8 weeks to the day, purely because I was out of town and hadn't been on BC for the full 7 days. I felt no pain, only a second of discomfort, and didn't need lube persay, but may have been better with? Never actually used it tbh. Everything seemed just like before honestly.
I felt sex was rather intense during pregnancy and somewhat the same after. Not a bad intense-more heightened. Perhaps that's not the right word. I think the area is just more sensitive or maybe it's the hormones. I'm sure it will ease up once my hormones readjust but I'm not complaining haha.
We went for it at 6 weeks and never looked back. It was slightly painful but we went slow and used lube. The only thing is miss is the heightened blood flow down there made for some intense "o's" during pregnancy and that is definitely gone
We did it at 6w4d only because dh was out of town. Lots of lube and condoms were not fun for dh but I had fun lol. I had stitches too but no real pain we have done it since then too with no issues I get my iud on tuesday then have to wait 1 week until condoms are no longer needed. After 5 years of no condoms dh was not at all a fan hahaha. Whatever I'm in no mood to have another pregnancy so condoms it is.
We made it 4 1/2 weeks. Oops. It wasn't painful at all and didn't feel any different than before. Of course, I had a c-section (so no tears/stitches) and never dilated beyond a 5.
It offers good ideas and points, but when it mentioned using the breast milk for lubrication, I was a bit weirded out by that. To each their own though. Whatever keeps your sex life going. Lol
@taraperez04 I think she just told me to abstain so I don't accidentally get pregnant but I think we're just going to use condoms like your doctor said. They are 99.9% effective right?!
I got the ok from the doctor last Wednesday at my 6 week appointment but still haven't pulled the trigger. I am so nervous about it, and I had a csection! I'm thinking Thursday will be the day since it's my birthday. Wish me luck ☺️
I made it three weeks after csection. Best ever. It did feel like I was losing my virginity though. I think DH was afraid he was going to hurt me, but all in all great.
I had a third degree episiotomy and stitches Aren't even dissolved yet. Have my Pp checkup next Thursday and am so dreading just that. I don't think I'm ever going to want to have sex again. Hopefully it gets better. Happy for all you brave ladies. I'm absolutely petrified.
Possibly TMI but this thread is about sex soooo here we go....So my 6 week appt is next week, like, Tuesday, and my husband and I recently had sex. No discomfort, no bleeding, except a little dryness/burning around the area near my perineum. I check after...I STILL HAVE A STITCH!! I think I had like, moderate tearing, I haven't been in pain for a couple weeks and my bleeding, except a bit of spotting, has stopped. I hope I don't end up totally screwing things up down there because I couldn't wait a few more days....anyone else have sex and then realize their stitches weren't totally dissolved? Shouldn't they be by now?
Also, nothing hurts right now, and no blood. Having a bit of a freak out. Argh.
Possibly TMI but this thread is about sex soooo here we go....So my 6 week appt is next week, like, Tuesday, and my husband and I recently had sex. No discomfort, no bleeding, except a little dryness/burning around the area near my perineum. I check after...I STILL HAVE A STITCH!! I think I had like, moderate tearing, I haven't been in pain for a couple weeks and my bleeding, except a bit of spotting, has stopped. I hope I don't end up totally screwing things up down there because I couldn't wait a few more days....anyone else have sex and then realize their stitches weren't totally dissolved? Shouldn't they be by now?
Also, nothing hurts right now, and no blood. Having a bit of a freak out. Argh.
I still have stitches, my 6 week pp appt was this past Wednesday. We dtd about 4 hours after I got the all clear. SO could not wait any longer! So I don't think you did any harm related to still having a stitch, but that's just my 2 cents.
