A lady I work with found out that I am pregnant and came over to congratulate me. Then with a puzzled look on her face went on to say "but, don't you already have a boy AND a girl? How many kids are you going to have?...did you always want a large family?" Ummmm...my family planning is none of her business and I hardly think 3 kids is a large family!
My step mother in law didn't want to give up smoking in our house after we found out. She literally said, smoking and second hand smoke are harmless to a pregnant woman. My husband had to hold me back from slapping her. So instead I went and printed out a whole packet on info and threw it at her
I have had a few people ask when I found out I was pregnant. Uh...I'm not one of those idiots who didn't know I was pregnant for months on end and my baby was very much planned. I don't know if they just aren't familiar with the fact that most people wait until after the first trimester to tell people, or if it's their way of asking if it was planned or not.
Also agree with a pp - anytime I'm around screaming, obnoxious kids I'm told "better get used to it." Nope, I most certainly won't get used to it because I won't let my kids run around screaming like little hellions.
I also hate when people ask if I want a boy or a girl. I really don't care either way, but if I did and stated a preference and my baby ends up being the opposite wouldn't that just be awful?
Everyone judges me for what I eat. "You're eating a sandwich? I thought you couldant have lunch meat?"
"You want your burger with a little pink in the middle? I thought you couldn't have pink".
It's not like I eat this stuff all the time, and it's not like my meat is bleeding. I like it medium to medium well.
And EVERYONE comments on how I'm carrying. Some people say boys carry lower, and some say girls carry lower. Everyone has a different opinion on it. I'm having girl, but I'm carrying low because my uterus is still just at my belly button right now. Some People drive me crazy.
And maybe it's just me, but I can't STAND being asked 274928394 times a day how I'm feeling. I know they care, but don't ask me multiple times a day. The answer will be the same.
I acknowledge that they are being nice, but all the people commenting about how small I still am has started to drive me nuts. One woman at work today said "Honey, are you suuure you're already 18 weeks?" in a condescending manner. I wanted to say no, I am nearly half way through my pregnancy at this point and I am still just guessing how far along I am. Ugh.
Ooh! Got another one... I cannot count how many people (one being my FIL) have lectured me about my dogs while pregnant and even more so, after I have the baby! Yes, I own pit bulls! I like them much, much more than I like you... I trust them more than you, too! My dogs are fantastic with kids, and I couldn't care less what you think of them or how "dangerous" they are...
@BarrettJ89 I have three dogs, a springer spaniel who is an angel, a pit bull who is by far the sweetest dog I've ever met and a little mutt who is so stinkin' mean!!! My MIL has asked three times how the dogs will handle having a baby around. The only one im concerned about is the little one.
Ooh! Got another one... I cannot count how many people (one being my FIL) have lectured me about my dogs while pregnant and even more so, after I have the baby! Yes, I own pit bulls! I like them much, much more than I like you... I trust them more than you, too! My dogs are fantastic with kids, and I couldn't care less what you think of them or how "dangerous" they are...
Our pit bull is amazing with our kids! She seriously loves them and would mother them herself. I can't send either of my kids to time out with the dog tagging along and consoling them during their punishment!
My boyfriend loves to play "slaps" with his 8 year old daughter. My dogs throw a fit! They get between them and bark. It's hilarious. They just don't know who to protect; daddy or sissy! They are such big babies, unless you harm the actual babies!
I'm pregnant with our first, and we found out last week that we are having a girl. A coworker said today (upon hearing me state the sex): "Oh, is your husband disappointed? I mean, they usually want boys to carry on the family name."
OMG I almost flew at her and punched her. Seriously. Um no my husband isn't concerned with an heir and a spare and he cried (tears of joy!) in the ultrasound room with me when we found out the sex. I didn't even know what to say to that.
Ooh! Got another one... I cannot count how many people (one being my FIL) have lectured me about my dogs while pregnant and even more so, after I have the baby! Yes, I own pit bulls! I like them much, much more than I like you... I trust them more than you, too! My dogs are fantastic with kids, and I couldn't care less what you think of them or how "dangerous" they are...
