Sex Life During Pregnancy??

lindseyjwright · July 2015

my husband is the greatest. Sweet, loving, nurturing, spoils me rotten, but.... He has not layed a finger on me sexually since we found out we are pregnant. I'm not asking for much, but maybe once before this baby comes out in September? Is anyone else having these issues?

jwebbbber45678 · July 2015

Nope! Husband still wants it all the time, I feel bad because I'm usually only up for it once a week. You should definitely get your sexy time in now before the baby comes or you may find yourself in a very long dry spell. Maybe he's afraid you don't want it, have you tried seducing him? Or have you asked him about it? Be as open and honest as you can with each other, it's really the only way to solve issues such as this.

DreaMak · July 2015

I get it once a week every Saturday.. Doesnt look like ill be getting any tonight tho:/

MzJackson32 · July 2015

I am... But after baby, I think I'll b a single parent. I know he isn't just going without it. He is getting it from someone else. But good luck hun. Try to engage in sex since he doesn't. I tried an he turned me down.

squidlydoo · July 2015

I'm in the same vote!! It's nice that he's so understanding, but it drives me nuts that we haven't!! I've been quite swollen down there for a while now

lillaura4unme · July 2015

@MzJackson32 that's awful! I'm sorry you're going through that. And I'm usually super tired but can do it once or twice a week. I know he'd want more but he understands.

mamabearlife2boys · July 2015

Yep I totally understand where u are coming from we've only had sex like three times since we've known. It sux:( I think he's afraid he's gana hurt the baby even though he heard the dr say it's fine

bampikachu · July 2015

I understand what you mean I'm having the same issue and I have no idea if he is getting it from somewhere else he always turns me down and never wants to....I feel slobby because I keep thinking its my new body or I'm not good enough anymore all I know is it hurts more then anything....so trust me I know what you mean

rejanaew · July 2015

My boyfriend always wants to it makes me feel bad when I'm just to uncomfortable and can only focus on baby bumping around and he knows I'm not into it and starts thinking I'm not attracted to him and it makes me cry but he realizes I just can help it sometimes.. And has no problem holding me in his arms

kalina27 · July 2015

I'm in the same boat

My hubby shows no sexual interest in me. It especially gets me down the bigger I get. Otherwise, he is a great supportive husband. My hormones are not helping my self esteem issue.

AmandaNacora · July 2015

It took my husband awhile after we found out. And he won't have sex for at least a few days after seeing an ultrasound. I usually have to initiate it, but once he's "up" he goes for it. I'm not sure if he'll want to have sex as I get bigger, but right now at 28 weeks I don't have much of a bump so I think that helps. It's been fairly easy to get him to have sex though, once he's aroused he can't say no, and he gets aroused fairly easy so it's been a blessing because I crave sex all the time!

AmandaNacora · July 2015

I know it's not my place to ask but have you tried to initiate it? Like not just asking but actually doing something? A few strategically placed kisses and touches, possibly some sexy words... it worked for me when my husband refused in the beginning.

mrseh5 · July 2015

Maybe five times in the last seven months!!!!! My hubby is not too keen especially now since the bump is massive. I have to be very convincing and even then it's often a no. He doesn't want to hurt the baby! Even though I've told him it won't happen....

louiser210591 · July 2015

I thought maybe this was just me lol I found out I was pregnant at 4 weeks and I think me and my partner had sex a couple of times after but then at 7 weeks my morning sickness started and so I felt ill all the time until I past 20 weeks and so he was very respectful not to push me into it. We did however have sex the other week when I was 28 weeks lol I love him so much for being so understanding and it doesn't bother him or affect our relationship at all xx

myspecialkid · July 2015

Every other week. This is s huge change from every other day. To be honest I'm not really in the mood anymore myself. But when he is, I'm all for it.

We've talked about it, he said he thinks it's kinda weird. I'm okay as long as he's still affectionate towards me which he is.

adtaylor2015 · July 2015

I'm not having this problem. We have a very strong sexual relationship. 4-5 times a week before pregnancy and just yesterday alone- 3 times. lol! Nothing has changed here.
Have you tried to talk to him about it?

TracyYoung819 · July 2015

I haven't been able to be physically intimate with my husband much this pregnancy. I want to, but physically my "area" down there just won't let me. I don't even like to try because it usually ends up disappointing and emotionally frustrating for me.

I feel even more guilty because I'm just not the girl who likes to do the "other stuff", especially without my favorite-wine lol. (He enjoys our wine nights so he's not really complaining about that lol).

I re-assure him as often as I can with words and actions (cleaning the house, making dinner, having beer ready for him when he comes home from work) to show how much I love him.

Thankfully my husband has been understanding and honest with me about it. I was hoping to have those active hormones with this pregnancy, but I've come to say they are there for other purposes in this pregnancy.

I'm sorry ladies, I risky understand the physical frustration. Hang in the though, eventually we will have our drive back, I have total faith in that!

TracyYoung819 · July 2015

Lol...totally, not risky*

Knottie89103461 · July 2015

Lol I guess I'm lucky, me and hubby do everyday (sometimes twice a day or more)...he's way more cautious and gentle towards me, not aggressive because he doesn't want to hurt baby girl. We've had to have a few discussions about our sexual relationship though, like he sticks to strict positions. (Sorry, tmi!) Just take things easy and try to express it to let him know what you're wanting or thinking. And most importantly be honest with him. Remind him that your baby is in good care and safe, and then maybe come onto him rather than him doing it for you. Who knows, maybe that'll turn him on. Haha.

momof3boys81015 · July 2015

I've been lucky my husband still wants it all the time. He understands that sometimes I just don't want it. However he makes sure I know he still wants me and loves me. Try talking to your husband and see why he doesn't want to do anything.

