@MamaOwl15 Yup. She was implying another Chattanooga as I guess there is a recruiting place there. Forgetting apparently that Pittsburgh draws tons of international students and has a burgeoning tech scene.
The white people here are REALLY racist. When I moved here, I felt like I had stepped back in time 40 years. The other day, my MIL proudly told me that the school district my husband grew up in stopped it's bus service in spite of it not being in safe walking distance for most kids solely so that they wouldn't be forced to integrate like another school here was in the '80's. THE 80's!!!! We had an hour drive home with her in our car two Christmas's ago where she started talking about how mixed race couples disgusted her. I nearly threw her or myself out of the car. She is well educated, works for the government and her opinions are not unpopular here. It blows my mind.
Sorry. I'm just living this nonsense everyday right now and it's getting to my soul. @intheversa I can only imagine going through the Ferguson ordeal while living in St. Louis was insane. I'm sure that the entire city is ready to move on.
My UO is I like the rain. I never carry an umbrella unless I'm with my husband or going somewhere important. It's pouring here and I just finished the grocery. I bruised my wrist carrying in my groceries (lost balance in own house). I love the rain.
What is AW? Or is there some kind of glossary for all the acronyms I can look at? Usually I'm pretty good at decoding them but this one has me stumped!
My UO I don't think that jobs people sign up for and get paid to do make them hero's. I keep seeing reference to police officers being hero's. Fire fighters, nurses, etc. I do think it's hard work but not inherently heroic.
I also think that living wages should be a given. If you work a job full time you should be able to live without govt assistance no matter how menial some may consider the work.
My UO: I don't understand the idea of an "ideal birth" or that an unmedicated birth is some sort of badge of honor. It's been awhile since I watched it, and I wasn't pregnant nor desiring to be pregnant at the time, but I remember being so angry at the Business of Being Born. It made me feel a reverse kind of judgment - that if I chose medication, I was doing something wrong.
All that to say, since I am now actually in the position of being pregnant and have researched birth interventions and medications, I've come to the conclusion that fewer interventions are the best for baby. I want her to have time to get into the right position, to not need forceps or vacuum removal, to not need a c-section, mainly because I want to be able to do skin-to-skin immediately and that's not always possible.
So, much to my shock and my husband's shock, my plan is to labor without meds as long as possible, because that appears to be what is healthiest for the baby. I will try to hold off on the epidural, but I also know there are benefits to it, like allowing myself to rest, to concentrate better, etc. I'm not going to view pain relief as a failure. I won't view other emergency interventions as a failure either, but I'll be damn sure I'm informed enough to go into that L&D room with as much knowledge as possible to avoid what I can and to give actual informed consent.
I've never actually met one of these women who supposedly idealize labor and disdains anyone who chooses something other than so-called "natural" birth, so I don't know if this is just something we read about that adds to the rivalry among women, but I don't like it.
I will say, I'm pretty curious to watch that movie again now that I'm actually informed and have a personal stake in it. DH had to watch it as an assignment in nursing school, and most of what I remember of the experience was yelling at Ricki Lake and being super annoyed. Then again, I probably had a couple glasses of wine in me at the time...
@komorebi I was a medic in the Army and it made me squeamish when people would say that. I'm not, I'm doing my job. A job I volunteered and signed up for!
As far as abortion, I've always been pro choice. And I've seen both sides of the spectrum from being a dumb teenager with no means or support to care for the child or even carry and opt for adoption, and I aborted it...and I've had miscarriages. Nobody understands how I can be pro choice after losses but it isn't my, or anyone else's place to tell a woman she cannot make that decision for herself. It makes me sick to think that the people so adamantly against it, are the ones who bash people for then needing assistance to care for them. And it's almost always the same people that follow it by "I'll pray for you".
