What is AW? Or is there some kind of glossary for all the acronyms I can look at? Usually I'm pretty good at decoding them but this one has me stumped!
Attention wanted/whore
Although sometimes I like to make up my own definitions for it, ie:
Absurd Wench Aggressive Witch etc etc
I do that with all the acronyms on here!! DH is dumb husband when ladies are complaining about their husband.
DS and DD are devil son/daughter when anecdotes about them misbehaving are shared
When I'm hungry I read DD as darling donut and DS and darling sundae.
I don't care for the acronyms so making up my own makes me laugh
Oh my goodness...I thought I had decoded all of these correctly, and I was all wrong!!! I thought DH was "dear husband" like in a sarcastic yet loving way, and that DD and DS was "dear daughter" and "dear son"!!! lol I am a potato head and a half
I don't think its our "duty" as women to have to put out for our men. Don't get me wrong, I love getting down as much as the next person (probably even more) but I don't OWE you anything. If I want it and you want it, we'll have it. None of this making women feel bad for not putting out as often as their partner would like.
A friend of mine recently asked me what I was going to do during my recovery after labor. I asked her what she meant.. She said "Well, you won't be able to have sex for at least 6 weeks. Aren't you scared he'll look for something elsewhere? You better find other ways to keep him satisfied." I was so disgusted by this comment. Like are you effing kidding me? Does the sacrifice I made with my body mean nothing? Or the fact that I'll have just undergone the most intense physical pain known to man. Let alone that sex is just one aspect of our relationship. If I thought he would leave me over something like this, I probably wouldn't have had a baby with him. Duhhh.
Now this isn't me saying I agree with push presents or that I think men owe us something, but we sure as hell don't owe them anything! I'm giving you a baby. How's that?
I cannot believe she actually said that! It's sad to be that insecure in your marriage that you fear your husband will stray if he doesn't get sex for 6 weeks. My husband isn't worried about lack if sex, his worry is more lack of sleep and is worried about my recovery. I'm glad you and I are like minded
I was put on a no sex restriction at 20 weeks, so from the beginning of June to the end of the year, my husband gets to be part of the no sex club too. He makes jokes about it and then goes back to making sure I'm okay. Lack of sex is the last thing he is stressing over.
What is AW? Or is there some kind of glossary for all the acronyms I can look at? Usually I'm pretty good at decoding them but this one has me stumped!
Attention wanted/whore
Although sometimes I like to make up my own definitions for it, ie:
Absurd Wench Aggressive Witch etc etc
I do that with all the acronyms on here!! DH is dumb husband when ladies are complaining about their husband.
DS and DD are devil son/daughter when anecdotes about them misbehaving are shared
When I'm hungry I read DD as darling donut and DS and darling sundae.
I don't care for the acronyms so making up my own makes me laugh
Oh my goodness...I thought I had decoded all of these correctly, and I was all wrong!!! I thought DH was "dear husband" like in a sarcastic yet loving way, and that DD and DS was "dear daughter" and "dear son"!!! lol I am a potato head and a half
Um no you were right about all of them. Those are just the ones I made up for my own childish enjoyment.
1) because of my personal beliefs/religious faith, I WILL be encouraging my kids (both my son and my daughter) to pursue purity and remain abstinent till marriage. Encouraging. Not forcing. But ultimately, it's my DAUGHTER'S (or son's) purity to protect, not their father's. I think this is a perfectly valid reason for a girl to not have sex, but it's HER decision. My husband is not the gatekeeper to our daughter. And for the record, if either of my kids choose not to wait for marriage . . . NBD, obviously I didn't.
