UO Thursday

SweetnSassy23 · July 2015

This is usually a pretty good thread, so let's get it going.

midge519 · July 2015

I don't have one yet for today...I start work in an hour I'm sure I'll have one soon lol

aah1013 · July 2015

I keep seeing people suggesting a "sip & see" after baby arrives. Am I the only one that thinks this is a terrible idea during cold and flu season?

amberrmariee20 · July 2015

@aah1013 I think it's a terrible idea too !! After my son was born he had breathing problems and my pediatrician told me to keep him kind of isolated from public places, and big crowds till after 3-4 months.

mom4liak · July 2015

@aah1013 My MIL is insisting on throwing a sip and see. I have made it very clear that I don't want all those people around my newborn during the height of cold and flu season. She said that it will make the baby have a stronger immune system. I told her she can have her sip and see and people can see her because we won't be there!

furelise93 · July 2015

My UO: I absolutely hate the smell of cocoa butter. :-q

Edit: wrong emoticon.

Thentherewere7 · July 2015

I feel that people treat babies as if they should live in a padded bubble. My friends had a daughter 4 months before my DD and kept her isolated for 4 months and sanitized/sterilized everything every day. She gets sick so often now. Where as I began taking my daughter on outings when she was two weeks old and she rarely gets sick. I believe in protecting your baby but I don't think we need to lock them away.

I also don't buy into everything they push on us to buy for babies. Baby needs to be fed, clothed, sheltered, and loved. Baby does not need all of the extras that are thrown at us as if we don't buy baby everything we are not good parents.

elmann1 · July 2015

Feeling cranky. I keep seeing the same posters CREATE a hundred new ("it's all about me") threads but never contribute to anyone else's unless it's to complain (or to make the everyone-is-being-mean comments) it really grinds my gears!

DeeGreer · July 2015

This is an unpopular opinion amongst my friends...it's OKAY to crate a dog. Holy crap. My dog is in his crate while I'm at work because he'll destroy my house otherwise. Someone told me it was cruel. He is walked during my lunch and has access to food and water. What's "cruel" is tying a dog outside like some people I know do. UGH!

furelise93 · July 2015

DeeGreer said:
This is an unpopular opinion amongst my friends...it's OKAY to crate a dog. Holy crap. My dog is in his crate while I'm at work because he'll destroy my house otherwise. Someone told me it was cruel. He is walked during my lunch and has access to food and water. What's "cruel" is tying a dog outside like some people I know do. UGH!

I agree with you! My dogs are crate trained. They LOVE their crates because they know that when they get put in their crate, they get a bone. I've never left them loose in the house while I'm gone. They're either with me, or in their crate. I'm too scared to find out what would happen if I left them loose. lol!

Yep! It's more cruel to tie your dog outside. I absolutely HATE THAT.

savsimon · July 2015

We have our baby crated when we leave as well! He loves his crate it's set up at night (we don't make him sleep in it) but he always ends up sleeping in it all night! Crating your dog is not cruel whatsoever

bbiutmcph · July 2015

DeeGreer said:

This is an unpopular opinion amongst my friends...it's OKAY to crate a dog. Holy crap. My dog is in his crate while I'm at work because he'll destroy my house otherwise. Someone told me it was cruel. He is walked during my lunch and has access to food and water. What's "cruel" is tying a dog outside like some people I know do. UGH!

I never understand the it's cruel aspect. We own dogs and foster them. THey all are crate trained. We have appropriate sized crates for all. It also gives them a sense of safety as it's their own space. Dogs need their own space where they can get away from everything and not feel invaded (especially with kids). Our dogs often sleep in their crates during the day too and they run to them when we say "bye bye time" In my experience the people who cry about crate training also have dogs that are not trained on anything and have behavioral problems.

babymazzei · July 2015

It bugs me when people don't realize I'm pregnant when I have this very obvious bump. However, it also bugs me when people comment on how big I am. I'm a brat. No one can win with me.

devonsd315 · July 2015

I don't like being called "cute" because I'm pregnant. If you wouldn't comment on the shape of my body when I'm not pregnant, please don't comment on it now.

SweetnSassy23 · July 2015

I am flabbergasted by the book instead of a card thread, and the amount of support it received. I can't believe so many people find it acceptable to "request" a book instead of a card. Really, who wants to be the one person at the shower who doesn't participate? I don't really see how it's a polite request. A good book will cost at least $15. You can't dictate what your guests bring you.

It's craziness. If you want books register for them or have the shower host provide them for guests to write messages. If you want a library for the baby, then go to the bookstore and buy the books yourself.

bbiutmcph · July 2015

SweetnSassy23 said:

I am flabbergasted by the book instead of a card thread, and the amount of support it received. I can't believe so many people find it acceptable to "request" a book instead of a card. Really, who wants to be the one person at the shower who doesn't participate? I don't really see how it's a polite request. A good book will cost at least $15. You can't dictate what your guests bring you.
It's craziness. If you want books register for them or have the shower host provide them for guests to write messages. If you want a library for the baby, then go to the bookstore and buy the books yourself.

adcoxmt · July 2015

aah1013 said:

I keep seeing people suggesting a "sip & see" after baby arrives. Am I the only one that thinks this is a terrible idea during cold and flu season?

