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mamaek · June 2015

Success at last. Yay!!! Thank you @magnumJ @BumpAdmin

wisco29 · June 2015

Yay!

Tegzy · July 2015

I am so confused with all the abbreviations on the forums...i can generally figure out what most are referring to but can't work out exactly what they are abbreviating.

I feel a bit silly asking for a list but I'm gonna have to!

AmadorRose · July 2015

@Tegzy the bump guidelines have a list of common abbreviations. If someone uses one you don't know, just ask! The ladies here are very helpful.

hurricane1212 · July 2015

Now that this post is pinned, I have a question. Do we really need BMW Monday, Twat Waffle Tuesday, Wtf Wednesday, Throat Punch Thursday AND stabby Saturday AND Sunday?
I respect your right to have them all so i simply wont read them, but I also hope you respect my feelings. I find them unnecessary and I prefer positivity. Opening a post titled "New Here. READ ME FIRST" and seeing Twat Waffle Tuesday just doesn't seem that welcoming to me.

kayjay44 · July 2015

tfmb2009 said:

Now that this post is pinned, I have a question. Do we really need BMW Monday, Twat Waffle Tuesday, Wtf Wednesday, Throat Punch Thursday AND stabby Saturday AND Sunday? I respect your right to have them all so i simply wont read them, but I also hope you respect my feelings. I find them unnecessary and I prefer positivity. Opening a post titled "New Here. READ ME FIRST" and seeing Twat Waffle Tuesday just doesn't seem that welcoming to me.

Uh it's pretty normal on TB. Look at any other BMB. The fact that you want to tell me that you only want to see positive posts on here isn't very welcoming to me. Just a heads up, there are many pregnancy/parenting communities on the internet. Some of them are more positive than others.

PaniaO · July 2015

magnumJ said:

tfmb2009 said:

Now that this post is pinned, I have a question. Do we really need BMW Monday, Twat Waffle Tuesday, Wtf Wednesday, Throat Punch Thursday AND stabby Saturday AND Sunday?
I respect your right to have them all so i simply wont read them, but I also hope you respect my feelings. I find them unnecessary and I prefer positivity. Opening a post titled "New Here. READ ME FIRST" and seeing Twat Waffle Tuesday just doesn't seem that welcoming to me.

Uh it's pretty normal on TB. Look at any other BMB. The fact that you want to tell me that you only want to see positive posts on here isn't very welcoming to me. Just a heads up, there are many pregnancy/parenting communities on the internet. Some of them are more positive than others.

Totally get the desire for positivity, but... Honestly, TP Thursday is typically way more engaging than something like Thankful Thursday. Of course there's no reason not to have both, even in the same post in the same thread.

don't hate (the hating). It can be all in good let's-be-real fun.

kayjay44 · July 2015

PaniaO said:

tfmb2009 said:

Now that this post is pinned, I have a question. Do we really need BMW Monday, Twat Waffle Tuesday, Wtf Wednesday, Throat Punch Thursday AND stabby Saturday AND Sunday? I respect your right to have them all so i simply wont read them, but I also hope you respect my feelings. I find them unnecessary and I prefer positivity. Opening a post titled "New Here. READ ME FIRST" and seeing Twat Waffle Tuesday just doesn't seem that welcoming to me.

Uh it's pretty normal on TB. Look at any other BMB. The fact that you want to tell me that you only want to see positive posts on here isn't very welcoming to me. Just a heads up, there are many pregnancy/parenting communities on the internet. Some of them are more positive than others.
Totally get the desire for positivity, but... Honestly, TP Thursday is typically way more engaging than something like Thankful Thursday. Of course there's no reason not to have both, even in the same post in the same thread. don't hate (the hating). It can be all in good let's-be-real fun.

And there is no reason we can't have both - but no one has asked to have anything specifically added (with one exception) and I already make enough threads each week.

MrsJG3 · July 2015

I think of you want additional positive threads go ahead and start them. No one stopping you.

bookqueen · July 2015

I think the threads are necessary because people are gonna create posts bitching anyway. Better to have one where everyone can do it together. You don't have to read them. If you want a positivity posts here and there, feel free to create one.

bookqueen · July 2015

Also, I posted a positivity thread a little while ago and even though people actually commented with good things, nobody actually communicated with each other. Basically a post and run for everyone.

MamaFroFro · July 2015

bookqueen said:
Also, I posted a positivity thread a little while ago and even though people actually commented with good things, nobody actually communicated with each other. Basically a post and run for everyone.

