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We still have a long way to go! (Vent)

cmjn94cmjn94 member
edited August 2015 in October 2015 Moms
I've really loved being pregnant but the last few days I've just begun to hate it! I don't know if it's the hormones or what but suddenly I'm super emotional (read: very cranky) and crying a lot over stupid things! It's like my self-esteem just plummeted and then I have all the usual symptoms like back/hip aches, heartburn, etc. I'm only 31 weeks and I just want to be done already. :P

How are you ladies holding up? Have your emotions just betrayed you too?!

ETA: sorry, I just really needed to vent. :P
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  • smlowe9311smlowe9311 member
    Yep right there with ya. I've had fairly easy pregnancies (both times) but still don't remember it bejng like this this early with dd1. Plus I think having another little one to chase around takes its toll day in and day out. Dd1 didn't sleep well at all last night (fussing throughout the night in her sleep, awake screaming at 5:15 then didn't fall back asleep till 6 then slept on and off with me in her bed till 7:30) and it was tough on my back and hips getting in, laying in and getting out of her single bed.
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  • cmjn94cmjn94 member
    edited August 2015
    smlowe9311 said:

    Yep right there with ya. I've had fairly easy pregnancies (both times) but still don't remember it bejng like this this early with dd1. Plus I think having another little one to chase around takes its toll day in and day out. Dd1 didn't sleep well at all last night (fussing throughout the night in her sleep, awake screaming at 5:15 then didn't fall back asleep till 6 then slept on and off with me in her bed till 7:30) and it was tough on my back and hips getting in, laying in and getting out of her single bed.

    That sounds exhausting. I'm a FTM mom so I don't have to deal with that yet! But we plan on having more than one!
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  • mandy903mandy903 member
    I wish I could fast forward to October. My hips, back and ribs are killing me. I'm hungry every hour. I'm swollen and sweaty. I just feel gross. It takes me usually 2 hours to fall asleep and wake up at least every 2 hours either to pee or a snack or because it hurt rolling over. .. And my son usually still wakes up once or twice during the night (he is 6 but autistic and has sleep issues). I'm trying to stay positive but today I felt useless... Sorry you ladies are also suffering!
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  • Sweet Sadie MaeSweet Sadie Mae member
    I have really been trying to enjoy being pregnant but I am just too uncomfortable. It's all worth it in the end. I figure better me to suffer than my baby and it's only temporary. I know this will be my last pregnancy since my husband is planning of getting fixed soon. But Jesus the heartburn, swelling, itching, restless legs, constant peeling, back pain, etc. Just sucks.
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  • cmjn94cmjn94 member
    Sweet Sadie Mae said:

    I have really been trying to enjoy being pregnant but I am just too uncomfortable. It's all worth it in the end. I figure better me to suffer than my baby and it's only temporary. I know this will be my last pregnancy since my husband is planning of getting fixed soon. But Jesus the heartburn, swelling, itching, restless legs, constant peeling, back pain, etc. Just sucks.

    Totally worth it. I can't wait to meet my little boy. But, like, I REALLY can't wait now lol.
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  • beckles112beckles112 member
    I want him to stay in as long as he needs to, but I would not be upset if he came a couple weeks early. It was so hard to sleep last night because he has taken a liking to sticking his cute little feet into my hip. He's stayed there most of the day today. He's like bulging out of my side. It's creepy. Anyway, I'm only 28 weeks and I'm counting down the days.
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  • cmjn94cmjn94 member
    edited August 2015
    beckles112 said:

    I want him to stay in as long as he needs to, but I would not be upset if he came a couple weeks early. It was so hard to sleep last night because he has taken a liking to sticking his cute little feet into my hip. He's stayed there most of the day today. He's like bulging out of my side. It's creepy. Anyway, I'm only 28 weeks and I'm counting down the days.

