I left DH with a bound-up LO and a cranky 2 year old. My weekend escape has begun. I can check in to my hotel at noon and then I'm going to pump and take a nap. I will be sure to reward DH when I go home. I've been too tired for sexy time and that's the least he deserves. I'm a lucky gal.
@Sammy K fantastic. Girl, you enjoy that alone time! Get some sleep, go hit up the hotel pool and float for a while, sleep some more, have a drink with a leisurely dinner, sleep some more.... Its a baby-cation. Cheers to you, gal
I got pretty pissed off at DH last night for breaking the nighttime routine. For the 9pm feed before bed, I always take LO into the nursery and keep the room dark and quiet. By the time LO gets through eating and burping it usually takes around an hour. I'd been there for a hour and was trying to burp LO when DH came and took him to the living room to have a video call with his uncle - holding LO in a bright room in front of a screen for 10-15 mins, with LO spitting up every few minutes because he hadn't been burped properly. I didn't want to say anything in front of his uncle but I was really annoyed to have everything I'd been trying to do for the last hour undermined. I know that DHs uncle had only just managed to set up Skype and was really excited to see LO but 10pm is not an appropriate time to do this. At least DH helped get him down afterwards, and it probably didn't make a huge difference but it was still thoughtless of him.
On the more positive side, DH spent yesterday morning looking after LO while I went shopping and ran a few errands. While DH is pretty involved with LO it was the first time he'd looked after him on his own. When I got home the two of them were lying on the floor and DH was reading the Hobbit to LO - he was doing all the voices, and LO was loving it and giving his Daddy massive smiles. So cute!
@Sammy K sounds awesome and well deserved! Props to all you mamas with 2 little ones. I may be there in a few years, but I honestly don't know how you do it!
@amccoy129 The thing is, I'm not. I had a total meltdown and told DH I have no affection for LO. Colicky babies are hard. 2 year olds are hard too, but at least I get hugs and kisses and cuddles and I love yous. LO only screams. So don't think I've got this figured out, I'm a hot mess with serious mom guilt. I just have a great DH who saw I was in distress.
I got pretty pissed off at DH last night for breaking the nighttime routine. For the 9pm feed before bed, I always take LO into the nursery and keep the room dark and quiet. By the time LO gets through eating and burping it usually takes around an hour. I'd been there for a hour and was trying to burp LO when DH came and took him to the living room to have a video call with his uncle - holding LO in a bright room in front of a screen for 10-15 mins, with LO spitting up every few minutes because he hadn't been burped properly. I didn't want to say anything in front of his uncle but I was really annoyed to have everything I'd been trying to do for the last hour undermined. I know that DHs uncle had only just managed to set up Skype and was really excited to see LO but 10pm is not an appropriate time to do this. At least DH helped get him down afterwards, and it probably didn't make a huge difference but it was still thoughtless of him.
On the more positive side, DH spent yesterday morning looking after LO while I went shopping and ran a few errands. While DH is pretty involved with LO it was the first time he'd looked after him on his own. When I got home the two of them were lying on the floor and DH was reading the Hobbit to LO - he was doing all the voices, and LO was loving it and giving his Daddy massive smiles. So cute!
My DH does the same thing!! Wants to FaceTime when the baby has just eaten and he's not burping him. Then he gets fussy. I'll say let me take him but he'll say no which is reallllly frustrating. The other night my FIL wanted to face time at 9pm and I said no. Like seriously? I'm exhausted and it's way to late.
DH picked up and went to the beach last night with his coworker's girlfriend, his coworker, another guy, and two girls I don't even know. Didn't say shit to me. Said he left his phone at home. Completely out of reach all night.
You have a fucking infant. You can't be out of reach and you can't pick up and go. Like sorry you're not a single guy any more. Get your shit together. I was out of town last night, he wouldn't have done that if I were home.
I am getting so close to just calling it quits. I'm basically a single mother already anyway.
@Sammy K I honestly don't know how you do it. This is our first baby, and he's a good baby. Only cries when he's tired or hungry, and has only been inconsolable a handful of times for 30 minutes, tops. Not bragging, but just saying, that all that and I STILL get frustrated with him. We're all sleep deprived, and with a two year old you're getting less sleep than I am. I just told my husband I don't know how people with colicky/ super fussy babies do it. I'll probably be eating my words if I have a second because it seems that's how it works. It's definitely well deserved! And I don't think anyone EVER has it figured out! When we finally think we do, they'll be teenagers. Who the hell can figure out a teen? Hang in there! This will pass!