I had to google this. I didn't even know this was a thing, let alone a "Southern" thing; I live in NC haha. I think that sounds awful too, especially during cold and flu season. No thank you. :-q

amberrmariee20 · July 2015

Stormsullivan said:
I feel that people treat babies as if they should live in a padded bubble. My friends had a daughter 4 months before my DD and kept her isolated for 4 months and sanitized/sterilized everything every day. She gets sick so often now. Where as I began taking my daughter on outings when she was two weeks old and she rarely gets sick. I believe in protecting your baby but I don't think we need to lock them away.

I also don't buy into everything they push on us to buy for babies. Baby needs to be fed, clothed, sheltered, and loved. Baby does not need all of the extras that are thrown at us as if we don't buy baby everything we are not good parents.

Some parents have to keep their babies isolated for very good reasons ! I had to keep my son isolated. He had surgery at 1 weeks old due to a cyst on his vocal cords. When he gets sick his airways close over and no dr can seem to figure out why, he's had scopes done on his throat about 12 times in the first 2 years of his life, and that was extremely scary at a few months old ! Almost lost him at 5 months old because he got sick and his airways closed over !!!

shannond21228 · July 2015

I totally agree about this whole "sip & see." I hate the cutesy name. Nothing about it sounds enjoyable to me, having people over to drink and pass around my newborn? No just no.

MamaOwl15 · July 2015

@DeeGreer, I'm amazed that people think it's cruel to crate a dog, because dogs actually LIKE being in their crates. It's a nice, secure little space for them where they don't feel the anxiety that makes them want to tear up the house. My family's dog runs for his crate because he knows he'll get rewarded with a "cookie" (milk bone), and though he acts like he's pissed to be in there, he'll burrow into his blanket and take a nap after about 5 minutes.

Granted, most dogs would probably prefer an open field with plenty of squirrels and rabbits to chase . . .

@furelise93, I agree it's more cruel to chain dogs up outside. I feel like in a way it's like, "look at all this open space you DON'T get to play in!"

Thentherewere7 · July 2015

@amberrmariee20 I'm so sorry you and your little boy had to go through that. What an awful time. I was speaking more so of babies without health complications. I am aware that babies with health issues and compromised immune systems need more isolation and sterilized environments.

adcoxmt · July 2015

DeeGreer said:

This is an unpopular opinion amongst my friends...it's OKAY to crate a dog. Holy crap. My dog is in his crate while I'm at work because he'll destroy my house otherwise. Someone told me it was cruel. He is walked during my lunch and has access to food and water. What's "cruel" is tying a dog outside like some people I know do. UGH!

My dog stays in his crate all day too! The only difference is, HIS DOOR IS OPEN! haha. He just loves his safe haven so much that he only comes out to eat/drink, go outside, or cuddle with me. He could roam the house all day if he wanted but he usually just chills in his crate, by choice!

MirandaC1984 · July 2015

I can't stand the AW threads when there are threads created for that specific topic. I know that most people don't care but every time I see one I roll my eyes.

Krysta6 · July 2015

I totally agree on the sip n see -- every time I see it recommended I cringe. I don't want that many people in my house and passing the baby all at once! That sounds like a terrible idea. I'm more than happy to have visitors or go out and meet people but just a large crowd seems like a recipe for colds. My friends went to a going away party for a friend with their 2 week old and when they got back their baby she smelled like other peoples perfume and cigarettes-- I find that to just be gross.

@deegreer, I think I used to be one of those people who found crating cruel. We used to lock our dog in a bathroom or laundry room and he would be fine. But now our dog jumps gates when you aren't looking so she has to be crated. But I won't lie if she's in there for more than 4 hours I feel guilty and if I have to leave again soon it breaks my heart. We are considering setting her crate up in the laundry room in the next house so she can have more freedom but we shall see if she still tries to jump the gate!

MamaOwl15 · July 2015

I don't understand why people are so opposed to princesses. What's wrong with playing princess, anyway?

I get the frustration of shopping for girl's clothes and finding everything is pink and sparkly. I want my daughter's wardrobe to have variety, not be one big pile of glitter (ugh I hate glitter!!!!).

I thoroughly dislike anything printed on da tee-shirt that suggests that a girl gets to get away with being entitled or acting like a brat. I get that aspect of it.

But growing up, "princess" equalled castles and long dresses and tiaras not brattiness. And as far back as I can recall, I knew that wasn't real life.

Maybe it's because the princesses I was familiar with were intelligent and independent (like Princess Leia of Star Wars). And sometimes the princess/female character was actually the one to rescue the prince/male lead, like Belle in Beauty and the Beast and Rapunzel in Tangled.

It bothers me that little boys are allowed to play at cowboys or soldiers but little girls can't pretend they're princesses. (Note: I pretended to be a cowgirl and a soldier at times too, or Laura Ingalls Wilder or Anne of Green Gables, but that's another story . . .).

