It would be really depressing to be married to someone who was uncomfortable being present for stuff like that. I think I'd feel lonely if that were the case for me. Like, for example, last time they manually broke my water and it was awful, I just kept gushing water. Every time I thought it was done and changed into dry underwear, it gushed again. It was like peeing uncontrollably, four or five times. I can't imagine going through that AND being embarrassed having my husband see it. You know?
Edit stupid autocorrect again. I really need to proofread before entering.
People should gift their daycare providers. I realize that's an unpopular opinion for some....but really. If you think your in home provider is just banking on pure profit, you're delusional.
Jan'16 lurker here. I didn't realize this was an UO. We always give Christmas gifts to my SKs daycare providers.
It was a topic in question from my last group and a lot of them seemed to think they pay their provider enough...
Umm if I have to gift my doorman, mailman, garbage man etc. You better bet I'm gifting the person taking care of my child lol. They are the most important people!
Feb '16 Siggy Challenge: Favorite Thing About Fall: Haunted Houses and Scary Movies!
I took my SO to my appointment. I explained to him in front of my OB and nurse that this early its a crotch ultrasound. My OB and the nurse laughed a little when I said that. SO had no issue at all. We had sex to make a baby. An OBGYN deals with lady parts. This is my doctor that will deliver this baby. Sh*ts gonna be not pretty. Deal with it. Welcome to OBGYN and pregnancy!
My husband has been through 3 vaginal U/S this pregnancy alone and when I had my overall check and my Dr. checked my cervix where his seat was in the room he actually saw everything he did, when the Dr. left the room for me to get dressed he laughed and I asked did I not feel violated by an old man feeling me up. (My Dr. is early 60's, but I love him) we just laughed it off. I will have a c-section so he won't see things exactly the same but I agree def don't be embarassed girls, its part of it!
Totally part of it! DH had to help me after my last delivery when I decided to shower. I didn't wait for a nurse to help me with that kind of stuff and actually felt WAY more comfortable with DH helping me instead. PP bleeding is no joke and DH didn't even bat an eye. Love that man :x
I side eye what some people eat while they're pregnant. Pregnancy is not an excuse to eat like crap 24/7. Part of me wonders if people don't know any better or they just don't care.
Good thing I don't know you irl! I had 5 grapes for breakfast, then a handful of oyster crackers and an hour ago I had 2 ego waffles. Last night I managed to actually eat a plate of rice and sweet and sour chicken...(greasy Chinese)
I might throw up soon.
I agree some people are not aware/educated in that they really can't eat for two... Its like all the old wives tales.... Anyways I didn't eat awesome with dd but I also had a lot of food aversions and lost almost 20lbs in the first tri! Maybe more time spent judging the smokers and people using drugs while pregnant than worrying what the people who can't even stomach a grape or a glass of water are eating. Jmo
You missed the f/u where I said food choices not related to nausea, first tri, etc.
For example, a friend that bragged about eating two dozen doughnuts in a day because "the baby wanted them". And my coworker, who used to lecture all of us on how we should all be paleo now eats ice cream every day for breakfast, stops for fast food on her way home every day, and eats chips and fried food for lunch. All justified by "it's what I'm craving". Bleh. Makes me nauseous just thinking about it. Trust me, I was no poster child for healthy eating last time, but I SMH when people use the pregnancy excuse for eating absolute crap with no restraint.
ETA: yes I know this is judgypants and not my business, that's why it's a UO
People should gift their daycare providers. I realize that's an unpopular opinion for some....but really. If you think your in home provider is just banking on pure profit, you're delusional.
Granted my child isn't in daycare but I think it is rude to expect gifts. Daycare is a huge expense for families and extra gifts may not be in the budget. It's not like skipping going out to eat because you can't afford a tip. People can't "skip" day care because they can't afford a gift. An item made by the child would be a great alternative but your tone implies you are looking for a monetary gift.