I am getting so close to just calling it quits. I'm basically a single mother already anyway.
i totally feel you on this. it feels like we're roommates instead of husband and wife.
DH doesnt spend too much time with LO. and i know its cause he is working but even when he is off he is just on his computer playing his game. the only time DH has him is when i ask him to change a diaper or the rare time that he just picks LO up. the only time we spend together is in bed sleeping/the few minutes before DH gets up to get ready for work. lately he hasnt even been saying goodbye. we dont talk much anymore because we have basically nothing to talk about. for the last few nights he has just been gone. out for walks or hanging out with his friends. i feel like a single mother living in someone else's house. part of me is concerned he is out with some other woman. as im not doing anything for him in that department lately. everything just sucks right now.
So I have two jobs and I went to my waitressing job last night and had a complete breakdown. Luckily my boss, whose male, gave me some great advice. Mostly about how guys are dumb and don't understand the parenting thing as soon as we do. He fortunately let me go home since I was a hot mess of horomones and sleep deprevation. Thank god because it was a closing shift and I would have been there maybe until 1030. Once I got home, DH had baby. I started cleaning like mad crazy, it's what I do when I'm Upset lol Once I got a good chunk done I finally broke down to DH explaining that I feel like everytime I leave our daughter wih him it's like He's babysitting. I feel guilty for asking him to do things, like its a chore for him. I hate that he makes all these plans with his friends or that this year he again signed up for a bowling league and didn't even ask me. This is after knowing that i will now have 2 jobs, full time nursing school and a baby. But yeah go ahead and join your bowling league again and I'll just go work my other jobs or have to stay home to take care of our child. I need breaks too. And I hate that when we are out with friends that I have to tell him we have to leave so LO can go to sleep early and we can start the bed time routine. I hate that he always tells his friends he has to "ask his wife". No buddy you shouldn't have to ask you should know that you are now a father and you have responsibilities to your child. I can't be the one to solely take care of her and you can just go do as you please. And yes when you ask me I'm going to feel terrible to say no. But you shouldn't even have to ask. You should just know what you can't do as easily anymore. I think he finally got it. Here's hoping
We have a large pack of Huggies that we keep at Grandma's. They don't fit, and cause blow outs. DH insisted we use them yesterday and I said, "ok, but they don't fit, so we need to be careful."
DH got LO ready for bed when we got home - while I brought our suitcases in from the car. Miracle of miracles, LO slept til 5:00 am!! When he woke to feed, I feel a sticky mess on his entire back.
So I woke DH to help me, made him rinse the poop out of the swaddle, PJs and sheets, and said, "oh, he's still in the Huggies?! We should have changed him."
DH throws a mini tantrum. HE is mad, because I pointed this out. What I didn't say, but wanted to, was "Not only should you have known Huggies cause this problem, but why would you think you could just leave a 2 hour old diaper on the baby when putting him to bed."
It makes me so angry that I have to be the one to apologize for saying "we should have changed him" when DH should be the one apologizing to LO for letting him simmer in his own poop for 9 hours.
I am trying to just eat my words so we stop fighting. And I know he gets mad when he feels guilty. But I want to freaking scream. No, you do not get points for getting the baby ready for bed if you leave him in a dirty diaper of the wrong size. Smh.
@rrcameron21@mellymar it's so frustrating. Last time I "left" I had to go back after a week because his grandparents were coming into town. This time I brought the big suitcases. Baby and I are settling in at my parents and we're not going back (except for a day trip when she has to get her shots) until significant change is made. I'm not going back with the first sweet gesture, he has to prove himself because I'm so sick of putting up with his crap and I won't do it now that we have a baby. So tired of being taken for granted, so sick of not being a priority. He doesn't even call to check on the baby... Doesn't ask for pictures. We are out of sight, out of mind.
I feel okay being away from him for a while. I think he needs some time to figure out what he wants and what's more important to him. If being a single party boy is more important to him than we are- I'll be glad to finally know and stop wasting my time and keep getting my feelings hurt. If things work out- great! If they don't- I'm not the first person to go through this and I'll move on with my daughter.
@jessheppell do you have a support system other than your husband? It's tough being in a sticky/hostile situation with your SO. A support system makes everything not suck, just some things.
@katyertl crossing my fingers that your DH takes your talk to heart. You have a lot going on (super mom) and deserve some help!
