I got that when I started telling people at work...one special lady decided that saying that was more important than a congratulations first. I was so shocked that I just figured she must not have thought before she spoke but then I couldn't get it out of my head because of having eating disorders in the past it was really hurtful to hear and i wish i had of knocked her out...
Everyone else have been so happy and lovely and just that...bitch! Really got me down and really messed up the small semblance of self confidence I was really trying to hold onto
Re: "I thought you'd gained a bit of weight"
Unfortunately you're going to continue to hear rude comments about your stomach for the rest of pregnancy and maybe even after baby is born since most people's stomachs don't go flat over night.
It's also actually incredibly annoying when people compare you to other pregnant people they know who are bigger than you.
My bump with de wasn't super huge until the very end and she popped... Constantly had my grandma comparing my bump size to everyone else she knew.
( She also has no filter so she repeats everything and also says rude stuff all the time.)
Thank goodness my best friend at work keeps reminding me when I feel bad or someone says something, "Yes, you've gained some weight. You're supposed to! Yes, you look a little bigger--you don't look fat, you look pregnant!"
It'd be nice if we all went from our "normal" size straight to having a cute bump, but it turns out it doesn't work like that. 16 weeks here, and I've got tummy, but not what I would call a bump.
My boss did a "I KNEW IT" when I told him at 12 weeks even though I had hardly gained any weight and was never sick at work. There was no possible way for him to have known, and when I called him out he stammered something about how I had been 'acting differently.' Okay buddy.
Some people just try to suck the joy out of things, either for attention or because their own lives are lacking, try not to let it get to you.
On a side note, I work at a school and the middle school girls are trying to figure out if I'm pregnant. I love watching them talk about me and look at my stomach. The mystery continues...
Growing up he always used to point out my "flab" and tell me I was fat (used to make comments to my mom about her being fat as well). I'll never understand why people feel the need to say such crappy things. What's the point? What will it accomplish? Does it make them feel better??
I guess it's such a new experience for me it's a lot to get my head around...the purpose is to get fat now...not thin...lol thanks everyone for your input and stories of what you are also experiencing it makes me feel nit so alone in this
I would argue though that your purpose is not to get "fat" now. Your purpose is to grow a healthy beautiful baby. It's a good natural miraculous thing. Yes, you'll put on weight, but maybe try to think of it using more positive terms?
I saw the therapist today and she was really lovely to talk to...I have never properly discussed any of my issues with a professional so I'm glad I seem to be at the point where I want to accept help