Totally part of it! DH had to help me after my last delivery when I decided to shower. I didn't wait for a nurse to help me with that kind of stuff and actually felt WAY more comfortable with DH helping me instead. PP bleeding is no joke and DH didn't even bat an eye. Love that man :x
I would never let a nurse help me shower - at least not until I'm very very old. I would only let my husband do that -especially since my mom hasn't seen me naked since I was like 4. My husband is the only one where it wouldn't be totally weird.
I'm a nurse. Nothing is holy. I was a CNA for 8 years before I became a nurse. I have no issue with anyone doing anything to help me. Bring in all the students and residents. I could care less. I have had to clean up my own mom. Meh.
Totally part of it! DH had to help me after my last delivery when I decided to shower. I didn't wait for a nurse to help me with that kind of stuff and actually felt WAY more comfortable with DH helping me instead. PP bleeding is no joke and DH didn't even bat an eye. Love that man :x
I would never let a nurse help me shower - at least not until I'm very very old. I would only let my husband do that -especially since my mom hasn't seen me naked since I was like 4. My husband is the only one where it wouldn't be totally weird.
I'm a nurse. Nothing is holy. I was a CNA for 8 years before I became a nurse. I have no issue with anyone doing anything to help me. Bring in all the students and residents. I could care less. I have had to clean up my own mom. Meh.
I'm a nurse too, and just catching up on the end of this thread. I giggled a little bit about this one. One the scale of "gross/embarrassing/whatever" nursing duties, assisting with bathing is LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOWWW on the list!
That's not to say that you are wrong or being silly, PP, we all have our things. This would just have never occurred to me as something a patient would be bothered by. I mean, I probably just finished manually extracting BM from someone's body....giving a shower sounds like a vacation!
Also by the time you get through the end of your pregnancy and you labor for hours and you give birth, that's a heck of a lot of times people are looking at your vag, you pretty much loose any bit of modesty you might have had. That first shower post birth is SO amazing I didn't even notice that the nurse came in to help through part of it to make sure the bleeding had lessened.
I will flip if the nurse "pops in" to my shower. She better knock! And when and does, I'll politely decline her help. If I can't shower on my own or with my husband's help, I'll wait til I'm home the next day. It's like when a person working the fitting rooms peaks into the curtain as you're trying something on, I flip out. Unless I become a stroke victim or something similar, no one is helping me go to the bathroom or take a shower.
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Also by the time you get through the end of your pregnancy and you labor for hours and you give birth, that's a heck of a lot of times people are looking at your vag, you pretty much loose any bit of modesty you might have had. That first shower post birth is SO amazing I didn't even notice that the nurse came in to help through part of it to make sure the bleeding had lessened.
This. ^^^
I feel like it's such a Ftm thing to say you will never want help from your nurse. Insert "you just wait" here!
Especially If you have a c section! Pain, exhaustion, and the desire to be clean will win over caring that a nurse is helping you wipe the blood from the inside of your legs from delivery the night before! You will not care!
I remember thinking I would be embarrassed BuT in the hospital when the nurse comes in and you're nursing, or peeing, or trying to poop for the first time.... Their help is amazing!!! Take their help, especially when they offer to take the baby back to the nursery so you can get a nap!
I asked my mom to help me. After my H witnessing what he did....I think he had seen enough for one day. And plus, my mom just knew what to do and how to be gentle about it.
I didn't have help from a nurse showering after my csection. I had my husband help me. I don't even think the nurses offered to help. They just told me that I could shower and where to use soap and whatnot. At that point I probably wouldn't have cared if a nurse helped me because everyone had seen my everything so far but I'm glad my husband helped me instead.
I asked my mom to help me. After my H witnessing what he did....I think he had seen enough for one day. And plus, my mom just knew what to do and how to be gentle about it.
And by "help" I don't mean like I needed someone to sponge bathe me. I could fully shower on my own. Just needed a hand getting in and out and someone to dry my legs.
