It was sarcasm....Lulucooks Everycol0r I just choose not to buy into your mean girls club.
People were being nice and supportive to the OP, and now you're rolling in calling people critical and mean. Please stop trolling, you're embarrassing yourself.
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If you don't feel you're ready, please talk to your DH about that. It IS a choice.
Also, I believe @onefootinthebayou was having a similar issue, if she's still around?
Yup, I'm still here, just been working & traveling too much to enjoy the forums daily.
OP, I started a thread about this last week and got some really solid advice & feedback. I can't link it as I'm on mobile but just look up by my user name.
I was absolutely terrified to get pregnant, until I was ready. Am I still a little nervous? Absolutely! I think for first time mom's it's normal. I see all these women around me complaining about this or that during their pregnancy so it does add to making me a little nervous. Some people are different than others. I've always been scared to be pregnant, but that doesn't mean I am not excited or that I do not want it. If you are ready, it doesn't mean it won't be scary, just make sure you are on the same page like the others have said.
It was sarcasm....Lulucooks Everycol0r I just choose not to buy into your mean girls club.
Who are you again? No matter. Since I've got a little time before I have to run out the door, let me make you a list of things that do not equal mean.
- Sarcasm - Honesty - Advice to seek therapy for what is a very real issue - Advice to speak to one's husband about not feeling ready - Advice not to make a huge life choice you don't feel ready to make
If you're going to choose to be the designated White Knight of this thread, good for you. Have fun with that. But you may want to look up the definition of the word "mean" before you start hurling it at @Lulucooks and @Everycol0r, two of the most supportive users I've come across in my time on The Bump. Please don't come on here calling names and starting drama just for the sake of doing so. PP gave OP solid advice. You posted a snarky "Big Bang Theory" gif that, in my opinion, was far meaner than anything anyone else had to say.
ETA: Actually, I'd like to take this one step further and have you show me where anyone, particularly @Lulucooks or @Everycol0r, was "mean." The quote button is your friend on this one.
I think I am mostly anxious about how much having kids will change life for my husband and I. I really want kids, and I want more than one so I want to get started. But, I will kinda miss being spontaneous and all the things that every parent I know warns me will change once I have kids. I had to overcome that in order to be ready.
@mandybeeslp, This is very relatable. I have a stepson, so I'm very aware of the strain a child can potentially have on a relationship. Babies are needy and that time and energy has to come from somewhere. I've wanted a baby for so many years, but I've also become accustomed to certain freedoms in the absence of functioning ovaries.
I feel that I am being realistic about the challenges of having a baby and changing the dynamic in our home, which creates nervousness and anxiety. Considering all these challenges, I still cannot wait for a baby. I am excited and impatient at the prospect of conceiving. All that excitement and desire, however, doesn't remove all the fears and worries I have.
11chicago11 , It sounds like you are on weddingbee as well from your past comments. Me too, but I will be honest... I LOL at the 'squinter" posts and the rainbow fart glitter posts where everyone is pregnant. If you find this site too "mean" (which it really isn't at all!) then I would suggest sticking with the bee. When I started my TTC journey, I was posting on the bee as well, but now I wont touch the TTC boards there with a 10 foot pole. I would prefer the harsh reality of what TTC really is, instead of having smoke blown up my ass. Although I will admit the bee is a great place to loose yourself in dress posts and fluff. If you want to really learn about your body/TTC process, the ladies here are amazing.
I actually felt this way a little bit, not to the extreme that you are saying, but I did not want to be pregnant. Even when I was pregnant, I hated it. It was uncomfortable and I did not enjoy being sick all the time.
My story is a bit of a downer but here it is in a nutshell: I lost her when I was 28 weeks pregnant. I carried her for 6/7 months and I had to give birth anyway and it was all for basically nothing. I got to hold her briefly, and got a couple photos, but that's it. My whole experience was awful.
I don't say this to scare you, but to show you that even though I hated pregnancy, and even though I went through this traumatic experience, here I am. TTC for another child. Even after all that, I know it will be worth it because even though I only got to hold her for a short time, and even though it didn't turn out the way we wanted it to, it was amazing to see her. To see this adorable little thing that we created.
I want that feeling of awe again. And I will go through hell to get it.
I go to therapy to deal with my loss and I will go to therapy to deal with pregnancy fears if and when I get pg again as my fears this time will be way worse than the first time. I commend you for being honest about this, too many people like to pretend that pregnancy is all puppies and rainbows. It's ok to be afraid.
I actually felt this way a little bit, not to the extreme that you are saying, but I did not want to be pregnant. Even when I was pregnant, I hated it. It was uncomfortable and I did not enjoy being sick all the time.
My story is a bit of a downer but here it is in a nutshell: I lost her when I was 28 weeks pregnant. I carried her for 6/7 months and I had to give birth anyway and it was all for basically nothing. I got to hold her briefly, and got a couple photos, but that's it. My whole experience was awful.
I don't say this to scare you, but to show you that even though I hated pregnancy, and even though I went through this traumatic experience, here I am. TTC for another child. Even after all that, I know it will be worth it because even though I only got to hold her for a short time, and even though it didn't turn out the way we wanted it to, it was amazing to see her. To see this adorable little thing that we created.
