Things strangers have said to you

lenlou@earthlink.net · July 2015

I get so annoyed by some of the comments/questions I get from people. I work at an eye dr and am around a lot of patients each day. Many I see frequently and have known for many years. But the things they say... Or at the grocery store etc... I get the normal, when are you due? But when I say "September 15" people look at me like I have 4 heads. They say wow your not going to make it that long! I smile and say "well I'm only 4'11" and he has nowhere to go but out..." Or at the grocery store the cashier says "oh are you having another boy?" (My son was with me) and I say yes I am! She says "I thought so, your really high" I kinda laughed to myself... I'm carrying VERY low already! LOL just interesting what other people think they know about your pregnancy. But each pregnancy is so different.

itsasapphire · July 2015

It frustrates me when people think that they can tell you the gender of your baby based on where your belly is. My friend is one week ahead of me and the poor thing was huge at 20 weeks and I was barely showing. We are built the same, everyone just carries differently and that does not define girl or boy! We are team green and I was with my first also. People would just shout out "Boy!" And when I responded that I didn't know and I wanted it to be a surprise they are at a lost for words and look at me like I'm stupid.

Or if they tell you the gender and they are right they act like they are some type of genius of information. Ya had a 50/50 chance, it doesn't make you a genius!

kaybee03 · July 2015

A stranger yelled at me from across a lobby that I picked the wrong time of year to do this. Then chased me down. I didn't really take it as rude, but I am glad some people can tell I am pregnant and not just fat. haha. It was odd though. We weren't really planning on getting pregnant the month we did, but I am an inside cat so it doesn't bother me toooo much!

thinkpink101 · July 2015

I get so many rude comments because I have three boys already. They will say hopefully, "maybe this one will be a girl!" And when I say no, it's another boy they will pause then say "well... ... ... boys are good too" (clearly feeling sorry for me) or laugh and say "better you than me" or "you will have a baseball/football team". Ugh.

dmland17 · July 2015

I'm due September 2nd and for some reason hearing "September" makes people think I have "so long to go" when in reality it's so early in the month that she could come in August if she so pleases. It's only about 6 more weeks if I go full term! To me that isn't so bad. Then, they eye my belly with a look that says "Damn, you look like you're due next week." A few strangers have actually told me that I shouldn't be giving presentations (something I do sometimes for work) because it makes them nervous that I'll go into labor while I'm up there speaking. WTF is wrong with people! I would NEVER say something like that to someone. And, for the record, I don't find that I'm all that large for how far along I am. It's so annoying.

BeachBabe22 · July 2015

Some old guy told me it looks like I drank too much beer. We both laughed and thought it was funny. I haven't received any rude comments from people. I think it's sweet when people ask questions or give advice. Maybe because I'm in the south but people just seem to be so friendly to pregnant people.

missliz53 · July 2015

The other night I was standing in line at Subway and the baby was moving like crazy. I guess it was visible from the outside because this little boy told me that it looked like there was an alien in my stomach. His mom was really embarrassed, but this is the best pregnancy comment I've gotten so far. Usually I get the when are you due followed by wow you have a ways to go yet are you having twins comments.

sarahnikai · July 2015

That's really cute @missliz53 !! It FEELS like there's an alien in there sometimes!!
I got the comment about there must be something in the water at work since so many women are pregnant. As far as I know I'm the only one pregnant at work right now, so I didn't even respond!

blondehairblueeyeditalianbaby · July 2015

I went to Target a few days ago and didn't get a cart bc I was only looking for one thing. I had my arms full of stuff and then dropped it all. This lady and her husband were walking towards me like they were going to help me pick it up. Nope, she just looks at me and says "you didn't really need that anyway!" and walks away. Ummm, thanks?!?!

apaige4747 · July 2015

@blondehairblueeyeditalianbaby I'm sorry that lady was sooo rude. I have developed "pregnancy rage" this past week where I suddenly don't have patience with people any more. I feel like I would have looked up at her and say "woman I will cut you!!!!!!"

