were partner schools or had mixers together. It just wouldn't.

Thank you all of you for the good advice and support, I will totally take it into consideration about my LD (9 more weeks!!!).

Those of you who think I'm still a catfish, or a man, or a bored twelve year old boy....sorry you feel that way.

poupoule · September 2015

Totally second the white knight. And I did not post anything because some members here are really agressive in their opinion and it is useless to argue with them. I would feel super sick and disgusted of the bad reactions/irrespectful comments received if I was the OP.

No need to quote me as I am not gonna argue back anyway.

MercyC1130 · September 2015

Cinnamon rollsssss.

jscasher · September 2015

poupoule said:
Totally second the white knight. And I did not post anything because some members here are really agressive in their opinion and it is useless to argue with them. I would feel super sick and disgusted of the bad reactions/irrespectful comments received if I was the OP.

No need to quote me as I am not gonna argue back anyway.

It's just reading like a hastily written drama. I don't know if you've followed the posts from day one, but it's incredibly difficult to keep track of the series of events while still maintaining a level of plausibility. Also within the given amount of time.

And to those who think catfish aren't a big deal? Remember, we are a community that's been together for 25+ weeks. We've posted personal info, photos, etc. If this person is indeed not who they say they are, and you've posted enough to be identified, who knows what said stranger might do with that information? There are baby kidnappers, pregnancy fetishes, and all kinds of other sick people out there.

And less dramatically, but still disturbing, are the people who pull at the heart strings of others under the guise of illness, desperation, or hard times to receive money via go fund me, only to have never needed help at all and were just looking to scam people out of a couple bucks.

Juuusssttt saying.

PetitNightingale · September 2015

God I am so over this.

JessicaS0914 · September 2015

PetitNightingale said:

God I am so over this.

You know, since this is a group of strangers on a computer, there's an easy way to solve that...

HellsAngel22 · September 2015

So, I'm just going to put this out there, and then see what you all think...

This is to you @PetitNightingale

You state you "you have trouble communicating" but has a degree in English and drops gems like: "I'm not sure how I offended you, but your sarcasm is obvious and duly felt".

On August 21st she claims that it is impossible for her to find employment in her state because her "father's position" but fails to specify what he does or how this would be possible.

Yet but September 4th she magically has a nanny job even though she has no car, has trouble using public transportation, and is living with an acquaintance in a new area. Who on earth would hire her to watch their children?

She claims in the same thread that her father is so controlling he doesn't allow her to spend to much time on the phone, drive, have a job, etc yet claimed that her parents are "the most self absorbed people on the planet" that they forget her birthday and her "entire life was private" when she was living in Boston. So her father is only emotionally manipulative when she is living in the same state? Why would her parents even let her live away from home in the first place if they want that much control over her?

The adoptive parents she found for LO (not through an agency) are from Utah and she "has known them for a while and just thought of them when she got pregnant". How very convenient.
Her boyfriend is going to "sue her for libel" if she tells people he is the father. She claims that he told everyone in their social group that she was faking the pregnancy and as a result she lost all of her friends and had to move home and back to her super-controlling father. Why not just stay in Boston, where you have a job and transfer schools?

She claims to have BPD, bipolar depression, an autoimmune disorder (lupus), has had issues with preterm labor, and is considered a high risk pregnancy but has only been to the doctor "like 10 times". Also she states that she is paying for everything out of pocket so that it does not show up on her dad's insurance.

She claims to be so controlled emotionally and financially by her family that she can't leave but two days after her original post she has magically made her way to a shelter in northwest DC.

August 21st she claims to have been "outed" at her new school as being pregnant by a classmate who happens to be also pregnant. She states that she wants to befriend this acquaintance but wants to take things slow so that she "doesn't frighten her away". By August 23rd the potential catfish (PC) is somehow friendly enough with this acquaintance that the acquaintance is offering to have a dual baby shower and joint baby registries with the PC. By September 4th, they are close enough for the PC to move in with the acquaintance.

She decided to keep LO after leaving home and at the same time conveniently discovering that the adoptive parents she picked out were not who she thought they were but fails to provide any additional details.