I live near the abortion clinic I went to in high school and there is always a group of protesters outside the entry to the medical complex. One day I said fuck it and wrote a big sign and stood by myself on the other side of the sidewalk, opposing them. I got called a lot of nasty things but at the end of the day, it's MY choice. The sign said "keep your rosary out of my ovaries"
My UO: I think all of social media is stupid and a waste of time. I am 25 years old and don't have a Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram account. I think social media is a large part of why our world is so screwed up.
this a million gazillion times !!!!!!!!!!! i had a FB when i was in college , you know when it first started and was only for college kids to communicate with other campuses !! i just cant i see grown ppl waste their time on petty stuff on these social media sites and it kills me that to do alot of things you need a FB like to get certain coupons !!! grr!!!!
my UO: idk if its too unpopular but i dont apologize to anyone for being ME and believing in what i believe in w.e it might be, if i have wronged someone and it without a doubt is wrong i apologize, otherwise best believe i stick to word !!!
i will raise my boys to make sure they stick to their word because a man is only as good as his word!!!!
What is AW? Or is there some kind of glossary for all the acronyms I can look at? Usually I'm pretty good at decoding them but this one has me stumped!
Attention wanted/whore
Although sometimes I like to make up my own definitions for it, ie:
My ideal birth was always about safety and minimizing risk. But there is a sense of pride I had after doing something so hard with just my own mental strength and body. And it helps to know that I can do it not because I'm lucky or have easy births, but that I'm willing to put aside cultural conditioning and the need to dull uncomfortable sensations to get my baby here safely. I think the same sense of pride can apply to any kind of birth. To me a medically necessary cesarean is terrifying and would require a lot of mental work to be okay with, and then caring for a newborn and breastfeeding after would probably feel like a sense of accomplishment. The problem with birth is that many women are lied to or misled into thinking that there are no risks to intervening in low risk birth and then things go very bad and they feel saved by a system that set them up to be in danger. Maternal mortality has risen over the past twenty years even though we spend more than any other country on birth. And the hospitals that are seeing improvements are cutting back on elective inductions and cesarean, allowing vbac and holding obgyns accountable for bad outcomes.
What is AW? Or is there some kind of glossary for all the acronyms I can look at? Usually I'm pretty good at decoding them but this one has me stumped!
AW basically means that you're drawing attention to yourself, either within a thread or by creating a thread. It's usually to refer to a person constantly posting just to get attention. On here, I think it's usually understood to mean "attention wanted," but I've also seen it used to mean "attention whore."
What is AW? Or is there some kind of glossary for all the acronyms I can look at? Usually I'm pretty good at decoding them but this one has me stumped!
Attention wanted/whore
Although sometimes I like to make up my own definitions for it, ie:
Absurd Wench Aggressive Witch etc etc
Hahahahaha oh man attention whore is way better And more clever than my lame guess of "a whine" hahaha glad I asked!
I don't think I have an unpopular opinion today. Let me try...
I want to hear some stories from the never have I ever thread. There's some good stuff just waiting to be shared. The arrests, the threesomes, and more. I'm so nosy.
On the topic of Planned Parenthood: Why do pro-lifers NEVER mention all of the free or low-cost preventative care they provide? Guess what, if a woman walks into a PP, it's likely she's NOT aborting a child. She may be getting free birth control, you know, to prevent abortion from being a possibility.
She may be getting treatment for ovarian cysts. Or a screening for cancer.
Maybe she was raped, and she needs to get an STD panel and a shit-ton of counseling.
Maybe the condom broke last night, and she responsibly knows she can't raise a child right now, so she needs to get Plan B.
Maybe she has no insurance and hasn't had an annual breast exam or pap in years.
Maybe she's pregnant and worried about getting proper prenatal care, because for some reason we live in a country that doesn't always provide basic services if you can't afford insurance.
Perhaps she's a scared teenager who was never taught the basics of birth control because the school system is abstinence-only, and now she's in a pickle.
So to all those people who stand outside those clinics or post judgy shit on FB (because we all know that's a powerful agent for change), I say:
@leighann1 exactly. There is such a flawed idea of what PP does and the women who use their services.
It drives me insane. Early on in marriage, we had a condom break, and we knew we weren't ready for children. I went to PP to get Plan B. I had to walk past protesters and be let in by an armed guard who was wearing a bullet-proof vest. It was ridiculous. As progressive and self-confident as I was, it was nerve-wracking and made me feel like I should be ashamed. I can't imagine how someone in a far more vulnerable position would feel in that situation.
I don't think I have an unpopular opinion today. Let me try...
I want to hear some stories from the never have I ever thread. There's some good stuff just waiting to be shared. The arrests, the threesomes, and more. I'm so nosy.