    I agree that it would be okay if he came just a little early. :)
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  • zaclinazaclina member
    Glad to hear we are all in the same boat!!!! Whose the captain by the way?
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  • cmjn94cmjn94 member
    MamaOwl15 said:

    Third trimester is, in my opinion, the hardest. On the one hand, we're at or near the single digits in weeks to go. We're almost at the finish line. But this is the longest 9 or so weeks ever. It's impossible to get completely comfortable, we're restless, hormonal . . .

    My husband tried to say something along those lines. Like "you're almost done it's not so bad." And I was like...no....this part is way worse! In the first trimester I wasn't carrying this baby around with my ABS.
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  • aah1013aah1013 member
    @cmjn94, thanks girl!
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    aah1013 said:

    My husband is physically disabled, so I do ALL household everything. You name it, I do it. Plus we have a 3 year old that I do everything for except for the 5 hrs I'm at work each evening. I'm exhausted and am tired of being everyone's caregiver. I want to be cared for every now and then. I've cried all day about it. I'm not sure if it's my hormones or if I've just had enough. I just keep thinking about how much harder it's all going to be when the baby arrives and I'm recovering from a c-section. Let the cry fest continue!

    I understand! While my husband isn't disabled, he works 6 days a week and my "job" is taking care of our two year old, doing all the laundry and household chores, all the cooking. I'm always taking care of everyone else, which I honestly don't mind. But I'd like someone to take care of me! It's not really in our budget for me to spend money on myself, except for things like food. And my husband's job is really hard on his body, so I don't feel like I can ask for a massage after he's worked all week.

    Maybe the hormones make it worse, but we moms need a break and some pampering every once in a while!

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  • eat111315eat111315 member
    I cried over a car seat yesterday. I am so done being this hormonal. The worst part is I just hit third tri so I know it's going to get worse.
    I remember with my last asking my midwife around week 38 to just reach in grab my sons hand and pull him out. (He was born two loooooonnnggg weeks later).
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  • bcooper81bcooper81 member
    I'm done being pregnant. Between the swollen ankles, huge belly getting in the way, back aching. And now when my daughter moves it hurts sometimes. She's running out of room. I just want September to be here bc that's when my fiancé comes home from Marine bootcamp and there is a good chance my daughter will be a September baby seeing as how her due date is October 2nd.
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  • intheversaintheversa member
    I cannot wait to be a mother and start this new adventure with my DH, but I HATE BEING PREGNANT! I honestly feel bad about it. I knew it wouldn't be easy, but I guess I had no idea what it would really be like. You read books, you hear stories, but nothing prepares you for it until you experience it. My LO sits so low that I can't sit in a chair without a pillow behind me because my back hurts so bad. My hands and feet are so swollen that I can barely wear tennis shoes. I'm always congested and my allergies are terrible. I have carpal tunnel so I can't do my two favorite pastimes of reading or writing for too long without my hands hurting. And the food thing, my parent's try to understand but don't, DH can't remember the restrictions and will constantly suggest something that I can't have, and I don't think my FIL actually believes me when I explain how cold lunch meat can give me listeria. And like everyone else I'm barely sleeping. Every time my in-laws joke that I'm a terrible wife because I'm too tired to cook my husband dinner I just feel like crying inside. 

    For all the STM's out there or moms of 2+ you are my hero because I don't know how you do it. We want another, but I want about 2 years to get things under control with the first one before we talk about doing all of this again. 
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  • plumpousplumpous member
    I don't hate it. However, I will admit it is uncomfortable, and I am getting to the point where I miss being normal again.
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  • Birdee212Birdee212 member
    @aah1013 That's such a difficult situation. Do you have any family or friends that can help when you're recovering?
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  • furelise93furelise93 member
    I just want to be able to go to bed after peeing, and not have to get up less than five minutes later to go pee again. :-S

    I am so excited to meet my little boy. I'm over being pregnant. Stick a fork in me!

