I am a battered pregnant woman

Reyzel · July 2015

im pregnant and i always get beaten up. dunno how to ease the pain

kristen2b · July 2015

By your partner @Reyzel?

MegStark · July 2015

MUD. Gotta be. Right?

If not, we need more info. I'm sure plenty of women could give you great advice on where you could turn.

kristen2b · July 2015

MegStark said:
MUD. Gotta be. Right?

If not, we need more info. I'm sure plenty of women could give you great advice on where you could turn.

I hope it's mud. But as a victim of abuse in a past life I can't ignore it. OP please provide more info.

vppittman · July 2015

@Reyzel that's very upsetting. Could you specify what type of resources you are looking for? Do you need to get out of a domestic violence situation?

adecembermom2015 · July 2015

I don't know much about your situation, but you need to get out and seek help from the police and family/friends. Please take care of yourself and your precious baby.

adbrading · July 2015

I don't know your entire situation. I've never been in any type of abusive relationship. I can say that I think however hard it might be to leave, it'll probably be harder to stay. You have not only yourself to worry about now, but that precious baby. I know that you know all of this but if it's just a little push you need I hope this helps. Get out. You can do this and you'll love yourself for it. Keep us posted please.

nik6499 · July 2015

If you are truly a battered pregnant women, you need to find your nearest battered woman's shelter and call them right now. They can provide escape plans, resources, support. Whatever it is that you need. While many of us have been in abisive relationships and can commiserate and be empathetic, we cannot provide you with the assistance that these shelters can. If you don't want to call, ensure that you tell your OB and she will put you in touch with resources as well.

BostonBaby1 · July 2015

I agree. OP can you please provide us with more details? Are you in the United States? If your SO is the one who is the abuser, does he/she have access to your account here? I'm sure that if you provided us with more details, we will be able to give you phone numbers that you can call to put a plan of action in place. The other option for you, is to go down to the police station first thing in the morning and file a report asking for a restraining order.

Ken122014 · July 2015

MegStark said:
MUD. Gotta be. Right?

If not, we need more info. I'm sure plenty of women could give you great advice on where you could turn.

Agreed. @Reyzel Seriously... Elaborate. I can't even tell if you're just being sarcastic... If this isn't mud, please find help for yourself and your lo. I wish you lots of luck.

LauraSmarterSpam · July 2015

I sure hope MUD. She hasn't come back. That's either a bad sign or MUD.

OP, where are you?!

kimb311 · July 2015

It's MUD. Disgusting MUD. And this person should be banned. By not returning to the post it leads to MUD. And if you look at the profile, it's a new poster with little to no history, also a sign of MUD. It's not a topic to make fun of. Last night was a mess of this crap.

kristen2b · July 2015

kimb311 said:
It's MUD. Disgusting MUD. And this person should be banned. By not returning to the post it leads to MUD. And if you look at the profile, it's a new poster with little to no history, also a sign of MUD. It's not a topic to make fun of. Last night was a mess of this crap.

Right??

kimb311 · July 2015

@kristen2b was it a full moon last night?! What a disaster the board was! I rarely get in the mix, but man! #-o

kristen2b · July 2015

kimb311 said:
@kristen2b was it a full moon last night?! What a disaster the board was! I rarely get in the mix, but man! #-o

@kimb311 the crazy coincided with some insomnia so I got more involved than ever last night!!

kimb311 · July 2015

I was up waiting for hubs to get back last night and got sucked it too! This topic I let go on the off chance the OP came back and did in fact need help. But boy, I was itching to call MUD.
Today will seem so boring LOL

lmgagliardi@hotmail.com · July 2015

So apparently I missed a bunch last night? Will have to try to catch up, but what is MUD?

rmj28 · July 2015

lmgagliardi@hotmail.com said:
So apparently I missed a bunch last night? Will have to try to catch up, but what is MUD?

Made up drama.

lmgagliardi@hotmail.com · July 2015

Oh. I figured it had to be some sort of acronym because everyone was putting it in caps lol

bbrady1031 · July 2015

I don't know about this post ladies.....can @BumpAdmin investigate. They have to know how to contact her and see what is going on.....or at least OP respond and fill us in if its something different than what everyone is thinking!!!