I want that feeling of awe again. And I will go through hell to get it.
I go to therapy to deal with my loss and I will go to therapy to deal with pregnancy fears if and when I get pg again as my fears this time will be way worse than the first time. I commend you for being honest about this, too many people like to pretend that pregnancy is all puppies and rainbows. It's ok to be afraid.
I didn't know your story, and this broke my heart to read. I am so incredibly sorry for your loss.
@11chicago11 I don't understand why you are ruining all of these threads with this drama. We are an established community, and what you are doing is throwing a dark cloud over the threads you are posting in because you are so belligerent and divisive. Under the guise of fixing us or protecting the innocent or whatever you are doing you are hijacking the original posters thread to make it all about you. If you want to join a discussion, keep it civil and post about the original post or whatever theme has taken over, stop calling names. It isn't pleasant for the rest of us.
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I am not trying to start any drama just pointing out my opinion. This girl need support. Not a bunch of people telling her what she should or should not do. More like supporting her to make her own decision.
I am not trying to start any drama just pointing out my opinion. This girl need support. Not a bunch of people telling her what she should or should not do. More like supporting her to make her own decision.
Please stop trying to derail this thread. People are giving the OP support and advice. No one is being mean. You seem to be the only one being critical here.
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OP I with you luck but since this club of girls want to high-jack your post talking about me I am out. And please notice in every post it is the same club of "mean girls".
OP - I hope you get the support you are looking for.....
Good support comes the form of giving someone your honest opinion, not blowing smoke up their ass and telling them that everything is going to be ok. Making a good decision comes from hearing all sides of opinions on a subject.
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OP I with you luck but since this club of girls want to high-jack your post talking about me I am out. And please notice in every post it is the same club of "mean girls".
OP - I hope you get the support you are looking for.....
You do realize you don't have to stay on this site if you don't like the posters, right?
OP I with you luck but since this club of girls want to high-jack your post talking about me I am out. And please notice in every post it is the same club of "mean girls".
OP - I hope you get the support you are looking for.....
I am not trying to start any drama just pointing out my opinion. This girl need support. Not a bunch of people telling her what she should or should not do. More like supporting her to make her own decision.
That's what we've done. Seriously, your combative, pot-stirring posts are seriously inhibiting my enjoyment of the boards.
We get it. You don't think we should tell anyone what to do & support them in whatever they choose (even if we think it's a bad idea?).
You've been all over complaining & it's getting old. The tone of the board is not changing. Moreover, you keep bringing this subject up over & over despite being told not to by @bumpadmin when they've closed each thread you hijack. That will get you banned.
If all you are going to do is bother people & disagree with any little thing then just peace out & spare us all the drama. It's not even entertaining anymore. It's just annoying.
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Love your bracelet by the way. I can explain.
And if anyone else thinks I'm mean, well no worries, I'll GBCB and peace out.
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OP, I started a thread about this last week and got some really solid advice & feedback. I can't link it as I'm on mobile but just look up by my user name.
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- Sarcasm
- Honesty
- Advice to seek therapy for what is a very real issue
- Advice to speak to one's husband about not feeling ready
- Advice not to make a huge life choice you don't feel ready to make
If you're going to choose to be the designated White Knight of this thread, good for you. Have fun with that. But you may want to look up the definition of the word "mean" before you start hurling it at @Lulucooks and @Everycol0r, two of the most supportive users I've come across in my time on The Bump. Please don't come on here calling names and starting drama just for the sake of doing so. PP gave OP solid advice. You posted a snarky "Big Bang Theory" gif that, in my opinion, was far meaner than anything anyone else had to say.
ETA: Actually, I'd like to take this one step further and have you show me where anyone, particularly @Lulucooks or @Everycol0r, was "mean." The quote button is your friend on this one.
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I feel that I am being realistic about the challenges of having a baby and changing the dynamic in our home, which creates nervousness and anxiety. Considering all these challenges, I still cannot wait for a baby. I am excited and impatient at the prospect of conceiving. All that excitement and desire, however, doesn't remove all the fears and worries I have.
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Under the guise of fixing us or protecting the innocent or whatever you are doing you are hijacking the original posters thread to make it all about you. If you want to join a discussion, keep it civil and post about the original post or whatever theme has taken over, stop calling names. It isn't pleasant for the rest of us.
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OP I with you luck but since this club of girls want to high-jack your post talking about me I am out. And please notice in every post it is the same club of "mean girls".
OP - I hope you get the support you are looking for.....
Low progesterone
Baby boy born 01/2016
Currently: NTNP
We get it. You don't think we should tell anyone what to do & support them in whatever they choose (even if we think it's a bad idea?).
You've been all over complaining & it's getting old. The tone of the board is not changing. Moreover, you keep bringing this subject up over & over despite being told not to by @bumpadmin when they've closed each thread you hijack. That will get you banned.
If all you are going to do is bother people & disagree with any little thing then just peace out & spare us all the drama. It's not even entertaining anymore. It's just annoying.
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