Like this?

hurricane1212 · July 2015

PaniaO said:

magnumJ said:

tfmb2009 said:

Now that this post is pinned, I have a question. Do we really need BMW Monday, Twat Waffle Tuesday, Wtf Wednesday, Throat Punch Thursday AND stabby Saturday AND Sunday?
I respect your right to have them all so i simply wont read them, but I also hope you respect my feelings. I find them unnecessary and I prefer positivity. Opening a post titled "New Here. READ ME FIRST" and seeing Twat Waffle Tuesday just doesn't seem that welcoming to me.

Uh it's pretty normal on TB. Look at any other BMB. The fact that you want to tell me that you only want to see positive posts on here isn't very welcoming to me. Just a heads up, there are many pregnancy/parenting communities on the internet. Some of them are more positive than others.

Totally get the desire for positivity, but... Honestly, TP Thursday is typically way more engaging than something like Thankful Thursday. Of course there's no reason not to have both, even in the same post in the same thread.

don't hate (the hating). It can be all in good let's-be-real fun.

I'm sorry you're offended, but I'm not sure where this came from : "The fact that you want to tell me that you only want to see positive posts on here isn't very welcoming to me." I never said that. I'm always up for a laugh and I love making fun of people who piss me off, but mostly to myself. I'll be sure to always post something cheery

This board could use it!

HBirdie · July 2015

Unless I specifically have something I want to whine about, I don't usually open the complain threads. I'm fine with them being there, I think they're totally valid and I like that they're here when I am annoyed about something, but it isn't hard to scroll past if I'm not.

I wish people would stop acting like everyone on this board is horrible and that we "really need some positivity around here" just because we have one thread a day devoted to complaining. Sometimes I'd rather vent here than be mad and fuming about it at my husband all day.

There are lots of other fun, interesting, positive threads around here (ticker changes, GIF parties, GTKY posts, whatever) that you can read instead. Put on your big girl panties and learn to scroll.

Eta: autocorrect typo

brushesnbrunch · July 2015

I have totally regretted my trying to bring some positivity (went totally not where I anticipated it would go), and it was mostly from a cranky moment reading a stupid post. I've decided since that if I know there's going to bitching in it and I have nothing constructive to say, I'm just going to scroll past. Seems to be working for the one day I've tried it!

mandiblesface · July 2015

This place is so weird, I just don't get it. How can you have newbies and regulars when the maximum people would have been on this specific board is 9 weeks? And also, why do you know or care what's going on say in the November 15 board? Are people magically having two babies a few months apart?

And what the flip does MUD mean? I know, I know, look at the bump guidelines for abbreviations.

Also, final query - if you've got 'newbies' on this board there's a high chance they're first time mothers, you'd have thought a bit more compassion about them freaking out about stuff in their own post rather than finding a similar thread. The special snowflake thing is hideously condescending, which I'm sure you're absolutely aiming for, but why?

CuriousKiddosMama · July 2015

mandiblesface said:
This place is so weird, I just don't get it. How can you have newbies and regulars when the maximum people would have been on this specific board is 9 weeks? And also, why do you know or care what's going on say in the November 15 board? Are people magically having two babies a few months apart?

And what the flip does MUD mean? I know, I know, look at the bump guidelines for abbreviations.

Also, final query - if you've got 'newbies' on this board there's a high chance they're first time mothers, you'd have thought a bit more compassion about them freaking out about stuff in their own post rather than finding a similar thread. The special snowflake thing is hideously condescending, which I'm sure you're absolutely aiming for, but why?

Mud is made up drama. People feel the need to come on here and invent pregnancies and all sorts of issues related to it or their family. It gets really old.
So far as regulars, there are people who have been on trying to conceive, infertility, and other parenting boards on here for a while. Those are your regulars. Newbies, to me, are those people who come on here overly excited that they are pregnant, and who post an introduction without bothering to look that there is an intro thread, and then the next post is their symptoms without posting on the symptom thread, etc. they just start posting without trying to figure out how the board works first. You don't have to be a newbie, but it does take a while before you are a regular.
Your last question has been answered before, and the best answer I have ever read to it is we don't want losses buried and missed by a bunch of special snowflake posts. We all have symptoms, we all have ultrasounds. There have been 600+ people who have introed on this board. If everyone makes their own post, the important stuff gets lost.
Hope that answers your questions. Lurking is the best way to get used to the boards and see how they work.

mandiblesface · July 2015

Lurking and not asking any questions, right, got it.

CuriousKiddosMama · July 2015

mandiblesface said:
Lurking and not asking any questions, right, got it.

Seriously?!? I was trying to be nice. I see what that gets me in the morning.

You may want to check out another website.

kayjay44 · July 2015

mandiblesface said:
Lurking and not asking any questions, right, got it.