My bff is a nurse and tbh I would rather have her help me shower than check my cervix... But honestly when I'm in labor if she was like "we need to check your cervix" I'd be like..." Do what you need to do." Needless to say- a shower is the least of my concerns
I asked my mom to help me. After my H witnessing what he did....I think he had seen enough for one day. And plus, my mom just knew what to do and how to be gentle about it.
And by "help" I don't mean like I needed someone to sponge bathe me. I could fully shower on my own. Just needed a hand getting in and out and someone to dry my legs.
Ah that's totally fine because you can be in your robe. Listen, I know there will be a few people who will be seeing a lot of me but after I give birth, I don't want anyone seeing me naked unless it's the doctor herself examining me. I don't think that's so weird. If my husband needs to help, he will. But no nurse needs to see me with exception of when a baby is getting pushed out of me. My mom can stand by my head and hold my hand for support. She isn't going to be looking down there either.
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I will flip if the nurse "pops in" to my shower. She better knock! And when and does, I'll politely decline her help. If I can't shower on my own or with my husband's help, I'll wait til I'm home the next day. It's like when a person working the fitting rooms peaks into the curtain as you're trying something on, I flip out. Unless I become a stroke victim or something similar, no one is helping me go to the bathroom or take a shower.
Honestly, seeing you get in and out of the shower is probably the most g rated thing the nurse will do for you. Modesty sort of goes out the window. In my experience, the nurses were very professional and asked before they looked at or touched anything.
I asked my mom to help me. After my H witnessing what he did....I think he had seen enough for one day. And plus, my mom just knew what to do and how to be gentle about it.
And by "help" I don't mean like I needed someone to sponge bathe me. I could fully shower on my own. Just needed a hand getting in and out and someone to dry my legs.
Ah that's totally fine because you can be in your robe. Listen, I know there will be a few people who will be seeing a lot of me but after I give birth, I don't want anyone seeing me naked unless it's the doctor herself examining me. I don't think that's so weird. If my husband needs to help, he will. But no nurse needs to see me with exception of when a baby is getting pushed out of me. My mom can stand by my head and hold my hand for support. She isn't going to be looking down there either.
Nurses usually have to check your bleeding. I had them come in and check to make sure things were how they should be. It's not like you can just have a baby and then not let them examine you. They need to do it.
So many people said in another thread that they'd feel weird if their husband was present for a vaginal ultrasound or pelvic exam, or that it would make their H uncomfortable. That makes no sense to me. Your H is an adult, right? He can't handle a doctor doing their job, under a cover? It doesn't take that long and it's not like he'd be standing at your feet watching. DH came to all of my appointments last time and he didn't get skeeved out by exams or anything. How are these people going to handle being in the delivery room when you give birth? Lots of weird, gross stuff happens in there too, you know. And they do checks to see how far dilated you are like every hour.
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This. And awkward like butt ass naked in downward dog working thru a contraction. Real.
I thought I was a modest person, until I gave birth. Guess what? It's your nurse who's going to be cleaning you up, inserting your catheter, emptying your pee into the toilet, walking you to the bathroom and making sure you don't fall (and they have to make sure you're safe, so they wouldn't let my H do that), checking any stitches you have, etc. etc. They are angels sent from heaven who deal with a lot of your embarrassing, messy crap and don't make you feel disgusting for it.
I totally agree with this... As a mom of 3 I can tell you that your nurses must do their jobs regardless of how awkward it may be for you! Nothing is private before/during/after you have a baby!! With my first I was obsessed with NOT wanting to poop during delivery! I thought it was the most degrading thing that could happen. Well out of 3 births I've done it 3 times and it was the least embarrassing thing that happened. Also, my DH loves watching the baby come out, in fact he tells me constantly I should ask for a mirror because it's "so cool". No thanks babe, you can enjoy it for the both of us!
After my c sections I was numb for quite a while. There is so much checking and cleaning up going on down there. I just appreciated feeling a little less gross for a bit. My nurse has always helped me into the shower the first time. For liability reasons they had to be present until I sat down. They usually stepped out until I was done and then they helped me dry off and get back to bed. No big deal. DH has always cared for the baby during this anyway.
As other PP have said after 3 babies modesty went out the window.