Colicky babies are stressful. Really really stressful some days. After about an hour and a half struggle to get DS to sleep last night I asked DH to hold him so I could pee. This was about 10. I peed, washed my face and put on pajamas. (You know, instead of just sleeping in whatever clothes I was wearing as I do other nights.) This took about 5-6 minutes. DS was still sleeping in DH's arms so I thought okay, I can eat! I made toast, and got a glass of water. DH says, "I thought you just had to pee..." in this super annoyed voice. All he had going on was a computer game. And I even waited until he was at a stopping point to pee. It's just very hard because DH works until midnight 6 days a week. And then he has 3 days off, but this last week he was required to work an extra shift. So I go through the nighttime terror alone almost every night. On the nights DH is home he usually puts on headphones because 'the crying is hard to handle.' YA THINK!!! Then this morning DS decided 2am was a good time to get up. I feed LO at 3 and then woke up DH and told him there was a bottle in the fridge but that I needed at least two consecutive hours of sleep because it has been about 5 weeks now without it and I feel like I am losing my mind! So at 3:30 he said okay and to get some rest. But at 4:40 he woke me up and said he was "too tired" and that he gave me 'more than an hour.' ARE YOU KIDDING ME!!!! I finally got LO to sleep around 5:45 and was up by 7:45. Don't worry, there was another feeding in between. I wish this kid would go more than an hour or so in between eating! And that DH would actually help! I just feel so alone and almost wish that he just left. At least I wouldn't have to keep picking up after him and deal with his crap.
AAAAAAGGGGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!
*i hate when he says he is tired *i hate when he asks me what I am making for dinner. Why don't you cook me something! (Or at least pick up take out food) *i hate when he asks if he can have some down time because he is tired from a long week at work *i hate when he says "yeah I'll help you, just let me get a shower and dressed and something to eat first."
Sorry I just needed to get a lot off my chest! I feel like when I try and say anything to my mom or sisters they just keep saying I need to give DH a break and not expect so much from him...so I guess they think I am a mom from 1950...but if that's the case I should not have to go back to work in a couple of weeks.
Good luck to all you other mommas out there! And those of you with awesome DH's who help with the baby, do they naturally just bond with baby or did you do something to help it along? I feel like so much of it is just him not feeling comfortable around DS.
Rave: Today was DHs first day back at work so last night and all day today have been all me. He works from home, but it doesn't leave time for a lunch break let alone time for him to grab LO so I can eat/pee/whatever. I knew this starting today and was ready to take it head on, instead DH has taken five minute breaks randomly to grab LO so I can pee. He made me breakfast this morning and got LO to sleep before he went in so I could nap.
He's running about 50/50 with the "I want to kill you" to "I married a saint" ratio
Good luck to all you other mommas out there! And those of you with awesome DH's who help with the baby, do they naturally just bond with baby or did you do something to help it along? I feel like so much of it is just him not feeling comfortable around DS.
I think there are two issues- being a good dad and being a good partner. Yeah, it can take a while to be comfortable with a new baby and fatherhood, but regardless of the baby he should be seeing your struggles and just wanting to help you out. I'm not addressing you and your husband in particular, just a general trend I see here.
Every woman here is doing SO awesome and some of you really deserve better. I hope all these dudes wake up and realize how lucky they are.
DH tried to instigate sexy time after we put LO down last night. Trying to be sneaky and think that I wasn't onto his plan - since he had to work today I had sole overnight responsibilities, and he gets to sleep all night. So for him, its no thing to just go to sleep a little bit later. For me, its taking up a chunk of my precious 2 hour sleep window. Hell no. If you get to sleep all night and I don't, then I'm going to sleep now. Its 11pm and I've been busy all day, I'm freaking tired, and will have to be up again for 1-2 hours in another 2 hours.
Rave: today I said to DH, "Can we talk about our history and how we got to this point? Because I'm forgetting why we are doing this."
He immediately started from the first summer we were dating 10 years ago, telling me his favorite memories in detail. Then went through our whole dating history until we got married. My parents arrived then so he had to stop. But it made me giddy and set a really nice tone for the day. I knew I loved this dude.
@virginiaunicorn11 One thing I like is to ask DH "Why did we have kids?" but not in a sarcastic tone. Then we would lay in bed and he'd tell me all the great things about having kids and his favorite childhood memories. It always made me feel good when I was having an "oh shit, I've made a huge mistake" moment.
We had agreed we'd move back to NJ from Philly and I'd go back to school. I'm back in NJ, all signed up for fall classes, crashing at my parents, "separated" from my husband, and guess who is looking for apartments in Philly? He is. I guess he has no interest in joining us up here or trying to work things out.
