I am not married to my SO and it seems like lately and really for the entire length of this pregnancy that I have been upset/disappointed with him more than I am happy with him. And I have BEEN TRYING. I am not hard to get along with, am mostly pleasant and do not ask much from him. We don't live together... We have only been dating 6 months and I am 16 weeks pregnant. This baby is already so loved. With or without him. My parents are royally pissed off that when we stayed with them last weekend he never mentioned anything to either one of them about the baby or what his intentions are. My parents have made it clear that because he and I are not married and honestly it is highly unlikely that we ever will get married that the baby should absolutely have MY last name. I agree with this however I know it's not going to go over well... Do you guys think that just because someone is the father that the baby should have their last name? I am so sick over this and my baby isn't due until January!!
Re: Baby's Last Name...
Otherwise you and SO need to have a real conversation about how everything is going to go.
Personally I think you should put his name on the birth certificate as father, but give baby your last name... Just my opinion. Good luck!!
DD 12/20/99, DS 12/14/12, M/C 9/2014, M/C 1/2015
DD 12/20/99, DS 12/14/12, M/C 9/2014, M/C 1/2015
I personally feel weird about giving my baby my last name because my father isn't the father. My SOs parents didn't pressure me and they said right off the bat that the baby's last name didn't necessarily need to be theirs. Personally, I feel weird about it not being his last name. I've been with him longer than six months though. So like I said it's your call - there are a lot of factors that seem to go into this. I.E. - will he be signing the birth certificate? Will you feel weird about registering your child for school with a different last name than yours? Do you want the LO to have a piece of the father anyway? Your parents have the best intentions but it's up to you. Maybe ask him what he thinks? Maybe he won't put up a fight, either way.
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If if was in a situation where I did not trust my partner and did not see a future, if be trying to get out. I think you have a bigger issue at hand the. Wether or not your baby should have his last name. I have followed several of your posts since the early weeks. I feel as though you know this guy is not the right guy. I would start trusting your gut a bit more and move on before life gets more complicated. If you do that then the last name will be a no brainer. But if you do choose to stay in the realationship, then I would be more inclined to agree that you should at least let him be part of the last name conversation.
Good luck!
DD - January 2016
Now this choice is purely personal. It's something you need to think about.
But I will say, when the lady comes in to take the babies name and put it on a birth certificate, she won't even ask the dad. She will only listen to you. She will write whatever you say, and pretty much ignore the father.