I'm with you. I just really want someone to bust out with a crazy story like 'so yeah I got arrested during a threesome I had at a gathering of the juggalos in 2003. WOOP WOOP!'
@leighann1 Sadly, some are there because they also believe that Plan B and birth control in any form are wrong. My ex's mom was a big hater of PP and protested often. It wasn't just because they had the option of abortion available- she didn't think any "chemical" intervention of pregnancy- the Pill, especially- was right in the Lord's eyes. In her mind, only abstinence or getting pregnant (by your husband, because there is no other way) was acceptable. Thank goodness her son didn't agree and was supportive of the use of birth control, probably because he knew he wouldn't get laid unless we used it!
@leighann1 Sadly, some are there because they also believe that Plan B and birth control in any form are wrong. My ex's mom was a big hater of PP and protested often. It wasn't just because they had the option of abortion available- she didn't think any "chemical" intervention of pregnancy- the Pill, especially- was right in the Lord's eyes. In her mind, only abstinence or getting pregnant (by your husband, because there is no other way) was acceptable. Thank goodness her son didn't agree and was supportive of the use of birth control, probably because he knew he wouldn't get laid unless we used it!
And then it goes back to this: "I'm not paying for all those damn children these people keep popping out!"
I don't think I have an unpopular opinion today. Let me try...
I want to hear some stories from the never have I ever thread. There's some good stuff just waiting to be shared. The arrests, the threesomes, and more. I'm so nosy.
I'm with you. I just really want someone to bust out with a crazy story like 'so yeah I got arrested during a threesome I had at a gathering of the juggalos in 2003. WOOP WOOP!'
@MariahOBrien I think you just wrote the plot for the newest Netflix original.
On the topic of Planned Parenthood: Why do pro-lifers NEVER mention all of the free or low-cost preventative care they provide? Guess what, if a woman walks into a PP, it's likely she's NOT aborting a child. She may be getting free birth control, you know, to prevent abortion from being a possibility.
She may be getting treatment for ovarian cysts. Or a screening for cancer.
Maybe she was raped, and she needs to get an STD panel and a shit-ton of counseling.
Maybe the condom broke last night, and she responsibly knows she can't raise a child right now, so she needs to get Plan B.
Maybe she has no insurance and hasn't had an annual breast exam or pap in years.
Maybe she's pregnant and worried about getting proper prenatal care, because for some reason we live in a country that doesn't always provide basic services if you can't afford insurance.
Perhaps she's a scared teenager who was never taught the basics of birth control because the school system is abstinence-only, and now she's in a pickle.
So to all those people who stand outside those clinics or post judgy shit on FB (because we all know that's a powerful agent for change), I say:
I had a VERY pro-life friend ask me if I knew where his uninsured friend could go for an exam. His face actually dropped when I mentioned PP, and I was flabbergasted that a man in his 30s didn't know that PP was more than just a "baby killing machine." He really had no idea that PP was set up to help women who can't get proper medical care due to many factors like lack of insurance. He truly thought it was the world's finest abortion clinic.
I don't think I have an unpopular opinion today. Let me try...
I want to hear some stories from the never have I ever thread. There's some good stuff just waiting to be shared. The arrests, the threesomes, and more. I'm so nosy.
I'm with you. I just really want someone to bust out with a crazy story like 'so yeah I got arrested during a threesome I had at a gathering of the juggalos in 2003. WOOP WOOP!'
I have no shame in sharing one of my stories. At least I'll start off at the PG-13 level ;-)
What is AW? Or is there some kind of glossary for all the acronyms I can look at? Usually I'm pretty good at decoding them but this one has me stumped!
Attention wanted/whore
Although sometimes I like to make up my own definitions for it, ie:
Absurd Wench Aggressive Witch etc etc
I do that with all the acronyms on here!! DH is dumb husband when ladies are complaining about their husband.
DS and DD are devil son/daughter when anecdotes about them misbehaving are shared
When I'm hungry I read DD as darling donut and DS and darling sundae.
I don't care for the acronyms so making up my own makes me laugh
Speaking of acronyms, I just recently figured out that 'smdh' means 'shaking my damn head' and not 'so much dick hate' as I had previously believed for like, 3 years
I don't think I have an unpopular opinion today. Let me try...
