We do have second showers in my family. They are family only and an excuse to get together. I'm going to turn it down when it's offered because I don't care for my extended family. And I hate being the center of attention.
Hopefully this isn't unpopular, but I think it's ridiculous to do gender reveal photos with a professional photographer if one parent is going to be obviously disappointed if the child is one sex. Courtesy of my FB feed last week:
I think people do WAY too many professional photo shoots of themselves. I get your wedding, sure. But do you need the engagement shoot, the pregnancy announcement shoot, the gender real shoot, and the maternity shoot? This one girl on my FB gets them done of just her and her boyfriend, not even for a special occasion. Enough!
I totally get it! i think i needed to chime in because i own all my equipment (DLSR camera, tripod, remote) that i will be doing a photo for announcement, gender reveal, and maybe maternity because photography is my passion and since i feel like i can, why not? i definitely get why it seems like a lot but you're only pregnant for 9 months so why not? just depends i guess!
Hopefully this isn't unpopular, but I think it's ridiculous to do gender reveal photos with a professional photographer if one parent is going to be obviously disappointed if the child is one sex. Courtesy of my FB feed last week:
I think people do WAY too many professional photo shoots of themselves. I get your wedding, sure. But do you need the engagement shoot, the pregnancy announcement shoot, the gender real shoot, and the maternity shoot? This one girl on my FB gets them done of just her and her boyfriend, not even for a special occasion. Enough!
I totally get it! i think i needed to chime in because i own all my equipment (DLSR camera, tripod, remote) that i will be doing a photo for announcement, gender reveal, and maybe maternity because photography is my passion and since i feel like i can, why not? i definitely get why it seems like a lot but you're only pregnant for 9 months so why not? just depends i guess!
I regret not doing some kind of a maternity shoot last time.
We've found a great photographer and get pictures done with her every season (It costs about $600/year). They will double as maternity photos this time.
Hopefully this isn't unpopular, but I think it's ridiculous to do gender reveal photos with a professional photographer if one parent is going to be obviously disappointed if the child is one sex. Courtesy of my FB feed last week:
I think people do WAY too many professional photo shoots of themselves. I get your wedding, sure. But do you need the engagement shoot, the pregnancy announcement shoot, the gender real shoot, and the maternity shoot? This one girl on my FB gets them done of just her and her boyfriend, not even for a special occasion. Enough!
I totally get it! i think i needed to chime in because i own all my equipment (DLSR camera, tripod, remote) that i will be doing a photo for announcement, gender reveal, and maybe maternity because photography is my passion and since i feel like i can, why not? i definitely get why it seems like a lot but you're only pregnant for 9 months so why not? just depends i guess!
I regret not doing some kind of a maternity shoot last time.
We've found a great photographer and get pictures done with her every season (It costs about $600/year). They will double as maternity photos this time.
I've heard that a lot too from friends, regretting not doing it. better to be safe than sorry i guess!
everyone is different though, if you're not comfortable in front of a camera definitely don't force yourself to think you have to do one cause it'll show in the photos LOL
I hate getting birthday and Christmas gifts for my younger siblings. I do because they are still kids and that's just sort of how our family does it. They are very spoiled though and more often than not open something and start pouting that it's not what they wanted. Excuse you! Your older siblings would have gotten their butts kicked for acting like that! You got a gift; smile, say thank you, and move on even if you aren't thrilled.
I hate getting birthday and Christmas gifts for my younger siblings. I do because they are still kids and that's just sort of how our family does it. They are very spoiled though and more often than not open something and start pouting that it's not what they wanted. Excuse you! Your older siblings would have gotten their butts kicked for acting like that! You got a gift; smile, say thank you, and move on even if you aren't thrilled.
I think it's normal when kids are really young and they only want one thing, but it's unacceptable to not smile and say thank you if you're not a little kid anymore. I have cousins who are turning 12 who still do this and it makes me angry.
I hate getting birthday and Christmas gifts for my younger siblings. I do because they are still kids and that's just sort of how our family does it. They are very spoiled though and more often than not open something and start pouting that it's not what they wanted. Excuse you! Your older siblings would have gotten their butts kicked for acting like that! You got a gift; smile, say thank you, and move on even if you aren't thrilled.
