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June 2015 Moms
KaLikeAWind
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DH / SO rants or raves - Month of September
KaLikeAWind
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We keep dating these for a week or so and then they keep running over their time frames, so I decided to just make this one monthly. If it gets unwieldy we can always start another
So, what are those significant others doing, ladies?
So, what are those significant others doing, ladies?
Re: DH / SO rants or raves - Month of September
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Him: Want me to stop and pick up sushi? We can use bottles so you can have wine.
This is definitely a rave. I love that man!
I'm really proud of him
My rave is that he comes home every day, no matter how cranky I am, and tries to help out every way possible. He always makes sure I eat first, does dishes, bottles, or whatever I didn't get to during the day. He even takes care of LO if he wakes up at night so I can sleep. Even after having a baby and some days I act like the queen of hell, he still loves me, which is amazing.
He's also named LO's stuffed animals, and plays with LO and the toys very animatedly. When we are preparing the diaper bag, DH will say to me very seriously, "Did you pack Charlie?" (The stuffed bear. There is also a moose named Margot.)
The baby just adores his daddy, and looks around for him when DH leaves the room. We're so lucky to have this guy in our lives.
Oh how I've fallen back in love with you again.
DH hates musicals, so I rarely see those. Non-profit workers, teachers and military get heavily discounted Broadway tickets through a membership organization called TDF, so we used to go every month or so.
ETA: just saw you said you'd never seen Dirty Dancing. Omg! Sorry for long post, but have to share this:
When I was 5, my uncle gave me Cinderella for Christmas. I already had it, so he asked me what other movie wanted. I picked Dirty Dancing, which I'd seen during Friday Family Movie & Pizza Night. I just loved the dancing and music. I watched it so much, I memorized every line in the movie... But it wasn't til I re-watched it in high school that I realized what the ACTUAL story line is. And then sort of questioned my parents' judgment in letting me memorize that movie, lol
@virginiaunicorn11 I used to watch it all the time as a kid, my mom's 2 younger sisters were 11 and 16 when I was born and I used to watch it with them, didn't realize till I was older what it was actually about and how inappropriate it was.
Rant: DH watched LO for all of 60 minutes while I ran to the store to get something presentable to wear, and when I called him she was crying. I said "did she nap?" And he goes uhhh no. I said "did you put her down to nap?" Uhhh no. Literally we have been doing that pattern since 6 weeks old I don't get it. I come home and she looks like a tired zombie plus it's time to eat but won't eat because she's so tired. I also asked him to try and feed her a bottle and he said "well I want to go do some yard work". Cue my eyes rolling and saying REALLY, 20 MINUTES WILL THROW YA OFF?
Notice how my rant is so much longer than my rave. I swear...sometimes men are incapable of making connections. It makes leaving her in his care terrible because he doesn't do anything right except keep her alive.
Rant: DH has only taken one middle of the night feeding. Ever.
He will sometimes try to cuddle me or pat my leg or something if he wakes while I'm feeding the baby, "to provide support." It's a sweet thought so I don't want to tell him, but I can't stand being touched while nursing.
He also claims he "wishes he could help more" so sometimes I wonder if pumping bottles for the night time would be good... But seeing your post and others' makes me think it's maybe just going to set me up for disappointment.
Wait!! So all this time he knew how to communicate???
Anyway. I'm super happy cause it was the first time he sat down to talk to me about something and actually talked and made sense.
And then yesterday he snapped at me and I said "you just snapped at me" and he got quiet for a second (I thought he was going to roll his eyes or huff and puff or something) and just said "I'm sorry I snapped at you" and changed his attitude to a better one. There might be hope for us yet!
One thing that I try to remind myself of often when things are stressful is that as the (adult) person I love the most and have chosen to spend my life with, my husband deserves more of my courtesy and respect than anyone else in the world. If it's something I wouldn't say or a tone I wouldn't take with some random stranger on the street then my husband definitely doesn't deserve it either. My parents don't have this kind of relationship (an understatement) so I struggle with just being nice to him sometimes but I keep trying.
@mvargas12 glad for you!
Another Dirty Dancing watcher here! My cousin also showed me Pretty Woman when I was young. That one might be even worse!