Feb 2016 Siggy Challenge, Favorite Thing About Fall
If your kids can't stay out of everyone else's way at the grocery store, keep them in the cart. I don't mind the occasional accidentally bumping into someone, but if I have to say excuse me to your little gang 4 times in a 15 minute shopping trip, pay a little attention, Mom!
Another one. Grandparents don't get a total pass on sweets. If my two year old is finally eating something nutritious for lunch, despite hearing many battles about it, don't offer him a stupid cookie two bites in! I get it that grandma and grandpa get to be "the fun ones," but have a little common sense!
In regards to the pelvic exam discussion, I just think it's a boundaries thing for some people. Like, I would pee in front of my husband, but I will not poop. I have no problem with him watching me give birth, because it feels appropriate, but it just feels less appropriate *to me* to see a speculum being inserted. That being said, he hasn't ever stepped out of the room for any part of any appointment with any of our first three kids. But I have said, "Do you mind not really watching this part?" I think it's just a personal preference, not right or twong. Pap smear = not a sexy way to see my hooha = not my first choice! JMO.
I side eye what some people eat while they're pregnant. Pregnancy is not an excuse to eat like crap 24/7. Part of me wonders if people don't know any better or they just don't care.
Good thing I don't know you irl! I had 5 grapes for breakfast, then a handful of oyster crackers and an hour ago I had 2 ego waffles.
Last night I managed to actually eat a plate of rice and sweet and sour chicken...(greasy Chinese)
I might throw up soon.
I agree some people are not aware/educated in that they really can't eat for two... Its like all the old wives tales.... Anyways I didn't eat awesome with dd but I also had a lot of food aversions and lost almost 20lbs in the first tri! Maybe more time spent judging the smokers and people using drugs while pregnant than worrying what the people who can't even stomach a grape or a glass of water are eating. Jmo
You missed the f/u where I said food choices not related to nausea, first tri, etc.
For example, a friend that bragged about eating two dozen doughnuts in a day because "the baby wanted them". And my coworker, who used to lecture all of us on how we should all be paleo now eats ice cream every day for breakfast, stops for fast food on her way home every day, and eats chips and fried food for lunch. All justified by "it's what I'm craving". Bleh. Makes me nauseous just thinking about it. Trust me, I was no poster child for healthy eating last time, but I SMH when people use the pregnancy excuse for eating absolute crap with no restraint.
ETA: yes I know this is judgypants and not my business, that's why it's a UO
I don't think I've ever known anyone to admit to eating like this while pregnant. I can't figure out if I would judge or not! I think I might, a little.
@MississippiCatfish (quote tree is getting too long). I never say a word to her, obviously, but it is so hard to bite my tongue and not say "how's that paleo thing working out for you?", particularly since prior to her pregnancy, if she was in the lunchroom at the same time, she'd comment on how un-paleo your food was and how much better/healthier she felt since converting.
My UO of the day is I don't get everyone's obsession with Beyonce and Taylor Swift. They're alright, I guess. I don't understand why everyone freaks out about them though.
In regards to the pelvic exam discussion, I just think it's a boundaries thing for some people. Like, I would pee in front of my husband, but I will not poop. I have no problem with him watching me give birth, because it feels appropriate, but it just feels less appropriate *to me* to see a speculum being inserted. That being said, he hasn't ever stepped out of the room for any part of any appointment with any of our first three kids. But I have said, "Do you mind not really watching this part?" I think it's just a personal preference, not right or twong. Pap smear = not a sexy way to see my hooha = not my first choice! JMO.
This! Also, I normally tell my hubby he can leave to get to work or head back home after the U/S portion of visits even though those haven't included a pelvic exam. I know next appointment he will leave after the meeting with the OB coordinator and U/S so that he can get home to log into work for a few more hours while I get a pap and all the other fun stuff that he can't help with so why be there. I also don't need him front and center while the baby is coming out, he can chill up top and hold my hand. It wouldn't gross me out for him to see, but there is no need for it, IMO.