No, not walking into a group and being rude. You wouldn't walk into an in person pregnancy group and start insulting people you haven't even met. That's pretty much what you've done.

mandiblesface · July 2015

How was that being rude?! She said lurk!

MamaFroFro · July 2015

I am new to TB. I joined at the very beginning of this bmb because my initial edd was 1-28. TB made me wait 3 days before I could comment or post. I used that time to lurk and get to know the community. When I could comment, I knew what to expect for the most part. I haven't thought anyone here was rude or condescending. I was a little shocked at the Jan group however. This group is very tame compared to them. But then I just realized some of those women had just reached their boiling point and were letting off steam. I have been on daily and actively comment on other people's posts and after you see the 35674 nausea post, it starts to irk you. Like omg didn't I already comment on a similar post so many times?! Why didn't they just take a sec to look at the answers me and so many other mamas took the time to carefully type out? No that's too much work? You want me to take the time to retype these answers just for your special thread? The first time it's like no big deal but when it keeps happening over and over, and you realize these mamas are just blatantly ignoring the bump's guidelines to search first, it starts to get really annoying!

Edit not finished typing accidentally submitted.

kayjay44 · July 2015

Also, as we get father along, we know each other better and people start facing big issues (babies that aren't going to make it long after birth, serious birth defects, complications and even stillborn babies), it is beyond rude for people to AW/SS when they've never posted before.

Imagine losing your baby at 23 weeks and some rando shows up and is like "I just had my anatomy scan - look at my perfect baby." It is infuriating and heartbreaking.

HBirdie · July 2015

I seriously wish people complaining about the tone of our board would go hang out in any other BMB for awhile. Because holy tacos, this place is SO NICE compared to other places on TB. Maybe that's the new guidelines, maybe we just have awesome, patient people, I don't know. But this is the only BMB I've ever seen that isn't flaming people left and right. I mean, hello! Some chick admitted to trying to commit insurance fraud and she didn't get run off the board! That wouldn't fly anyyyywhere else on this website. Feb 16 newbs have it easy.

And I feel like a broken record because I have said all of this before.

kayjay44 · July 2015

HBirdie said:

I seriously wish people complaining about the tone of our board would go hang out in any other BMB for awhile. Because holy tacos, this place is SO NICE compared to other places on TB. Maybe that's the new guidelines, maybe we just have awesome, patient people, I don't know. But this is the only BMB I've ever seen that isn't flaming people left and right. I mean, hello! Some chick admitted to trying to commit insurance fraud and she didn't get run off the board! That wouldn't fly anyyyywhere else on this website. Feb 16 newbs have it easy. And I feel like a broken record because I have said all of this before.

Amen. So many times I've wanted to go off and I've held back - I can't get banned after a month back on TB....

bookqueen · July 2015

I'm so glad people responded to this. I don't have the patience today to be nice, lol!

PaniaO · July 2015

I love how the newest SS symptoms posts are going without any responses at all. Super sad that our lovely re-director isn't here to redirect any longer, but this silent treatment seems like an awesome tactic for now! Hahahaha... Why don't new posters seem to be willing to read this post and use the search function?! O.M.G.

MrsJG3 · July 2015

PaniaO said:
I love how the newest SS symptoms posts are going without any responses at all. Super sad that our lovely re-director isn't here to redirect any longer, but this silent treatment seems like an awesome tactic for now! Hahahaha... Why don't new posters seem to be willing to read this post and use the search function?! O.M.G.

For the same reason they are shocked that people are offended when they use the terms sex and gender interchangeably. This is not new news people!!! Good lord.

mandiblesface · July 2015

Just to clarify, wasn't being rude intentionally, was confirming the response for myself.

Going to find a British equivalent, might be easier for me to be understood.

kayjay44 · July 2015

If you need me to edit this, feel free to tag or PM me. Or another reg can copy it and start a new pinned thread

raychelmarie33 · July 2015

Is there a way to stop allowing replies to this thread? It seems like people are just arguing and getting offended at this point and the initial purpose of this post is completely lost now. I just recently joined this bmb and it's sad to see this is how some people need to interact.

C3Duffy · July 2015

Okay so what is up with no mod? Is this a new thing with the new format, or have the bump gods just not gotten to f16 yet?

MrsJG3 · July 2015

@C3Duffy no mods anymore. One of the many fabulous changes to the bump. Now you have to tag an Admin and hope they get to you.

bookqueen · July 2015

@BumpAdmin @BumpTara
Can you close this thread to future replies please?

cook1118 · July 2015

I was excited about the new board, hopefully it wont get bunked due to opposing views. Here's some humor to lighten the mood!

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