Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
kristib1027
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Re: Mixed babies!!
I'm Filipino and DH is Caucasian. Everyone says DD looks just like DH, but an Asian version.
Since we are all of mixed race we have NO IDEA what this baby will look like, neither of us has dominant features. I hope he has my curly afro hair. I think babies are so cute with a little Afro.
Together since 2006
Married 01.17.15
I must agree that some of the most beautiful babies I know are mixed, it's quite striking to see how traits show!
My dad is African American and American Indian (more Indian then anything) and my mom is Irish so that brought me.
My daughters dad is also American Indian like very very Indian so she's a mixed baby too and she's perfect. She's tall like her dad with his dark curly hair and piercing dark dark eyes. She's my little model.
My previous two kids with my ex where both born with very pale skin and red hair even though we both had brown hair. I am hoping this baby picks up more of the darker genes because super white skin in Texas just isnt practical!
My DH is Chinese - born in HK and came to the states at 3 years old. I am German (1st and 2nd generation on dads/moms side) with blonde hair and green eyes.
We are excited to meet our little one and see what he looks like! We had our first peek at 3D ultrasound and I swear he has my husband's lips and nose already. We will see!
We think lo is going to have dark hair and eyes but we will see.
My husband has blonde hair and blue eyes. Our son is very blonde with big gorgeous blue eyes and looks nothing at all like me. I'm very curious to see how this baby looks.
My DH is half Black / half Spanish. So our DS and LO have Israeli, Norwegian, black and Spanish.
For those who haven't seen my DS. Meet River Jackson...
These were taken yesterday. His blonde highlights are definitely from my Mom.
I think it's so cool because it's almost like a roulette, my son could potentially have his grandma's blue/green eyes, my olive skin or his father's darker skin, I have chinky eyes probably due to the Navajo in me, I can't wait to see what he'll look like! genetics itself is just awesome and extremely interesting to study ! It's too bad that unfortunately I will be the last of my Navajo bloodline (I'm 1/4 - so I have full blooded grandmother) to "officially" be considered Native American. I believe one day in the near future our world will be full ethnically/racially diverse people!
Our second daughter looks like me. Dark hair, medium tone skin, and dark brown/chocolate eyes.
Now, Lexi (our youngest) came out with afro curly brown hair and green eyes with very light skin. She's my husband's doppleganger. All though she's 16 mos, her eyes alternate between shades of green and the occasional honey brown from day to day.
No idea what this LO will look like. None of our girls resemble one another.
I am full blooded Mexican (with some Texan slang thanks to me moving here at 1 yr old) and husband is white with Irish descent hence his brown/red hair and green eyes.