I have a good friend who lives across the country who is pregnant, due in Nov. She complained to me that no one had offered to throw her a shower so I offered to do it, but the planning has turned into a nightmare. When I asked about her preferences, she said she wanted a co-ed shower, something low key, not a sit-down (which is good because their invite list has 35 people on it!). I found a cute little space owned by a catering company which cost a bit more than I'd like to spend, but requires the least amount of work because they provide the nicely decorated space, food, drinks, etc... I am flying in the night before the shower so I don't have a lot of time to organize all of the elements.
I wanted to run the location by her as it is in Oakland, across the bay from SF where they live. That's when she told me she wants to do it outdoors and that what I proposed sounded too fancy, and she wants to keep it very low key. I tried to explain that having it at a place where everything is already set up is actually the most low-key for me but she's dead set on having it outdoors and insists that it won't be more work. (Even though I know it will be because I have to bring all the food, drinks, rentals, decorations, etc... for 20+ people)
I always thought as the guest of honor your job was just to show up but now she has put herself in charge of finding a place. She is getting way too involved in her own shower. What should I do?!