I'll get us started. If one more person says "it'll get worse" or "be greatful for your pregnancy, " I'm going to have to get all stabby. I do not like being pregnant, it took us a long time to get pregnant. I had terrible morning sickness 1st trimester, I've been managing GD since week 11, I've had back issues since May, and now I'm in constant pain with my sides and back. My chiropractor helps, but he's out if town this week. I don't like the strong kicks the baby is doing every night from 1-4 AM. I've been seriously tokd that "pregnant women should be happy." If that were the case, I wouldn't be in terrible pain.
My confession: The Never-Have-I-Ever post made me feel so much better about finding new mommy friends. I live in a community of hoity-toity women who push $1000 strollers and hire nannies so they can go do yoga and have extended lunches with their friends. I can safely say that I am the outlier here (because god knows I can't afford that lifestyle). But I have been to enough salons and brunch spots to hear these women talk and most of them have sticks so far up their butts that there is no way I could ever fit in. Being the only one of my friends in close proximity with a baby, I know I'm going to need friends in the same situation, and I've been scared.
It was great to see that there really are moms out there who haven't turned into prudish pearl clutchers, who will happily put their kids to bed so they can drink at home and watch R rated movies and call their babies little demons when they are acting up. If I can find my people here, I can find them in real life!
I dont want to go to my out of state baby shower this weekend. Im very grateful, dont get me wrong, but I'll be around lots of DHs family that ive never met which makes me nervous to begin with, and on top of that im sick. Lost my voice, can barely breathe, migraine for days, and snot everywhere. Also worried about how to handle my pup around so many strangers, in an environment she's not used to, while she too is sick/hurt. Wish we could just both stay in bed like we are right now.
This past week or so I have been finishing off DD1's lunch (after I'm sure she's totally done-I don't take it from her mouth!) because it's just enough to hold me over till nap time so I can make my own lunch and eat it without having to share...
@smlowe9311, I hate sharing my food with DD lately. I get all toddler-grabby-mine and want it all to myself. I validate that feeling by saying it's for baby brother. That's okay, right?
I'm usually of the mindset of "I'm pregnant, not elderly!" when people try to tell me I "can't" do things (like lift anything heavier than five freaking pounds), but at the same time I get so offended when people are less than courteous to me, especially because I'm pregnant. Like, who the hell (*KNOWINGLY*) lets a door shut in anyone's face, let alone a pregnant woman's?! Or takes their parking spot, forcing a grumpy, sleep-deprived pregnant lady (whose pelvis feels like it's going to break in two with every step) to walk way further to the office building.
BTW, the same slunt is responsible for doing both. Maybe my confession should be that I hate her? Because I hate her.
@LiveNLove44 absolutely! Haha. I usually don't mind but I just want to eat without either having to share with her or having to help her finish her own meal every once in a while! What's the mantra we'll be practicing when out lo's come? "This too shall pass"? Haha.
I'm usually of the mindset of "I'm pregnant, not elderly!" when people try to tell me I "can't" do things (like lift anything heavier than five freaking pounds), but at the same time I get so offended when people are less than courteous to me, especially because I'm pregnant. Like, who the hell (*KNOWINGLY*) lets a door shut in anyone's face, let alone a pregnant woman's?! Or takes their parking spot, forcing a grumpy, sleep-deprived pregnant lady (whose pelvis feels like it's going to break in two with every step) to walk way further to the office building.
BTW, the same slunt is responsible for doing both. Maybe my confession should be that I hate her? Because I hate her.
I don't feel like adulting today or dealing with stupid. I'm not in the mood. I feel like I've been depressed, sad and overwhelmed the last few days and very tired. I think this not taking any PTO because I need to save it up for the pregnancy is starting to get to me. I so could use a day just to get my hair done, get a massage, get that pedicure finally. I'm starting to develop talons! I'm usually a very happy like to be funny girl but not the this past week for sure. Labor Day weekend cannot get here fast enough!
During my commute I see tons of people with delicious ice coffees. Since before I found out I was pregnant coffee does not taste the same. I love coffee but baby doesn't! I keep trying to buy small iced mochas or chai anything to supplement but nothing taste quite the same as iced plain coffee with cream or soy. Mmmm. Sometimes I take big gulps of DHs Regular iced coffee and part of me cringes but the very small spark of prepregnant Me loves it. Then I get a headache lol.
