Thanks, @virginiaunicorn11! Thankfully he does seem genuinely sorry. He apologized this morning before leaving for work and then texted me later and actually said "that's something my dad would've done and I don't want to be like him." So I think he gets it and hopefully it won't happen again. I'm not sure what I'll do if it does - I'm sure he'll raise his voice at her at some point, but she is WAY too young for that now. I'm going to hope and pray that it was a momentary lapse in judgement and won't happen again!
@lovethatcolosun@mellymar he definitely is going to have to prove himself. I'll be damned if I keep getting toyed with.
@virginiaunicorn11 I like the way you put it. Too bad short term is a killer cause I'd love to get past this short term shit to get to long term. Your grandmother is a strong woman for sticking through it.
I think a lot of it is also me feeling used, humiliated, and just like I have no control over my life right now. He got here at 6pm and we had a good talk in the car. We did some shopping and went to the gym. It was good to spend some time together while my mom babysat. He's spending the night and then we're all driving back to philly in the morning. I will be coming back though, I just have to take the baby to her doctor for shots. Although tonight was good, I won't go back with the first sweet gesture. We have a lot to work on but tonight was good.
I read your replies earlier and although I couldn't answer right then, I soaked up your well wishes. Thank you
this morning DH said he would watch LO all day to give me a break. so far ive gotten to take a shower. then i needed to feed LO, and since then the breaks ive gotten are because i put him down in his bouncy seat. i would love the free time DH has, hes always on his computer and i cant even play videogames if i want because our TV is his computer screen. and without his computer he gets bored.
this morning DH said he would watch LO all day to give me a break. so far ive gotten to take a shower. then i needed to feed LO, and since then the breaks ive gotten are because i put him down in his bouncy seat. i would love the free time DH has, hes always on his computer and i cant even play videogames if i want because our TV is his computer screen. and without his computer he gets bored.
I don't know if your little one will take a bottle but if they will maybe pump and then get out of the house on your own for a couple of hours. Do something just for yourself, like get a pedicure or a massage or even just go to a coffee shop and read a book. Sounds like it might do you some good and if you're not there as a fallback then your husband will have to step up his game with the baby.
I was going to do the same thing this weekend (DHs idea as he's worried about me being stuck in the house all day and he wants some bonding time with LO) but now instead of me having my hair done, I have to go to the dentist instead.
Re: DH/SO rants & raves 8/3-8/9
@virginiaunicorn11 I like the way you put it. Too bad short term is a killer cause I'd love to get past this short term shit to get to long term. Your grandmother is a strong woman for sticking through it.
I think a lot of it is also me feeling used, humiliated, and just like I have no control over my life right now. He got here at 6pm and we had a good talk in the car. We did some shopping and went to the gym. It was good to spend some time together while my mom babysat. He's spending the night and then we're all driving back to philly in the morning. I will be coming back though, I just have to take the baby to her doctor for shots. Although tonight was good, I won't go back with the first sweet gesture. We have a lot to work on but tonight was good.
I read your replies earlier and although I couldn't answer right then, I soaked up your well wishes. Thank you
i would love the free time DH has, hes always on his computer and i cant even play videogames if i want because our TV is his computer screen. and without his computer he gets bored.
I was going to do the same thing this weekend (DHs idea as he's worried about me being stuck in the house all day and he wants some bonding time with LO) but now instead of me having my hair done, I have to go to the dentist instead.