Snarky Saturday

sorarose · August 2015

The "Am I Pregnant?" posts and headbanging questions being asked over at First Trimester are leading me to be snarky on this fine Saturday. Anyone else feeling extra snarky today?

Litterateur · August 2015

Word! I just can't with the drama-llamas today

SMA1211 · August 2015

So I'm new here and I just don't understand why women feel the need to go online and post asking if they are pregnant?! I had to wait like a week in order to post anything so in that week they could have bought any number of pregnancy tests or called their doctor to find out! I feel like it's more of an attention thing. >:P Not trying to offend anyone but I've been frustrated reading them since I've started TTC I couldn't imagine being at the point you women are at where you see these every day!

indulgentgypsy · August 2015

This is going to be my go to on all am I pregnant posts from now on.

Litterateur · August 2015

CoachBeckyCooper said:

This is going to be my go to on all am I pregnant posts from now on.

Yaaaaaas!

sorarose · August 2015

It even goes beyond "Am I pregnant?" I've read a few threads this week about how women go off of BC and start TTC without really talking to SO. WHY ARE YOU TALKING TO A BUNCH OF INTERNET STRANGERS RATHER THAN YOUR SO?!?! I just don't get it! Another "accidentally" got KU and her SO left her because of it. These things make me snarky and question the universe.

KyCat · August 2015

Deeny14 said:
It even goes beyond "Am I pregnant?" I've read a few threads this week about how women go off of BC and start TTC without really talking to SO. WHY ARE YOU TALKING TO A BUNCH OF INTERNET STRANGERS RATHER THAN YOUR SO?!?! I just don't get it! Another "accidentally" got KU and her SO left her because of it. These things make me snarky and question the universe.

Right? If you are making major life decisions without talking to your spouse about it, there is a problem. And a baby is not going to help!

DeePaddy24 · August 2015

I can't even. Tonight feels worse than other nights to me. Geez.....

indulgentgypsy · August 2015

It's making me pissy because I am pretty sure I am out this month based on some light spotting and general crankiness, makes me want to slap a B even more.

hunnybunny17 · August 2015

@CoachBeckyCooper I still have my FX for you it's not AF.

indulgentgypsy · August 2015

Thanks @hunnybunny17 so do I!

yogahh · August 2015

I normally feel like we get the "am I totes pregs" posts during the work week. I don't know, people bored at work and looking for something to do. Guess I was proven wrong this weekend.

sorarose · August 2015

Extending this into Snarky Sunday. People be cray-cray, and the snark is with me.

sorarose · August 2015

conniemeri said:

Do you girls wonder if attitude has anything to do with inability to conceive? On all of the boards, this one is the most "snarky" as you would say, and also has the majority of non-pregnant women. I think the power of positive thinking is important. The ladies on the birth month boards are very kind and they are pregnant. Kind and loving people are having children. This energy could be spent supporting others! Maybe then you will see a change! Hoping for success for all of you. Take a look at Berne Brown. She is an author and speaker who talks a lot about positive thinking!

QFP. HOW. DARE. YOU. You come here to insult these women? I could refute you in several ways that include: 1) I have a DS and am Queen of Snark in this thread. 2) In BMB for my DS, the women were mean girls and prided themselves on that, much more so than here. 3) Awful and idiotic people are also having children. 4) We support each other here. Give support to get support, that's the motto. 5) Who are you to judge these women spewing unicorn farts and rainbows?

fitlady21 · August 2015

conniemeri said:
Do you girls wonder if attitude has anything to do with inability to conceive? On all of the boards, this one is the most "snarky" as you would say, and also has the majority of non-pregnant women.

I think the power of positive thinking is important. The ladies on the birth month boards are very kind and they are pregnant. Kind and loving people are having children. This energy could be spent supporting others! Maybe then you will see a change! Hoping for success for all of you. Take a look at Berne Brown. She is an author and speaker who talks a lot about positive thinking!