Here's the kicker: we were texting about Halloween costumes and I sent him the picture of the cupcake and baker costume, he thought it was me and LO. He asked where we got it and where we went.
@mvargas12 just wow! @-) He sounds like he needs to do some serious thinking about how his choices can permanently effect his future with you and LO. I'm glad you at least have the support of your parents. So sorry you have to deal with this crap.
Thanks ladies. I know sometimes things just don't work out and it'll be okay. Right now it hurts and I cry. He seems alright so that sucks. I know eventually I'll get over it and everything will come back to bite him in the ass. I'm waiting to see what happens when the friend he leans on the most moves to California at the end of this month. Who will have his back then?
In the meantime I'm just going on with my life. If he decides he wants to be with us, he better do it soon before I put him and our marriage completely behind me.
@KarasTwin I love that. Think I can tattoo it in his forehead? Lol
Rant: DH never finishes a feeding session with LO. He always gets most of the way through and makes a small comment about how she likes me better or how long it's taking (yeah it's like 45 minutes each feed, I KNOW!) and then I offer to finish up. I don't mind, but it's seriously frequent considering he only does one session on weekdays.
Rave: he dealt with our maggot filled trash can tonight that had to go out for garbage-night.
So I kinda think we are square right now, I gotta be honest!
@mvargas12 as bad timing as this may be, i envy your strength. but of course the situation sucks and im sorry youre going through it. i totally understand how you feel.
Rave: Today's my birthday and my DH treated me like a queen. I'm talking the works. Feels so good to finally have some romance!! Caring for the LO is wonderful and a great bonding experience for us but has also led to at least one experience per day where it's amazing we don't stab each other.
@mvargas12 I'm terribly sorry for what you are going thru. I hope things turn out in a way that leaves you and your LO happier.
@dianabeee Yes. A zillion times yes. I've got a colicky baby as well and it's normal to be frustrated with things when you are the one dealing with it all the time! I've been there and it's a place I keep going back to, unfortunately. And my DH gets so huffy when DD starts to cry and pitch a fit, I understand.
Rant: DH didn't have to work tonight...and it was after 8 and I had to run to the store to put gas in the car, since I've got a big interview tomorrow that's a little ways away. Instead of DD staying at home with DH, he says 'why don't you take her with you, and I can clean some' fine, okay, she went with me and screamed the entire time I was getting gas. She finally fell asleep on the way back home. Got home and I needed to get a shower Bc I won't have time tomorrow between getting DD ready to go to her aunt's and me to my interview. I ask DH to watch DD (she's asleep) and he complains Bc a tv show he loves is coming on and knows she will get fussy and he won't be able to watch it. What happens? I have to take her in the bathroom with me so I can shower, no problem but I'm not out long enough to find clothes to wear for the interview and she starts crying. It's sad I'm looking forward to this interview Bc it's the only alone to myself time I'll have for a while (
I don't feel strong. I feel weak and I feel so helpless, like everything is out of my control. I keep a positive attitude but sad and negative thoughts creep in often. I can't say this enough, my parents are my rock right now. They push me and help me and keep me sane. I hope these feelings of helplessness stop coming so that I can feel strong instead. Im just thankful that Brooke is weeks old while this goes on, my heart would break if she understood what was going on or if she could get a better sense that something's not right.
Thank you ladies again for letting me vent and for being so encouraging of me. Stranger hugs all around because it really does make my heart happy
talking as if its yesterday. so after 2 days of fighting with DH, (more like him getting mad at me over text about me not being supportive and other stuff) i finally got fed up and took LO and left to go to my sisters house while he was at work yesterday. he didnt text me to ask where i was till a few hours after he was done work, when i didnt tell him where i was, he contacted my mom asking her. at this point im questioning if this relationship is even worth it, he says i dont do anything for him that he cant do for himself, and at this point he only really pays for some things and drives me places occasionally. my sister read all the texts between us for the past 2 days and she says he is verbally abusive (while he says that about me) and i dont even know what to do anymore.
I'm so sad to read these posts. I have heard and read that the first few months after having a baby are difficult for even the strongest of relationships. My two cents - maybe couples therapy? My husband and I have gone several times (a few before marriage and a few before TTC), and I've found that a lot of the times when I'm asking him for something he doesn't hear the same thing I'm saying. Sometimes an "interpreter" can help.