I want to hear some stories from the never have I ever thread. There's some good stuff just waiting to be shared. The arrests, the threesomes, and more. I'm so nosy.
I'm with you. I just really want someone to bust out with a crazy story like 'so yeah I got arrested during a threesome I had at a gathering of the juggalos in 2003. WOOP WOOP!'
I have no shame in sharing one of my stories. At least I'll start off at the PG-13 level ;-)
@adriennerose80,
I'm leaning very strongly towards having a RCS instead of trying for a VBAC. There are a variety of factors going into this, but a major one is that my previous c-section was successful and my recovery went really well. A c-section is major surgery but it's not the worst possible thing that one can endure.
I think it's great that you feel at peace about needing a c-section, because it'll be much less stressful going in knowing that's the plan than having to undergo an emergency c-section.
Thank you for this. You've been one of a few mom's to tell me this, which is one of the reasons I am choosing not to worry. My biggest concern is the extended hospital stay because in NYC I have to share a room unless I want to spend a ton of $$ getting a private one.
@leighann1 preach it gurl! I was someone that went to catholic school for 12 years and by the time I was a senior I was so over it. I admit at one point I was very pro-life and couldn't imagine someone having an abortion. However now I am pro choice because I am more educated and not brainwashed about what is morally right and wrong. The people who are so anti PP just confuse me so much because they are so contradictory about all the after effects that result when a mother who cannot and does not want this child is forced to raise it.
Those "rules to dating my daughter" tshirts, posts, sayings and mentality really piss me off. Mainly because a) I have a son who I don't think should be threatened (even if jokingly) for wanting to date someone else's child. b) you raised your daughter. You taught her through your actions or inactions what appropriate relationship behavior is. If you don't agree with the people she is bringing home, turn that accusatory finger right around and point it at your own damn self.
Those "rules to dating my daughter" tshirts, posts, sayings and mentality really piss me off.
Mainly because
a) I have a son who I don't think should be threatened (even if jokingly) for wanting to date someone else's child.
b) you raised your daughter. You taught her through your actions or inactions what appropriate relationship behavior is. If you don't agree with the people she is bringing home, turn that accusatory finger right around and point it at your own damn self.
THIS !!!!!! ^^^^^^ my son says he like good girls ...idk how he comes to the conclusion of who is who at the age of 7 but he's learning well because idk how there are some lil girls that make me SMH, moms who think its cute to teach your daughter to twirk...uhmmm noo not cute at all !!
Those "rules to dating my daughter" tshirts, posts, sayings and mentality really piss me off.
Mainly because
a) I have a son who I don't think should be threatened (even if jokingly) for wanting to date someone else's child.
b) you raised your daughter. You taught her through your actions or inactions what appropriate relationship behavior is. If you don't agree with the people she is bringing home, turn that accusatory finger right around and point it at your own damn self.
@komorebi Yes. The most disturbing thing to me about those shirts is the father's idea that he somehow owns his daughter's body and is the deciding factor in her sex life. It's yicky. If my husband were that concerned about protecting our daughter and her virginity, I would actually be concerned for the state of our marriage. The only female body a man should care that much about is his SO's.
As long as people teach their daughters to respect themselves and to make decisions about her body for her and not anyone else, their sons to do the same for their bodies, and both to always respect the choices people make about their bodies, we should all be good.
@jefinley1 yep. I've always been creeped or by that mentality and the dances where the dads basically marry their daughters. So backwards.
I've always been sexually liberated and was never afraid to say no or back out of scary situations. I feel like avoiding sex is the goal in raising girls but to me, while it won't be easy, I'll be more proud of my girls make decisions based on their wants and needs than purity.
I don't think this is really an UO but I just got done eating a warm homemade fudgey brownie. I think everyone should enjoy a fudgey brownie a day. That is all
I don't think its our "duty" as women to have to put out for our men. Don't get me wrong, I love getting down as much as the next person (probably even more) but I don't OWE you anything. If I want it and you want it, we'll have it. None of this making women feel bad for not putting out as often as their partner would like.