One of my sister's kids are like this - all five of them. The kids belonging to my other two sisters are always SO grateful, though, so I just want to keep giving!
I've never been to a sip and see. Do you throw it for yourself? It sounds kind of awful if so... Like I just had a baby the last thing I want to do is plan a party for other people to enjoy!
I've never been to a sip and see. Do you throw it for yourself? It sounds kind of awful if so... Like I just had a baby the last thing I want to do is plan a party for other people to enjoy!
Sometimes yes, sometimes no. It's usually very low key with some snacks and drinks. Some people wait a few months.
I produced one for television with Colin Cowie once lol but I've never had one in real life. I've been to one (not called a sip and see) party that was just to meet the baby. They did e-vites, had champagne and hors d'oeuvres. On TV, we set up a cool baby- themed tablescape and had cocktails in baby bottles lol.
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This is our second so I do not want a shower. Someone in my family was insisting on throwing me another one. No thanks! I already had a shower, one was more than enough. I've never heard of a sip and see. It sounds like it could just be a nice little get together. Might consider it for this bean. Mostly because I felt so lonely after DS was born and I would welcome the company.
I too am sick of all the parties. My younger sister was recently married and I lost count of the number of parties they had.
I am trying to get out of having friends throw a baby shower. 2 of them want to. This is my 2nd baby so I feel it's inappropriate considering me and SO are financially good so we can buy what we need. I'm Jewish, but I'm reformed. I was thrown a baby shower for my daughter when I was 35 weeks. We are pretty superstitious.
@magnumJ this. If he's responsible for half of it, shouldn't he get to know about it right away? I could maybe see waiting a few days if you want to plan something special, but it really should be quick. I just yelled at DH from the bathroom at 8:00 in the morning after I took the test lol
I think it's ridiculous how MANY showers, parties, etc people have nowadays...my cousin had 3 showers (one at a friend's house, one at her mom's house, and one in Atlanta) and a "diaper party"...and a lot of the same people invited to them. And what's with these "sip and see"s?? Like seriously, I have to buy ANOTHER gift bc the baby is now OUT of you??
I agree. And weddings, too! I see people on Facebook having MULTIPLE wedding showers. So much attention, so many gifts...enough!
@magnumJ this. If he's responsible for half of it, shouldn't he get to know about it right away? I could maybe see waiting a few days if you want to plan something special, but it really should be quick. I just yelled at DH from the bathroom at 8:00 in the morning after I took the test lol
I bought a shirt for DD that said "Big Sis" the week before (before I knew I was pregnant) just to have on hand because we were going to start trying. I was so shocked that the test was positive, I ended up just throwing it at him. If he'd been traveling, I totally would have waited until he came home (or at least tried), but I don't get waiting for weeks and weeks for no reason.
I just don't understand keeping anything big from your spouse.
I don't understand not telling your SO that you are pregnant for weeks.
Is that a thing? I was a few days late and out with the girls. They convinced me to buy/take a test and it came back positive. I told DH as soon as I walked in the door. Couldn't have waited a second longer!
@magnumJ this. If he's responsible for half of it, shouldn't he get to know about it right away? I could maybe see waiting a few days if you want to plan something special, but it really should be quick. I just yelled at DH from the bathroom at 8:00 in the morning after I took the test lol
I bought a shirt for DD that said "Big Sis" the week before (before I knew I was pregnant) just to have on hand because we were going to start trying. I was so shocked that the test was positive, I ended up just throwing it at him. If he'd been traveling, I totally would have waited until he came home (or at least tried), but I don't get waiting for weeks and weeks for no reason.
I just don't understand keeping anything big from your spouse.
Same. I kind of wished I could keep a secret just because I think it would have been nice to have this cute way to tell him since it's our first, but I was shocked I got a positive so soon and ended up tell him while he was watering the lawn, so it was this shocked kind of thing where his response was, "Okay, great. I'm going to to move the sprinkler now."
