What have you done (so far) that you said you'd never do.

lovethatcolosun · July 2015

So we all go into the life of a parent saying they you swear you'd never do__________. What perceptions have shifted? Have you adapted a style of parenting you never thought you would? Basically how did the expectation compare to the reality?

kaila8 · July 2015

Sleep with LO in bed. I swore that I would never do that because it terrifies me. But I do it quite frequently because at the point when it's the only place she will stay asleep, this mama needs her sleep too! Still working on my guilty conscious about this but hey, she's happy, healthy, and growing like a weed so I must be doing something right!

LolaMarley23 · July 2015

That i would still make an effort in my looks. I always swore i would still look presentable a lot of the time... well, 3 weeks pp and i am wearing pj's non stop that are covered in boob milk, spit up and food. Not to mention my hair is always up and i am pretty sure i have a stink circle around me. Raising tiny humans is exhausting and i almost always choose sleep over a shower!

lwyz · July 2015

Not even just co-sleeping, but sleeping on his tummy on top of new. I was firmly in the my bed is my space territory, buuuut, baby wakes up every time I try to transfer him to the pack n play. So what's a girl to do.

bethanne09 · July 2015

Just about everything from the very beginning. I was very anti c-sec, ended up getting one. Adamant about being EBF, supplement with a bottle every once in a while. Most of all, I was determined that we would never cosleep, and I'm pretty sure he was in our bed all night last night. All of our pillows and blankets ended up on the floor though, so that's a step closer to safe, right??

I'm sure this is the start of a lot of this "compromise".

KaLikeAWind · July 2015

I didn't say I would *never* do this, but while I was pregnant I was of the mind that I'd totally be like 'sure! Hold the kid! Give me a break! Let me rest my arms! I wanna play xbox (or something)!'

Now I'm like - 'No! He's mine!'

janat1717 · July 2015

Definitely giving a bottle of something besides my milk...

rolson8947 · July 2015

I always said LO would sleep in her crib no matter what (yea right lol). I think that's about it for now, but I'm sure that will change.

Sammy K · July 2015

Still co-sleeping at one month. Oh well. With DS I swore I would never do CIO (before I actually read the book) but it worked so well with DS that I can't wait until LO is old enough. When you reach a certain level of tired, you'll try anything and CIO did the trick.

aj1327 · July 2015

Steph0727 said:
That i would still make an effort in my looks. I always swore i would still look presentable a lot of the time... well, 3 weeks pp and i am wearing pj's non stop that are covered in boob milk, spit up and food. Not to mention my hair is always up and i am pretty sure i have a stink circle around me. Raising tiny humans is exhausting and i almost always choose sleep over a shower!

This is pretty much mine too. Lol. I'm a hot mess constantly.

kaila8 · July 2015

Steph0727 said:
That i would still make an effort in my looks. I always swore i would still look presentable a lot of the time... well, 3 weeks pp and i am wearing pj's non stop that are covered in boob milk, spit up and food. Not to mention my hair is always up and i am pretty sure i have a stink circle around me. Raising tiny humans is exhausting and i almost always choose sleep over a shower!

Ugh this also! Thankfully I have an amazing DH who comes home from work and immediately tells me how beautiful I am. (As I look down at my oversized pajama pants and my tank top covered in spit up, with my hair half way in my bun still) thank you babe. Glad you still think so haha

aligons · July 2015

That I would never use a pacifier, take an insane amount of pics of the LO on a daily basis, or shop for cute outfits just because (even though he has plenty of clothes).

klkonwi · July 2015

I let him sleep on his stomach sometimes for naps when he's on the boppy during the day only.
Helps his gas.......
Said I would never do that

mccall35 · July 2015

Give a pacifier (with DS we waited until 6weeks and he never took it). With this babe, 5 days in and we were poppin' that bad boy in!

janat1717 · July 2015

So I do have to say when I brought up everyone here's concerns to my co sleeping friends they all said that a ton would end up doing it anyways and just to plan for it. Totally right

lindsladle15 · July 2015

I didn't say I'd never do it, but LO sleeps on her belly most of the time and has since 3 weeks. I figure, once she can lift her head and turn it from side to side, have at it! She sleeps so much better, and so did DD.

aliciaspinnet · July 2015

Spent way more money than I planned! When preparing for LO, I tried to go as minimal as possible, figuring that many of the products out there were unnecessary. I still think there's truth in that but after a few days of parenthood I realised that if something makes my life easier then it's probably worth the money. Some of our big purchases since LO was born include a bassinet (I thought I could get away with just a crib but LO looked so tiny in it and he settles better in the bassinet), a nice diaper bag (I thought I could just use one of my existing purses but none of them have enough room and I wanted to treat myself) and a swing (LO loves it!).

kelseyharrell22 · July 2015

I swore I'd NEVER breastfeed in public... Uh yeah right.

aliciac2008 · July 2015

That I wouldn't use my new credit card. Haha, ya right. Babies are expensive. Especially when they won't sleep and you'll try any new product that give you hope for sleep. That baby's almost maxed out.

Also, I swore that I would breast feed and use cloth diapers from the beginning to save money. Well, breast feeding didn't work and I'm too tired to even think about washing cloth diapers, so disposable it is for now.

amy4516 · July 2015

Like so many of you I also said I would never co sleep. Before having LO I thought I knew it all. Ha!

HoosOnFirst · July 2015

I swore I would breastfeed (didn't work out) and that I wouldn't give a pacifier (did after 3 weeks!)

carajeanp37 · July 2015

Pacifier. Sometimes mommy needs a little quiet.