majormayhem210 · July 2015

I'm still getting comments that I don't look pregnant at 30 weeks. My belly is huge and so uncomfortable. Those comment make me feel like people are calling me fat.

lenlou@earthlink.net · July 2015

@BeachBabe22 Yeah I live in the south too, no one has been rude about it. I like talking to people about pregnancy, just funny how some people respond or act. I just smile and keep going
@thinkpink101 I only have one boy and people are like awe maybe next time it will be a girl... LOL but I love my boy and wouldn't trade hime for anything and looking forward to another. I'm sure you feel the same

babyplut · July 2015

I had a lady who looked like she eats babies for breakfast tell me how big I was and how I must be having twins or triplets, I just wanted to ask how far along she was...

chelseajeanene · July 2015

What blew me away is when I went shopping for a shower dress this woman I've never met before comes up and goes "are you going to have a natural labor?" Excuse me? Who are you and wouldn't a hello be more sufficient? Maybe a congratulations? I couldn't believe a stranger asked me that. I was afraid if I said no, was I going to get a lecture?

thefuturemrsdaniel · July 2015

@thinkpink101 I hate that one. I'm having our second boy so I get the sympathy "I bet you were hoping for a girl". This comment especially happens if they know my family as I'm the oldest of 5 with 4 younger brothers. I've just started saying I wouldn't know what to do with a girl and they just kind of look at me strange haha

I went over to see my husbands family yesterday for the first time since February so I'm a little bigger now. I keep getting the "do you just not gain weight?!" Well yes actually. I'm up at 30 lbs. I look like I'm smuggling a basketball under my shirt.I'm a skinny person to begin with so yes 30 lbs doesn't appear like a lot to most people. Thankfully my SIL told my husband without me around that I was carrying more sideways this time. Uh thanks? I have no patience for people recently though haha

rholbrook7 · July 2015

I had a customer tell me "you're so beautiful, but babies shouldn't be having babies."
And another said it was a shame that my child was to be raised by a single mom. For the record, I AM NOT single, I am engaged, and even if I was, it should be no concern of yours.

Hurtuk33 · July 2015

I'm a teacher so I've had a ton of adorable comments thrown my way. I think my favorite was when we were doing a class brain break and dancing to the song "gangnam style". The baby was kicking like crazy to the bass of the song and when I told them that, my little second grade boy said "do you think it's cause she's Korean?!" Yeah... I'm Irish and no.

serenityuy01 · July 2015

See I just don't understand why anyone would ever think any of these kinds of comments are acceptable! On the occasion I ever asked someone when they were due ect I always just smiled and congratulated them and tried to share in the excitement. I really don't get people uhg! I haven't had it to bad since I haven't been working since my first trimester I haven't had to be around many people (sometimes this is a good thing lol) I did have a random guy try to tell me I was only 4 months pregnant lol I was like umm no... I only have 8 weeks till he's due and he still didn't believe me lol he was like no no you are only about 4 months... Because the random man at Walmart would know... =;

allsmilz82 · July 2015

I work in a place where I see lots of strangers everyday...I actually commented just this morning to my coworker that I was going to write a book called "Stupid sh*t people say to pregnant women"

I get the 'oh you picked a bad time to be pregnant' comment ALL THE TIME when I say I'm due in Sept. Ummm, actually I was told I would never be able to have babies, so I would probably be ok being pregnant in the hottest month while living in the throats of Hell.

Or I had a real jerk give me a 10 minute dissertation on why having kids in general is such a bad idea both financially and for your freedom.

I had a lady yesterday who commented on how "I must be having this baby any day now" and followed it up with "At least I don't look pregnant from behind".

People are dumb, I try not to take it personally.

RubyRed80 · July 2015

I get those very same comments and I am about to be 32 weeks. I took my 3 year old to a birthday party next door and a guy asked me would I like a beer and I said I can't. So when I stood up, they acted like they were amazed that I was actually pregnant. I am plus size but I am a size 16. My belly is huge and my doctor was saying that I was measuring on the big side so I just thought that people saw and automatically knew. I felt like I was on display.