I feel like I need to clarify my opinion on the nurses helping me shower thing. I would be fine with a nurse helping me shower, it's just that I decided on my own to shower and didn't realize the mess I'd have on my hands when I got out so DH came in to help me clean up (I thought I'd be ok and that it'd be like when I'm on my period, um no way). I was saying this in response to some other posters who made comments about how their SO's were uncomfortable for the pap smear, vag ultrasound, and pelvic exam. I'm definetly a very modest person and I had no problems with the nurses checking me and helping me out along the way. Thank god for them! I totally respect that profession, I don't know how people deal with that stuff day in and day out.
I thought I was a modest person, until I gave birth. Guess what? It's your nurse who's going to be cleaning you up, inserting your catheter, emptying your pee into the toilet, walking you to the bathroom and making sure you don't fall (and they have to make sure you're safe, so they wouldn't let my H do that), checking any stitches you have, etc. etc. They are angels sent from heaven who deal with a lot of your embarrassing, messy crap and don't make you feel disgusting for it.
I don't think enough people think about all the things nurses do. They get down! They're not given the praise and credit they deserve. Truly amazing people. Angels sent from heaven indeed!
I thought I was a modest person, until I gave birth. Guess what? It's your nurse who's going to be cleaning you up, inserting your catheter, emptying your pee into the toilet, walking you to the bathroom and making sure you don't fall (and they have to make sure you're safe, so they wouldn't let my H do that), checking any stitches you have, etc. etc. They are angels sent from heaven who deal with a lot of your embarrassing, messy crap and don't make you feel disgusting for it.
I don't think enough people think about all the things nurses do. They get down! They're not given the praise and credit they deserve. Truly amazing people. Angels sent from heaven indeed!
Seriously. I remember just thinking about how honestly amazing all of mine were. Especially the ones there with me before I gave birth and immediately after, when I couldn't do anything and they were helping me clean up multiple times when my water broke and kept gushing, cleaning me up when I couldn't move my legs, speaking really kindly when I was scared and tired and in pain... I really regret not baking/buying a huge plate of treats to keep in my room just for the nurses. I'm doing that this time. They deserve at least double whatever they're getting paid.
I thought I was a modest person, until I gave birth. Guess what? It's your nurse who's going to be cleaning you up, inserting your catheter, emptying your pee into the toilet, walking you to the bathroom and making sure you don't fall (and they have to make sure you're safe, so they wouldn't let my H do that), checking any stitches you have, etc. etc. They are angels sent from heaven who deal with a lot of your embarrassing, messy crap and don't make you feel disgusting for it.
I don't think enough people think about all the things nurses do. They get down! They're not given the praise and credit they deserve. Truly amazing people. Angels sent from heaven indeed!
Seriously. I remember just thinking about how honestly amazing all of mine were. Especially the ones there with me before I gave birth and immediately after, when I couldn't do anything and they were helping me clean up multiple times when my water broke and kept gushing, cleaning me up when I couldn't move my legs, speaking really kindly when I was scared and tired and in pain... I really regret not baking/buying a huge plate of treats to keep in my room just for the nurses. I'm doing that this time. They deserve at least double whatever they're getting paid.
Oh, that's a fantastic idea! My nurses were incredible.
I wasn't allowed to shower the day after my evening c/s. My nurse gave me a sponge bath while I sat on the toilet. I am not an overly modest person but this Was uncomfortable to me to be on the toilet with the little pee catcher. My nurse was amazing. She was very gentle, caring, and businesslike. My poor DH almost passed out in the OR when he saw my blood dripping on the floor. Blood doesn't usually bother him but knowing it was mine was terrifying to him. I was happy to let him take care of DS while the nurse handled the gross stuff. Nurses should be as well paid as doctors.
I asked my mom to help me. After my H witnessing what he did....I think he had seen enough for one day. And plus, my mom just knew what to do and how to be gentle about it.
And by "help" I don't mean like I needed someone to sponge bathe me. I could fully shower on my own. Just needed a hand getting in and out and someone to dry my legs.