Seriously? I don't even know where to begin. @Deeny14 nailed her response to this.

pbsnowflake453 · August 2015

How I felt reading @conniemeri 's post:

Then:

sorarose · August 2015

pbsnowflake453 said:

How I felt reading @conniemeri 's post:

Then:

Anyone who joins a site like this simply to point out that positive thinking is the reason for many members' inability to get pregnant is a troll. There's no logic or science to support it, and it really didn't dignify a response, but I couldn't help myself. WTG, @conniemeri, inspiring all that positive thinking.

indulgentgypsy · August 2015

Anything I say right now will get me banned so...

sorarose · August 2015

conniemeri said:

Oh ladies, you don't have to declare yourselves "mean girls!" I can only imagine the pain in your hearts. I was just suggesting a new, more productive way of believing and thinking. If you want facts, you can look at the tone of the pregnant boards and this one. It's a big difference! I am excited to join this community, and I am looking to learn a lot from my board! I hope you all end up there soon! Just try to open your hearts and spread joy! It may do wonders for you!

*Removed for TOU violation*

pbsnowflake453 · August 2015

conniemeri said:

Oh ladies, you don't have to declare yourselves "mean girls!" I can only imagine the pain in your hearts. I was just suggesting a new, more productive way of believing and thinking. If you want facts, you can look at the tone of the pregnant boards and this one. It's a big difference! I am excited to join this community, and I am looking to learn a lot from my board! I hope you all end up there soon! Just try to open your hearts and spread joy! It may do wonders for you!

fitlady21 · August 2015

conniemeri said:
Oh ladies, you don't have to declare yourselves "mean girls!"

I can only imagine the pain in your hearts. I was just suggesting a new, more productive way of believing and thinking. If you want facts, you can look at the tone of the pregnant boards and this one. It's a big difference! I am excited to join this community, and I am looking to learn a lot from my board! I hope you all end up there soon! Just try to open your hearts and spread joy! It may do wonders for you!

Um... We aren't declared "mean girls." She said the ladies and her BMB declared them that.. Not this board. I'm all for sharing joy and opening my heart as I'm sure the other ladies are as well, but I'm not going to constantly share joy where joy isn't due.

Maybe you should take your own advice.. Open your heart and you might realize that many of the ladies on this board have been trying for a baby for months.. Even years! This is an outlet to vent, share experiences and advice, give encouragement when due, and be honest. Yes sometimes we can be snarky, but after dozens of BFP thrown in our face, what can you expect? Let's try to be more understanding and please don't tell us to change our tone or attitude just like we wouldn't tell you to be snarky.

calico34 · August 2015

conniemeri said:

Do you girls wonder if attitude has anything to do with inability to conceive? On all of the boards, this one is the most "snarky" as you would say, and also has the majority of non-pregnant women. I think the power of positive thinking is important. The ladies on the birth month boards are very kind and they are pregnant. Kind and loving people are having children. This energy could be spent supporting others! Maybe then you will see a change! Hoping for success for all of you. Take a look at Berne Brown. She is an author and speaker who talks a lot about positive thinking!

Have you thought that the reason they are so positive is they've gotten their BFP? As I imagine you know, TTC is a very trying experience and many women here have been trying a long time. Rainbows and unicorns don't get you pregnant, so forgive us if we use logic and a sense of humor to get through this. And if you don't think the women here support each other you haven't lurked long enough.

and @Deeny14

GridIronGrrl34 · August 2015

conniemeri said:

Oh ladies, you don't have to declare yourselves "mean girls!" I can only imagine the pain in your hearts. I was just suggesting a new, more productive way of believing and thinking. If you want facts, you can look at the tone of the pregnant boards and this one. It's a big difference! I am excited to join this community, and I am looking to learn a lot from my board! I hope you all end up there soon! Just try to open your hearts and spread joy! It may do wonders for you!

******loss mentioned*******

Well no kidding. The girls who are pregnant are in better moods than we are? Shocking!

