It's so silly but I'm a smidge insecure about the new finance director for DH's organization. She's young and really pretty and they'll be working side-by-side everyday which is great because I couldn't feel any less attractive right now. My hair hasn't been cut or colored since December and is full of split-ends, my skin is blotchy and dry, my legs are unshaven, and my body is all funhouse mirror. And I can't afford to go to the salon because our bank account is being sucked dry by medical bills and baby essentials. Each month I tell myself this is the month that we'll have a little extra so I can book an appointment but then we get slammed with financial bullshit. The thought of him working with a normal-looking woman during the day then coming home to frumpy old me at night gives me the sads. I swear I used to be a hottie, too!! (
I bet she's crazy, has back acne, chews with her mouth open and farts a lot. And she wears two pairs of Spanx under her clothes. In fact, I bet she wears a push up bra too. She's all show. ;-)
So today is my birthday and my Dr has me working from home since Monday until the baby comes. Any who I was being nosey in my husband's phone which I rarely do and saw a txt to him mom and brother inviting them and their family over for cake and dinner for my bday. But ever since I saw it I've been dropping hints that I don't want to be bothered with people on my bday, and I just want to hang out with him, relax, and eat cake. I kind of don't feel bad because I don't want to be bothered with anyone really, but especially not his side of the family, but I know he just wants to make my day special so I do somewhat feel bad.
I side eye parents that insist on having all of their kid's names start with the same letter. If it just happens that way, then sure! But to actually plan it that way... and to not choose a name that you actually like because it doesn't have the same letter? Ridiculous in my opinion. I think it makes the names less meaningful in that sibling number two was named something to match sibling number one rather than their own individual self.
Yes!!!! My aunt did this with her 5 kids and her daughter's did this with the 5 kids they have combined. I think it's tacky!
@midge519, I'm having baby #2, so not planning a shower or expecting a shower or anything, but I kind of wish I was, too. My shower for DS was really small, just family, and while I'm not complaining about that at all, I just want someone to gush over DD the way they did with DS. It's not like we even need anything at this point, I just want a party.
@jefinley1, Panache is a good brand, as well as Bravado. I had nursing bras by Elomi and Le Mystere last time around. The one I had by Elomi got me well but had no padding, and I prefer a little padding. It was also an underwire style. The Le Mystere had the padding I like, but I don't think it comes in a J. Another brand I've heard good reviews on is Anita.
You may also want to check out Bravissimo. They're based in the UK, but they carry a wide variety of large cup/smaller band bras, including some nursing bras. And you may find some of the same styles on Amazon.
For several months now I've been craving a dish from a restaurant thats about an hour away from our house. I got really excited when my husband surprised me by taking me last night. We got there and they had taken my entrée off the menu... I was heartbroken. I went through all the stages of grief before finally ordering something else that I was really disappointed with. After feeling bad for me DH took me to another restaurant to get me a special dessert to take home to make up for it. He left me eat the whole thing by myself in my PJ's. Gosh I love that man. He sure puts up with a lot.
For several months now I've been craving a dish from a restaurant thats about an hour away from our house. I got really excited when my husband surprised me by taking me last night. We got there and they had taken my entrée off the menu... I was heartbroken. I went through all the stages of grief before finally ordering something else that I was really disappointed with. After feeling bad for me DH took me to another restaurant to get me a special dessert to take home to make up for it. He left me eat the whole thing by myself in my PJ's. Gosh I love that man. He sure puts up with a lot.
Did you ask them for it? That happened to me once and I asked if they could make it and they did. I'm sure the price was made up but hey it worked lol
@livenlove44 - wow you just brought up SUCH a great point!! I am using this rationalization next time my husband says ANYTHING about my pregnancy spending
@taralohse I always feel good when I can give back The point was actually my DH's point last night when I was debating spending money on those things. He's kind of amazing lately!
I got a pedicure yesterday and will have my hair highlighted today. Overall, the cost is more than I'm usually comfortable with, and now I'm also thinking I need an eyebrow wax. I think I'm going to do it, and my rationale is that I haven't spent a dime on liquor or wine since January, so really, we're ahead in the grand scheme.
