There will be five and a half years between our first and this one and we got rid of most of our baby stuff a while back because we really didn't think we'd have a 2nd baby. I have a friend who's already offered to throw me a shower and I'm not going to turn her down.
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If someone throws me a shower, even though I don't want it, I will be polite and gracious. It's a nice gesture. We don't really need anything, DS is only 21 months so we have most of his stuff. All we'll need for new baby is a swing (we borrowed one last time), more cloth diapers because I'm guessing DS won't be potty trained, and I think that's it. We're team green so it's not like we're going to find out in time for people to buy is a bunch of girl clothes and things if it is a girl. Most of DS's newborn clothes are neutral anyway.
Omg from the second I realized we had sex during an "ovulation day" I talked to my hubby about when to even take the test. I can't imagine not telling him right away it was positive. Is that even a thing?
It's a thing. Some women wait weeks for seemingly no reason. Some wait because they want to go to the doctor first (which I don't understand because DH is my rock).
I can't imagine going to the doctor without him, we told my bff because we need a sitter and I need him to go with me. If he wasn't there and I got bad news.......
I don't understand not telling your SO that you are pregnant for weeks.
I was going to wait until Father's Day which would have been 5 days but I told him immediately when the stick said pregnant
I was going to try to wait the next time I got a BFP, since the first ended in a loss and I had a suspected CP after that (I honestly didn't think I was actually pregnant this time since we had sex once during my fertile window and wasn't even sure I was ovulating) but I had a CPA test the next morning and my standard coping mechanism is to drink heavily when I get done. I tested just in case the night before and it was positive on a cheapie. I tested the next morning with a FR just in case and it was even darker. So I ended up telling him (almost throwing the test at him) after the first test and then had to study for 3 hours after. Super cute way to tell him, if I do say so myself.
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There will be five and a half years between our first and this one and we got rid of most of our baby stuff a while back because we really didn't think we'd have a 2nd baby. I have a friend who's already offered to throw me a shower and I'm not going to turn her down.
There will be over 7 years between my kids. My awesome SIL offered to throw us a shower when we get KU (we haven't told family yet, they just know we are TTC). I declined because we tried to throw a sprinkle for my not-awesome SIL and dealing with her was a disaster. I don't want my awesome SIL to go through that for me, even though she said she didn't give an eff, she would want to do it for me. Much of our stuff is gone or expired now. Actually, for religious reasons we had a post-baby shower with DS. My BFF forgot to put in the registry cards, we got one thing from our registry. We went into this planning to provide everything ourselves. If it weren't for my not-awesome SIL, I don't know how I would feel. I totally understand doing it with a gap like yours!!
It makes me absolutely crazy when people say they got pregnant "on accident!"
There are a zillion forms of birth control out there.... Many of which you can get for free from a women's clinic or with state medical insurance!
There are zillions of couples out there charting their periods, temps, cervical mucus, cervical positions and how hard or soft it feels etc and having sex immediately and aren't getting pregnant.
Then... Hello SEX without a condom means sperm enters into the woman and you can get pregnant.... That's not an accident!
Guys, you don't like second showers? Well get this, lol...
I have a friend who was basically TOLD she is throwing her friend a shower (with a couple other friends). This girl DEMANDING a shower is on her 4th kid. All of them are under 6 years old. Not a sprinkle, or sip and see...a shower. She's even got a car seat and crib on her registry just because she wants a new one. Talk about rude and greedy.
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Basically a mini shower when you are not having your first. Usually family and very close friends bring small items ( baby wash, diapers, wipes, pacifiers, maybe clothes if the baby is a different sex). There are fairly common in my area.
I'm actually not a huge fan because people still feel like they need to spend more than the $10 or less the smaller items cost. I think a lot of the "mini parties" people host start with good intentions but in the end it still looks like a shower and a plea for gifts.
It makes me absolutely crazy when people say they got pregnant "on accident!"
There are a zillion forms of birth control out there.... Many of which you can get for free from a women's clinic or with state medical insurance!
There are zillions of couples out there charting their periods, temps, cervical mucus, cervical positions and how hard or soft it feels etc and having sex immediately and aren't getting pregnant.