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  • Krysta6Krysta6 member
    Yeah I'm starting to really feel rundown from being pregnant. I am out of town at my moms for a baby shower tomorrow and I can't sleep because the mattress is to hard. I miss the days when sleep was easy. I'm trying to remain positive instead of focusing on my pain as over 9 weeks is a long time to be miserable! But now my sciatica nerve is starting to hurt along with my tailbone-- as if I didn't have enough pelvis pain before. And tonight I have nerve pain in my boob WTF! I just want to sleep :((
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  • J1DJ1D member
    @MariahOBrien my hubby apologized for being difficult and that tiped the scales and I cried just a little bit which was weird but this whole being pregnant thing is weird if you think about it. Thanks for internet hugs :)
    @Krysta6 the boob nerve pain is the worst!!!! Mine is going crazy and its so so so bad! Sometimes if I move too fast it feels like my boob is being shredded or ripped off my rib cage! It's crazy and it sucks :( I hope you can get some sleep so you can enjoy the baby shower tomorrow.
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  • Krysta6Krysta6 member
    @J1D thanks! I have had this pain before (I had a breast aug) but I had no idea it could happen during pregnancy! I'm glad you finally cried-- holding it in gives me terrible headaches!
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  • maiatenemaiatene member
    I have what we call at work a mood elevator that I illustrate with comic heroes and villains - captain america is my best (good day), followed by wolverine (snappy), dr doom (plotting your downfall), hulk (I will smash your face in), and venom is my worst (I will go psycho and rip you apart). Most days I'm on wolverine or dr doom because I have zero patience for stupidity, but lately I find myself crying at the drop of a hat. It drives hubby crazy and I know he can't wait for this to be over lol. I try to be mindful of my moods but sometimes you can't help it. Just embrace it and as long as you aren't doing on purpose most people will understand and just hide when they see you coming lol
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  • aah1013aah1013 member
    Birdee212 said:

    @aah1013 That's such a difficult situation. Do you have any family or friends that can help when you're recovering?

    Yes, my mom is quite helpful, but I hate to ask for too much help. She'll likely visit most days after work for a while. I just feel weird asking someone (even my mom) to vacuume or clean my toilets.

    My husband will be home with me for about a month. He is capable of doing stuff like taking care of a baby during normal hours (not at night). Because of his injuries he's limited to what he can do around the house- kneeling and bending are out. For instance, he can rinse the dishes, but can't load them in the dishwasher because of the bending motion. Plus, we're just dealing with a lot of other issues stemming from his car accident in 2009. Depression has reared its ugly head and he's resistant to try anything other than therapy. We're also working on some other health issues like sleep disturbance and really bad exhaustion that hits around 7pm nearly every day. He also has chronic pain and won't even take Motrin because he doesn't want to become dependent on medications to function day to day. I just feel like I am constantly chasing him around to get all these appointments in before the baby arrives. I feel like his mom and not his wife.

    There's just a lot going on and I don't usually vent to anyone or put my business on the internet. I'm just having a hard time right now and the hormones are only making it that much harder. I really appreciate the kindness of everyone here, even if you are a bunch of mean girls!
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  • przemosbabeprzemosbabe member
    I find this thread very amusing. I feel the exact same way as all of you ladies and I don't even have any pregnancy symptoms other than peeing all the time. My feet hurt too but I don't have any other major complaints other than those two and not being able to sleep on my stomach, which really I could if I wanted since I don't really have a bump. But I'm ready for this to be over. I did a frozen embryo transfer to get pregnant so I knew I was pregnant 4 days after we transferred her. So I have known since around feb 6th so I've been pregnant extra forever. I'm not due until the 3rd week of october too so it's like ugh. I just want my baby out and safe in my arms. I also don't enjoy food anymore and haven't since around week 12/13. It's not from nausea either and I don't really have food aversions per se I just don't enjoy eating like I use to. Nothing tastes as good or is as satisfying. Seriously two and a half more months seems like an eternity.
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