I confess that I *try* to be a happy pregnant person. But I'm tired and in pain. I'm starting to feel like surviving the next 9 weeks is really all I'm going to be able to do. I'm tired of people asking how I'm doing.. Do you really want to know that it feels like someone took a baseball bat to my pelvis and tailbone and that every time I get dressed or stand up I squeal in pain. And I'm also starting to get a little case of pregnancy rage -- I just want to throw all my electronics all the time!!
There is also a virus spreading through my family. DH has been sick for two weeks, LO has a fever, and I have a fun cough. Cough doesn't describe it. I've had it for two days and I already have sore ribs and a sore back. It is also such a deep cough that it activates my gag reflex. The pressure from the coughing and a 4+ pound baby on my bladder means I am now wearing a pad, and I still went through 6 pair of underwear yesterday. Sleep is also nonexistent.
Co-workers have seen my face today and been visibly alarmed.
I'm usually of the mindset of "I'm pregnant, not elderly!" when people try to tell me I "can't" do things (like lift anything heavier than five freaking pounds), but at the same time I get so offended when people are less than courteous to me, especially because I'm pregnant. Like, who the hell (*KNOWINGLY*) lets a door shut in anyone's face, let alone a pregnant woman's?! Or takes their parking spot, forcing a grumpy, sleep-deprived pregnant lady (whose pelvis feels like it's going to break in two with every step) to walk way further to the office building.
BTW, the same slunt is responsible for doing both. Maybe my confession should be that I hate her? Because I hate her.
Two things:
1) Slunt is such a great term.
2) You should have curbed checked her.
Thank you, thank you. I stole it from One Tree Hill actually, haha! And if I could, I would have. I can't tell you how many times I've been THIS CLOSE *holds finger and thumb a millimeter apart* to just punching her in the face. I'm not a physical person and I've never even been close to being in a fight but....right now I'm riddled with pregnancy hormones. How does she not realize what a dangerous line it is that she's walking?!
Oh, the pregnancy rage. X( Had an informal meeting that butted into my lunch time, where we had to deal with this very ugly, clunky, confusing piece of software that I absolutely despise. And I'm the resident tech guru, so I had to help troubleshoot. The meeting dragged on and on, even after we figured out the issue. Normally I'm laid back and easy going, but I wanted to scream the entire time. Ended up excusing myself because I was getting hangry. Luckily my boss is awesome and told me to go on and eat, I looked pale, that she would catch me up later.
And if one more person tells me 'you asked for this,' I will scream. And likely throw things. At least it's Friday...
My confession: The Never-Have-I-Ever post made me feel so much better about finding new mommy friends. I live in a community of hoity-toity women who push $1000 strollers and hire nannies so they can go do yoga and have extended lunches with their friends. I can safely say that I am the outlier here (because god knows I can't afford that lifestyle). But I have been to enough salons and brunch spots to hear these women talk and most of them have sticks so far up their butts that there is no way I could ever fit in. Being the only one of my friends in close proximity with a baby, I know I'm going to need friends in the same situation, and I've been scared.
It was great to see that there really are moms out there who haven't turned into prudish pearl clutchers, who will happily put their kids to bed so they can drink at home and watch R rated movies and call their babies little demons when they are acting up. If I can find my people here, I can find them in real life!
I heard a mom in Target the other day tell her son (maybe 8 years old) she would run him over with the cart (not sure what he did...). I laughed, a lot. Gotta have a sense of humor! And sheesh, if you've got a nanny so you can hang with your friends, you may not be spending enough time with your kid to see when he's acting like a demon! (Disclaimer: I definitely do not mean this of EVERY parent with a nanny...but definitely SOME of them.)
I'm seriously irritated with people telling me what I should be doing. I should be walking, I should be eating right, I should be getting things together for maternity leave, I should wear makeup, I should fix my hair, I should buy a cute outfit, I should take my maternity pictures here, I should, I should, I should. It leaves me saying, you should leave me the hell alone. Argh! This morning I told my mother I was going to plant my happy self on my couch and read a book this weekend. Her response: You should be cleaning house and getting everything together before LO gets here. You don't have long you know... As if I needed the reminder, mother.