2) One thing that gets me riled up is the topic of a living wage. Really, you think people who flip burgers aren't worth enough to be able to pay their bills? Ok. So it's not "meant" to be a career. But shut up with the "you should've made better choices," and "get more educated and better yourself" nonsense. Especially if you're going to complain that my family is using your tax dollars to pay for our steak and lobster, er, I mean ramen noodles and boxed mac n cheese. And you're going to complain that your tax dollars are going to pay for the birth control that may be preventing a pregnancy I can't afford? Or maybe you're going to complain that I chose to carry a baby that was conceived at a less than ideal time in terms of finances . . . (I feel that if I have the right to choose NOT to have kids, I also have the right to choose TO have kids). And this is coming from someone whose spouse works full time at a wage well above minimum, who worked at the same pay rate full time at a job that required a college degree and an FBI background check . . . Yet we qualify for food stamps. A lot of people live on less.
3) I find absolutely infuriating any response to discussions on abortion along the lines of "keep your legs closed." Though I'm not in favor of abstinence-only sex ed, I think teenagers should be encouraged to hold off on sex. That's a 100-percent fail-proof method of pregnancy prevention. But what about adults? What about the 30 year old who's working on getting in a better place financially and in a stable relationship, but not ready to have kids yet? What about married couples? Wouldn't affordable birth control or access to resources to help support a pregnant mother and child be a much better option than expecting people to live up to an impossible and ridiculous standard?
@babymazzei yes I totally agree!! Some people think every time he is in the mood we should put out. Why? We should both be in the mood! I'm in a partnership and that doesn't include me having to be submissive to him! I feel bad for women that have this mentality because it's so programmed (like I should clean the house and have dinner ready for him)
I am an atheist. That means I do not believe in God, but it does not mean I do not value family or morals. I have one of the strongest dedications to both. I hate being mistaken for a devil worshiper or a witch because of people's ignorance. I don't put my faith blindly into something but instead believe I have the power to change my postion in life on my own with the support of friends and family. I also don't believe in pushing my beliefs on my children. I expose and allow them to explore all avenues to decide what they believe for themselves. I even put my twin boys into a Christian preschool so that they would have exposure to different things. I believe in education and exploration to be a truly rounded individual. Some people believe atheists are bad people, I believe they are exactly like everyone else. I am well read in the bible and have educated myself in the beliefs of other religions, which is more than I can say for the people who have criticized my stance on religion. So no I will not "pray" for you, but that does not mean that you won't be in my thoughts. That does not mean I will not wish the best for you and your well being! It just means I won't ask "god" to make everything better for you. Not exactly what people like to hear.
UO: I am pro life, but I would never stand outside an abortion clinic and tell a girl/woman that she is going to hell for what she just did. I am a Christian and I would embrace her. I would tell her that Jesus still loves her and that I am there for her when she falls apart after coming to terms with what she did. Sin is sin. And it really irks me to see people cast stones. I do not believe it should be used as a form of birth control, but who am I to tell a rape victim that she has to carry that child and live every day with what happened to her. I also don't believe its the schools job to tell children about safe sex. I believe that is the parents job. I used to be undecided until I saw my baby on a monitor kicking away and depending on me for life. My life ended as soon as this child was placed in my womb. I'm a strong advocate of women's rights... but I'm also a strong advocate of self discipline and responsibility. My two cents for the day...
@cgummie I know they made it look so much worse than it was. I have to admit the fear of your local business was real. What's important is that the community reached out (regardless of what race or nationality they were) and helped those poor people, but you don't see that on the news because that doesn't get them ratings. I worked a few miles from all of it and my brother was living in Cape Girardeau and freaking out about it. He made me call him when I was leaving and when I got home. I kept telling him that it was fine and I was safe, but the media really makes it look worse than it is.
@jefinly1 We are ready to move on. Things are happening finally and hopefully with time the city will get better. I counted the national guard helicopters that went over my house daily when it was all happening, it's been quiet this week so I'm optimistic that this weekend will be more peaceful. I really hope so. My in-laws are a bit racist too and it's hard. My FIL loves to ask African Americans about their opinion of Ferguson and I really want to smack him. I don't know if he likes to do it to work them up or if he's genuinely curious but I joke with my friends that I need to expose them to more culture so they understand that this racist opinion that they have is unnecessary and wrong. My mother's best friend who passed away recently was black and I never saw him as anything but this nice guy who got my mother through some rough times. I just wish more people could see the world that way.