Oh! This is another one I'm dreading getting from people. My dog is not dangerous! I don't have a pit bull (though I used to and she was the best ever!) but I do have a 75lb bulldog, Minion. He's the most gentle thing. My 10month old could crawl into his food dish, WHILE he's eating, and Minion would just flop down and give me sad eyes until the baby was removed.
1. You can't do that in your condition! (About throwing a frisbee. Very loudly at the work picnic, before we'd told most people the news)
2. Are you going to get rid of your cats? (No. We are not.)
3. Better get used to it! (Like PPs have mentioned. This one just bugs me every time, about tiredness, or not sleeping, or runny noses, or screaming kids in public, etc)
I'm sick of people asking me how I'm feeling. If you didn't care enough to ask before I got pregnant don't feel the need to ask now I won't be offended. Also you must want a girl because you have a boy. I want a healthy baby.
Im a lurker from early February 2016, couldn't resist this thread. On the weekend, my husband's friend commented that after he saw his friend who is 8 mo pregnant, and seeing how big HER boobs are, that MY boobs are going to be even bigger. Like thanks for letting me know that you have noticed my boob size and wil be monitoring them. I totally called him out on it in front of a bunch of people. Public shaming for the win. I can't believe some of the stuff you guys have heard. Im dreading being further along and showing and having to deal with stupid people like that.
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So I haven't gotten many stupid comments from people. Just 3 and they were from my mom
1. I shouldn't get anymore tattoos bc it won't look good for the baby. I have a bunch of tattoos that cover most of my arms and others. I know she is only saying this bc she personally doesn't like the fact that I have tattoos. She is a very traditional Korean woman and the culture does not really approve of them. What she will not like is that I plan on getting one after my baby is born with his footprints:) me having tattoos and is not going to predict how my baby will turn out. He will be loved and cared for just like any mom would...tattoos or not. It just pissed me off that she was trying to say he will have a bad life bc of it.
2. She said I shouldn't get anymore animals. I have 3 dogs and 2 cats but for whatever reason she thinks I have 1 dog and 1 cat. I have no idea where she got this from especially since she has seen pictures of all my babies. I am tempted to get another dog just bc now ( not that I would bc my house is already full)
3. She also said I should never carry anything and that DH should do all of it bc I could hurt the baby. Now I do have to say DH doesn't let me carry anything anyways. If I carry a grocery bag with bread in it his comment is " you shouldn't be carrying that put it down". I mean geez it's just bread! I'm not helpless so don't make me feel like I should be.
The more I read this thread, the more I feel sorry for you lovely ladies! I've seriously not had a SINGLE negative thing said yet (I know there are still 5 months left for it to happen though), and I am STUNNED how many of these comments have come from family or friends! I can imagine a stranger being a dick, but not someone I know!
I am soooooo tired of hearing "oh, you don't even look pregnant!" Seriously, I feel huge, and I'm pretty sure it's obvious... Or, maybe these people have just always thought I was chubby. Not a compliment.
I get tired of hearing the "you shouldn't be doing that!" At work.... I've been doing "this" for 9 yrs.....I think it's okay.....and its my decision. I physically do what I feel comfortable doing and nothing more.
The only sort of backwards thing I heard was "how are you gonna wear those hip huggers? Won't be wearing them much longer, you're gonna get wider" from a customer...for the record...they're regular American Eagle jeans and I just started wearing maternity at 18 weeks, and not because I am "wider" lol because my belly is busting out and belly bands aren't for the actively moving jobs.
Got an ultrasound today where we got a beautiful picture of baby's profile. I sent it to family, and my husband's brothers fiancé's only response is, "... It has a big head."
Like. Stfu. The baby is hardly 5 inches long, it does not have a giant body, much less a giant head.
Also my family keeps saying that if I keep calling baby a he (I say that because it's formal and better than calling baby an it) that if it's a girl I will give him gender identity problems because "it" spent all that time in the womb being called a he.