@magnumJ this. If he's responsible for half of it, shouldn't he get to know about it right away? I could maybe see waiting a few days if you want to plan something special, but it really should be quick. I just yelled at DH from the bathroom at 8:00 in the morning after I took the test lol
I bought a shirt for DD that said "Big Sis" the week before (before I knew I was pregnant) just to have on hand because we were going to start trying. I was so shocked that the test was positive, I ended up just throwing it at him. If he'd been traveling, I totally would have waited until he came home (or at least tried), but I don't get waiting for weeks and weeks for no reason.
I just don't understand keeping anything big from your spouse.
Same. I kind of wished I could keep a secret just because I think it would have been nice to have this cute way to tell him since it's our first, but I was shocked I got a positive so soon and ended up tell him while he was watering the lawn, so it was this shocked kind of thing where his response was, "Okay, great. I'm going to to move the sprinkler now."
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I bought DH a book on the way home from work the first time. I basically threw that at him too. I guess that's my thing.
Omg from the second I realized we had sex during an "ovulation day" I talked to my hubby about when to even take the test. I can't imagine not telling him right away it was positive. Is that even a thing?
Omg from the second I realized we had sex during an "ovulation day" I talked to my hubby about when to even take the test. I can't imagine not telling him right away it was positive. Is that even a thing?
It's a thing. Some women wait weeks for seemingly no reason. Some wait because they want to go to the doctor first (which I don't understand because DH is my rock).
@magnumJ this. If he's responsible for half of it, shouldn't he get to know about it right away? I could maybe see waiting a few days if you want to plan something special, but it really should be quick. I just yelled at DH from the bathroom at 8:00 in the morning after I took the test lol
I bought a shirt for DD that said "Big Sis" the week before (before I knew I was pregnant) just to have on hand because we were going to start trying. I was so shocked that the test was positive, I ended up just throwing it at him. If he'd been traveling, I totally would have waited until he came home (or at least tried), but I don't get waiting for weeks and weeks for no reason.
I just don't understand keeping anything big from your spouse.
What, like not telling him you're having twins until you're in the delivery room?
@magnumJ this. If he's responsible for half of it, shouldn't he get to know about it right away? I could maybe see waiting a few days if you want to plan something special, but it really should be quick. I just yelled at DH from the bathroom at 8:00 in the morning after I took the test lol
I bought a shirt for DD that said "Big Sis" the week before (before I knew I was pregnant) just to have on hand because we were going to start trying. I was so shocked that the test was positive, I ended up just throwing it at him. If he'd been traveling, I totally would have waited until he came home (or at least tried), but I don't get waiting for weeks and weeks for no reason.
I just don't understand keeping anything big from your spouse.
What, like not telling him you're having twins until you're in the delivery room?
Well OF COURSE I'd keep that from him. Who doesn't like an extra baby as a surprise?
@magnumJ this. If he's responsible for half of it, shouldn't he get to know about it right away? I could maybe see waiting a few days if you want to plan something special, but it really should be quick. I just yelled at DH from the bathroom at 8:00 in the morning after I took the test lol
I woke DH up from a dead sleep. Couldn't wait till morning.
I am very anti-second showers. My mom has been talking about one since way before I even got pregnant a second time. I have told her a hundred times that I don't want it and that it's rude and tacky, and she gets really upset about it. Ugh. She's very, "Why would you celebrate your first baby and not your second?" And it doesn't matter how many times I tell her that it's not about celebrating the baby, it's about welcoming a woman into motherhood, she doesn't listen. I don't know what's going to happen. She knows how much I don't want another shower, but I wouldn't put it past her and MIL to do something anyway. It upsets me to think about it. Second showers are pretty common around here, but it still bothers me.
I am very anti-second showers. My mom has been talking about one since way before I even got pregnant a second time. I have told her a hundred times that I don't want it and that it's rude and tacky, and she gets really upset about it. Ugh. She's very, "Why would you celebrate your first baby and not your second?" And it doesn't matter how many times I tell her that it's not about celebrating the baby, it's about welcoming a woman into motherhood, she doesn't listen. I don't know what's going to happen. She knows how much I don't want another shower, but I wouldn't put it past her and MIL to do something anyway. It upsets me to think about it. Second showers are pretty common around here, but it still bothers me.