I do have a UO and maybe I will get some harsh comments on this and maybe I deserve it. My shower is Saturday. It's a friends shower. I invited 24 people and only 12 are coming. Half of them didn't even bother to RSVP back to the host. I'm grateful for those 12, but for the rest, I wish they would have at least said yes or no. She sent the invites out two months ago. I don't know if it's because it's at a restaurant and they were afraid that the host wouldn't pay (she is) or if they're just busy, but it still kind of surprises me. A few are out of town and have reached out personally to tell me that and I appreciate that, but for the one's who didn't even bother to RSVP, I kind of want to be like what's your deal?
Maybe I'm a little resentful because I've given showers for almost all my friends or at least helped out. I've helped them house hunt, plan their weddings, move into their houses, and several of them have just abandoned me since I've been pregnant. I bend over backwards for my friends. We host parties and I cook so much food for them and never ask them to bring dishes but gladly accept when they do. So I guess I'm a little ticked that they can't even bother to call my friend and say sorry I can't make it.
I guess this is the point where I realize that I need to cut certain people out of my life and not work so hard to accommodate them. With a child, obviously I won't be hosting large parties or have the time to help them as much. But at least have the decency to tell my friend no so she can plan a head count and what not.
UO: I don't like the terminology "pro-life". I think it implies that the opposite side is anti-life, which is not the case in my humble opinion. I'll be the first to admit that I am socially liberally and financially conservative - my life motto "Stay out of my wallet, stay out of my marriage and stay out of my vagina".
UO: I don't like the terminology "pro-life". I think it implies that the opposite side is anti-life, which is not the case in my humble opinion. I'll be the first to admit that I am socially liberally and financially conservative - my life motto "Stay out of my wallet, stay out of my marriage and stay out of my vagina".
I also don't like the term "pro-life". "Anti-abortion" is more accurate. Ironically, most of the more aggressive pro-lifers that I know also hunt animals for sport. Makes me scratch my head.
UO: I don't like the terminology "pro-life". I think it implies that the opposite side is anti-life, which is not the case in my humble opinion. I'll be the first to admit that I am socially liberally and financially conservative - my life motto "Stay out of my wallet, stay out of my marriage and stay out of my vagina".
I hear ya on that. I dislike the term "anti-choice" for similar reasons, though in a past forum discussion I had this explained pretty well for me. But I dislike that disagreeing with a particular choice somehow means being against civil liberty or women making any OTHER choices regarding their bodies. Yet "anti-abortion" implies that pro-choice equals pro-abortion . . . Yet I know many women who are pro-choice but could never fathom having an abortion themselves.
Also, considering that many people who are "pro-life" are also pro death penalty . . .
@intheversa if i can't go to an event I'm invited to i rsvp and if it's something where i don't rsvp directly to the friend is for, i give a little call. It might be my own insecurity but i obsess a little of i don't know why an invite was declined.
UO: I am pro life, but I would never stand outside an abortion clinic and tell a girl/woman that she is going to hell for what she just did. I am a Christian and I would embrace her. I would tell her that Jesus still loves her and that I am there for her when she falls apart after coming to terms with what she did. Sin is sin. And it really irks me to see people cast stones. I do not believe it should be used as a form of birth control, but who am I to tell a rape victim that she has to carry that child and live every day with what happened to her. I also don't believe its the schools job to tell children about safe sex. I believe that is the parents job. I used to be undecided until I saw my baby on a monitor kicking away and depending on me for life. My life ended as soon as this child was placed in my womb. I'm a strong advocate of women's rights... but I'm also a strong advocate of self discipline and responsibility. My two cents for the day...
My UO. I hate it when religious people try and push their beliefs onto others. Just because you are religious does not mean I am and if I chose to do something which your religion deems a sin then please don't embrace me or tell me Jesus loves me. This is of no benefit to me, only to you and I actually find it extremely rude and condescending. I have no issue whatsoever with anyone's religious beliefs and respect everyone's right to believe whatever they chose. Everyone is 100% entitled to their beliefs just as I am to mine but I don't think your personal religious beliefs should ever be projected onto others.
