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October 2015 Moms
ErinLily44
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Reall Hard Question?
ErinLily44
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This is hard to say as I only found out today but I can't stop thinking about so I needed to ask. I had a scan today as my doctor was concerned about some pain that I was having. My doctor can't find a heart beat on the scan and thinks I will have a still birth. I'm crying right now as I right this as I can't believe it.
The father of my child isn't in the picture but we have recently agreed that he can see his child once a week. I'm unsure whether or not to tell him until I get a definite answer from my doctor.
Re: Reall Hard Question?
As for the father, i guess itd depend on the relationship. If you're still ok together id tell him, if you hate eachother id wait until there's confirmation of anything.
*hug* We're here if you need us.
I think you need to surround yourself with people that are going to be a strong support system like your mom(gathering from other posts). If the father and you have a relationship now where you can talk like adults and be around each other yes I would let him know now so he can be a part of the next test or doctor appt. If he is someone who is going to cause more stress call him when you have answers. Again so sorry and please keep us posted. Sending lots of positive thoughts your way.
@MelMel92 Thanks for the support. When I told him I was pregnant (we'd been together for 1 year) he walked out on me so we don't have the best relationship
Cannot personally relate to the relationship issue but would assume that since he was so insensitive and left immediately that he may not be a great source of support. Worst fear would be that he would blame you or make you feel like this was your fault. And it's not.
Hoping for a strong steady healthy heartbeat on your follow up exam.
If I were in your shoes, I'd wait till I knew for sure before telling the father.
If you can't count on the father to be loving and supportive, you might be better off waiting to tell him until you have a definite answer. I hope you have someone in your life you can talk to during this time who you know will not add to your anxiety.
@BoomBarian My doctor is giving me an ultra sound tomorrow. I can't focus on anything else but my doctor has always been there for me and is so kind. I have had some pain for a few weeks now and I thought it could have been pre-term labour which is why I went to the doctor but he did an ultra sound and he couldn't find a heart beat. The one tomorrow is just to make sure.
Our Angel: EDD: 05/11/17. MC at 6 weeks
Baby #2- EDD: 07/18/17
If you find it hard to get through the night without support, maybe rethink letting your ex know what's going on. He might be the best person to lean on since it is his child also. Whatever you chose as far as that goes, I know it'll be the right choice for you.
I'll be thinking about you, Blake, and Baby.
Will be looking for your update tomorrow.