I guess I just don't get why "princess" has become a bad word.

mbrennanmama · July 2015

@SweetnSassy23 We bought cute books at $5 each for my cousins shower and I thought it was a lovely idea. Some gave cards and it wasn't a big deal at all.

kfry22 · July 2015

I sick of all the pregnancy comments. How far along are you? Oh are you sure it's not twins cause if that's your due date you're farther along. When will you be done working? You look so CUTE!!! People being nice and talking to me in stores when they would have normally just ignored me before. How are you feeling? I'm done with the pregnancy comments. I'm more than just a pregnant lady, I'm not sick, and I'm about to adopt a really good bitch face if people don't shut up.

bbiutmcph · July 2015

mbrennanmama said:

@SweetnSassy23 We bought cute books at $5 each for my cousins shower and I thought it was a lovely idea. Some gave cards and it wasn't a big deal at all.

It's the fact you are telling your guests what to bring and it's in addition to a gift they are already bringing. People then feel obligated to buy a nice book in addition to what they already were planning on. Most people will give in to the idea even if they find it tacky because they don't want to be the only person not with a book. I have been to showers like this as well and people do talk about it negatively although not to the hostess or the MTB.

TheSouffleGirl · July 2015

I find it weird when people refer to their pets as fur babies (sorry, June siggy challenge). I love animals precisely because they are NOT like babies: you don't have to carry them around for nine months while barfing, they are cute at birth (sorry), they can be left at home while you go to the grocery store, they listen to you and never talk back, people never ask you obnoxious questions about them, they eat anything you give them, and your responsibility to them and their affection for you will always be simple, easily-defined, and comparatively (comparatively) light on complex moral obligations likely to give you guilt complexes later in life. They are much more like messy-but-affectionate adult roommates who never help with the dishes than babies. Why malign them with the comparison?

taralohse · July 2015

I still have 3 months to go but I just don't want to work anymore! I cannot find the motivation at all - I swear I spend half of my day looking at the clock and the other on the bump!

curfam4 · July 2015

I am not a pet person at all! I don't mind other people's animals, but have absolutely zero desire to have my own. I can't handle the fur/food bowls/litter boxes/having to pick up poop, etc. Luckily, DH feels the same way.

kfry22 · July 2015

I have another one. I hate when people say the baby needs to "cook" longer or it's a bun in the oven. Or that it's incubating. It's not food and it's not fowl waiting to hatch. It's a child. In a uterus.

End rant for today.

MissBek07 · July 2015

I hate stairs. When I was pregnant with DD we lived in a little one story. Even quite pregnant I could put movers under furniture and move it by myself. No such luck now. I don't like this big house where I can't move anything! Sorry, end rant.

SweetnSassy23 · July 2015

bbiutmcph said:

mbrennanmama said:

@SweetnSassy23 We bought cute books at $5 each for my cousins shower and I thought it was a lovely idea. Some gave cards and it wasn't a big deal at all.

It's the fact you are telling your guests what to bring and it's in addition to a gift they are already bringing. People then feel obligated to buy a nice book in addition to what they already were planning on. Most people will give in to the idea even if they find it tacky because they don't want to be the only person not with a book. I have been to showers like this as well and people do talk about it negatively although not to the hostess or the MTB.

^^This. It is not a mere suggestion. The person who doesn't participate feels/looks silly.

MamaOwl15 · July 2015

@kassyfry, I totally agree! Well, I don't really take issue with people saying baby is incubating, but I'm growing a person, not making dinner!

anorthro · July 2015

I wouldn't mind bringing a book in lieu of a card to a baby shower, but I would most likely spend less money on the main gift.

savsimon · July 2015

Idk where most people are shopping for books but if you buy a Dr. Seuss book at target its $5 bucks, which is the price of a nice card. I would much rather give a book rather than some expensive card that is going to be thrown away in a day.

CaitLewis15 · July 2015

My UO is that I think dressing your kid like a mini-adult, especially as a mini-hipster, is creepy and weird. And I'm really into clothes and will spend a ton on my daughters' apparel.

But this just feels weird:

amberrmariee20 · July 2015

I agree @CaitLewis15 its much cuter when the kids are dressed in kid themes (: !

MamaOwl15 · July 2015

@CaitLewis15, I agree if you're talking about styles like in these pictures! I personally think it's adorable when kids are dressed in mini versions of grown-up clothes, like infant-sized suits.

But at the same time, especially with girl's clothes, there are styles that are adorable on little tiny people that would look ridiculous on adults (like ruffly little dresses). These kids don't even look comfortable.

katanasai · July 2015

I hate it when people get judgy on me for sitting on my porch in my pj pants. I had a friend tell me it's sloppy to go out your door dressed like that.

I also hate it when I'm walking with my SO and he's smoking, and people look at me like I'm the worst person ever for standing in his vicinity. He doesn't blow the smoke at me, I stand upwind from him, and sometimes I just walk in front of him. Grrrr!

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