KellyT22 · July 2015

@rhill30 I'm due the 27th too but I always tell people I'm due in early October so that I don't have to listen to people say "did you have that baby yet?!" The entire month of September.

theknowlesbby · July 2015

"Omg, you're 32 weeks? You're so small! You don't even look pregnant. I hate you."

...hate you too lady I've never met before.

rachelkawesome · July 2015

Hurtuk33 That's the cutest thing I ever heard.

kazmierczak0314 · July 2015

I live in MN and I haven't gotten any rude comments yet. It seems like everyone is really nice about it and happy for me. I also work at a garden center/farm and it seems like all our customers and in a good mood when they come in.

karapalley · July 2015

Today I posted a really cute photo of my hubby hanging things on the nursery wall and you could see my legs crossed and propped up (I was clearly supervising lol)

My friends mom then proceeds to comment on the photo... "... By the way, you really shouldn't be crossing your legs, and only laying on your right side... Just sayin"

I know she means well, but I really don't like it when people talk to me like I don't know about being pregnant lol I've been doing this for 34 weeks now... I got it

Amarantheansea · July 2015

I work in a really busy coffee shop. So I get these ALL THE TIME!!! From the generic..."Wow, you look like your going to pop!" To the , it has to be any day now!", to "Twins?" People always think they know what your having... Most guess boy. I'm team green and 33 weeks so time will tell. I have become quite the professional on letting all the comments roll off my shoulder, or quipping back with some sort of sarcastic but humorous remark! But for the love..... Can't you see that I have 10 drink tickets on the bar and I'm busting my butt so you can have your double soy macchiato in a time sensitive fashion. I'm not going to lie... I have day dreamed on more than one occasion of faking my water breaking and sneaking my super pregnant ass right out the bathroom window! Or wearing a gangsta style necklack that has my countdown to baby in days around my neck to alleviate the questions. Bottom line...the only thing that is ok to say is..,"Congratulations!!!... YOU LOOK BEAUTIFUL!" ....extends arm**micdrop!

ktbkitten · July 2015

So I've had a few fun ones. A guy said, "Oh, now I recognize you. You're fatter than you were before." Never seen him before in my life. And then another guy who is totally strange but not a stranger per say made a comment about how animals plan to have their babies in the spring, and I just did it wrong. Ugh.

My favorite thing that has been said to me though is from women and they aren't strangers, but it pisses me off and I have to say it. When they find out that I am taking 12 weeks maternity leave they say they would love to take a 12 week vacation. WTF?! They are women, they have had babies. What part of giving birth and taking care of a newborn sounds like a vacation?! UGH!!!!

MiromiM · July 2015

I'm a little on the small side (see attached picture) so I often get comments about it. I've had about 4-5 people ask me if I'm sure I'm due in September, you know, like I somehow screwed up my due date by a couple of months.

seamonkey4 · July 2015

A family friend asked how many more months I had left to go, I said 7 more weeks, she said what?? can I punch you now, you're so small! I said umm...can you not?

When I was 32 weeks I went to kohl's to buy sleepers because fall clothes are finally out, the cashier says I love little girl clothes, someone is very lucky you're buying all these cute things for them. Who's baby is it? I stared at her for a minute than pointed to my stomach and said she's mine. Do people think I just look fat??

Blang2014 · July 2015

My favorite is when people tell me I look miserable. I actually feel pretty good, sure I waddle, and it is really hot here in Portland, OR lately, but do I really look that bad? I go to the bathroom and look in the mirror and think I look pretty good. I've only gained 14 pounds but I'm all belly.

SEN27 · July 2015

I work at a clinic where I interact with a lot of patients, it's only lunch time and three people already asked me if I was having twins....no I'm just short and baby has no where to go but out. I though it was just me being uncomfortable so more angry lately, but I'm glad to see I'm not the only one who gets annoyed by certain comments.

Rudiii · July 2015

At 24 weeks, a sickly-looking, shrewd woman said "Oh my! I was your size when I gave birth to both of my children!" I'm 5'5 and weighed 120 at the time.