@SummerFall03 - Just curious, how does a thyroid issue affect breastfeeding? I have a thyroid issue too and no one has mentioned this to me yet, though I could have a different problem.
My sister and I are due 2 days apart. Every time someone realizes how close we are they ask "did you plan this?". Ewww... Gross! And no, we did not call and say "ready set go"!
I had a coworker tell me , oh yeah I can tell you are pregnant ! It's all in your face . WTF does that mean ? I go umm so is my face getting fat ? She's like no you just look pregnant !
I had another coworker lecture me about drinking a cup of coffee during a meeting . "oh your baby is going to come out running if you keep drinking that coffee !". I responded I hope so , less pushing for me. Ugh WTH is wrong with people
I'm 17 weeks now, but when I was about 12 weeks my MIL told me that we already have one child and two dogs and we don't need any more "dependants". She knew I was pregnant when she said this to me. I just stared at her and walked away. When I told DH what she said I couldn't stop crying. He and my FIL told her off for saying that and upsetting me. I don't think she even cared. I am thankful every day for the child I have AND the one I'm carrying. Both are IVF babies and I am so grateful for my miracles. Come to find out, she said the same thing to my mother when we were going through the fertility treatments. My mom told her that was up to me and DH and wasn't any of their business. Go mom!
My SIL, who i see quite often and knows me very well, asked me if I had been having any cravings lately, I responded with not really but last week I had Jimmy Johns 3 times so maybe that was something. She paused for a significant amount of time and then goes "soooo, you aren't concerned with eating lunch meat at all, you know that's bad for the baby." I turned to her and responded with "I've been a vegetarian for five years..."
I know she was concerned, but the way she said it with the long pause and side eye bugged me! Like she thinks I'm not knowledgable. Come on, You know I don't eat meat! She is trying her hardest to be helpful, but she has four kids and this is my first so I am constantly getting unsolicited advice and sorts. And I know she's excited to finally become an aunt. I usually don't mind but this peeved me!
My SIL, who i see quite often and knows me very well, asked me if I had been having any cravings lately, I responded with not really but last week I had Jimmy Johns 3 times so maybe that was something. She paused for a significant amount of time and then goes "soooo, you aren't concerned with eating lunch meat at all, you know that's bad for the baby." I turned to her and responded with "I've been a vegetarian for five years..."
I know she was concerned, but the way she said it with the long pause and side eye bugged me! Like she thinks I'm not knowledgable. Come on, You know I don't eat meat! She is trying her hardest to be helpful, but she has four kids and this is my first so I am constantly getting unsolicited advice and sorts. And I know she's excited to finally become an aunt. I usually don't mind but this peeved me!
Their vegetarian subs are the best! They got me through the first tri
The only big thing that bugged me was my younger co-worker asking if my husband and I are financially ready for a baby. What kind of question is that? I told her if you wait for the perfect moment to get married or start a family, it may never happen! This baby is a blessing and we are so excited!
I was just told last night that I shouldn't be reaching overhead to turn off a light with a pull-switch because I shouldn't be straining. Omg. But this was said by DH's elderly great-aunt so I just laughed and turned off the light. I should've said that turning off the light was less straining than what I have to do in the bathroom sometimes. ;;)
Just wanted to jump in and say.. I am obsessed with jimmy johns veggie subs @AngelEsshaki ! Also a vegetarian. Sometimes they're all I want to eat! Plus hot peppers and a pickle!!!!!
Also people have mentioned to me that pit bulls kill babies.. Ugh. Gonna attach a photo of my sweet pit, Sonny who would never hurt a fly and loves children.!
I'm with you @CaraBoonie I haven't had any rude comments this pregnancy! I had a few when I was pregnant with DS but nothing to the caliber you ladies have gotten!
P.S. And people think the ladies on here are rude?!?