I also find your statement that your life ended when your child was placed in your womb really sad and upsetting. I regard my baby as the beginning of a wonderful new chapter in my life, not the end of my story.
UO: I am pro life, but I would never stand outside an abortion clinic and tell a girl/woman that she is going to hell for what she just did. I am a Christian and I would embrace her. I would tell her that Jesus still loves her and that I am there for her when she falls apart after coming to terms with what she did. Sin is sin. And it really irks me to see people cast stones. I do not believe it should be used as a form of birth control, but who am I to tell a rape victim that she has to carry that child and live every day with what happened to her. I also don't believe its the schools job to tell children about safe sex. I believe that is the parents job. I used to be undecided until I saw my baby on a monitor kicking away and depending on me for life. My life ended as soon as this child was placed in my womb. I'm a strong advocate of women's rights... but I'm also a strong advocate of self discipline and responsibility. My two cents for the day...
My UO. I hate it when religious people try and push their beliefs onto others. Just because you are religious does not mean I am and if I chose to do something which your religion deems a sin then please don't embrace me or tell me Jesus loves me. This is of no benefit to me, only to you and I actually find it extremely rude and condescending. I have no issue whatsoever with anyone's religious beliefs and respect everyone's right to believe whatever they chose. Everyone is 100% entitled to their beliefs just as I am to mine but I don't think your personal religious beliefs should ever be projected onto others.
I also find your statement that your life ended when your child was placed in your womb really sad and upsetting. I regard my baby as the beginning of a wonderful new chapter in my life, not the end of my story.
This is the first and only post (on this thread) in which I've seen a user express their pro-life belief, and somehow it is the first and only post that gets quoted as offensive or an UO, directly. I personally I do not agree with the dozen or so pro-choice posts I'm seeing, but I'm not going to quote them and tell them they're offensive because everyone is sharing their opinion here. I find it so frustrating that the dissenting opinion (in this case) is the only unworthy opinion.
The fact that you don't have a religious belief does not negate hers, nor should her sharing her belief with the public - just as everyone else here is - have a negative impact upon your life, i.e. rude or condescending. I don't think that her sharing is equal to projecting, especially since she worded her differing view in a very respectful way.
@komorebi I'm fine with whatever their reason. I told my one friend months ago and we even discussed the date and her going. But she didn't RSVP. But I see her all the time. It just kind of bothers me but whatever. As my DH put it, we're done planning, we're done hosting big events, and we're done accommodating people. We're about to have a baby, and that will trump everyone else.
UO: I am pro life, but I would never stand outside an abortion clinic and tell a girl/woman that she is going to hell for what she just did. I am a Christian and I would embrace her. I would tell her that Jesus still loves her and that I am there for her when she falls apart after coming to terms with what she did. Sin is sin. And it really irks me to see people cast stones. I do not believe it should be used as a form of birth control, but who am I to tell a rape victim that she has to carry that child and live every day with what happened to her. I also don't believe its the schools job to tell children about safe sex. I believe that is the parents job. I used to be undecided until I saw my baby on a monitor kicking away and depending on me for life. My life ended as soon as this child was placed in my womb. I'm a strong advocate of women's rights... but I'm also a strong advocate of self discipline and responsibility. My two cents for the day...
My UO. I hate it when religious people try and push their beliefs onto others. Just because you are religious does not mean I am and if I chose to do something which your religion deems a sin then please don't embrace me or tell me Jesus loves me. This is of no benefit to me, only to you and I actually find it extremely rude and condescending. I have no issue whatsoever with anyone's religious beliefs and respect everyone's right to believe whatever they chose. Everyone is 100% entitled to their beliefs just as I am to mine but I don't think your personal religious beliefs should ever be projected onto others.
