The first mc crushed me and left me feeling an emptiness in my heart. They did get easier each time though because I became desensitized to losing them. It is what it is and there was nothing I or anyone else could do to change it.
I'm sorry y'all but if she doesn't deserve respect, ignore her & leave her be. I'm guessing she's an immature teen and insensitive or didn't mean what she said, because she felt so rejected/criticized here. Its a childish way to respond. It's not right at all and those words should never ever be said but everyone is just adding fuel to her fire.
When bullies strike, they want to see their damage stings. If you ignore her & not let it bother you, she won't win. Her words & wishes mean nothing to me & should to none of you -- most of us here are wonderful people that deserve the best, healthy and happy babies, and care for others, this is just an example of cruelty in the world trying to bring kindness down. Don't let it.
End of rant -- my professional psychological opinion/advice as a therapist & psychologist. If you don't like it, I won't care because I know I'm doing the best I can.
I feel so sorry for this woman. And for anyone who knows her in real life. Please get some help. You are my first report ever, hope to never see you on here again. @BumpAdmin this needs immediate attention and addressing.
I'm sorry y'all but if she doesn't deserve respect, ignore her & leave her be. I'm guessing she's an immature teen and insensitive or didn't mean what she said, because she felt so rejected/criticized here. Its a childish way to respond. It's not right at all and those words should never ever be said but everyone is just adding fuel to her fire.
When bullies strike, they want to see their damage stings. If you ignore her & not let it bother you, she won't win. Her words & wishes mean nothing to me & should to none of you -- most of us here are wonderful people that deserve the best, healthy and happy babies, and care for others, this is just an example of cruelty in the world trying to bring kindness down. Don't let it.
End of rant -- my professional psychological opinion/advice as a therapist & psychologist. If you don't like it, I won't care because I know I'm doing the best I can.
My professional opinion is that it's still wrong and should be addressed. Ignoring an issue or not letting it "affect" you doesn't make it go away. That's not how change is made.
Expert analysis! To be honest, I am not a teen, but I did feel like being an immature twit. I keep seeing all of these women bashing each other (not just in this post, but many others) and they are hurtful to other participants. No one wants to listen to a voice of reason defending the minority, they just adjust their target to the defender. So, I stooped so far below their level because I feel no sense of responsibility or moral obligation on a stupid Internet forum and figured "screw it". Yes I chose to be hurtful instead of just ignoring the negativity or finding a different community because they are all the same disappointment of clicks and hate. Plus, I carry so much responsibility in my home and career that it was nice to safely "crack." And, yes, I have mc'd 4 times, as this is my 8th pregnancy...... And yes, I have been entertained by this for a while.... And thanks everyone, it's been fun!
You still have no defense, but I kind of enjoy seeing you continue to dig yourself deeper.
@kikacakes but that's up to the admins doing their jobs. Nothing we can do except report the admin to the bump higher-ups and follow through with it. But besides addressing it, it's up to us to not let it bother us and shut this thread down ourselves by letting it go down in its history until deleted. We need to protect ourselves here, like others have said, it's the Internet -- what can you expect? And apparently admins sleep & don't have rotating shifts here - leaves us even more vulnerable to attack.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent" Eleanor Roosevelt
Expert analysis! To be honest, I am not a teen, but I did feel like being an immature twit. I keep seeing all of these women bashing each other (not just in this post, but many others) and they are hurtful to other participants. No one wants to listen to a voice of reason defending the minority, they just adjust their target to the defender. So, I stooped so far below their level because I feel no sense of responsibility or moral obligation on a stupid Internet forum and figured "screw it". Yes I chose to be hurtful instead of just ignoring the negativity or finding a different community because they are all the same disappointment of clicks and hate. Plus, I carry so much responsibility in my home and career that it was nice to safely "crack." And, yes, I have mc'd 4 times, as this is my 8th pregnancy...... And yes, I have been entertained by this for a while.... And thanks everyone, it's been fun!
1. It's clique, not click. 2. I'd love to hear your definition of bashing. I spend a lot of time here and I don't see much bashing, just honesty, a little well-placed snark, and a lot of genuine support. 3. Who are you defending? OP handled the honest but kind responses with grace, she wasn't upset, she didn't need defending. There was no bullying happening here. 4. You can try to sit up there on your high horse and justify what you said, but it will NEVER be okay. Your response to some sarcasm and slight snark was the most disproportionate one I've seen here on TB. You took a pretty tame thread and turned it into a huge mess, for your...entertainment? I don't know. But it's gross and I hope you enjoy the banhammer.