I say this as I am annoyed at my husband for golfing today when I haven't had any "me" time in weeks!
My issues aren't baby related. He was just my boyfriend when we found out I was pregnant and I was so close to breaking up with him. Unfortunately we both felt pressure to get married because of the baby and now here we are. Our marriage was forced and "relationships and farts are the same in that if you have to force it it's probably shit" (thanks, Facebook). Counseling wouldn't work for us because he has a hard time being honest or opening up. Even simple communication between us is like pulling teeth. It is a great suggestion for two people who are both open to making the relationship work.
@JessHeppell have you guys considered counseling? Btw, verbal abuse = not okay. Be confident, be positive he can't get you down if you don't get him.
@mvargas12 totally get it! I was probably saying it more for my own good as I sit here stewing and doing the thing I said I wouldn't - comparing how much I do vs him. DH owns his own business and hasn't had work in months. Thankfully I have a paid leave and make enough to support us. When I said he could stay home with LO he said he'd rather get a part time job making enough for day care. Made me sad bc I would stay home in a second if I had the choice. Stupid money.
@mvargas12 and @JessHeppell I'm so sorry that ya'll are going through this. I'm glad you both have family there for you and I hope that you are both able to do what's best for you and your LOs. Creepy internet stranger hugs to ya'll!
i wish my husband understood that just because you say something (ex. "i dont want you to go") doesnt change or override everything else you said that makes me feel the opposite.
also i went grocery shopping the day before i left. and i bet when i get back he will have either eaten all the quick easy stuff i bought, or, have just bought fast food for every meal.
I was coaching LO on saying momma while we were in the living room hanging out as a family. I reminded DH that our son said it at around three months (I think). So I'm in the kitchen making dinner and overhear DH coaching her on dada. So cute....the race is on to see which one she says first.
Re: DH/SO rants & raves 8/3-8/9
On the more positive side, DH spent yesterday morning looking after LO while I went shopping and ran a few errands. While DH is pretty involved with LO it was the first time he'd looked after him on his own. When I got home the two of them were lying on the floor and DH was reading the Hobbit to LO - he was doing all the voices, and LO was loving it and giving his Daddy massive smiles. So cute!
You have a fucking infant. You can't be out of reach and you can't pick up and go. Like sorry you're not a single guy any more. Get your shit together. I was out of town last night, he wouldn't have done that if I were home.
I am getting so close to just calling it quits. I'm basically a single mother already anyway.
DH doesnt spend too much time with LO. and i know its cause he is working but even when he is off he is just on his computer playing his game. the only time DH has him is when i ask him to change a diaper or the rare time that he just picks LO up. the only time we spend together is in bed sleeping/the few minutes before DH gets up to get ready for work. lately he hasnt even been saying goodbye. we dont talk much anymore because we have basically nothing to talk about. for the last few nights he has just been gone. out for walks or hanging out with his friends. i feel like a single mother living in someone else's house. part of me is concerned he is out with some other woman. as im not doing anything for him in that department lately.
everything just sucks right now.
Once I got home, DH had baby. I started cleaning like mad crazy, it's what I do when I'm
Upset lol
Once I got a good chunk done I finally broke down to DH explaining that I feel like everytime I leave our daughter wih him it's like
He's babysitting. I feel guilty for asking him to do things, like its a chore for him. I hate that he makes all these plans with his friends or that this year he again signed up for a bowling league and didn't even ask me. This is after knowing that i will now have 2 jobs, full time nursing school and a baby. But yeah go ahead and join your bowling league again and I'll just go work my other jobs or have to stay home to take care of our child. I need breaks too. And I hate that when we are out with friends that I have to tell him we have to leave so LO can go to sleep early and we can start the bed time routine. I hate that he always tells his friends he has to "ask his wife".
No buddy you shouldn't have to ask you should know that you are now a father and you have responsibilities to your child. I can't be the one to solely take care of her and you can just go do as you please. And yes when you ask me I'm going to feel terrible to say no. But you shouldn't even have to ask. You should just know what you can't do as easily anymore.
I think he finally got it. Here's hoping
DH got LO ready for bed when we got home - while I brought our suitcases in from the car. Miracle of miracles, LO slept til 5:00 am!! When he woke to feed, I feel a sticky mess on his entire back.
So I woke DH to help me, made him rinse the poop out of the swaddle, PJs and sheets, and said, "oh, he's still in the Huggies?! We should have changed him."