I also find your statement that your life ended when your child was placed in your womb really sad and upsetting. I regard my baby as the beginning of a wonderful new chapter in my life, not the end of my story.
This is the first and only post (on this thread) in which I've seen a user express their pro-life belief, and somehow it is the first and only post that gets quoted as offensive or an UO, directly. I personally I do not agree with the dozen or so pro-choice posts I'm seeing, but I'm not going to quote them and tell them they're offensive because everyone is sharing their opinion here. I find it so frustrating that the dissenting opinion (in this case) is the only unworthy opinion.
The fact that you don't have a religious belief does not negate hers, nor should her shared her belief with the public - just as everyone else here is - have a negative impact upon your life, i.e. rude or condescending. I don't think that her sharing is equal to projecting, especially since she worded her differing view in a very respectful way.
Please do not twist my words into something else.
My post has nothing to do with her pro life beliefs. If you read again you will see that I didn't actually give my opinion on whether I am pro life or not. My post is simply about not agreeing with a person's religious beliefs being projected onto others who may not feel the same way.
I also did not say that her shared beliefs on this board were rude or condescending. I said I would find it rude and condescending if she were to embrace me after I had an abortion and tell me Jesus still loves me which is what she said she would do. It was s direct response to that comment. It had nothing to do with her sharing her beliefs on here.
But it really bothers me when people feel the need to talk to me about how they won't go to certain establishments or buy certain goods because of the organizations they support. I DONT CARE! The guy who runs the company can choose to spend his/her $$ how ever they want. I actually know people who won't buy General Mills because they apparently give money to PP. I'm like, my buying a box of cereal is not killing unborn babies so shut up...
UO: I really don't care if who I choose to be in the delivery room is unfair to someone else. If I want my mom and dad in there and not my ILs, then that's my choice. If my DH wants someone in there that I don't, too bad for him. Its my body, its my labor, its my decision. Sure its our baby, but that doesn't give anyone a right to be there when the kid comes out of my vagina. Its my vagina. I need support, not drama crap during that time. I'm grateful for those who want to give me support, but if I don't want it, please just back off gracefully and accept that its not something I need or want in this situation.
Luckily my DH is on the same page as me and thinks its weird when other people get upset about it. Seriously, its a nasty sight anyway, why would you want to be there? To experience the miracle of life? Well Hell, you will get to experience that when you can meet the LO whenever DH and I decide you can.
But it really bothers me when people feel the need to talk to me about how they won't go to certain establishments or buy certain goods because of the organizations they support. I DONT CARE! The guy who runs the company can choose to spend his/her $$ how ever they want. I actually know people who won't buy General Mills because they apparently give money to PP. I'm like, my buying a box of cereal is not killing unborn babies so shut up...
This. I don't care who the Girl Scouts, Chick-fil-A, Starbucks or whoever align themselves with, or at least whom the owners align themselves with. As long as is not like the KKK or ISIS or something like that. If I want a box of Thin Mints or a Frappucino or a chicken sandwich, THAT'S what my money is going towards. That and maybe the barista or cashier's paycheck.
Idk if this is unpopular or just me (again) but I kind of feel like we need another lurker/newbie thread. I'm all for expanding our board and maybe it's just me being dense/not paying attention/bumpies changing their profile pictures (I tend to use the app the most so I don't see siggy's) but I feel like there was a recent huge influx of new people/people I don't recognize.
My UO is that I kind of wish that I was being induced so that I knew when the baby was actually coming.....waiting for the unknown is not my thing I'm learning. But of course I want him to keep growing and thriving inside for as long as possible BUT NOT after October 1st!
Idk if this is unpopular or just me (again) but I kind of feel like we need another lurker/newbie thread. I'm all for expanding our board and maybe it's just me being dense/not paying attention/bumpies changing their profile pictures (I tend to use the app the most so I don't see siggy's) but I feel like there was a recent huge influx of new people/people I don't recognize.
I can bump up the old one I started..as soon as I'm not on mobile.