Let's be real, you are not going to want to bring a newborn to the salon with you. Get all this done now while you still can. I treated myself to a spa pedi and gel mani the other day. Did I need to spend $70 on my nails? Nope. Do I have regrets? Nope.
I think you should go buy yourself some shoes while you're at it. I won't judge.
@adriennerose80, I totally thought about that, too! With DD, I tried to get my hair done 4 weeks after I had her, and it was too hard because I had to be in the chair for a couple hours but I was EBF, too. This time around, I got my cut a month ago, and I'll get another cut at 37 weeks. I got my color today (which will be good through my EDD), and then I'll get new color before I head back to work and around Christmas. It's all about the logistics
Last night I almost yelled at a man that I will kill him because he used the turnstile too slowly. (I yelled only in my mind though)
It was 9:30pm. I haven't had dinner and the train was messed up so a 20 minute ride took an hour as I was getting home from my yoga class. I was so dizzy and tired and cranky and by the time we got out of the train, that man was holding up the exit from the station and I wanted to murder him. Then I got home and sobbed.
Edit: he probably was like 5 seconds too slow so kind of crazy how enraged I was by him.
I got a pedicure yesterday and will have my hair highlighted today. Overall, the cost is more than I'm usually comfortable with, and now I'm also thinking I need an eyebrow wax. I think I'm going to do it, and my rationale is that I haven't spent a dime on liquor or wine since January, so really, we're ahead in the grand scheme.
Let's be real, you are not going to want to bring a newborn to the salon with you. Get all this done now while you still can. I treated myself to a spa pedi and gel mani the other day. Did I need to spend $70 on my nails? Nope. Do I have regrets? Nope.
I think you should go buy yourself some shoes while you're at it. I won't judge.
@adriennerose80, I totally thought about that, too! With DD, I tried to get my hair done 4 weeks after I had her, and it was too hard because I had to be in the chair for a couple hours but I was EBF, too. This time around, I got my cut a month ago, and I'll get another cut at 37 weeks. I got my color today (which will be good through my EDD), and then I'll get new color before I head back to work and around Christmas. It's all about the logistics
This is very similar to my plan. I got a cut a few weeks ago, and I'll get a cut and do my color early next month, maybe as an early B-day present to myself. Then I should be able to last a while on my cut, though my color might need a touch-up before Thanksgiving because my IL's dk family pictures then.
My confession is-I know I'm not having a shower or anything, I told people we didn't plan on having one as this is baby 5 collectively and I didn't find it appropriate. As dumb as it is I find myself kinda aching for one. I'm not going to plan one or anything of that sort but it makes me sad. So instead we're going to have a start of fall get together potluck day where people can come and hang out starting at like noon and just enjoy the company of friends and family that decide to come by. I think I'm more missing the enjoyment of everyone together than anything. And I don't think I want to do any type of sip and see after he comes with it being so close to flu season.
I feel like I could've written this too! First baby but in my tradition family won't buy gifts until baby is out because they believe it's bad luck (also my family lives 5000 miles away and will see baby 3 months after she's born). So on Sunday we are hosting a "house warming" party and I secretly hope some friends will have the urge to get us baby stuff on their own accord. I know it's so tacky to think it, but this is flame free day right? ha ha. I mostly just want to have fun with everyone and host something before it gets impossible, but still... a small part is kinda missing the whole baby shower experience.
I got a pedicure yesterday and will have my hair highlighted today. Overall, the cost is more than I'm usually comfortable with, and now I'm also thinking I need an eyebrow wax. I think I'm going to do it, and my rationale is that I haven't spent a dime on liquor or wine since January, so really, we're ahead in the grand scheme.
Let's be real, you are not going to want to bring a newborn to the salon with you. Get all this done now while you still can. I treated myself to a spa pedi and gel mani the other day. Did I need to spend $70 on my nails? Nope. Do I have regrets? Nope.
I think you should go buy yourself some shoes while you're at it. I won't judge.