She uses lots of British idioms/phrasing/slang ("school mates" vs. class mates, "mum" vs. mom, "bum" vs. butt) across various posts but claims it is because she is watching Horrible Histories on the BBC. Horrible Histories is currently not available on BBC America; you can only watch it in the UK at the moment. Someone I know tried to watch the show on the actual BBC and BBC Canada websites but I can't; both sites are blocked because I have an American IP address.

Sept.4 she claims to have received lots of donations of baby stuff but on Sept. 6 that all she has for her hospital bag is a onesie, a coming home outfit, and one bib. No diapers.

Prepare yourselves for the
"Please send me cold hard cash clothes for the baby" posts.

So now what you got to say???

urby87 · September 2015

PetitNightingale said:

urby87 said:

PetitNightingale said:

Really, it does? I lived in Roland Park. Dated a kid from Gilman for six years. Went to Park School for elementary, switched to school in DC for HS. Born in Richmond. I went crab picking just last week, and I use the word hun. I don't know what else you want from me, I have tried to be patient but I'm losing that patience. I have been through hell this year, you are't required to believe that but I am done defending myself when I've apologized and tried to explain I struggle to communicate 100+ times. If you were actually interested in the truth I'd say please message me and I'll tell you whatever you like, including personal details that would make it painfully obvious, with a simple google search, who I am and where I'm from.

But I don't think this is about the truth anymore, at least not for everyone. It seem almost like a witch hunt.

In your original thread you refused to give information of a much less identifiable nature (how did you have money to buy the stuff your dad was threatening to take from you or to pay for doctor's appointments out of your own pocket with no job, why didn't you take public transportation to get your license, etc.) on the grounds that somebody might find out who you are... Now you're throwing out a lot of specific details. Sorry, but that's really weird.

Because I was pissed off and besides, everyone knows I'm knocked up now and I don't care anymore.

Reveals too little information and creates confusion...reveals too much information...google. Ignoring posts...proof of catfish. Defending myself...proof of catfish. I had to google catfish when people started calling me that.

I'm not playing anymore.

And there are a lot of people in Baltimore County who went to schools like Gilman, Park, Friends, Bryn Mawr, etc....a google search would not reveal that they were partner schools or had mixers together. It just wouldn't.

Thank you all of you for the good advice and support, I will totally take it into consideration about my LD (9 more weeks!!!).

Those of you who think I'm still a catfish, or a man, or a bored twelve year old boy....sorry you feel that way.

Mixers aren't the only way you could know people from a nearby school.

I also have a hard time believing you have an English degree based on the way you write (improper and/or excessive punctuation, capitalization of improper nouns and vice versa, general sentence structure issues, shortening "honey" to "hun" instead of "hon," etc.)... I mean, I know it's just the internet, but one would think that a person with a degree in English would be a bit more thoughtful in their use of it.

jscasher · September 2015

HellsAngel22 said:
So, I'm just going to put this out there, and then see what you all think...

This is to you @PetitNightingale

You state you "you have trouble communicating" but has a degree in English and drops gems like: "I'm not sure how I offended you, but your sarcasm is obvious and duly felt".

On August 21st she claims that it is impossible for her to find employment in her state because her "father's position" but fails to specify what he does or how this would be possible.

Yet but September 4th she magically has a nanny job even though she has no car, has trouble using public transportation, and is living with an acquaintance in a new area. Who on earth would hire her to watch their children?

She claims in the same thread that her father is so controlling he doesn't allow her to spend to much time on the phone, drive, have a job, etc yet claimed that her parents are "the most self absorbed people on the planet" that they forget her birthday and her "entire life was private" when she was living in Boston. So her father is only emotionally manipulative when she is living in the same state? Why would her parents even let her live away from home in the first place if they want that much control over her?

The adoptive parents she found for LO (not through an agency) are from Utah and she "has known them for a while and just thought of them when she got pregnant". How very convenient.
Her boyfriend is going to "sue her for libel" if she tells people he is the father. She claims that he told everyone in their social group that she was faking the pregnancy and as a result she lost all of her friends and had to move home and back to her super-controlling father. Why not just stay in Boston, where you have a job and transfer schools?

She claims to have BPD, bipolar depression, an autoimmune disorder (lupus), has had issues with preterm labor, and is considered a high risk pregnancy but has only been to the doctor "like 10 times". Also she states that she is paying for everything out of pocket so that it does not show up on her dad's insurance.

She claims to be so controlled emotionally and financially by her family that she can't leave but two days after her original post she has magically made her way to a shelter in northwest DC.