47923ang · July 2015

I swore I wouldn't care about what clothes my twins wore. I thought we'd be in plain onesies and the few neutral onesies I had picked up all summer. (We were team green).

Now, I'm all about the girly dresses and pink stuff for my little girl, and the cute rompers and jean shorts for my little man.

virginiaunicorn11 · July 2015

@423ang I also care more about what my boy wears than I thought I would. We do have some pink blankets and some semi-neutral but more girly hand-me-downs. But I was all preachy about newborns and gender identity before, saying who cares if a boy wears pink. Smh. (I do still believe that, in theory! Lol)

I also used to think babies just cry sometimes, and I wouldn't be a mom that freaks at every cry. But my LO only cries when he needs something, so I can't stomach letting him cry for a second.

bethanne09 · July 2015

My mom came over yesterday and put LO down for a nap. I was so worried the entire time. He was in the crib for the first time and I had the baby monitor basically attached to my ear. He did great, but I became "that mom". Yay for more things I never thought I'd do. I was sure I'd be laid back. .

HoosOnFirst · July 2015

Oh, I am also ignoring the crap out of my cat

And even changed the background pic on my phone from kitty to LO! (I know, right?!)

KaLikeAWind · July 2015

hoodoll82 said:
Oh, I am also ignoring the crap out of my cat

Poor Samurai. He's been such a good boy, coming around with headbutts for me and my mom, but I think I can tell he is bummed about the loss of his lap space. And I find myself having to make an effort to include him in snuggle time.

slr1229 · July 2015

Said I'd try not to use a paci- at least until after 1 month. Gave in at 3 weeks.

Ignoring my beagle more.

I'm opposite in that I thought I wouldn't care how I looked during the day, but even with just her and I try to take a shower in the morning and somewhat get my hair okay and not wear pjs all day...makes me feel more human since it's so hot here and I can't really go outside.

dancegurl1118 · July 2015

I really can't think of anything now because I had a "go with the flow" attitude. But resurrect this thread with LO as a toddler and all my "I WILL NEVER DO XYZ" will be out the window

aj1327 · July 2015

Guess who was in our bed last night? Add that and dependence on a paci to my list too.

bwow615 · July 2015

hoodoll82 said:
Oh, I am also ignoring the crap out of my cat

And even changed the background pic on my phone from kitty to LO! (I know, right?!)

Haha I did the same, I feel bad

mlindzz · July 2015

Lots of the things mentioned above I could second..
1) teaching LO to only sleep at night while snuggled up to me... Oops!
2) using a pacifier before 6 weeks (introduced it at 2 weeks)
3) not giving two shits about the fact that I probably look miserable most days with no make up, unbrushed hair and oversized housecoat.
4) being 'that mum' that watches over everyone's shoulder, including hubby's, while they hold him.

But he's so worth it!

samantham0305 · July 2015

I swore I'd never let DD spend the night anywhere away from me until she was at least 1. She'll be a month old on Sunday, and last night was the second time she's spent the night away from us (with a close family member). But sleep deprivation and exhaustion were beginning to get to me, but try to tell that to my guilt!

bbnmama2012 · July 2015

I said I would have an early bedtime from the start. We struggle getting him in bed at 10 pm. We're still working on getting him ready for bed earlier.

mvargas12 · July 2015

Swore I would never ever ever use a pacifier. Didn't even make it past day 2.

ETA: getting annoyed with my dog and crating her. My poor pup. She's just too high energy and sometimes I just need her to chill, which seems to be more often these days.

kezdk · July 2015

LO still in the NICU, so it is yet to be seen what I give in to...but I have VERY sensitive breasts and I despise them being touched...I swore I would never breastfeed. I have been pumping since day 1, and have attempted a latching to see what he would do. Still not sure about it, but I have the pumping down pat - I never dreamed that I would put giant suction cups on my boobs and go through with it 8 times a day...I feel like a dairy cow

devyns2nd · July 2015

I didn't swear anything off since non of that held up with DD. I knew it was pointless since LO wasn't here yet. I did plan on EBFing but that isn't working out at all. Pregnancy didn't go like I had "planned" either.

And btw you can NOT tell a pregnant FTM any of these things. I look back at how stubborn and snappy I was about advice from people (some was useless) and laugh because don't tell me I'm going to give in and give my baby a pacifier....tatally did.

virginiaunicorn11 · July 2015

I actually planned to use a pacifier, first saying at one month and then said at 6 weeks. Not sure what's stopping me but I can't make myself do it. I tried once and it was too big for LO, and he screamed harder. Dunno. I believe in pacis. Weird.
New moms are so weird sometimes!
(See what I did there? it's not me. It's the New Mom who has taken over Me. That bitch.)

Sammy K · July 2015

Give prescription medications at 1 month. I'm pretty anti-meds and would rather treat the cause than the symptoms but I just started LO on Zantac. I'm hoping she gets relief and we all get some sleep. Better living through chemistry.

Sammy K · July 2015

Here's another: using the TV to entertain DS. We didn't let him watch TV until he was 2 and we typically limit his time. But I'm currently standing in the laundry room eating ice cream out of the tub while DS watches Curious George and LO naps in a bouncy seat. Not my finest moment but all I am capable of right now.

lovethatcolosun · July 2015

Sammy K said:
Here's another: using the TV to entertain DS. We didn't let him watch TV until he was 2 and we typically limit his time. But I'm currently standing in the laundry room eating ice cream out of the tub while DS watches Curious George and LO naps in a bouncy seat. Not my finest moment but all I am capable of right now.

I'm right there with you girl. When my mom is here to help 3-4 days a week we are good with outside time and activities. When it's just me...PBS is my best friend. No shame.

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