@adriennerose80, I totally thought about that, too! With DD, I tried to get my hair done 4 weeks after I had her, and it was too hard because I had to be in the chair for a couple hours but I was EBF, too. This time around, I got my cut a month ago, and I'll get another cut at 37 weeks. I got my color today (which will be good through my EDD), and then I'll get new color before I head back to work and around Christmas. It's all about the logistics
This is very similar to my plan. I got a cut a few weeks ago, and I'll get a cut and do my color early next month, maybe as an early B-day present to myself. Then I should be able to last a while on my cut, though my color might need a touch-up before Thanksgiving because my IL's dk family pictures then.
I just got a haircut and partial highlights last week because I've been putting it off since January. If you live in an area that has a European Wax Center, your first wax is free (for small area) and half off for others. I got a $23 full Brazilian last week. I think the eyebrows are free! Just a heads up for the thrifty mommas in need of a little pampering
I kind of envy those with scheduled c section dates. I am a FTM and definitely hope for a smooth vaginal delivery but something about knowing when your baby will be here just sounds soo appealing !
For several months now I've been craving a dish from a restaurant thats about an hour away from our house. I got really excited when my husband surprised me by taking me last night. We got there and they had taken my entrée off the menu... I was heartbroken. I went through all the stages of grief before finally ordering something else that I was really disappointed with. After feeling bad for me DH took me to another restaurant to get me a special dessert to take home to make up for it. He left me eat the whole thing by myself in my PJ's. Gosh I love that man. He sure puts up with a lot.
Did you ask them for it? That happened to me once and I asked if they could make it and they did. I'm sure the price was made up but hey it worked lol
I did actually! That was the "denial" stage of my grief. Lol The waitress acted like they had never had that ok the menu before. Totally not cool.
It's so silly but I'm a smidge insecure about the new finance director for DH's organization. She's young and really pretty and they'll be working side-by-side everyday which is great because I couldn't feel any less attractive right now. My hair hasn't been cut or colored since December and is full of split-ends, my skin is blotchy and dry, my legs are unshaven, and my body is all funhouse mirror. And I can't afford to go to the salon because our bank account is being sucked dry by medical bills and baby essentials. Each month I tell myself this is the month that we'll have a little extra so I can book an appointment but then we get slammed with financial bullshit. The thought of him working with a normal-looking woman during the day then coming home to frumpy old me at night gives me the sads. I swear I used to be a hottie, too!! (
I bet she's crazy, has back acne, chews with her mouth open and farts a lot. And she wears two pairs of Spanx under her clothes. In fact, I bet she wears a push up bra too. She's all show. ;-)
This!!! All of us Oct15 Moms can get together & round house her ass for you LOL! Sorry... I just watched Step Brothers.
DH is out with a friend this evening. They went to Old Chicago for pizza and DH just stopped to drop off the leftovers to me. I was laying in bed reading so he just brought the to go container into me. I thanked him, told him to have fun, and proceeded to eat both slices in bed without moving. Felt so lazy but so good, enjoying a quiet night at home with nothing to do and dinner in bed :-)
@midge519, I'm having baby #2, so not planning a shower or expecting a shower or anything, but I kind of wish I was, too. My shower for DS was really small, just family, and while I'm not complaining about that at all, I just want someone to gush over DD the way they did with DS. It's not like we even need anything at this point, I just want a party.
@jefinley1, Panache is a good brand, as well as Bravado. I had nursing bras by Elomi and Le Mystere last time around. The one I had by Elomi got me well but had no padding, and I prefer a little padding. It was also an underwire style. The Le Mystere had the padding I like, but I don't think it comes in a J. Another brand I've heard good reviews on is Anita.
You may also want to check out Bravissimo. They're based in the UK, but they carry a wide variety of large cup/smaller band bras, including some nursing bras. And you may find some of the same styles on Amazon.