I just want to say also, that as someone currently going through a loss (I'm still bleeding from my miscarriage), I find this offensive. To insinuate that maybe I'd be pregnant if I just had a better attitude? I'm hurt and offended by that. And I'm offended not just for myself, but for all of the wonderful women on this board who are supporting each other through trying whatever it takes to start/expand their families. I mentioned in my intro thread, that as I am still experiencing my loss and therefore unable to get pregnant right now, I intended to just lurk here and try to re-educate myself in preparation for trying again. It is these women, who you claim to be so negative, who have drawn me out, made me smile, and given me something to look forward to at a time when everything pretty much sucks. I hope you'll consider that before you fling any more accusations about people's "lack of positivity" bringing them down.

calico34 · August 2015

@GridIronGrrl34 I am so sorry for your loss.

indulgentgypsy · August 2015

GridIronGrrl34 said:

conniemeri said:

Oh ladies, you don't have to declare yourselves "mean girls!"

I can only imagine the pain in your hearts. I was just suggesting a new, more productive way of believing and thinking. If you want facts, you can look at the tone of the pregnant boards and this one. It's a big difference! I am excited to join this community, and I am looking to learn a lot from my board! I hope you all end up there soon! Just try to open your hearts and spread joy! It may do wonders for you!

******loss mentioned*******

Well no kidding. The girls who are pregnant are in better moods than we are? Shocking!

I just want to say also, that as someone currently going through a loss (I'm still bleeding from my miscarriage), I find this offensive. To insinuate that maybe I'd be pregnant if I just had a better attitude? I'm hurt and offended by that. And I'm offended not just for myself, but for all of the wonderful women on this board who are supporting each other through trying whatever it takes to start/expand their families. I mentioned in my intro thread, that as I am still experiencing my loss and therefore unable to get pregnant right now, I intended to just lurk here and try to re-educate myself in preparation for trying again. It is these women, who you claim to be so negative, who have drawn me out, made me smile, and given me something to look forward to at a time when everything pretty much sucks. I hope you'll consider that before you fling any more accusations about people's "lack of positivity" bringing them down.

@GridIronGrrl34 I'm sorry for your loss, and empathize as I experienced my 2nd loss in July.

@conniemeri my BMB was just as snarky before I left it, just as invested in science and FACT. Go away. Troll somewhere else and .... stop. I'm trying real hard not to spew as I get cramps and bleeding and am attempting to accept the fact that I lost TWO babies in my life and the sibling my 2 boys desperately want may never appear. You are limiting my joy, ability to enjoy and be happy with this site and I have no problems reporting you for that.

Orlaa · August 2015

conniemeri said:
Do you girls wonder if attitude has anything to do with inability to conceive? On all of the boards, this one is the most "snarky" as you would say, and also has the majority of non-pregnant women.

This board has the majority of non-pregnant women because it's a TTC board ie. for women who aren't pregnant yet. It has nothing to do with the level of snark.

Also, I reckon at least 90% of the snarky responses on the TTC board are directed at posters who come here asking if they're pregnant, or drive-by BFPs, both of which are not really issues on the BMB boards. This is just one reason why there's less snark there. I mean, many of the snarkiest people from this board have since moved on to their BMB board after getting a BFP, so it obviously didn't stand in their way....

To sum up, your post struck me as ridiculous.

GridIronGrrl34 · August 2015

@sripley134 @CoachBeckyCooper thanks.

I mean, I just can't even... Anyway, I wasn't trolling for sympathy, just trying to make a point. But I appreciate you ladies

sorarose · August 2015

GridIronGrrl34 said:

conniemeri said:

Oh ladies, you don't have to declare yourselves "mean girls!" I can only imagine the pain in your hearts. I was just suggesting a new, more productive way of believing and thinking. If you want facts, you can look at the tone of the pregnant boards and this one. It's a big difference! I am excited to join this community, and I am looking to learn a lot from my board! I hope you all end up there soon! Just try to open your hearts and spread joy! It may do wonders for you!

******loss mentioned*******

Well no kidding. The girls who are pregnant are in better moods than we are? Shocking!

