Have had suspicions my boyfriend was sleeping with someone else and its like something new pops up every week. Carrying around a condom (weve never used one), back of an earring in his bed that is 100% not mine, and for gods sakes he still has tinder. He got me pregnant the first time we met (not complaining one bit, so excited for my little man to come!! The month countdown starts tomorrow!) but we started getting close and relationship-like before we found out I was pregnant. When we found out he brought up abortion (not a suggestion just throwing the option out there) but I obviously shot that down. Then he brought up adoption as he just doesnt think weve known eachother long enough. His main concern wasnt that he would be tied to someone or have a child to care for, but for the child as he said he didnt think we could give it the best life possible. Hes very mature in that way and I respect that but I am not adopting my baby out and we havent fought about it but thats what he wants to do and weve kind of avoided the subject to avoid conflict but now these days he keeps urging me to see my doctor to get adoption info but I think its obvious by this point its not happening. Hes not pushy or anything and hes so amazing I really do love him and want to believe when he says he isnt seeing someone else (he really does seem genuine.) The situation isnt as bad as it sounds, weve been really happy and weve obviously spoken about being together and things were gonna do in the future but I just cannot shake the idea that hes sleeping with someone else. I almost feel like hes with me because of the situation at hand and doesnt want to leave a woman hanging pregnant on her own (hes really into like womens rights and gender equality and having respect for women) hes so amazing and respectful and loving and I know he means no harm but I just want an opinion on the situation. Im not worried at all about leaving him if hes cheating Im 100% capable to handle everything on my own. But I dont have time to waste on wondering if hes been faithful or not I need to put all my attention on things that matter like the baby and myself (and him as well if he has been faithful as he says.) Hes not like a slime bucket or anything like that he truly is an amazing respectful man, I just think the whole situation is a bit messy.
Re: Is this actually happening
I think you need to have a straight up talk, sit down and voice all the concerns you did here.
Gosh I feel bad for you. I couldn't imagine having a child in a situation like that. I hope it works out best for you and the baby, and no one else.
Having been in your situation, I would definitely ask, and trust your gut. He can lie all he wants, but your gut is always going to know what's up.