DH throws a mini tantrum. HE is mad, because I pointed this out. What I didn't say, but wanted to, was "Not only should you have known Huggies cause this problem, but why would you think you could just leave a 2 hour old diaper on the baby when putting him to bed."
It makes me so angry that I have to be the one to apologize for saying "we should have changed him" when DH should be the one apologizing to LO for letting him simmer in his own poop for 9 hours.
I am trying to just eat my words so we stop fighting. And I know he gets mad when he feels guilty. But I want to freaking scream. No, you do not get points for getting the baby ready for bed if you leave him in a dirty diaper of the wrong size. Smh.
I feel okay being away from him for a while. I think he needs some time to figure out what he wants and what's more important to him. If being a single party boy is more important to him than we are- I'll be glad to finally know and stop wasting my time and keep getting my feelings hurt. If things work out- great! If they don't- I'm not the first person to go through this and I'll move on with my daughter.
@jessheppell do you have a support system other than your husband? It's tough being in a sticky/hostile situation with your SO. A support system makes everything not suck, just some things.
@katyertl crossing my fingers that your DH takes your talk to heart. You have a lot going on (super mom) and deserve some help!
AAAAAAGGGGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!
*i hate when he says he is tired
*i hate when he asks me what I am making for dinner. Why don't you cook me something! (Or at least pick up take out food)
*i hate when he asks if he can have some down time because he is tired from a long week at work
*i hate when he says "yeah I'll help you, just let me get a shower and dressed and something to eat first."
Sorry I just needed to get a lot off my chest! I feel like when I try and say anything to my mom or sisters they just keep saying I need to give DH a break and not expect so much from him...so I guess they think I am a mom from 1950...but if that's the case I should not have to go back to work in a couple of weeks.
Good luck to all you other mommas out there! And those of you with awesome DH's who help with the baby, do they naturally just bond with baby or did you do something to help it along? I feel like so much of it is just him not feeling comfortable around DS.
He's running about 50/50 with the "I want to kill you" to "I married a saint" ratio
Every woman here is doing SO awesome and some of you really deserve better. I hope all these dudes wake up and realize how lucky they are.
He immediately started from the first summer we were dating 10 years ago, telling me his favorite memories in detail. Then went through our whole dating history until we got married. My parents arrived then so he had to stop. But it made me giddy and set a really nice tone for the day. I knew I loved this dude.
We had agreed we'd move back to NJ from Philly and I'd go back to school. I'm back in NJ, all signed up for fall classes, crashing at my parents, "separated" from my husband, and guess who is looking for apartments in Philly? He is. I guess he has no interest in joining us up here or trying to work things out.
Here's the kicker: we were texting about Halloween costumes and I sent him the picture of the cupcake and baker costume, he thought it was me and LO. He asked where we got it and where we went.
In the meantime I'm just going on with my life. If he decides he wants to be with us, he better do it soon before I put him and our marriage completely behind me.
@KarasTwin I love that. Think I can tattoo it in his forehead? Lol
Rave: he dealt with our maggot filled trash can tonight that had to go out for garbage-night.
So I kinda think we are square right now, I gotta be honest!
edit:hit send too soon
I'm terribly sorry for what you are going thru. I hope things turn out in a way that leaves you and your LO happier.
@dianabeee
Yes. A zillion times yes. I've got a colicky baby as well and it's normal to be frustrated with things when you are the one dealing with it all the time! I've been there and it's a place I keep going back to, unfortunately. And my DH gets so huffy when DD starts to cry and pitch a fit, I understand.
Rant: DH didn't have to work tonight...and it was after 8 and I had to run to the store to put gas in the car, since I've got a big interview tomorrow that's a little ways away. Instead of DD staying at home with DH, he says 'why don't you take her with you, and I can clean some'
Thank you ladies again for letting me vent and for being so encouraging of me. Stranger hugs all around because it really does make my heart happy
at this point im questioning if this relationship is even worth it, he says i dont do anything for him that he cant do for himself, and at this point he only really pays for some things and drives me places occasionally.
my sister read all the texts between us for the past 2 days and she says he is verbally abusive (while he says that about me) and i dont even know what to do anymore.
I say this as I am annoyed at my husband for golfing today when I haven't had any "me" time in weeks!
@JessHeppell have you guys considered counseling? Btw, verbal abuse = not okay. Be confident, be positive he can't get you down if you don't get him.
also i went grocery shopping the day before i left. and i bet when i get back he will have either eaten all the quick easy stuff i bought, or, have just bought fast food for every meal.
ETA: i bought those pizza pops for me :-L