F16 Sep Siggy Challange - Fav Thing About Fall (even though "fall" won't be here until at least Dec)
I hate the beach! Born and raised in south Florida and I just never understood the hype. Hot, sand everywhere, salt water in your eyes and mouth. I mean I've been a million times of course but I'm always like... eh. Maybe I'm jaded.
Lord what is wrong with you!? Ha, just kidding. I really one going to the beach… I love watching the waves crash and hearing the sounds. I love it especially at night. For some reason it makes me feel so small in the grand scheme of things. Now, living there I can see why maybe you don't see it so special. We live near a big lake and Im over here like "Lake Schmake"
Oh I love to LOOK at it, just not venture out into it, with kids, when it's hot.
In regards to the pelvic exam discussion, I just think it's a boundaries thing for some people. Like, I would pee in front of my husband, but I will not poop. I have no problem with him watching me give birth, because it feels appropriate, but it just feels less appropriate *to me* to see a speculum being inserted. That being said, he hasn't ever stepped out of the room for any part of any appointment with any of our first three kids. But I have said, "Do you mind not really watching this part?" I think it's just a personal preference, not right or twong. Pap smear = not a sexy way to see my hooha = not my first choice! JMO.
This! Also, I normally tell my hubby he can leave to get to work or head back home after the U/S portion of visits even though those haven't included a pelvic exam. I know next appointment he will leave after the meeting with the OB coordinator and U/S so that he can get home to log into work for a few more hours while I get a pap and all the other fun stuff that he can't help with so why be there. I also don't need him front and center while the baby is coming out, he can chill up top and hold my hand. It wouldn't gross me out for him to see, but there is no need for it, IMO.
I don't want or need DH down there studying what's going on or anything. I just totally side-eye the people who say their husbands wouldn't even feel comfortable being in the room when this stuff is going on. That is so weird IMO. Just wanted to clarify my UO.
I have another one. I don't understand the obsession with red velvet. Chocolate cake with tons of food coloring? I don't get it. No thank you.
There's a huge difference between homemade red velvet and crappy, store bought red velvet to me. Although, I don't really LOVE any red velvet like I used to.
I'm on a big key lime pie kick lately. (Meaning, I've had it once since becoming pregnant but wanting it every day.)
People should gift their daycare providers. I realize that's an unpopular opinion for some....but really. If you think your in home provider is just banking on pure profit, you're delusional.
Granted my child isn't in daycare but I think it is rude to expect gifts. Daycare is a huge expense for families and extra gifts may not be in the budget. It's not like skipping going out to eat because you can't afford a tip. People can't "skip" day care because they can't afford a gift. An item made by the child would be a great alternative but your tone implies you are looking for a monetary gift.
Definitely does NOT have to be monetary. But to not even acknowledge your provider as a person of importance on holidays is rude. I personally love gifts that my kids make me. I also got blessed with awesome daycare parents
Totally part of it! DH had to help me after my last delivery when I decided to shower. I didn't wait for a nurse to help me with that kind of stuff and actually felt WAY more comfortable with DH helping me instead. PP bleeding is no joke and DH didn't even bat an eye. Love that man :x
I would never let a nurse help me shower - at least not until I'm very very old. I would only let my husband do that -especially since my mom hasn't seen me naked since I was like 4. My husband is the only one where it wouldn't be totally weird.
Feb '16 Siggy Challenge: Favorite Thing About Fall: Haunted Houses and Scary Movies!
People should gift their daycare providers. I realize that's an unpopular opinion for some....but really. If you think your in home provider is just banking on pure profit, you're delusional.
Granted my child isn't in daycare but I think it is rude to expect gifts. Daycare is a huge expense for families and extra gifts may not be in the budget. It's not like skipping going out to eat because you can't afford a tip. People can't "skip" day care because they can't afford a gift. An item made by the child would be a great alternative but your tone implies you are looking for a monetary gift.
Definitely does NOT have to be monetary. But to not even acknowledge your provider as a person of importance on holidays is rude. I personally love gifts that my kids make me. I also got blessed with awesome daycare parents
As a teacher, I have never expected gifts nor would I side eye a parent who doesn't give one.