I'm currently shopping for a new book on B&N. If I do a load of laundry, think that will get people off my back?
Oh, the pregnancy rage. X( Had an informal meeting that butted into my lunch time, where we had to deal with this very ugly, clunky, confusing piece of software that I absolutely despise. And I'm the resident tech guru, so I had to help troubleshoot. The meeting dragged on and on, even after we figured out the issue. Normally I'm laid back and easy going, but I wanted to scream the entire time. Ended up excusing myself because I was getting hangry. Luckily my boss is awesome and told me to go on and eat, I looked pale, that she would catch me up later.
And if one more person tells me 'you asked for this,' I will scream. And likely throw things. At least it's Friday...
This. ALL of this. I had a coworker (a very dear, sweet friend) say to me early in my pregnancy something along those lines when we were talking about going out for drinks to celebrate the end of the school year. I know I wanted another baby. I love this baby growing inside me. But yes, I do wish I could have an occasional drink. I get you don't want to carry a baby just yet and that's fine but because you have't had kids yet means you just don't quite get what it feels like.
I'm seriously irritated with people telling me what I should be doing. I should be walking, I should be eating right, I should be getting things together for maternity leave, I should wear makeup, I should fix my hair, I should buy a cute outfit, I should take my maternity pictures here, I should, I should, I should. It leaves me saying, you should leave me the hell alone. Argh! This morning I told my mother I was going to plant my happy self on my couch and read a book this weekend. Her response: You should be cleaning house and getting everything together before LO gets here. You don't have long you know... As if I needed the reminder, mother.
I'm currently shopping for a new book on B&N. If I do a load of laundry, think that will get people off my back?
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What you should be doing is getting yourself a nice massage and telling everyone else to go f*&k themselves ;-)
i am officially getting mini panic attacks, it has happened to me 2 times in the last 3 days and everytime its been brought on by my seeing how fast this baby is going to be here. I ordered my crib (FINALLY!!!) and i got very panicky tight chest the whole nine and couldn't sleep that night. now i saw on the bump i have 10 weeks left and tomorrow that changes to 9 !!! so it happened again !!! could t be i'm not ready, or i'm scared IDK !!! ....grr this feeling is killing me... with DS i was so much cooler about EVERYTHING !!!!
@rue It's common to have nannies in this area (NYC/Conn/North Jersey) and be a stay at home mom. A lot of the women in my neighborhood have Wall Street traders for husbands and for them it's a sense a of pride and accomplishment for their wives to not have to work (old-style thinking, I know). But there are a ton of SAH moms here who actually do raise their babies and spend time with them, so the former is thankfully not the most common.
I'm only having sex as much as I am because its the only thing that puts me right to sleep. Every single night after we climb into bed, my SO tries to "get me in the mood". I'll be grumpy with back pain and decline his offer and so he'll end up falling asleep. About 15 minutes later when I'm still not asleep, I wake him up with a little fondling and away we go. Its happened enough times where I know by now that I should just immediately give in... but I like letting him know I have "the power". I'm a devious little prego.
I hope this doesn't make me sound too pathetic, but my confession is that I seriously wish I had some girl friends. Or even just ONE girl friend. I was raised in a very conservative environment and all of the women that I was close to and bonded with were from my church. I got married at 18 because we were not allowed to date and it was pounded into my head that the whole purpose of my life was to find a spouse and be a SAHM. I lived in a very sad and distant marriage for 6 years and finally decided to leave my first marriage when I just couldn't live in that world anymore. When I did this I lost EVERY SINGLE PERSON in my life with the exception of my parents and siblings. Not one person stayed in my life.
I have since been re-married and have a daughter - and my son due in October. I could not be more happy with my current husband or my life now, but I am sometimes terribly sad that I have NO friends at all to talk to, text or grab dinner with. It's lonely. I am a caring and fun person but I have found it VERY hard to meet people and develop relationships. It's so much harder as adults than it was as a kid. Especially when your life revolves around small children that need you.