August 21st she claims to have been "outed" at her new school as being pregnant by a classmate who happens to be also pregnant. She states that she wants to befriend this acquaintance but wants to take things slow so that she "doesn't frighten her away". By August 23rd the potential catfish (PC) is somehow friendly enough with this acquaintance that the acquaintance is offering to have a dual baby shower and joint baby registries with the PC. By September 4th, they are close enough for the PC to move in with the acquaintance.

She decided to keep LO after leaving home and at the same time conveniently discovering that the adoptive parents she picked out were not who she thought they were but fails to provide any additional details.

She uses lots of British idioms/phrasing/slang ("school mates" vs. class mates, "mum" vs. mom, "bum" vs. butt) across various posts but claims it is because she is watching Horrible Histories on the BBC. Horrible Histories is currently not available on BBC America; you can only watch it in the UK at the moment. Someone I know tried to watch the show on the actual BBC and BBC Canada websites but I can't; both sites are blocked because I have an American IP address.

Sept.4 she claims to have received lots of donations of baby stuff but on Sept. 6 that all she has for her hospital bag is a onesie, a coming home outfit, and one bib. No diapers.

Prepare yourselves for the
"Please send me cold hard cash clothes for the baby" posts.

So now what you got to say???

------

PetitNightingale · September 2015

Right because I don't take the time to write a fucking soliloquy on the internet, must mean I don't have an English degree.There's been nothing wrong with my writing, I don't even have the energy for that one. "hun" is slang, God forbid it isn't spelled correctly. Also, have you never heard of YouTube? They have several dozen episodes of HH. I could address the rest of it but somehow, I don't think it would make a difference. You've made up your minds and I have spent entirely too much time this year giving a shit what other people think.

This witch hunt is pathetic. I'm done.

If you feel like you won something now, good for you.

dogsombrero · September 2015

PetitNightingale said:
Right because I don't take the time to write a fucking soliloquy on the internet, must mean I don't have an English degree.There's been nothing wrong with my writing, I don't even have the energy for that one. "hun" is slang, God forbid it isn't spelled correctly. Also, have you never heard of YouTube? They have several dozen episodes of HH. I could address the rest of it but somehow, I don't think it would make a difference. You've made up your minds and I have spent entirely too much time this year giving a shit what other people think.

This witch hunt is pathetic. I'm done.

If you feel like you won something now, good for you.

QFP

urby87 · September 2015

PetitNightingale said:

Right because I don't take the time to write a fucking soliloquy on the internet, must mean I don't have an English degree.There's been nothing wrong with my writing, I don't even have the energy for that one. "hun" is slang, God forbid it isn't spelled correctly. Also, have you never heard of YouTube? They have several dozen episodes of HH. I could address the rest of it but somehow, I don't think it would make a difference. You've made up your minds and I have spent entirely too much time this year giving a shit what other people think.

This witch hunt is pathetic. I'm done.

If you feel like you won something now, good for you.

I don't expect a soliloquy by any means, but I do expect somebody with an English degree to follow the basic guidelines I mentioned. You haven't been. Otherwise, I wouldn't have had anything to point out.

PetitNightingale · September 2015

*Removed due to TOU violation *

dogsombrero · September 2015

PetitNightingale said:
And leaving my parent's house wasn't fucking magic. It was realizing I'm 22 and however much emotional and psychological control they have over me and have had over me for years, I could leave if I wanted to. Do you not realize the structure of an abusive environment?You're told from day one that you can't leave, that you have no options, that they will stop you from getting a job...etc. It's mental. So excuse for for realizing my life and my LO's life was in danger and doing something about it quickly after that was pointed out to me. Sometimes it takes an outside voice to say "No, you can do something. You do have control."

Don't mock my bipolar disorder, please. It's not an easy thing to live with, especially with crazy pregnancy hormones.

If you have an issue with me, this is the internet and that is your right but I'm done with this. I'm not a fucking catfish, I'm not fucking British and I don't want anybody's goddamn money. I find the notion revolting.

So bring on the lynch mob, I don't give a shit anymore.