I could go on and on about how people should really learn to shut their mouths, but the bottom line is that your doctor's opinion is all that matters. It took me up until now to learn that and I'm still working on it.

If all else fails, pregantchicken.com has a list of my favorite witty comebacks to rude prego comments:

"Have you had that baby yet!?"
"Yep, I just decided to leave it in the car today."

Yiggle09 · July 2015

This just happened today- I work at an xray department that has Cat Scan MRI Nuclear Medicine and Ultrasound as well so there is a communal waiting room. There was an extremely large man ( in a wheel chair ) with a large wife and normal sized daughter and the cutest little service dog I have ever seen. I couldnt help glancing at them when I come in through the door cause they are right in front of it. I came out once to get a patient and then the second time I came out I heard the wife say - Oh I am so glad she is not here to get you... I know people just aren't knowledgeable enough about xrays to understand I am capable of xraying them while in the wheel chair for many different exams but the main problem I had with this was couldnt you wait to say this when I cannot hear you? I may be 6 weeks away from my due date but I don't look too unable to do my job in my opinion...

DChunt09 · July 2015

My husband and I are relatively young for having a family of 4 already. I'm 25 and he's 27. We've been married for 7 years and we have a little boy and a little girl.

I still get dirty looks from older, more "mature" women, but it's nothing compared what I received on a daily basis when I was pregnant with my son. Now, I know I was 19. I really am not oblivious to the idea that that is crazy young to have been married for a year and having a baby by today's standards, so the looks didn't bother me too much. It was the comments that did me in. People I would pass in parking lots would call me plenty of names the bump would not approve of. And the worst: while I was working in a coffee shop and had started to show, an older gentleman came in, who was a regular, and said, "didn't anyone tell you what happens when you sit on someone else? Maybe next time you should use some protection."

Um, what!?

baker1jm2 · July 2015

My uncle greeted me with "there's my big fat neice" and a stranger in the elevator said "wow you're huge you must be miserable" I try to just ignore it but the funny thing is I'm really small for 33 weeks according to most people and have only gained 15 lbs so far (and was a healthy weight pre preggo). People can just be so rude no matter your size!

v1wwo · July 2015

People all the time say that my stomach looks too small for this baby to be do mid September. Well I feel like a pregnant cow and there are still two months left!
I would really like to know what a pregnant women should look like to them.

tstew96 · July 2015

The only comment I've recieved was when I was babysitting my 11 month old nephew and took him to my boyfriends aunts house, her 5 year old asked me "why my belly is so big if the baby was already out"

Rachelsbaby · July 2015

I was at the grocery store last weekend and the lady ringing me out ( whom btw was fat) looks at me and says "your only having one" I looked at her and said "how many are you having" the look on my boyfriends face was of complete shock and the man behind me was busted up. I've had it with the stupid comments people make. I bet she never says anything like that again.

rholbrook7 · July 2015

Rachelsbaby said:
I was at the grocery store last weekend and the lady ringing me out ( whom btw was fat) looks at me and says "your only having one" I looked at her and said "how many are you having" the look on my boyfriends face was of complete shock and the man behind me was busted up. I've had it with the stupid comments people make. I bet she never says anything like that again.

OMG I'm dying here laughing.

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elleaborbanana · July 2015

Being due September 11th. My belly is only measuring as a belly of someone 26 weeks. I'm 32 weeks. I am not big and I know I'm not big. But one lady was carrying a newborn and I told her he was just so cute. She responded with a thank you. I say that I'm due in September and just can't wait to see her. The lady looks at me and tells me I'm lying and I'm not pregnant. I was shocked. It was so rude.

BubbaJones85 · July 2015

Oh thank goodness other people get it a cleaner at work seems to love to tell me how massive I am and I'm not going to be able to move in September. We're also team green and people love guessing, which is fine until they tell me their pseudo-science behind it. I told my cleaner that midwife says I'm measuring perfectly to which i get told "ooo they'll tell you anything". Yep thanks. We're also Hypno birthing as I want a natural birth, all that does is make people think of their horror stories. Arghhh

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