I just want to say also, that as someone currently going through a loss (I'm still bleeding from my miscarriage), I find this offensive. To insinuate that maybe I'd be pregnant if I just had a better attitude? I'm hurt and offended by that. And I'm offended not just for myself, but for all of the wonderful women on this board who are supporting each other through trying whatever it takes to start/expand their families. I mentioned in my intro thread, that as I am still experiencing my loss and therefore unable to get pregnant right now, I intended to just lurk here and try to re-educate myself in preparation for trying again. It is these women, who you claim to be so negative, who have drawn me out, made me smile, and given me something to look forward to at a time when everything pretty much sucks. I hope you'll consider that before you fling any more accusations about people's "lack of positivity" bringing them down.

I am so very sorry for your loss.

sorarose · August 2015

Orlaa said:

Do you girls wonder if attitude has anything to do with inability to conceive? On all of the boards, this one is the most "snarky" as you would say, and also has the majority of non-pregnant women.
This board has the majority of non-pregnant women because it's a TTC board ie. for women who aren't pregnant yet. It has nothing to do with the level of snark. Also, I reckon at least 90% of the snarky responses on the TTC board are directed at posters who come here asking if they're pregnant, or drive-by BFPs, both of which are not really issues on the BMB boards. This is just one reason why there's less snark there. I mean, many of the snarkiest people from this board have since moved on to their BMB board after getting a BFP, so it obviously didn't stand in their way.... To sum up, your post struck me as ridiculous.

R0824H · August 2015

@GridIronGrrl34 so sorry for your loss! **internet hugs**

conniemeri you only joined 4 days ago, and if you lurked even the tiniest bit you'd see that these women are unbelievably positive and supportive to each other as we try and get through the WTO and TWW stages and anything else that goes on in our lives. Would you like positives HPT's shoved in your face on a daily basis when you've been TTC for as long as some of these women have been?? Nah I'm gonna say you'd get a little fed up after a day or two, so if you're done with your little "suggestions"...BYE FELICIA

calfherder · August 2015

Maybe she has a point! I mean, I'm pretty snarky 90% of the time. Maybe that's why I haven't gotten pregnant in almost two years of trying. I should cancel my next RE appointments and focus more on rainbows and unicorns!

babyexpress · August 2015

sorarose · August 2015

Because my inner statistician also has something to say:

GridIronGrrl34 · August 2015

edited to fix gifs

babyexpress · August 2015

conniemeri said:

Praying for each of you! People who are hurt can lash out. I do not take this personally. Try to spread happiness and that is what will return to you! I hope you all find happiness and then healthy children!

When you say you are praying for us and you hope we find happiness, that is insulting. Using exclamations in almost every sentence, also translates as someone that is yelling. This is not coming across friendly at all.

Maybe "sorry, didn't mean to offend anyone" might have been better suited. Just a piece of advice.

sorarose · August 2015

conniemeri said:

Praying for each of you! People who are hurt can lash out. I do not take this personally. Try to spread happiness and that is what will return to you! I hope you all find happiness and then healthy children!

To be clear, and this is the last time I will entertain you, I am not snarky because I am having difficulty TTGP. I am snarky because I've seen posts by people who make me cringe that they are joining the parenthood club for reasons x, y, and z. If you aren't communicating with a SO and TTC, plotting how to get boy vs girl, or asking internet strangers to magically deduce pregnancy, it makes me snarky. People who sign up for a site simply to troll and inject vitriol into a forum also fall into that category for me. You spoke of your BMB, but as of yet, you have not contributed to them. I suggest moving along over there and trying to do better. We are all fine and dandy here supporting each other and getting support in return.

indulgentgypsy · August 2015

conniemeri said:
Praying for each of you! People who are hurt can lash out. I do not take this personally. Try to spread happiness and that is what will return to you! I hope you all find happiness and then healthy children!

Reported even if it gets ME in trouble for hindering my ability to enjoy the site and implying my miscarriages and current trouble TTC is my fault.

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