Then... Hello SEX without a condom means sperm enters into the woman and you can get pregnant.... That's not an accident!
YES this!!!!! All of it haha. I started laughing as I read this because recently I found a very graphic meme describing "what I picture when someone says I got pregnant on accident".
I think it's ridiculous how MANY showers, parties, etc people have nowadays...my cousin had 3 showers (one at a friend's house, one at her mom's house, and one in Atlanta) and a "diaper party"...and a lot of the same people invited to them. And what's with these "sip and see"s?? Like seriously, I have to buy ANOTHER gift bc the baby is now OUT of you??
With all the responses about second showers and whatnot, I should have specified that the 3 showers and diaper party were for the same baby!!
Oh yikes, watch out ladies, saying "Gender" instead of sex is offensive to others!
Are you also the kind of person that is surprised when people find racist slang offensive?
@amadorose nope! Just because I find the word gender not offensive to use, doesn't mean I find racist slang is ok. To me this isn't racist.
:-c
Yes, it is offensive to a lot of people. Guess what? Not everyone identifies as the sex they were born as. Their gender is very different from what their genitalia indicates it "should" be. If you use the terms interchangeably KNOWING the difference and not caring (and this does seem to be the case, since it's been explained in multiple threads that you have participated in), you are being rude and offensive. Just because it doesn't bother you personally doesn't mean it's acceptable or okay.
It makes me absolutely crazy when people say they got pregnant "on accident!"
There are a zillion forms of birth control out there.... Many of which you can get for free from a women's clinic or with state medical insurance!
There are zillions of couples out there charting their periods, temps, cervical mucus, cervical positions and how hard or soft it feels etc and having sex immediately and aren't getting pregnant.
Then... Hello SEX without a condom means sperm enters into the woman and you can get pregnant.... That's not an accident!
Tell that to the 2 women I know who had tubals done and had children years later.
It makes me absolutely crazy when people say they got pregnant "on accident!"
There are a zillion forms of birth control out there.... Many of which you can get for free from a women's clinic or with state medical insurance!
There are zillions of couples out there charting their periods, temps, cervical mucus, cervical positions and how hard or soft it feels etc and having sex immediately and aren't getting pregnant.
Then... Hello SEX without a condom means sperm enters into the woman and you can get pregnant.... That's not an accident!
My first kid was an accident. Yes, I know how babies are made. No, we did not make him on purpose. Ergo, accident. Best accident ever!
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I know it'll make me feel awkward though.
Bunny: 10.9.13
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I can't imagine going to the doctor without him, we told my bff because we need a sitter and I need him to go with me. If he wasn't there and I got bad news.......
It makes me absolutely crazy when people say they got pregnant "on accident!"
There are a zillion forms of birth control out there.... Many of which you can get for free from a women's clinic or with state medical insurance!
There are zillions of couples out there charting their periods, temps, cervical mucus, cervical positions and how hard or soft it feels etc and having sex immediately and aren't getting pregnant.
Then... Hello SEX without a condom means sperm enters into the woman and you can get pregnant.... That's not an accident!
I have a friend who was basically TOLD she is throwing her friend a shower (with a couple other friends). This girl DEMANDING a shower is on her 4th kid. All of them are under 6 years old. Not a sprinkle, or sip and see...a shower. She's even got a car seat and crib on her registry just because she wants a new one. Talk about rude and greedy.
BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks
BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
Baby F.......02/02/2016
I'm actually not a huge fan because people still feel like they need to spend more than the $10 or less the smaller items cost. I think a lot of the "mini parties" people host start with good intentions but in the end it still looks like a shower and a plea for gifts.
All of it haha.
I started laughing as I read this because recently I found a very graphic meme describing "what I picture when someone says I got pregnant on accident".
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Yes, it is offensive to a lot of people. Guess what? Not everyone identifies as the sex they were born as. Their gender is very different from what their genitalia indicates it "should" be. If you use the terms interchangeably KNOWING the difference and not caring (and this does seem to be the case, since it's been explained in multiple threads that you have participated in), you are being rude and offensive. Just because it doesn't bother you personally doesn't mean it's acceptable or okay.
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
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