Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: March Mamas! Introduced yourselves
My name is Katherine and we are expecting baby #2 on 3/26. My son will be 2 in two weeks and we are so excited for him to be a big brother. I had a fairly easy pregnancy the first time around so I worry this one will be rough. I have been trying to stay active and jog/walk but the first tri sleepiness is kicking my butt. Here's to a happy and healthy 9 months!
HI~~
I'm Jamie. First time mom. I'm due around the end of March with my 1st. I will be when the monster is born. any advice you want to give is much appreciated! I look forward to talking to you guys!!!
I'm Lauren. I was apart of the Nov 13 board, mostly lurked because the active members were...clicky and particular. Hopefully this board is more mellow and welcoming. I have a 21 MO. Just recovered from a miscarriage in may and had really anticipated waiting a few months before trying again. But, we didn't really PREVENT this from happening, so here we are
I'm finally introducing myself. I'm Stéphanie and I'm 36. My DH and I have been married for a little over a year now. We are Canadians who moved to Jersey City after the wedding because he got a job offer he couldn't turn down. FTM but second pregnancy. We had an early miscarriage in late March this year. I'm 5 weeks and 6 days along. My first appointment with my doctor is only on 8/24, so I think I'll be nervous and stressed until I'm sure everything is fine.
I don't have a lot of symptoms so far beside the sore boobs, feeling tired and dizziness. I'm flying to London next weekend, so hopefully I won't start having nausea because it would be a really long and painful flight.
My EDD is 3/28, but maybe after the first u/s it will be later. Can't wait to have the first u/s.
Edit: I should probably remember to add my EDD
I'm Mollie (31). DH (turns 35 this month) and I have been married 9 years. Baby #2 is due 3/30. DD is 11 months old, and I'm so excited to have them close in age.
DS2 due 12/12/18
*kids/Mc mentioned and not sure if I even have tickers still. On mobil now*
Feels like I haven't been on The Bump in forever and shocked I'm back. I'm 39 and will have just turned 40 when baby arrives. DS#1 is 5 and DS#2 is 3. Was supposed to be celebrating the big 4-0 in Jamaica but I guess L&D at the hospital tops those plans.
We were on vacation in OBX last week and I told my husband while sitting on the beach that I think we should get a pg test. He was shocked and I could tell a little excited even though we decided on no more children. We picked one up and the next morning I gave him the honors of dipping the sticks (FRER and a digital). I've had my fair share of POAS so I let him be the first to know this time. I sat on the bed and he just looked at me and smiled. He said "there is one faint line". Funny enough, the faint line was the control line.
We had a surprise pregnancy in 2013 that ended in an early loss and then tried for another right away and that pregnancy ended due to a blighted ovum. After the losses we were done as it was a very painful time. I'm a firm believer that things happen for a reason. Ready to try this again even though we are extremely scared.
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
me: 27 | husband: 35
IR PCOS dx Sept. 2014
married May 2015 --> started NTNP
BFP 6.28.15 - EDD 3.6.16
baby #1 born 2.19.16
TTC #2 in April 2017
BFP 12.30.17 - EDD 9.6.18
Fertility Friend Chart
I'm Gina....I'm 31 years old and my fiance is 34 and we just found out that we were having a baby due sometime in March (at least that's what the doctor said for now). First time for the both for us - I actually told him the news on his birthday as it just so happened to be that way. First thought scared and nervous because this definitely wasn't expected. We wasn't trying per say but obviously things just happen. I go for my first ultrasound next Tuesday and quite nervous since I don't really have many symptoms so just hoping and praying that everything is OK.
Nice to meet everybody
Anyways just found out I'm pregnant about two weeks ago and I'm about 6 weeks along! My first appointment is August 17! And my estimated due date is March 25! Very excited because we've been trying for a very long to get pregnant and I have complications with my filopian tubes that the doctor said I may not be able to conceive so it's kind of a little miracle! Hoping for a boy since this will be my first but I'd love twins! Lol I may be young but I'm very excited for this new adventure!