It's been 8 months for us. Which sounds crazy now that I really sit here and think about it. I had no sex drive while pregnant and wouldn't let hubby touch me. We also bought a house a month before baby was born which is currently undergoing remodeling so we're staying at my parents until it's done which is not for another month. I'm 7 weeks PP and have absolutely NO sex drive. STILL!! It doesn't help that were staying in my old room next to my parents room. Am I the only one experiencing this no sex drive thing? I'm thinking that once were back in our own home with privacy it will become more appealing but who knows (
Possibly TMI but this thread is about sex soooo here we go....So my 6 week appt is next week, like, Tuesday, and my husband and I recently had sex. No discomfort, no bleeding, except a little dryness/burning around the area near my perineum. I check after...I STILL HAVE A STITCH!! I think I had like, moderate tearing, I haven't been in pain for a couple weeks and my bleeding, except a bit of spotting, has stopped. I hope I don't end up totally screwing things up down there because I couldn't wait a few more days....anyone else have sex and then realize their stitches weren't totally dissolved? Shouldn't they be by now?
Also, nothing hurts right now, and no blood. Having a bit of a freak out. Argh.
I still have stitches, my 6 week pp appt was this past Wednesday. We dtd about 4 hours after I got the all clear. SO could not wait any longer! So I don't think you did any harm related to still having a stitch, but that's just my 2 cents.
You should be fine. I had the same thing, still stitches at my appt, but dr. said (with any physical activity) to live by the rule, if it hurts, don't do it. Well, we had already had sex a couple weeks before and everything was and still is fine
Thanks for the input guys! I am a bit relieved knowing that some of you still had stitches after your 6 week and got the all clear. I just honestly thought they'd be gone!
I went for my appt at 7 weeks. I did not even ask to be cleared for sex. I have muscle spasms down there and it hurts when I move wrong or just lay on my sides to sleep. I want sex so bad but there is no way. The worst spasm almost took me to the hospital and was the most horrible pain and I am so not going there. I start physical therapy for it next week so hopefully it will help me.
@mtav22 I didn't have much of a sex drive during pregnancy either - especially at the end. Thankfully my husband is super patient. However, I find (pregnant or not) that the more often I have sex the more in the mood I become. Perhaps you just need a recharge? Think about the times you and your SO had some wild trysts that you enjoyed or buy yourself some sexy underwear. Honestly, I'm still in the "shirt on, lights off" mode bc my body is not what I want it to be but when I get my mind in the mood my body follows. Also, Bruno Mars song "gorilla" helps haha. Hot damn!
Oh and since you are at your parents perhaps you can sneak away for an evening. There's nothing better than hotel sex! Haha
It's been 8 months for us. Which sounds crazy now that I really sit here and think about it. I had no sex drive while pregnant and wouldn't let hubby touch me. We also bought a house a month before baby was born which is currently undergoing remodeling so we're staying at my parents until it's done which is not for another month. I'm 7 weeks PP and have absolutely NO sex drive. STILL!! It doesn't help that were staying in my old room next to my parents room. Am I the only one experiencing this no sex drive thing? I'm thinking that once were back in our own home with privacy it will become more appealing but who knows (
It's been 8 months for us. Which sounds crazy now that I really sit here and think about it. I had no sex drive while pregnant and wouldn't let hubby touch me. We also bought a house a month before baby was born which is currently undergoing remodeling so we're staying at my parents until it's done which is not for another month. I'm 7 weeks PP and have absolutely NO sex drive. STILL!! It doesn't help that were staying in my old room next to my parents room. Am I the only one experiencing this no sex drive thing? I'm thinking that once were back in our own home with privacy it will become more appealing but who knows (
I'm with ya! Poor DH.
Double with ya...ugh
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
Sorry for the poor man's siggy...ticker won't load regardless of how many tips I read.
Feel bad for my poor husband...we went through IVF so there were a few weeks prior to pregnancy that were a nono. I was just too scared to have sex during pregnancy because we went through a hell of a lot to get the baby in there (images of my sister going into labor 2 months early with each of her kids after having intercourse the night prior also danced through my head like a persistent nightmare). It's not that I didn't want to, it's that I wanted our baby to be safe more than that. I just had a feeling in my gut to avoid it...and baby came 9 weeks early anyways...I stand by my decision because I feel that I may have risked his health and life if we had done it during my pregnancy. I had a csection so it has now been an additional 5 weeks pp.