No , your EGO was bruised and you lashed out. You weren't offended for those other women. You complained about being pregnant with your 4th on a thread you started & the ladies here were nothing but supportive. You wanted advice on your husbands birthday- and once again you were supported. You get told that you're wrong on one thread, and you lash out like a crazy person. Says alot about your character.
You don't seem to understand, it's not digging myself deeper if I don't give a shit!
You apparently do give a shit if you're still hanging out here.
And coming from someone who just began to miscarry today, I hope you know what kind of special ring of hell is reserved for you. I won't wish mc on you, but I do hope you deliver a healthy, bouncing baby (if you are really pregnant), and promptly fall off a fucking cliff so that no child ever has to bear the mark of a fuck like you as a mother.
To the rest of the ladies here: I'm going to continue to lurk, probably until this whole thing sets in. I probably shouldn't have said anything as you've all handled it very well, but I can't handle this bitch right now.
Ladies this @lacey4kids is not worth our time and energy! She's a sadistic person. Pure evil. We don't need to communicate with her any longer. Whether she is banned or not, we all need to ignore her. She is dust!
Mommy to my Angel baby Domenico Anjelo M/C 11 weeks 12/20/2014
Expert analysis! To be honest, I am not a teen, but I did feel like being an immature twit. I keep seeing all of these women bashing each other (not just in this post, but many others) and they are hurtful to other participants. No one wants to listen to a voice of reason defending the minority, they just adjust their target to the defender. So, I stooped so far below their level because I feel no sense of responsibility or moral obligation on a stupid Internet forum and figured "screw it". Yes I chose to be hurtful instead of just ignoring the negativity or finding a different community because they are all the same disappointment of clicks and hate. Plus, I carry so much responsibility in my home and career that it was nice to safely "crack." And, yes, I have mc'd 4 times, as this is my 8th pregnancy...... And yes, I have been entertained by this for a while.... And thanks everyone, it's been fun!
It's good that you realize that the first step is admitting that you have a problem. But it is concerning that you still think that "it's been fun!"
@AmadorRose I am incredibly sorry for what you're going through. Unfortunately, I've been in your shoes a few times and unfortunately I also crossed paths with somebody on this board that was cruel and callous. Please know that you have the support of all of us and I'm sure that the women on your BMB wouldn't mind if you stuck around. I'm still on my BMB... Sending lots of thoughts and prayers your way and praying for healing of mind body and spirit for you sweetheart.
Expert analysis! To be honest, I am not a teen, but I did feel like being an immature twit. I keep seeing all of these women bashing each other (not just in this post, but many others) and they are hurtful to other participants. No one wants to listen to a voice of reason defending the minority, they just adjust their target to the defender. So, I stooped so far below their level because I feel no sense of responsibility or moral obligation on a stupid Internet forum and figured "screw it". Yes I chose to be hurtful instead of just ignoring the negativity or finding a different community because they are all the same disappointment of clicks and hate. Plus, I carry so much responsibility in my home and career that it was nice to safely "crack." And, yes, I have mc'd 4 times, as this is my 8th pregnancy...... And yes, I have been entertained by this for a while.... And thanks everyone, it's been fun!
I wonder what the people in @lacey4kid 's career life would think of her comments here today. With the incredibly insensitive, appalling remarks, I could totally understand if someone felt motivated enough to dig up any info they could to share with her company IRL. Not saying it's possible, I don't know how long she's been around or how much personal info she's shared, but just a thought about how we present ourselves on the interwebz...
Firstly, I didn't call you all of those things, the latter two are referring to what you and your little click are doing to other people. Secondly, it is not scientifically impossible- unlikely and definitely not "kicks"- but not impossible to feel quickening. No one can tell the OP what she was or wasn't feeling, and she seems unphased by the lot of negativity, which is great.
Thirdly, um yeah, I was being made fun of because I said you can feel it sooner and sooner- I was not implying that I am feeling it at 8 weeks but everyone can take it how they will. I'm over that.
Aside: I am just not sure how it gets to this level when you put a bunch of women together- there need not be a survival of the fittest mentality among a freakin pregnancy board. All I was originally stating in my first reply is we should be a little more supportive, and that snark and sarcasm do not need to be used to tear people down, but everyone neglected to read that.
So, in conclusion, before I go crawl back to my hole:
Why don't you just go fucking miscarry you stupid bitches!?!
Bye, Felicia!