On that note, I'm also not a fan of forcing people to do things they don't want to do (I'm working on standing up for myself) - I had two wedding showers and two baby showers. I wanted one for each and wanted them to be co-ed. Needless to say I didn't get my way.
I'll be pissed if someone forces me to have a shower for a second baby that I don't even want (the shower, not the baby).
I am very anti-second showers. My mom has been talking about one since way before I even got pregnant a second time. I have told her a hundred times that I don't want it and that it's rude and tacky, and she gets really upset about it. Ugh. She's very, "Why would you celebrate your first baby and not your second?" And it doesn't matter how many times I tell her that it's not about celebrating the baby, it's about welcoming a woman into motherhood, she doesn't listen. I don't know what's going to happen. She knows how much I don't want another shower, but I wouldn't put it past her and MIL to do something anyway. It upsets me to think about it. Second showers are pretty common around here, but it still bothers me.
If they do one, maybe you can ask that no one bring gifts?
Heck, I'm not sure I want a shower at all. I'm kind of a hermit though. We'll have to figure out how to make sure baby's socialized, but right now other than work friends our social circle is pretty much DH, me and our respective parents. We like it that way. A bunch of people I mostly don't know making a fuss about me and baby sounds pretty uncomfortable to me.
@magnumJ this. If he's responsible for half of it, shouldn't he get to know about it right away? I could maybe see waiting a few days if you want to plan something special, but it really should be quick. I just yelled at DH from the bathroom at 8:00 in the morning after I took the test lol
I bought a shirt for DD that said "Big Sis" the week before (before I knew I was pregnant) just to have on hand because we were going to start trying. I was so shocked that the test was positive, I ended up just throwing it at him. If he'd been traveling, I totally would have waited until he came home (or at least tried), but I don't get waiting for weeks and weeks for no reason.
I just don't understand keeping anything big from your spouse.
Same. I kind of wished I could keep a secret just because I think it would have been nice to have this cute way to tell him since it's our first, but I was shocked I got a positive so soon and ended up tell him while he was watering the lawn, so it was this shocked kind of thing where his response was, "Okay, great. I'm going to to move the sprinkler now."
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I bought DH a book on the way home from work the first time. I basically threw that at him too. I guess that's my thing.
I think it depends on the reason for waiting. I have been pregnant 6 times (one living child). The first time I found out I was pregnant I told him the second those two pink lines showed up, I think I threw it at him from across the room and started crying. After so many losses though, that magic really faded, and unfortunately we became so guarded we really walked on eggshells around anything baby for a long time. I have usually waited several days at least, a week or so at most, after that first pregnancy just to give myself the time to open up to the new potential. Maybe that sounds weird.
Or, who knows, maybe some people are just old fashioned and/or have unsupportive spouses?
@magnumJ this. If he's responsible for half of it, shouldn't he get to know about it right away? I could maybe see waiting a few days if you want to plan something special, but it really should be quick. I just yelled at DH from the bathroom at 8:00 in the morning after I took the test lol
I bought a shirt for DD that said "Big Sis" the week before (before I knew I was pregnant) just to have on hand because we were going to start trying. I was so shocked that the test was positive, I ended up just throwing it at him. If he'd been traveling, I totally would have waited until he came home (or at least tried), but I don't get waiting for weeks and weeks for no reason.
I just don't understand keeping anything big from your spouse.
Same. I kind of wished I could keep a secret just because I think it would have been nice to have this cute way to tell him since it's our first, but I was shocked I got a positive so soon and ended up tell him while he was watering the lawn, so it was this shocked kind of thing where his response was, "Okay, great. I'm going to to move the sprinkler now."
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I bought DH a book on the way home from work the first time. I basically threw that at him too. I guess that's my thing.
I think it depends on the reason for waiting. I have been pregnant 6 times (one living child). The first time I found out I was pregnant I told him the second those two pink lines showed up, I think I threw it at him from across the room and started crying. After so many losses though, that magic really faded, and unfortunately we became so guarded we really walked on eggshells around anything baby for a long time. I have usually waited several days at least, a week or so at most, after that first pregnancy just to give myself the time to open up to the new potential. Maybe that sounds weird.