I'm never going to get to have sex again I think the last time was March or April due to my lovely irritable uterus. None during the first tri due to a hemorrhage, so the sexy time was very limited during pregnancy. I had a c section and was supposed to go for my post op yesterday at 7 weeks since my doctor was on vacation last week. Had to cancel my appointment yesterday since LO has been sick and she didn't have anything till next Monday. I'll be 8 weeks by then. It'll be a good 5 months since we've had any adult time. Praying I get the all clear.
We had sex once during pregnancy. And it was at like 34 weeks once I was comfortable if I went into preterm labor for baby's chances. I had bleeding early on and then a marginal previa so I wasn't do anything risky. And now we still haven't. I'm bleeding everyday from mirena and I am NOT in the mood. Frankly I'm terrified of the pain. Gonna need a lot of wine and a lot of lube. Now that LO is sleeping through most of the nights I may not have an excuse...
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
Sorry for the poor man's siggy...ticker won't load regardless of how many tips I read.
I'm 6 weeks pp and had absolutely no sex drive whilst pregnant. Only did it every now and then because I felt so bad for my SO. Now his been counting down the days and I'm absolutely petrified!! Thank god I got my period today. That will put him off another week. Lots of wine and even more lube.
My DH googled my Virginia problem and everything said to wait 3-4 months after delivery because it could heal itself............... Okay. I'll wait that long... Then if it doesn't and I need surgery it'll be more weeks after that to wait. So. Stupid.
We had sex on & off during my pregnancy. I'm 9 weeks pp now and we've had sex 3 times & each time I've hurt so bad. This sucks! DH has been very patient, I knew he would be, but I'm frustrated. I hope this changes.
We still haven't done it at 9 weeks PP. we talk about it like we are going to but by the time LO is sleeping one of us is asleep too. This can't be good for our marriage! I am going to make it my mission to make it happen today!
Holy shit. Do not use the first time as an excuse to try fancy new "passionate" lube. We might as well have used hot sauce. An unsuccessful but hilarious first attempt!
Holy shit. Do not use the first time as an excuse to try fancy new "passionate" lube. We might as well have used hot sauce. An unsuccessful but hilarious first attempt!
Holy shit. Do not use the first time as an excuse to try fancy new "passionate" lube. We might as well have used hot sauce. An unsuccessful but hilarious first attempt!
Was it that warm up kind! That s*!$ burns!
Apparently! The bottle didn't say anything about heat though, just "enhancing mutual pleasure." Yeah, maybe if your "intimate area" hasn't recently stretched to accommodate a 7.5 lb baby.
Holy shit. Do not use the first time as an excuse to try fancy new "passionate" lube. We might as well have used hot sauce. An unsuccessful but hilarious first attempt!
Was it that warm up kind! That s*!$ burns!
Apparently! The bottle didn't say anything about heat though, just "enhancing mutual pleasure." Yeah, maybe if your "intimate area" hasn't recently stretched to accommodate a 7.5 lb baby.
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It offers good ideas and points, but when it mentioned using the breast milk for lubrication, I was a bit weirded out by that. To each their own though. Whatever keeps your sex life going. Lol
So I don't think you did any harm related to still having a stitch, but that's just my 2 cents.
It's been 8 months for us. Which sounds crazy now that I really sit here and think about it. I had no sex drive while pregnant and wouldn't let hubby touch me. We also bought a house a month before baby was born which is currently undergoing remodeling so we're staying at my parents until it's done which is not for another month. I'm 7 weeks PP and have absolutely NO sex drive. STILL!! It doesn't help that were staying in my old room next to my parents room. Am I the only one experiencing this no sex drive thing? I'm thinking that once were back in our own home with privacy it will become more appealing but who knows
Oh and since you are at your parents perhaps you can sneak away for an evening. There's nothing better than hotel sex! Haha
So. Stupid.