Expert analysis! To be honest, I am not a teen, but I did feel like being an immature twit. I keep seeing all of these women bashing each other (not just in this post, but many others) and they are hurtful to other participants. No one wants to listen to a voice of reason defending the minority, they just adjust their target to the defender. So, I stooped so far below their level because I feel no sense of responsibility or moral obligation on a stupid Internet forum and figured "screw it". Yes I chose to be hurtful instead of just ignoring the negativity or finding a different community because they are all the same disappointment of clicks and hate. Plus, I carry so much responsibility in my home and career that it was nice to safely "crack." And, yes, I have mc'd 4 times, as this is my 8th pregnancy...... And yes, I have been entertained by this for a while.... And thanks everyone, it's been fun!
I wonder what the people in @lacey4kid 's career life would think of her comments here today. With the incredibly insensitive, appalling remarks, I could totally understand if someone felt motivated enough to dig up any info they could to share with her company IRL. Not saying it's possible, I don't know how long she's been around or how much personal info she's shared, but just a thought about how we present ourselves on the interwebz...
Expert analysis! To be honest, I am not a teen, but I did feel like being an immature twit. I keep seeing all of these women bashing each other (not just in this post, but many others) and they are hurtful to other participants. No one wants to listen to a voice of reason defending the minority, they just adjust their target to the defender. So, I stooped so far below their level because I feel no sense of responsibility or moral obligation on a stupid Internet forum and figured "screw it". Yes I chose to be hurtful instead of just ignoring the negativity or finding a different community because they are all the same disappointment of clicks and hate. Plus, I carry so much responsibility in my home and career that it was nice to safely "crack." And, yes, I have mc'd 4 times, as this is my 8th pregnancy...... And yes, I have been entertained by this for a while.... And thanks everyone, it's been fun!
I wonder what the people in @lacey4kid 's career life would think of her comments here today. With the incredibly insensitive, appalling remarks, I could totally understand if someone felt motivated enough to dig up any info they could to share with her company IRL. Not saying it's possible, I don't know how long she's been around or how much personal info she's shared, but just a thought about how we present ourselves on the interwebz...
*** So just from clicking on her name and looking at a previous post I know that she's married, a nurse and has 3 sons (she also gave their ages). Her name is also probably Lacey.
Honestly how hard would it be for someone who knew what they were doing to track down her location via IP address? With the additional info she's already shared it would probably be pretty easy to go ahead and share her hatred with her employer and/or community.
People think they're safe behind their computer. Nope.
Expert analysis! To be honest, I am not a teen, but I did feel like being an immature twit. I keep seeing all of these women bashing each other (not just in this post, but many others) and they are hurtful to other participants. No one wants to listen to a voice of reason defending the minority, they just adjust their target to the defender. So, I stooped so far below their level because I feel no sense of responsibility or moral obligation on a stupid Internet forum and figured "screw it". Yes I chose to be hurtful instead of just ignoring the negativity or finding a different community because they are all the same disappointment of clicks and hate. Plus, I carry so much responsibility in my home and career that it was nice to safely "crack." And, yes, I have mc'd 4 times, as this is my 8th pregnancy...... And yes, I have been entertained by this for a while.... And thanks everyone, it's been fun!
I wonder what the people in @lacey4kid 's career life would think of her comments here today. With the incredibly insensitive, appalling remarks, I could totally understand if someone felt motivated enough to dig up any info they could to share with her company IRL. Not saying it's possible, I don't know how long she's been around or how much personal info she's shared, but just a thought about how we present ourselves on the interwebz...
*** So just from clicking on her name and looking at a previous post I know that she's married, a nurse and has 3 sons (she also gave their ages). Her name is also probably Lacey.
Honestly how hard would it be for someone who knew what they were doing to track down her location via IP address? With the additional info she's already shared it would probably be pretty easy to go ahead and share her hatred with her employer and/or community.
People think they're safe behind their computer. Nope.
@lacey4kid You're a nurse?! A MFing nurse?! What a DISGUSTING DISGRACE to the profession, and to all women. You are a piss poor excuse for a human being.
So she's a nurse? And she intro-ed being pregnant with her 4th? .... wouldn't you be pregnant with your 8th? @lacey4kid I mean techniqually. I know most people in TB include previous losses in their intros too. Convenient how this is the first time it's come up....
FWIW... hubs is a techy. He could figure that shit out in less than 10mins. The interwebz is nothing but a smoke screen... I highly doubt your board would approve. And for heavens sake I hope to all things holy you aren't a L&D nurse.
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Married New Year's Day 2013
Previously Clizh, bumping since 2009 and still mourning my platinum medal.
Wow. Lurking from N15 where we've had an influx of trolls but nothing like this. That is inexcusable.
Also looks like she was troll marked? I can't see her posts unless they were quoted. I can't believe she wasn't banned ASAP and this post shut down. Really disgusting, mods.
Im not trying to beat a dead horse but jeez louise, this d*mn thread is still open? @BumpAdmin please shut it down and ban the Lacey chick already. Wakey Wakey!