Or, who knows, maybe some people are just old fashioned and/or have unsupportive spouses?
I am so sorry for your losses. In a case like yours, I absolutely get it. I'm mostly thinking of these posts I see on TB of women (almost always drive-by posts) not telling their husbands just because, not due to losses. Or when they plan on keeping it from them the entire time to surprise them when they go into labor because "it'll be fun!". Yep, I've actually seen a post like that.
@magnumJ this. If he's responsible for half of it, shouldn't he get to know about it right away? I could maybe see waiting a few days if you want to plan something special, but it really should be quick. I just yelled at DH from the bathroom at 8:00 in the morning after I took the test lol
I bought a shirt for DD that said "Big Sis" the week before (before I knew I was pregnant) just to have on hand because we were going to start trying. I was so shocked that the test was positive, I ended up just throwing it at him. If he'd been traveling, I totally would have waited until he came home (or at least tried), but I don't get waiting for weeks and weeks for no reason.
I just don't understand keeping anything big from your spouse.
Same. I kind of wished I could keep a secret just because I think it would have been nice to have this cute way to tell him since it's our first, but I was shocked I got a positive so soon and ended up tell him while he was watering the lawn, so it was this shocked kind of thing where his response was, "Okay, great. I'm going to to move the sprinkler now."
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I bought DH a book on the way home from work the first time. I basically threw that at him too. I guess that's my thing.
I think it depends on the reason for waiting. I have been pregnant 6 times (one living child). The first time I found out I was pregnant I told him the second those two pink lines showed up, I think I threw it at him from across the room and started crying. After so many losses though, that magic really faded, and unfortunately we became so guarded we really walked on eggshells around anything baby for a long time. I have usually waited several days at least, a week or so at most, after that first pregnancy just to give myself the time to open up to the new potential. Maybe that sounds weird.
Or, who knows, maybe some people are just old fashioned and/or have unsupportive spouses?
I am so sorry for your losses. In a case like yours, I absolutely get it. I'm mostly thinking of these posts I see on TB of women (almost always drive-by posts) not telling their husbands just because, not due to losses. Or when they plan on keeping it from them the entire time to surprise them when they go into labor because "it'll be fun!". Yep, I've actually seen a post like that.
Haha no shit. I can imagine the crazy flames that chick got. I thought the "surprise it's twins!" gal was bad, though I can imagine the idea tempting, I think my H would have serious trust issues with me after that.
I kind of like that we had a shower for my second baby. I never really had one for my first and we got mostly everything ourselves. My mother and sister in law went in together to get us a crib and dresser when they came to visit, but they live across the country and wouldn't have been able to be at a shower if he did have one. I actually had two with my second, one that work threw me and one with just family. We didn't find out the gender and people kept yelling at us that they couldn't get us gifts. I just told them not to get us anything then. It wasn't a big deal for us. I guess the reason I liked it (and why I'd like to have one for this baby too) is that I look at it more as a celebration of the baby that will be here. That's just my opinion though. I'm all for just doing a dinner and celebrating that way. Gifts don't need to be involved.
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I've been to one (not called a sip and see) party that was just to meet the baby. They did e-vites, had champagne and hors d'oeuvres. On TV, we set up a cool baby- themed tablescape and had cocktails in baby bottles lol.
I too am sick of all the parties. My younger sister was recently married and I lost count of the number of parties they had.
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I think it depends on the reason for waiting. I have been pregnant 6 times (one living child). The first time I found out I was pregnant I told him the second those two pink lines showed up, I think I threw it at him from across the room and started crying. After so many losses though, that magic really faded, and unfortunately we became so guarded we really walked on eggshells around anything baby for a long time. I have usually waited several days at least, a week or so at most, after that first pregnancy just to give myself the time to open up to the new potential. Maybe that sounds weird.
Or, who knows, maybe some people are just old fashioned and/or have unsupportive spouses?
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Haha no shit. I can imagine the crazy flames that chick got. I thought the "surprise it's twins!" gal was bad, though I can imagine the idea tempting, I think my H would have serious trust issues with me after that.
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