QFP

jscasher · September 2015

PetitNightingale said:
And leaving my parent's house wasn't fucking magic. It was realizing I'm 22 and however much emotional and psychological control they have over me and have had over me for years, I could leave if I wanted to. Do you not realize the structure of an abusive environment?You're told from day one that you can't leave, that you have no options, that they will stop you from getting a job...etc. It's mental. So excuse for for realizing my life and my LO's life was in danger and doing something about it quickly after that was pointed out to me. Sometimes it takes an outside voice to say "No, you can do something. You do have control."

Don't mock my bipolar disorder, please. It's not an easy thing to live with, especially with crazy pregnancy hormones.

If you have an issue with me, this is the internet and that is your right but I'm done with this. I'm not a fucking catfish, I'm not fucking British and I don't want anybody's goddamn money. I find the notion revolting.

So bring on the lynch mob, I don't give a shit anymore.

Edit: @dogsombrero beat me to the QFP!

PetitNightingale · September 2015

JessicaS0914 said:

PetitNightingale said:

God I am so over this.

You know, since this is a group of strangers on a computer, there's an easy way to solve that...

And yet you all keep with the QFP stuff. But it's one way. Right.

HellsAngel22 · September 2015

For the love of god..!!!!
Still you can't back anything up.

I have seen first hand someone in an abusive relationship & I know full well how hard it is thank you.

But you you change your story more times than the weather changes. You can rant, you can eff & blind but listen THERE ARE TOO MANY LOOP HOLES LADY.

I think you'd gain more respect if you just told the truth..

jscasher · September 2015

PetitNightingale said:

JessicaS0914 said:

PetitNightingale said:

God I am so over this.

You know, since this is a group of strangers on a computer, there's an easy way to solve that...

And yet you all keep with the QFP stuff. But it's one way. Right.

----
Quoting for proof, or posterity. That's what QFP means...

PetitNightingale · September 2015

If I lied, you would believe me. If I just pretended that everything was like everyone else here, for the most part, no one would question that. That's the sad part.

I have left out some things but I haven't added anything on that never fucking happened. Why can't I back things up? I just explained several things to you. Just--about HH and the magic of YouTube, about my living situation. There are people here who just flat out want to think I'm a catfish and nothing I say will change that. I don't actually get that impression from you but some people...it's hopeless.

I don't enjoy this any more than you do. But you've got your cheerleading section in the wings waiting for you so I suppose carry on.

And yes, I said carry on. Must be because I'm a 55 year old British man.

Listen: I have every respect for many of the women here. Ginger, when she gave me that speech, it was like my mother talking to me. It was refreshing. It was honest. I needed to hear it. I appreciated it. I took her advice, in every part.

Another piece of advice I'm giving myself now: it's not worth it to have the entire world on your side.

HellsAngel22 · September 2015

Lol... Keep spinning your your lies. They WILL catch up with you..!!

Give me an L...
Give me an I....
Give me an A...
Give me an R

Goooooo LIAR woohoo...

PetitNightingale · September 2015

What are you ten?

HellsAngel22 · September 2015

PetitNightingale said:
What are you ten?

Nope I'm not 10. But your bullshit is boring me now. So I thought some light entertainment would be helpful

thegingeravenger · September 2015

HellsAngel22 said:

Lol... Keep spinning your your lies. They WILL catch up with you..!! Give me an L... Give me an I.... Give me an A... Give me an R Goooooo LIAR woohoo...

I just snort laughed so hard that the ice cream I was eating came out of nose.

HellsAngel22 · September 2015

thegingeravenger said:

HellsAngel22 said:

Lol... Keep spinning your your lies. They WILL catch up with you..!!

Give me an L...
Give me an I....
Give me an A...
Give me an R

Goooooo LIAR woohoo...

I just snort laughed so hard that the ice cream I was eating came out of nose.

Lol.. I aim to please @thegingeravenger.

JessicaS0914 · September 2015

You keep saying you're done....

HellsAngel22 · September 2015

JessicaS0914 said:
You keep saying you're done....

Catfishes love the drama!! They are never done

PetitNightingale · September 2015

So you can all continue to revive the post insulting me and calling me a fucking catfish and when I get irritated enough to respond, I am the one causing drama?

Logic 101.

HellsAngel22 · September 2015

Hold up!!! I said CATFISHES love the drama. So are you now admitting it?

PetitNightingale · September 2015

You get on my nerves but you're damn funny, I'll give you that one. Look forward to seeing you around the boards.

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