Ah that's totally fine because you can be in your robe. Listen, I know there will be a few people who will be seeing a lot of me but after I give birth, I don't want anyone seeing me naked unless it's the doctor herself examining me. I don't think that's so weird. If my husband needs to help, he will. But no nurse needs to see me with exception of when a baby is getting pushed out of me. My mom can stand by my head and hold my hand for support. She isn't going to be looking down there either.
After baby is born the nurses have to check you... A LOT! It's their job and it's for your well being.
My husband will be with me the whole time so I can't see needing their help - but, we'll see.
I'm sure your DH is great and all but unless you trust him to assess postpartum bleeding, remove your catheter, or check your hemorrhoids (as well as a plethora of other medically necessary tasks) you may want to stick with the professionals.
My husband will be with me the whole time so I can't see needing their help - but, we'll see.
I'm sure your DH is great and all but unless you trust him to assess postpartum bleeding, remove your catheter, or check your hemorrhoids (as well as a plethora of other medically necessary tasks) you may want to stick with the professionals.
Catheter? Are you serious? Why do we need a catheter? Now I'm freaked out.
No, of course for anything medical, I completely understand. I just don't want anyone helping me in the shower or going to the bathroom- that to me is dehumanizing. I'm a healthy 31 year old having a baby, not someone who's sick - you know? I'm just freaked out right now.
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My husband will be with me the whole time so I can't see needing their help - but, we'll see.
I'm sure your DH is great and all but unless you trust him to assess postpartum bleeding, remove your catheter, or check your hemorrhoids (as well as a plethora of other medically necessary tasks) you may want to stick with the professionals.
Catheter? Are you serious? Why do we need a catheter? Now I'm freaked out.
No, of course for anything medical, I completely understand. I just don't want anyone helping me in the shower or going to the bathroom- that to me is dehumanizing. I'm a healthy 31 year old having a baby, not someone who's sick - you know? I'm just freaked out right now.
If you have an epidural you have to have a catheter. I think when it comes to it you will be more willing to take all the help you can get. Don't be scared. It's all pretty normal procedure.
If the nurse didn't tell me and if I couldn't see her getting all the stuff ready I would have never known I had a catheter. I didn't feel it being put in, when it was in, or when she took it out. It's so easy to worry about all that stuff, especially as a FTM (heck I'm worried about it again and I'm a STM) its just the unknown . You really have to put your trust in your nurses and doctors that they are there for you and doing their best to help you to make sure you are healthy and baby is healthy, in the end that's what matters. And I promise you, you'll forget about a lot of the stuff that happens in labor, delivery and post partum and you'd do it all over again for that perfect little baby.
If the nurse didn't tell me and if I couldn't see her getting all the stuff ready I would have never known I had a catheter. I didn't feel it being put in, when it was in, or when she took it out. It's so easy to worry about all that stuff, especially as a FTM (heck I'm worried about it again and I'm a STM) its just the unknown . You really have to put your trust in your nurses and doctors that they are there for you and doing their best to help you to make sure you are healthy and baby is healthy, in the end that's what matters. And I promise you, you'll forget about a lot of the stuff that happens in labor, delivery and post partum and you'd do it all over again for that perfect little baby.
Yea I'm taking my researching one step at a time. So, as it gets closer, I'll know more what to expect. A healthy baby in the end is definitely all that matters
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I feel like it's such a Ftm thing to say you will never want help from your nurse. Insert "you just wait" here!
Especially If you have a c section! Pain, exhaustion, and the desire to be clean will win over caring that a nurse is helping you wipe the blood from the inside of your legs from delivery the night before! You will not care!
I remember thinking I would be embarrassed BuT in the hospital when the nurse comes in and you're nursing, or peeing, or trying to poop for the first time.... Their help is amazing!!! Take their help, especially when they offer to take the baby back to the nursery so you can get a nap!
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No, of course for anything medical, I completely understand. I just don't want anyone helping me in the shower or going to the bathroom- that to me is dehumanizing. I'm a healthy 31 year old having a baby, not someone who's sick - you know? I'm just freaked out right now.
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