I thought the 2nd trimester was supposed to bring more sex... not for me! I could care less. No interest. Nothing. Not to mention if I do go for it, it's like my vaginas forgot how to work... help! Please tell me I'm not the only one feeling this way. I feel bad for my hubby. We have twins on the way, and he just got back from a deployment. I thought for sure we'd take advantage of being kid free and spice things up! Any suggestions, supplements, anything???
Re: Sex.. bleh.
Discusting that the thought completely turns me off
Thank th Lord for a loving understanding hubs that will just lay with me instead.
and I second what these ladies have said, lube is your friend
We definitely have sex less now that I'm preggo, not a ton less, but definitely less. I don't need lube....but some (most) positions aside from missionary are kinda painful....so I'm not really sure what's in our future when this belly gets bigger haha.
Married: 2012
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I had the issue of pain during sex and that made me cringe at the thought of it. We went a few weeks without because it was so painful and afterwards was completely miserable. It felt like we had used water as lube and I would swell after. Turns out I was sensitive to every lube we tried and, believe me, we tried tons. The combo of my hormones, extra blood flow and the chemicals in the lube and something in all natural kinds we used just didn't work. I talked to my OB and she recommended olive oil as its one ingredient and all natural. I know it sounds weird, but it only took a few drops and we couldn't smell it. It was no different than using the regular, store bought kind and it wasn't messy at all. We found if we took it really easy and used the oil it made a world of difference. I don't swell after, either, anymore.
And if it makes anyone feel better, my libido didn't start picking up until last week. I am 25 weeks today.
ETA since this thread is already TMI, I want to add the the only comfortable position we have found was me on top facing away from him. On a good day with my back, I can handle bending over and laying on pillows. Our normal go-to positions were no longer good for me. We bought a positions book and are getting creative.
My beef is hubs hasn't seemed interested since we found out. Anyone else?
For sensitive ladies try Sliquid. Its glycerin and paraben free.
As for sex. I'm the one who wants it. Mostly during the day when DH is at work, like PP's have said.
The only positions we do are missionary which I feel like he's crushing me. Spooning, which it doesn't even feel satisfying to me that way. If I'm on top, but I feel like DH doesn't like it cause my belly is all up in his space. And doggy. I love doggy, I put pillows under my belly and DH doesn't have to feel weird cause he can't see my belly, but tmi, DH never makes sex last in that position.
So our sex life is pretty much gone.
A few reasons I want baby to be here Already, and a sex life with DH is one of those.