@smlowe9311 I totally bookmarked the newbie/intro thread and people still post on it occassionally. I am so bad about reading comments and not who they are from and yes, there are a lot of new posters as well, which is great (as long as they don't bring drama!
But it really bothers me when people feel the need to talk to me about how they won't go to certain establishments or buy certain goods because of the organizations they support. I DONT CARE! The guy who runs the company can choose to spend his/her $$ how ever they want. I actually know people who won't buy General Mills because they apparently give money to PP. I'm like, my buying a box of cereal is not killing unborn babies so shut up...
This. I don't care who the Girl Scouts, Chick-fil-A, Starbucks or whoever align themselves with, or at least whom the owners align themselves with. As long as is not like the KKK or ISIS or something like that. If I want a box of Thin Mints or a Frappucino or a chicken sandwich, THAT'S what my money is going towards. That and maybe the barista or cashier's paycheck.
What's this "or" you speak of? I want a box of Thin Mints AND a Frappuccino AND a chicken sandwich! )
But it really bothers me when people feel the need to talk to me about how they won't go to certain establishments or buy certain goods because of the organizations they support. I DONT CARE! The guy who runs the company can choose to spend his/her $$ how ever they want. I actually know people who won't buy General Mills because they apparently give money to PP. I'm like, my buying a box of cereal is not killing unborn babies so shut up...
This. I don't care who the Girl Scouts, Chick-fil-A, Starbucks or whoever align themselves with, or at least whom the owners align themselves with. As long as is not like the KKK or ISIS or something like that. If I want a box of Thin Mints or a Frappucino or a chicken sandwich, THAT'S what my money is going towards. That and maybe the barista or cashier's paycheck.
What's this "or" you speak of? I want a box of Thin Mints AND a Frappuccino AND a chicken sandwich! )
Naturally. But unless they open a Chick-fil-A right next to Starbucks inside my local Target in time for GS cookie season, there's going to have to be an "or."
I'm lucky, there. My CFA is at the edge of the Target shopping center, with Starbucks inside. Now, I just have to wait for GS cookie time. Too bad I won't be pregnant next time the GS cookies go on sale...
I feel the total opposite about the Chick Fil-a thing. If a business owner wants to drag his or her business into politics, then I feel like they've no longer separated their business from their politics, and that supporting their business is therefore supporting their politics.
mollypuss1 I respect your opinion and religious views. If it came off that I would throw my beliefs on someone that's not how I meant it and probably could've done better at wording that statement. A lot of those people who stand outside of those clinics with signs and hateful slurs say that they are Christians. I have friends who constantly post on facebook how women are going to hell or God hates them for getting an abortion. However, it is my belief that Jesus wouldn't condemn a single soul who walked out of that place. Whether she believes it or not, I want to express the truth. Jesus does love that woman. And I wouldn't be the least bit offended if she told me whatever lol. In regards to my statement "my life ended as soon as this child was placed in my womb", my life did end. It became my childs. The rest of my life will be about providing for my child, loving my child, and watching it grow into a young man. It will be about creating a family and a home with my husband with our child. For the past nine months, I have focused on nothing but making sure my child gets what it needs and its not even here yet. And its more then a chapter. Its a whole different book. It's not sad. Its rewarding. I'm going to be a damn good mom because of that.
I feel the total opposite about the Chick Fil-a thing. If a business owner wants to drag his or her business into politics, then I feel like they've no longer separated their business from their politics, and that supporting their business is therefore supporting their politics.
I liked this post, not because of the content (which I actually agree with 100%) but because of your awkward pregnancy photo. That made me laugh for a good 5 minutes.
I feel the total opposite about the Chick Fil-a thing. If a business owner wants to drag his or her business into politics, then I feel like they've no longer separated their business from their politics, and that supporting their business is therefore supporting their politics.
I liked this post, not because of the content (which I actually agree with 100%) but because of your awkward pregnancy photo. That made me laugh for a good 5 minutes.