Im not trying to beat a dead horse but jeez louise, this d*mn thread is still open? @BumpAdmin please shut it down and ban the Lacey chick already. Wakey Wakey!
Re: Feeling baby!!
Someone wishes MCs on others and the thread gets to seven pages long.
Hmm... @BumpAdmin this is for you:
HSG: Sept 2014, clear tubes
Dx: MFI - Low motility, morph, count (Aug. 2014); Hypothyroidism (May 2015)
Moved to IUIs October 2014
IUI #1 w/ injections: Nov 2014- BFN
IUI #2 w/ injections: Jan 2015- BFN
IUI #3.1 w/ injections: Feb. 2015, cancelled due to cysts- 10 days BCP
IUI #3.2 w/ injections: Feb/March 2015- BFN
IUI #4 w/ 100mg Clomid + Injections: August 2015- BFN
IUI #5 w/ 5mg Femara + Injections: September 2015- BFN
IUI #6 w/ 5mg Femara + Injections: October 2015 - Cancelled due low response
Moved to IVF May 2016
Retrieved 18 eggs on 05/27/2016, 13 were ICSI'd, 9 made it to day-five transfer
Transferred 2 beautiful day-five embryos on 06/01/2016, froze 7
BFP 4dp5dt on 06/05/2016! Line continued to darken beautifully!
EDD: February 17, 2017
Beta #1: 92
Beta #2: 305
Ultrasound #1 - one baby!
Ultrasound #2 - saw heartbeat!
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When bullies strike, they want to see their damage stings. If you ignore her & not let it bother you, she won't win. Her words & wishes mean nothing to me & should to none of you -- most of us here are wonderful people that deserve the best, healthy and happy babies, and care for others, this is just an example of cruelty in the world trying to bring kindness down. Don't let it.
End of rant -- my professional psychological opinion/advice as a therapist & psychologist. If you don't like it, I won't care because I know I'm doing the best I can.
Please get some help.
You are my first report ever, hope to never see you on here again.
@BumpAdmin this needs immediate attention and addressing.
My professional opinion is that it's still wrong and should be addressed.
Ignoring an issue or not letting it "affect" you doesn't make it go away.
That's not how change is made.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent" Eleanor Roosevelt
2. I'd love to hear your definition of bashing. I spend a lot of time here and I don't see much bashing, just honesty, a little well-placed snark, and a lot of genuine support.
3. Who are you defending? OP handled the honest but kind responses with grace, she wasn't upset, she didn't need defending. There was no bullying happening here.
4. You can try to sit up there on your high horse and justify what you said, but it will NEVER be okay. Your response to some sarcasm and slight snark was the most disproportionate one I've seen here on TB. You took a pretty tame thread and turned it into a huge mess, for your...entertainment? I don't know. But it's gross and I hope you enjoy the banhammer.
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
Go away.
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DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04
And coming from someone who just began to miscarry today, I hope you know what kind of special ring of hell is reserved for you. I won't wish mc on you, but I do hope you deliver a healthy, bouncing baby (if you are really pregnant), and promptly fall off a fucking cliff so that no child ever has to bear the mark of a fuck like you as a mother.
To the rest of the ladies here: I'm going to continue to lurk, probably until this whole thing sets in. I probably shouldn't have said anything as you've all handled it very well, but I can't handle this bitch right now.
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
Feb16 August Siggy Challenge
Favorite TV Mom
In other news, when people show you who they really are... Listen.
@AmadorRose I am incredibly sorry for what you're going through. Unfortunately, I've been in your shoes a few times and unfortunately I also crossed paths with somebody on this board that was cruel and callous. Please know that you have the support of all of us and I'm sure that the women on your BMB wouldn't mind if you stuck around. I'm still on my BMB... Sending lots of thoughts and prayers your way and praying for healing of mind body and spirit for you sweetheart.
PP called it when she said you were a sociopath. Now seriously gtfo! You aren't welcome here.
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
Feb16 August Siggy Challenge
Favorite TV Mom
It's time to call the Scooby gang because something if definitely inky @BumpAdmin
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04
FWIW... hubs is a techy. He could figure that shit out in less than 10mins. The interwebz is nothing but a smoke screen... I highly doubt your board would approve. And for heavens sake I hope to all things holy you aren't a L&D nurse.
"General nature to show empathy regardless of personal opinions"
Hmmmmmm
FWIW... first time I've appreciated the search funtion.
Also looks like she was troll marked? I can't see her posts unless they were quoted. I can't believe she wasn't banned ASAP and this post shut down. Really disgusting, mods.
DS - 22 Months 1/29/16