SierraGood · July 2015

I'm hoping this isn't MUD because this isn't a topic to play with. OP please give more info at least so we know you are ok or if you truly need help please reach out to someone.

Reyzel · July 2015

Yes. Since my first month

jessica122015 · July 2015

@reyzel we still need more info so we know how to help.

vbrannin2010 · July 2015

You need to leave that relationship. My mom suffered from domestic abuse from my father and sadly I remember it all. Do you have any family members near by to help you?

rmj28 · July 2015

You need to find a women's shelter and find local resources. Immediately.

Eta: Can you provide any more information?

kimb311 · July 2015

I'm still saying MUD. Call me horrible. But I'm not buying it. And I can't decide if I hope I'm wrong or not. Either way it's not good. Someone making a joke out of a serious situation, or someone in trouble that needs help.

Marchmellow2 · July 2015

Mud or not. We really need to take this seriously ladies. Let's help OP, regardless if you think it's mud, it's not something to just assume it's a joke either.

@Reyzel I sent you a pm so you can talk more about what's going on there as well. I'd like to help you. Do you have family or friends that live near you? A battered women's shelter will help you stay safe. Get out now. I have a friend who was beaten while she was pregnant and was thrown down a flight of stairs at 6 months and had to be hospitalized until she finally had a preterm baby. After baby was here the Dad kept on beating her until I finally jumped in my car and drove 1000 miles to pick her and her baby up and I took them in and she never saw him again! Please find help now! Maybe you can do what my friend did: Call a friend that lives far away and have them come get you. Praying for you and LO..

hplunkett2883 · July 2015

You want help? Really? I am a survivor of a VERY abusive marriage. You can PM me if you want. But your vague and short with your info. How can someone help if they don't know what's really going on? An online pregnancy forum really is not the best place for help in this situation. If you are in fact in a physically abusive relationship you need to leave. If you have no where to go then you call the cops and have his ass "leave". Google domestic violence and a slew of information will come up. The thing is, it's ultimately up to you. People can offer advice until they are blue in the face and refer you to several support groups and anonymous help places, but if you aren't ready and can't make the move in standing up for yourself and your child then all this is wasted. So you need to ask yourself.... 1. Do I want to leave? 2. Am I willing to do WHATEVER it takes to keep me and my unborn child safe? 3. How bad do you really want help?..... Think on those things because whatever your fear is in leaving can't be as bad as staying. Trust me. I honestly let it go on for far too long and was a slave in my own home. I honestly thought my only way out would be in a body bag. Don't let it get to that point for you. I still struggle daily with the damage caused by asshole ex. I pray this is MUD.... But I had to say something just in case it's not.

mtr2015 · July 2015

@Reyzel Can you private message me? I volunteer at a shelter for domestic violence and have resources to help you.

ACarter0914 · July 2015

Usually women/men in domestic violence relationships don't broad cast it. (Unless they are a survivor, of course) I smell such a stink on this post. I need more info.

Ken122014 · July 2015

ACarter0914 said:
Usually women/men in domestic violence relationships don't broad cast it. (Unless they are a survivor, of course) I smell such a stink on this post. I need more info.

This is the only reason I actually kind of believe, because she's been so vague it makes it more believable in my eyes. But it's so hard to know and pretty impossible to help if she doesn't get back on and say or do something!

kristen2b · July 2015

mtr2015 said:
@Reyzel Can you private message me? I volunteer at a shelter for domestic violence and have resources to help you.

Has anyone heard back from her?

Ohashfo · July 2015

It seems to be that the vagueness is her way of keeping people intrigued even though it isn't real. Why post a vague one sentence post with horrible grammar, I'm mean, and then her ONLY response is another one sentence that's just as vague, if not more, than the first? I've watched Enough, enough times to know that if you're really asking for help, you really ask for it. Not air your possible "MUD" and then fall off the face of the earth. Also, why post on here if it's that serious? Call the cops, change your identity... I highly recommend watching Enough.

mbhurst1 · July 2015

Don't cry for help unless you want help. No one can help if you don't provide details. I hope you PMd the people that responded

acoe85 · July 2015

1-800-799-SAFE this is the national hotline.
They can give you local resources, as well as safety tips.