A friend of mine recently asked me what I was going to do during my recovery after labor. I asked her what she meant.. She said "Well, you won't be able to have sex for at least 6 weeks. Aren't you scared he'll look for something elsewhere? You better find other ways to keep him satisfied." I was so disgusted by this comment. Like are you effing kidding me? Does the sacrifice I made with my body mean nothing? Or the fact that I'll have just undergone the most intense physical pain known to man. Let alone that sex is just one aspect of our relationship. If I thought he would leave me over something like this, I probably wouldn't have had a baby with him. Duhhh.
Now this isn't me saying I agree with push presents or that I think men owe us something, but we sure as hell don't owe them anything! I'm giving you a baby. How's that?
@babymazzei YES. My ex husband raped me and when I finally spoke out about I was literally told it wasn't rape, because he was my husband and that was my duty as his wife. HOW BACKWARDS AND DISGUSTING. part of the reason I'm so thankful to be having a son is that I'm now given the opportunity to teach him how to be a kind, compassionate, and respectful person..the kind of person the world needs, and any partner, male or female, will be lucky and grateful to have.
I don't think its our "duty" as women to have to put out for our men. Don't get me wrong, I love getting down as much as the next person (probably even more) but I don't OWE you anything. If I want it and you want it, we'll have it. None of this making women feel bad for not putting out as often as their partner would like.
A friend of mine recently asked me what I was going to do during my recovery after labor. I asked her what she meant.. She said "Well, you won't be able to have sex for at least 6 weeks. Aren't you scared he'll look for something elsewhere? You better find other ways to keep him satisfied." I was so disgusted by this comment. Like are you effing kidding me? Does the sacrifice I made with my body mean nothing? Or the fact that I'll have just undergone the most intense physical pain known to man. Let alone that sex is just one aspect of our relationship. If I thought he would leave me over something like this, I probably wouldn't have had a baby with him. Duhhh.
Now this isn't me saying I agree with push presents or that I think men owe us something, but we sure as hell don't owe them anything! I'm giving you a baby. How's that?
I cannot believe she actually said that! It's sad to be that insecure in your marriage that you fear your husband will stray if he doesn't get sex for 6 weeks. My husband isn't worried about lack if sex, his worry is more lack of sleep and is worried about my recovery. I'm glad you and I are like minded
Re: UO Thursday
I also think that living wages should be a given. If you work a job full time you should be able to live without govt assistance no matter how menial some may consider the work.
As far as abortion, I've always been pro choice. And I've seen both sides of the spectrum from being a dumb teenager with no means or support to care for the child or even carry and opt for adoption, and I aborted it...and I've had miscarriages. Nobody understands how I can be pro choice after losses but it isn't my, or anyone else's place to tell a woman she cannot make that decision for herself. It makes me sick to think that the people so adamantly against it, are the ones who bash people for then needing assistance to care for them. And it's almost always the same people that follow it by "I'll pray for you".
I live near the abortion clinic I went to in high school and there is always a group of protesters outside the entry to the medical complex. One day I said fuck it and wrote a big sign and stood by myself on the other side of the sidewalk, opposing them. I got called a lot of nasty things but at the end of the day, it's MY choice. The sign said "keep your rosary out of my ovaries"
Although sometimes I like to make up my own definitions for it, ie:
Absurd Wench
Aggressive Witch etc etc
Hahahahaha oh man attention whore is way better And more clever than my lame guess of "a whine" hahaha glad I asked!
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AW = attention whore
I don't think I have an unpopular opinion today. Let me try...
I want to hear some stories from the never have I ever thread. There's some good stuff just waiting to be shared. The arrests, the threesomes, and more. I'm so nosy.
DH is dumb husband when ladies are complaining about their husband.
DS and DD are devil son/daughter when anecdotes about them misbehaving are shared
When I'm hungry I read DD as darling donut and DS and darling sundae.
I don't care for the acronyms so making up my own makes me laugh
***** QBF LOL ******
do it. BREAK THE INTERNET, ADRIENNE
Mainly because
a) I have a son who I don't think should be threatened (even if jokingly) for wanting to date someone else's child.
b) you raised your daughter. You taught her through your actions or inactions what appropriate relationship behavior is. If you don't agree with the people she is bringing home, turn that accusatory finger right around and point it at your own damn self.
I've always been sexually liberated and was never afraid to say no or back out of scary situations. I feel like avoiding sex is the goal in raising girls but to me, while it won't be easy, I'll be more proud of my girls make decisions based on their wants and needs than purity.