Um, ditto! Hahaha. Yours is amazing! I love the bump behind the tree thing. It's understated, but oh so awkward.
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Oh my goodness...I thought I had decoded all of these correctly, and I was all wrong!!! I thought DH was "dear husband" like in a sarcastic yet loving way, and that DD and DS was "dear daughter" and "dear son"!!! lol I am a potato head and a half
1) because of my personal beliefs/religious faith, I WILL be encouraging my kids (both my son and my daughter) to pursue purity and remain abstinent till marriage. Encouraging. Not forcing. But ultimately, it's my DAUGHTER'S (or son's) purity to protect, not their father's. I think this is a perfectly valid reason for a girl to not have sex, but it's HER decision. My husband is not the gatekeeper to our daughter. And for the record, if either of my kids choose not to wait for marriage . . . NBD, obviously I didn't.
2) One thing that gets me riled up is the topic of a living wage. Really, you think people who flip burgers aren't worth enough to be able to pay their bills? Ok. So it's not "meant" to be a career. But shut up with the "you should've made better choices," and "get more educated and better yourself" nonsense. Especially if you're going to complain that my family is using your tax dollars to pay for our steak and lobster, er, I mean ramen noodles and boxed mac n cheese. And you're going to complain that your tax dollars are going to pay for the birth control that may be preventing a pregnancy I can't afford? Or maybe you're going to complain that I chose to carry a baby that was conceived at a less than ideal time in terms of finances . . . (I feel that if I have the right to choose NOT to have kids, I also have the right to choose TO have kids). And this is coming from someone whose spouse works full time at a wage well above minimum, who worked at the same pay rate full time at a job that required a college degree and an FBI background check . . . Yet we qualify for food stamps. A lot of people live on less.
3) I find absolutely infuriating any response to discussions on abortion along the lines of "keep your legs closed." Though I'm not in favor of abstinence-only sex ed, I think teenagers should be encouraged to hold off on sex. That's a 100-percent fail-proof method of pregnancy prevention. But what about adults? What about the 30 year old who's working on getting in a better place financially and in a stable relationship, but not ready to have kids yet? What about married couples? Wouldn't affordable birth control or access to resources to help support a pregnant mother and child be a much better option than expecting people to live up to an impossible and ridiculous standard?
So no I will not "pray" for you, but that does not mean that you won't be in my thoughts. That does not mean I will not wish the best for you and your well being! It just means I won't ask "god" to make everything better for you. Not exactly what people like to hear.
Also, considering that many people who are "pro-life" are also pro death penalty . . .
I also find your statement that your life ended when your child was placed in your womb really sad and upsetting. I regard my baby as the beginning of a wonderful new chapter in my life, not the end of my story.
The fact that you don't have a religious belief does not negate hers, nor should her sharing her belief with the public - just as everyone else here is - have a negative impact upon your life, i.e. rude or condescending. I don't think that her sharing is equal to projecting, especially since she worded her differing view in a very respectful way.
My post has nothing to do with her pro life beliefs. If you read again you will see that I didn't actually give my opinion on whether I am pro life or not. My post is simply about not agreeing with a person's religious beliefs being projected onto others who may not feel the same way.
I also did not say that her shared beliefs on this board were rude or condescending. I said I would find it rude and condescending if she were to embrace me after I had an abortion and tell me Jesus still loves me which is what she said she would do. It was s direct response to that comment. It had nothing to do with her sharing her beliefs on here.
But it really bothers me when people feel the need to talk to me about how they won't go to certain establishments or buy certain goods because of the organizations they support. I DONT CARE! The guy who runs the company can choose to spend his/her $$ how ever they want. I actually know people who won't buy General Mills because they apparently give money to PP. I'm like, my buying a box of cereal is not killing unborn babies so shut up...
Luckily my DH is on the same page as me and thinks its weird when other people get upset about it. Seriously, its a nasty sight anyway, why would you want to be there? To experience the miracle of life? Well Hell, you will get to experience that when you can meet the LO whenever DH and I decide you can.