LaythiHanke · July 2015

ktbkitten · July 2015

I am pretty sure that my husband wants it even more now that I am pregnant. I am not always up for it or it seems like the times that I am it is just bad timing and there is someone here or we have something that we have to do...anyways I am sorry for you ladies that are having issues. I hope that you can talk to your husband about it and work things out. As long as the doctor hasn't said you can't there isn't anything wrong with having sex. Baby has no idea.

Boobopgirl · July 2015

My husband wants it. I don't really. I've never been a super touchy person and with a nursing toddler and a baby touching me from the inside, I've usually had enough touching by the end of the day. Also TMI but baby is in such a position that I really am having a hard time "finishing" so it's not as great for me as it is for him. I try to get into it for him, but sometimes I'm totally just going through the motions.

onegoodthing · July 2015

I haven't had any since the day I conceived. Then again I'm a single parent and baby's father has been gone since before we knew about baby.

loulourumba77 · July 2015

We had a lot of sex in first and beginning of second trimester. Then it was kinda difficult but now we got our grove back to 1-2 week.

Taekarate1978 · July 2015

My husband seems to want it every day! I think I hurt his feelings this morning because I finally told him to just leave me alone. I just can't get comfortable.

Rachelsbaby · July 2015

At this point if I don't initiate sex I won't get any I'm lucky if I do 1-2 times a week. My boyfriend is so loving and supportive but that's is where he draws the line. It sucks from going 3-4 times a week to practically nothing. I just think being pregnant shut off some men's libidos.

puddinpop95 · July 2015

I think we only had sex 3 times since finding out...I'm about 8 months along. He was weird about it even when we did, but we ran into an issue where he bumped my cervix and I bled a little. The doc said it was perfectly ok but it freaked him out so now wer waiting until after baby girl is born. I can understand the weird factor. This last trimester I e had zero desire anyway And since he's been so awesome and helpful through all of this, even with his insane work.schedule, as long as hes not too tired, I'll try to help him out as often as I can lmao

sarahlinde · July 2015

I want sex all the time!! My husband not so much. He is nervous about it because I am so swollen with lots of braxton hicks so I get it. I havent had it as bad with previous pregnancies. We talk about it a lot so there is nothing weird between us. Last night I finally got the dildo out and said you may not want it but you can at least help me out....we ended up having great sex....finally!!!

PreggersinParis · July 2015

Sex "life" would be pushing it for us. It's been more like we've tried and DH either he gets freaked out by baby or my face that looks like I am being tortured (my poor husband!) I don't know about anyone else but my body is just not producing any natural lubricant (even when I'm totally in the mood) so it feels a little uncomfortable.

Hoping to get back on the saddle (pun pretty much intended) post baby because this shiz now is just not working out!

jen83mn · July 2015

Opposite problem - husband wants it all the time and I have absolutely no desire because I'm so uncomfortable! My bump is HUGE (I'm short which makes it even bigger), and I'm super sensitive down there now and not in a good way. Yesterday baby was punching me in the crotch most of the day so I have no desire whatsoever. It sucks because I really want to have sex ... the idea of it totally appeals to me, but the last time we did it was just uncomfortable and painful. I can't wait for post-pregnancy sex once I'm all healed up and feel "normal" again!!

itsasapphire · July 2015

We've maintained a pretty active sex life through pregnancy. It's awkward and if I do 'O' I get instant Braxton Hicks and am practically debilitated for 10 minutes so it makes me nervous to fully enjoy it. But he makes me feel so comfortable and understands that my body doesn't operate the way it used to. We've resorted to being very handsy in place of sex, occasionally adding a toy. It's a lot of fun and different than the usual, and we are each comfortable without being squished.

rachel4733 · July 2015

Our sex life had not really changed much at all since I've been pregnant, but we were not super active to begin with. We usually do it about once a week and that is perfect for both of our sex drives (thought occasionally one might want it more than the other). My husband has surprisingly not been freaked out by the baby and it has actually bothered me more than him.

ken226 · July 2015

What's sex...I'm not even sure how I even got pregnant?!?!?!?!

CarterFarrah123 · July 2015

My partner and I have hardly had any maybe once a month sometimes more. It's hard to find a comfy position for both of us. I think it's totally normal as we have always had a healthy sex life. Try not to worry to much honey

jmlg · July 2015

Communication is the most important part of a healthy marriage...though he might not want to hear about your hemorrhoids for example. Sex can be major issue so I urge you to express your desires.

jmlg · July 2015

My new favorite position is the side wind-her.

caityrose · July 2015

I was just gonna post something. We haven't since the belly popped and before that it wasn't often. I asked him about it and he says he's just uncomfortable with the idea since sHe's like fully formed and he would be close to her head. I know it's silly. She's not going to get hurt or anything but i respect his feelings about it. Just wanted to make sure it was that and not that he thought I was all fat and gross now or something. Hahah. Idk I think it would be kind of weird to be doing it and then she's kicking me at the same time.

NavyBaby928 · July 2015

Our Sex life didn't change at all. we had the conversation of whether he will still want to when I get a big belly and both of us were unsure lol. But, at 28 weeks my belly has grown and it hasn't effected anything.

ABombard12 · July 2015

Our sex life slowed down once I was getting exhausted all the time/nausea...then it picked back up... and now that I am in the third trimester and SO much bigger, it has been so funny and awkward to attempt. I mean we try ha but it usually ends up with us just figuring out another way before we both end up laughing too hard to even be in the mood anymore haha

Angelmomof1 · July 2015

I don't ever want sex , I feel bad but I'm just not up for it . I'm so glad my husband understands . He says he knows I'm in pain and discomfort. Yes just happy I'm carrying his bAby boy .

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