@SamJoR my sister and I are due 4 days apart. Worst we have to gotten is disappointment at delivering at different hospitals! But my family knows they were trying and we were not preventing but not trying,so maybe that stops dumb comments?
I love all these answers, I'm either laughing my head off at stupidity or boiling rage that people are that awful!
my husband and I got pregnant on the honeymoon. so I've gotten a lot of comments that we "celebrated" before the honeymoon. not that it's anyone's business (they sure make it their business!), but really getting tired of judgmental looks from people who thought that I was "impure" with my husband before we got married. This is the 21st century,I don't feel like it's anyone's right to judge. it's always this game of "how far are you? Oh, 17 weeks, will you have been married for 15 weeks. Hmmmmm" me-yes and for some reason the doctor decided to add two weeks because of my last period to are due date
my brother is mister funny man, but I really hate it when ever he says to my husband "she better be nice to you, cuz she's going to be putting you through a lot.I'm surprised you haven't left her yet." Right....like my husband watching me cry because my tailbone hurts is putting him through a lot.
or when my over protective husband won't let me carry a bagel. and drinks all my water out in public, but then when we're home and have access to drinks he won't even touch it and says its for the pregnant lady.
not to mention all the unsolicited advice from my mom, who is a control freak.
or when I'm in so much pain I get grouchy, and my husband is Mr sensitive about how I act, and says I'm being mean and that I should be more sensitive to his feelings. and I think "yes of course let's be completely courteous of your feelings, why don't we trade places."
@jodieHxx I totally feel you. How dare we find out something about our babies and can call them "he" or "she" instead of "it" before birth... how DARE we.
It's so funny because I get the opposite for NOT finding out. Smh, there's no pleasing people!
We have our anatomy scan tomorrow and I asked my MIL to watch our sons while we went. She replied that yes, she would and then she did the PRAYER HANDS emoticon with a quick "better be a girl!".
Like seriously?
SERIOUSLY?! Why do you care if I have three sons? (She already has a grand daughter)
If it's a boy, I don't even want to tell her. I already know that if I do, she will say something so inconsiderate that I'll be tempted to throat punch her. I may just have to say that the baby wasn't cooperating.
Re: can we have a vent about dumb things people say to us?
Also agree with a pp - anytime I'm around screaming, obnoxious kids I'm told "better get used to it." Nope, I most certainly won't get used to it because I won't let my kids run around screaming like little hellions.
I also hate when people ask if I want a boy or a girl. I really don't care either way, but if I did and stated a preference and my baby ends up being the opposite wouldn't that just be awful?
I haven't really told anyone about this pregnancy yet, but with the first 4 I heard:
-You'll need to get rid of all your cats now.
-Are you planning to do anything IMPORTANT with your life, or just have babies?
-You do know what birth control is, right?
-If it has Downs', I'll pay for the abortion. (My former MIL. We didn't speak to her for 2yrs after that.)
DS1 01/08/03 DD1 08/11/04 DD2 10/06/08 DS2 09/30/14
SURPRISE! Hannah May born 01/22/16
"You're eating a sandwich? I thought you couldant have lunch meat?"
"You want your burger with a little pink in the middle? I thought you couldn't have pink".
It's not like I eat this stuff all the time, and it's not like my meat is bleeding. I like it medium to medium well.
And EVERYONE comments on how I'm carrying. Some people say boys carry lower, and some say girls carry lower. Everyone has a different opinion on it. I'm having girl, but I'm carrying low because my uterus is still just at my belly button right now. Some People drive me crazy.
And maybe it's just me, but I can't STAND being asked 274928394 times a day how I'm feeling. I know they care, but don't ask me multiple times a day. The answer will be the same.
Oh! This is another one I'm dreading getting from people. My dog is not dangerous! I don't have a pit bull (though I used to and she was the best ever!) but I do have a 75lb bulldog, Minion. He's the most gentle thing. My 10month old could crawl into his food dish, WHILE he's eating, and Minion would just flop down and give me sad eyes until the baby was removed.
This is the sweetest baby ever.