Regardless of the integrity of the post, if this number or resources that those of us who have them are providing helps anyone at all (even if it's not OP) then the post was not a waste!

CMDD · July 2015

Women are in the most danger when they leave. So please don't just tell OP to get out. There has to be a plan. It's so so hard to do for so many reasons, but you can do this. OP I hope you get help soon.

CMDD · July 2015

Also, I didn't meant to sound judgy or harsh, I love some of your responses. This is such a great group.

mrsattema · July 2015

hplunkett2883 said:
You want help? Really? I am a survivor of a VERY abusive marriage. You can PM me if you want. But your vague and short with your info. How can someone help if they don't know what's really going on? An online pregnancy forum really is not the best place for help in this situation. If you are in fact in a physically abusive relationship you need to leave. If you have no where to go then you call the cops and have his ass "leave". Google domestic violence and a slew of information will come up. The thing is, it's ultimately up to you. People can offer advice until they are blue in the face and refer you to several support groups and anonymous help places, but if you aren't ready and can't make the move in standing up for yourself and your child then all this is wasted. So you need to ask yourself.... 1. Do I want to leave? 2. Am I willing to do WHATEVER it takes to keep me and my unborn child safe? 3. How bad do you really want help?..... Think on those things because whatever your fear is in leaving can't be as bad as staying. Trust me. I honestly let it go on for far too long and was a slave in my own home. I honestly thought my only way out would be in a body bag. Don't let it get to that point for you. I still struggle daily with the damage caused by asshole ex.

I pray this is MUD.... But I had to say something just in case it's not.

It's not always easy to just explain or Google 'domestic violence' I was in a bad abusive relationship 11 years ago. I was a live in girlfriend that was locked in his house while he was away. I tried reaching out online finding friend to Email or IM because I wasn't allowed to have a phone..and I was beaten worse. He had a key logger on the computer and could go back at anytime and see everything I had written... That was my first pregnancy and he literally put a gun to my head forcing me to have an abortion... I only got away because I bled so bad after I needed care and was able to make a call to a friend from a public phone... Don't be so quick to judge someone else's situation...

mrsattema · July 2015

Not specifically directed at @hplunkett2883 just for everyone who is quick to judge one way or another... It isn't always easy to just get help...

hplunkett2883 · July 2015

@mrsattema Trust me I know it isn't easy to leave. Once I finally decided I was getting out it still took me 2 years before I actually had my chance. I also had no phone and no contact with my family. I was allowed to go to work and that was it. I couldn't go anywhere else unless he was with me. I was scared and didn't know where to turn and when I did know I was too scared he would find out to try anything. I honestly give credit to God for getting me and my kids out safely. There were times I tried to leave and ended up tied up for the night. But what I meant in my post is that unless she is really ready to get help and get out nothing anyone says is going to help her get there any faster. I had people offer to help but I turned them down not because I wanted to stay but out of fear of him finding me and killing me. When I left I moved out of state. And since he made me cut all contact with my family he had no idea where to begin to look for me. I left with my kids and a trash bag of our clothes that's it. And I agree that her short one line posts are very disturbing in the fact that is that all she had time to do before he finds out? I lived 6 years having to sneak around and cover my tracks on simple things like a phone call or a trip to the store. Anyway I'm sorry for all that you went through. I'm glad that we both made it out. I pray that op finds her way out as well.

hummingbird35 · July 2015

It makes me upset that so many PPs just dismissed this post, someone even said not to 'cry' domestic violence. Any indication of abuse should be treated as a serious concern-- accusing her of 'making up drama' when she specifically said she is being harmed is disgusting to me. OP, I hope that you can find the help that you need, even if it's not here. If a group of pregnant women offers doubt before concern, who can we turn to?

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