@laceyjaep I'm sorry that happened to you I'm kind of glad they all left because it shows what kind of people they are, and you don't need judgmental, coldhearted people like that in your life. Especially if they knew you suffered in your last marriage and still feel the need to separate from you. Ugh. I'm glad you're happy in your life now, and I'm sure someday you'll meet a really great friend! I'm still waiting for my day too! I often stay home instead of going out or even socializing when we ARE out. I feel like Paul Rudd in "I Love you Man" sometimes, but its ok! We have great marriages, and a baby on the way! Who knows? Maybe we'll meet someone while we're out with our kids at the park or at a grocery store, you never know! Just know you're not alone
laceyjaep I completely understand. I live in a small town and all of my friends have moved to bigger cities in the past few years. I hardly ever see them. I am considered the youth in my church. My brother and I have been members there since I was a teen and we are the only ones there under the age of 40 lol I got married and I had hoped to live in the town my husband lived in because he had friends there that I hoped I could mingle with, but due to circumstances, he moved to my hometown. Now we hardly ever see them. I have my sister and my parents, but sometimes it would be nice to have a good best friend again. I'm hoping that when my son is born I can find moms in my area and have play dates. I'm thinking of joining another church and maybe a book club or something like that. I'm about to become a SAHM and the thought terrifies me, but on the bright side maybe it will give me time to mingle with other SAHMs in similar situations.
I am currently sitting in the grassy area next to the market by my temporary house. My 3 yr old DD and I go for little walks everyday. And eventhough that might sound like I am trying to be "fit" and "healthy" I am actually sitting here eating a Twix and Carmello and gummy sharks with the three year old! Yes she thinks I am the best mom in the world!
I watched a youtube video of a obstetrician talking about the "32 week wall" that women hit and they are just done being pregnant. I'm only 28 weeks and I feel this way. Being pregnant is hard. I don't want to do anything. I just want to lay in bed and netflix all day. I planned on working up until delivery but at this rate how is that even possible?
@laceyjaep, you seem like an awesome person! So glad you followed your heart and moved forward. Could you look into some moms groups in your area? Meetup.com or MOPS might be able to help you find something. I'd be your friend if you were in the same area!
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@MirandaC1984 - I thought I hit that wall at 28 weeks also. But then I hit 32 weeks... Nope. Totally different wall. I lost it at the OB's office this morning. Sobbing. "I can't take it anymore. If I throw up again I'll might scream. I just want a brownie. I'm fat. I can't sleep. I want to pick up my 3 year old. Please don't make me take the procardia and progesterone anymore. Just get the baby out. Please."
Epic Mommy meltdown... Finally pulled it together and came home. Then started sobbing because I can't reach the bottom of the washing machine to do laundry. And I can't vacuum - it's too heavy to push. And I wanted to wash the baseboards but I can't get up and down.
@MirandaC1984 - I thought I hit that wall at 28 weeks also. But then I hit 32 weeks... Nope. Totally different wall. I lost it at the OB's office this morning. Sobbing. "I can't take it anymore. If I throw up again I'll might scream. I just want a brownie. I'm fat. I can't sleep. I want to pick up my 3 year old. Please don't make me take the procardia and progesterone anymore. Just get the baby out. Please."
Epic Mommy meltdown... Finally pulled it together and came home. Then started sobbing because I can't reach the bottom of the washing machine to do laundry. And I can't vacuum - it's too heavy to push. And I wanted to wash the baseboards but I can't get up and down.
Oh good! Something to look forward to. ;-) Hang in there mama. We will have our babies in our arms before we know it.
It's my neighbors birthday today, and she's invited us over, with like 70 of her friends, for a party. It's basically a giant potluck (I don't eat strangers food) and drinking (I don't drink even when I am NOT pregnant), and it's hot and muggy out. I live 2 doors down, so obviously she will know if I am home. Our kids are friends, but I just really have no desire to sit and mingle with a bunch of drunk strangers, while trying to watch my kids among the crowds of people. I feel bad, cause she is coming to my shower and my kids birthday, but I just don't have the energy for it.
I have to go to a bachelorette party this weekend. This is the last thing that I want to do. I can't do any of the activities, and obviously can't drink, so I've automatically been dubbed the DD. Ugh. I don't want to do anything!