People should gift their daycare providers. I realize that's an unpopular opinion for some....but really. If you think your in home provider is just banking on pure profit, you're delusional.
Granted my child isn't in daycare but I think it is rude to expect gifts. Daycare is a huge expense for families and extra gifts may not be in the budget. It's not like skipping going out to eat because you can't afford a tip. People can't "skip" day care because they can't afford a gift. An item made by the child would be a great alternative but your tone implies you are looking for a monetary gift.
Definitely does NOT have to be monetary. But to not even acknowledge your provider as a person of importance on holidays is rude. I personally love gifts that my kids make me. I also got blessed with awesome daycare parents
As a teacher, I have never expected gifts nor would I side eye a parent who doesn't give one.
Guess that makes it a UO I would never not give my provider or daughters' teachers a small token of my appreciation.
People should gift their daycare providers. I realize that's an unpopular opinion for some....but really. If you think your in home provider is just banking on pure profit, you're delusional.
Granted my child isn't in daycare but I think it is rude to expect gifts. Daycare is a huge expense for families and extra gifts may not be in the budget. It's not like skipping going out to eat because you can't afford a tip. People can't "skip" day care because they can't afford a gift. An item made by the child would be a great alternative but your tone implies you are looking for a monetary gift.
Definitely does NOT have to be monetary. But to not even acknowledge your provider as a person of importance on holidays is rude. I personally love gifts that my kids make me. I also got blessed with awesome daycare parents
As a teacher, I have never expected gifts nor would I side eye a parent who doesn't give one.
Guess that makes it a UO I would never not give my provider or daughters' teachers a small token of my appreciation.
Oh I agree it's nice to give one, and I certainly do as well. It was the delusional comment that threw me off.
My UO of the day is I don't get everyone's obsession with Beyonce and Taylor Swift. They're alright, I guess. I don't understand why everyone freaks out about them though.
I don't care about Beyoncé either, but I do like Taylor. Her music is good. I'm not an obsessive fan, but I am impressed that she spends her time doing stuff for fans and randomly donating money to kids with cancer. Much more classy than that Ariana Grande chick who spends her time licking doughnuts she isn't going to buy.
My UO of the day is I don't get everyone's obsession with Beyonce and Taylor Swift. They're alright, I guess. I don't understand why everyone freaks out about them though.
I don't care about Beyoncé either, but I do like Taylor. Her music is good. I'm not an obsessive fan, but I am impressed that she spends her time doing stuff for fans and randomly donating money to kids with cancer. Much more classy than that Ariana Grande chick who spends her time licking doughnuts she isn't going to buy.
I can't STAND Ariana Grande. She has a good voice but her stage presence sucks and she seems to have no personality. I'm indifferent to Beyoncé. It seems like she's always yelling when she sings. Great performer but kind of a wet blanket in interviews. Love me some T Swizzle though. Her songs are catchy, she's very giving, and doesn't take herself too seriously.
Also, re:Oreos: generally I agree that original is the only way to go, but the limited edition rice Krispy treat ones were REALLY good. I wish they were still available.
My UO: I seriously hate wedding and baby showers. Something about sitting around watching an adult open a bunch of gifts and smiling like I care really sets me off for some reason. I'm all about celebrating someone's milestone (wedding, baby, etc.) but when it's a 3-hour event in which the majority of it is someone opening a bunch of gifts, I get exceedingly irritated. Maybe just because I have so many this summer and I'm tired of doing it. I really am a Grinch, I know. Don't judge me. If someone wants to throw me a baby shower, I plan to ensure that it's a very casual event where there is good food and alcohol (for others, of course), and no one has to watch me open a single present.
This is why no one opened gifts at my baby shower. My MIL to this day doesn't understand why we didn't open gifts. It came up last month (DS is 2.5 years old!!!).
My UO....I really don't understand the question: Are you guys trying for more children? I mean what I am I supposed to say to that? We're going at it like rabbits? I mean seriously how is this an okay question to ask.