DS1 01/08/03 DD1 08/11/04 DD2 10/06/08 DS2 09/30/14
SURPRISE! Hannah May born 01/22/16
Also you must want a girl because you have a boy. I want a healthy baby.
1. I shouldn't get anymore tattoos bc it won't look good for the baby. I have a bunch of tattoos that cover most of my arms and others. I know she is only saying this bc she personally doesn't like the fact that I have tattoos. She is a very traditional Korean woman and the culture does not really approve of them. What she will not like is that I plan on getting one after my baby is born with his footprints:) me having tattoos and is not going to predict how my baby will turn out. He will be loved and cared for just like any mom would...tattoos or not. It just pissed me off that she was trying to say he will have a bad life bc of it.
2. She said I shouldn't get anymore animals. I have 3 dogs and 2 cats but for whatever reason she thinks I have 1 dog and 1 cat. I have no idea where she got this from especially since she has seen pictures of all my babies. I am tempted to get another dog just bc now ( not that I would bc my house is already full)
3. She also said I should never carry anything and that DH should do all of it bc I could hurt the baby. Now I do have to say DH doesn't let me carry anything anyways. If I carry a grocery bag with bread in it his comment is " you shouldn't be carrying that put it down". I mean geez it's just bread! I'm not helpless so don't make me feel like I should be.
The only sort of backwards thing I heard was "how are you gonna wear those hip huggers? Won't be wearing them much longer, you're gonna get wider" from a customer...for the record...they're regular American Eagle jeans and I just started wearing maternity at 18 weeks, and not because I am "wider" lol because my belly is busting out and belly bands aren't for the actively moving jobs.
(This one was not) But telling people that this baby was a surprise sucks. Like previous posters said, people think you're just irresponsible. Ugh....
Like. Stfu. The baby is hardly 5 inches long, it does not have a giant body, much less a giant head.
Also my family keeps saying that if I keep calling baby a he (I say that because it's formal and better than calling baby an it) that if it's a girl I will give him gender identity problems because "it" spent all that time in the womb being called a he.
I had another coworker lecture me about drinking a cup of coffee during a meeting . "oh your baby is going to come out running if you keep drinking that coffee !". I responded I hope so , less pushing for me. Ugh WTH is wrong with people
I know she was concerned, but the way she said it with the long pause and side eye bugged me! Like she thinks I'm not knowledgable. Come on, You know I don't eat meat! She is trying her hardest to be helpful, but she has four kids and this is my first so I am constantly getting unsolicited advice and sorts. And I know she's excited to finally become an aunt. I usually don't mind but this peeved me!
Their vegetarian subs are the best! They got me through the first tri
Also people have mentioned to me that pit bulls kill babies.. Ugh. Gonna attach a photo of my sweet pit, Sonny who would never hurt a fly and loves children.!
P.S. And people think the ladies on here are rude?!?
I love all these answers, I'm either laughing my head off at stupidity or boiling rage that people are that awful!
my brother is mister funny man, but I really hate it when ever he says to my husband "she better be nice to you, cuz she's going to be putting you through a lot.I'm surprised you haven't left her yet." Right....like my husband watching me cry because my tailbone hurts is putting him through a lot.
or when my over protective husband won't let me carry a bagel. and drinks all my water out in public, but then when we're home and have access to drinks he won't even touch it and says its for the pregnant lady.
not to mention all the unsolicited advice from my mom, who is a control freak.
or when I'm in so much pain I get grouchy, and my husband is Mr sensitive about how I act, and says I'm being mean and that I should be more sensitive to his feelings. and I think "yes of course let's be completely courteous of your feelings, why don't we trade places."
Thanks for letting me vent! Much love
Like seriously?
SERIOUSLY?! Why do you care if I have three sons? (She already has a grand daughter)
If it's a boy, I don't even want to tell her. I already know that if I do, she will say something so inconsiderate that I'll be tempted to throat punch her. I may just have to say that the baby wasn't cooperating.