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Who are these people who say some of this stuff? You asked for it? I might actually stab a bitch.
My fffc, yesterday i ate cheese sticks and a diet dr pepper from sonic, followed by a strawberry ice cream in a waffle cone, sour straws, coke bottle gummies and chicken tenders ON A SALAD to balance it out. Bwahahaha. All i can think of today is sushi or a giant bacon cheeseburger.
My other confession, i don't want to be doing it but i can't help but judge first time moms for not wanting to learn about/prepare for birth. I honestly hope they have an easy time, it's just that i know that's not usually how it goes the first time.
Re: FFFC
My confession: The Never-Have-I-Ever post made me feel so much better about finding new mommy friends. I live in a community of hoity-toity women who push $1000 strollers and hire nannies so they can go do yoga and have extended lunches with their friends. I can safely say that I am the outlier here (because god knows I can't afford that lifestyle). But I have been to enough salons and brunch spots to hear these women talk and most of them have sticks so far up their butts that there is no way I could ever fit in. Being the only one of my friends in close proximity with a baby, I know I'm going to need friends in the same situation, and I've been scared.
It was great to see that there really are moms out there who haven't turned into prudish pearl clutchers, who will happily put their kids to bed so they can drink at home and watch R rated movies and call their babies little demons when they are acting up. If I can find my people here, I can find them in real life!
Also worried about how to handle my pup around so many strangers, in an environment she's not used to, while she too is sick/hurt. Wish we could just both stay in bed like we are right now.
What's the mantra we'll be practicing when out lo's come? "This too shall pass"? Haha.
Two things:
1) Slunt is such a great term.
2) You should have curbed checked her.
There is also a virus spreading through my family. DH has been sick for two weeks, LO has a fever, and I have a fun cough. Cough doesn't describe it. I've had it for two days and I already have sore ribs and a sore back. It is also such a deep cough that it activates my gag reflex. The pressure from the coughing and a 4+ pound baby on my bladder means I am now wearing a pad, and I still went through 6 pair of underwear yesterday. Sleep is also nonexistent.
Co-workers have seen my face today and been visibly alarmed.
Fuck you virus. Go away. Immediately.
SweetnSassy23 hope you get to feeling better!
I'm seriously irritated with people telling me what I should be doing. I should be walking, I should be eating right, I should be getting things together for maternity leave, I should wear makeup, I should fix my hair, I should buy a cute outfit, I should take my maternity pictures here, I should, I should, I should. It leaves me saying, you should leave me the hell alone. Argh! This morning I told my mother I was going to plant my happy self on my couch and read a book this weekend. Her response: You should be cleaning house and getting everything together before LO gets here. You don't have long you know... As if I needed the reminder, mother.
I'm currently shopping for a new book on B&N. If I do a load of laundry, think that will get people off my back?
I hope this doesn't make me sound too pathetic, but my confession is that I seriously wish I had some girl friends. Or even just ONE girl friend. I was raised in a very conservative environment and all of the women that I was close to and bonded with were from my church. I got married at 18 because we were not allowed to date and it was pounded into my head that the whole purpose of my life was to find a spouse and be a SAHM. I lived in a very sad and distant marriage for 6 years and finally decided to leave my first marriage when I just couldn't live in that world anymore. When I did this I lost EVERY SINGLE PERSON in my life with the exception of my parents and siblings. Not one person stayed in my life.
I have since been re-married and have a daughter - and my son due in October. I could not be more happy with my current husband or my life now, but I am sometimes terribly sad that I have NO friends at all to talk to, text or grab dinner with. It's lonely. I am a caring and fun person but I have found it VERY hard to meet people and develop relationships. It's so much harder as adults than it was as a kid. Especially when your life revolves around small children that need you.
My fffc, yesterday i ate cheese sticks and a diet dr pepper from sonic, followed by a strawberry ice cream in a waffle cone, sour straws, coke bottle gummies and chicken tenders ON A SALAD to balance it out. Bwahahaha. All i can think of today is sushi or a giant bacon cheeseburger.
My other confession, i don't want to be doing it but i can't help but judge first time moms for not wanting to learn about/prepare for birth. I honestly hope they have an easy time, it's just that i know that's not usually how it goes the first time.