My UO....I really don't understand the question: Are you guys trying for more children? I mean what I am I supposed to say to that? We're going at it like rabbits? I mean seriously how is this an okay question to ask.
Yeah, that's not OK. I feel like people just give up on etiquette and manners around pregnant ladies.
My UO....I really don't understand the question: Are you guys trying for more children? I mean what I am I supposed to say to that? We're going at it like rabbits? I mean seriously how is this an okay question to ask.
Ya I've been asked when we will start trying again and I think it's such an awkward question. Like I don't want people to know if we are trying or not. Seems weird to me.
My UO....I really don't understand the question: Are you guys trying for more children? I mean what I am I supposed to say to that? We're going at it like rabbits? I mean seriously how is this an okay question to ask.
Ya I've been asked when we will start trying again and I think it's such an awkward question. Like I don't want people to know if we are trying or not. Seems weird to me.
A woman at work that I dislike immensely asked me in front of my boss and a group of colleagues if we were trying for number 2. I replied with "yes we shag" she actually choked and went bright red. My boss and colleagues all sniggered and she walked off. Doesn't talk to me now and I love it!
My UO....I really don't understand the question: Are you guys trying for more children? I mean what I am I supposed to say to that? We're going at it like rabbits? I mean seriously how is this an okay question to ask.
Ya I've been asked when we will start trying again and I think it's such an awkward question. Like I don't want people to know if we are trying or not. Seems weird to me.
A woman at work that I dislike immensely asked me in front of my boss and a group of colleagues if we were trying for number 2. I replied with "yes we shag" she actually choked and went bright red. My boss and colleagues all sniggered and she walked off. Doesn't talk to me now and I love it!
Re: UO Thursday
Edit stupid autocorrect again. I really need to proofread before entering.
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
Umm if I have to gift my doorman, mailman, garbage man etc. You better bet I'm gifting the person taking care of my child lol.
They are the most important people!
For example, a friend that bragged about eating two dozen doughnuts in a day because "the baby wanted them". And my coworker, who used to lecture all of us on how we should all be paleo now eats ice cream every day for breakfast, stops for fast food on her way home every day, and eats chips and fried food for lunch. All justified by "it's what I'm craving". Bleh. Makes me nauseous just thinking about it. Trust me, I was no poster child for healthy eating last time, but I SMH when people use the pregnancy excuse for eating absolute crap with no restraint.
ETA: yes I know this is judgypants and not my business, that's why it's a UO
Feb 2016 Siggy Challenge, Favorite Thing About Fall
Baby F.......02/02/2016
I don't want or need DH down there studying what's going on or anything. I just totally side-eye the people who say their husbands wouldn't even feel comfortable being in the room when this stuff is going on. That is so weird IMO. Just wanted to clarify my UO.
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
I'm on a big key lime pie kick lately. (Meaning, I've had it once since becoming pregnant but wanting it every day.)
Mmmm. I love them. I'm surprised you think they're dry! I've always liked how soft they are! They are a little gaggy sweet, though.
Guess that makes it a UO
Oh I agree it's nice to give one, and I certainly do as well. It was the delusional comment that threw me off.
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
I make mine homemade and they are soft and creamy no way like the grocery store ones and they are delicious.
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It's ok, we can still be friends, but like, what?
I try not to like Taylor because I find her to be whiny, but her songs are catchy. So she's alright in my book.
Actually I really don't listen to almost any current pop music EXCEPT Beyoncé. What can I say? She's sublime. #flawless
No wait, Single Ladies! Yeah, I know that one!
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
Also, re:Oreos: generally I agree that original is the only way to go, but the limited edition rice Krispy treat ones were REALLY good. I wish they were still available.
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
Yeah, that's not OK. I feel like people just give up on etiquette and manners around pregnant ladies.
When I find myself singing to TSwift, I have to stop myself after saying "ah, sh*t!"
Baby F.......02/02/2016