That's kind of how I feel. Like my sister had a loss last year at 17 weeks and prior to her loss everything was about that baby. I was very happy for her despite my personal feelings on it. It feels like this pregnancy no one gives a rip. I'm sure it's my emotions but it would be nice to feel like they cared more than if it's surprise twins
My confession is-I know I'm not having a shower or anything, I told people we didn't plan on having one as this is baby 5 collectively and I didn't find it appropriate. As dumb as it is I find myself kinda aching for one. I'm not going to plan one or anything of that sort but it makes me sad. So instead we're going to have a start of fall get together potluck day where people can come and hang out starting at like noon and just enjoy the company of friends and family that decide to come by. I think I'm more missing the enjoyment of everyone together than anything. And I don't think I want to do any type of sip and see after he comes with it being so close to flu season.
I feel like I could've written this too! First baby but in my tradition family won't buy gifts until baby is out because they believe it's bad luck (also my family lives 5000 miles away and will see baby 3 months after she's born). So on Sunday we are hosting a "house warming" party and I secretly hope some friends will have the urge to get us baby stuff on their own accord. I know it's so tacky to think it, but this is flame free day right? ha ha. I mostly just want to have fun with everyone and host something before it gets impossible, but still... a small part is kinda missing the whole baby shower experience.
I don't blame you. And being that you didn't tell them you want baby stuff keeps you in the clear :-) but I completely understand!
For several months now I've been craving a dish from a restaurant thats about an hour away from our house. I got really excited when my husband surprised me by taking me last night. We got there and they had taken my entrée off the menu... I was heartbroken. I went through all the stages of grief before finally ordering something else that I was really disappointed with. After feeling bad for me DH took me to another restaurant to get me a special dessert to take home to make up for it. He left me eat the whole thing by myself in my PJ's. Gosh I love that man. He sure puts up with a lot.
Did you ask them for it? That happened to me once and I asked if they could make it and they did. I'm sure the price was made up but hey it worked lol
I did actually! That was the "denial" stage of my grief. Lol The waitress acted like they had never had that ok the menu before. Totally not cool.
This is late but yesterday SO and I realized we both forgot our two year anniversary on Thursday. He's really down about it because making a big deal out of my birthday, Mother's Day, and our anniversary is his thing. No matter how much reassurance I've given him that it's ok, we both completely forgot with all the work stress lately he is still down. I feel bad but we can't afford to do anything right now anyways so we went to bed early and cuddled last night
Re: FFFC
@jefinley1, Panache is a good brand, as well as Bravado. I had nursing bras by Elomi and Le Mystere last time around. The one I had by Elomi got me well but had no padding, and I prefer a little padding. It was also an underwire style. The Le Mystere had the padding I like, but I don't think it comes in a J.
Another brand I've heard good reviews on is Anita.
You may also want to check out Bravissimo. They're based in the UK, but they carry a wide variety of large cup/smaller band bras, including some nursing bras. And you may find some of the same styles on Amazon.
For several months now I've been craving a dish from a restaurant thats about an hour away from our house. I got really excited when my husband surprised me by taking me last night. We got there and they had taken my entrée off the menu... I was heartbroken. I went through all the stages of grief before finally ordering something else that I was really disappointed with. After feeling bad for me DH took me to another restaurant to get me a special dessert to take home to make up for it. He left me eat the whole thing by myself in my PJ's. Gosh I love that man. He sure puts up with a lot.
It was 9:30pm. I haven't had dinner and the train was messed up so a 20 minute ride took an hour as I was getting home from my yoga class. I was so dizzy and tired and cranky and by the time we got out of the train, that man was holding up the exit from the station and I wanted to murder him. Then I got home and sobbed.
Edit: he probably was like 5 seconds too slow so kind of crazy how enraged I was by him.
This is very similar to my plan. I got a cut a few weeks ago, and I'll get a cut and do my color early next month, maybe as an early B-day present to myself. Then I should be able to last a while on my cut, though my color might need a touch-up before Thanksgiving because my IL's dk family pictures then.
This!!! All of us Oct15 Moms can get together & round house her ass for you LOL! Sorry... I just watched Step Brothers.
I don't blame you. And being that you didn't tell them you want baby stuff keeps you in the clear :-) but I completely understand!