Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: NEW HERE? READ ME FIRST
I feel a bit silly asking for a list but I'm gonna have to!
I respect your right to have them all so i simply wont read them, but I also hope you respect my feelings. I find them unnecessary and I prefer positivity. Opening a post titled "New Here. READ ME FIRST" and seeing Twat Waffle Tuesday just doesn't seem that welcoming to me.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
Totally get the desire for positivity, but... Honestly, TP Thursday is typically way more engaging than something like Thankful Thursday. Of course there's no reason not to have both, even in the same post in the same thread.
Expecting Saulie O 2.12.2016
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
Feb16 August Siggy Challenge
Favorite TV Mom
BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks
BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks
BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
I'm sorry you're offended, but I'm not sure where this came from : "The fact that you want to tell me that you only want to see positive posts on here isn't very welcoming to me." I never said that. I'm always up for a laugh and I love making fun of people who piss me off, but mostly to myself. I'll be sure to always post something cheery
I wish people would stop acting like everyone on this board is horrible and that we "really need some positivity around here" just because we have one thread a day devoted to complaining. Sometimes I'd rather vent here than be mad and fuming about it at my husband all day.
There are lots of other fun, interesting, positive threads around here (ticker changes, GIF parties, GTKY posts, whatever) that you can read instead. Put on your big girl panties and learn to scroll.
Eta: autocorrect typo
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
Baby F.......02/02/2016
And what the flip does MUD mean? I know, I know, look at the bump guidelines for abbreviations.
Also, final query - if you've got 'newbies' on this board there's a high chance they're first time mothers, you'd have thought a bit more compassion about them freaking out about stuff in their own post rather than finding a similar thread. The special snowflake thing is hideously condescending, which I'm sure you're absolutely aiming for, but why?
So far as regulars, there are people who have been on trying to conceive, infertility, and other parenting boards on here for a while. Those are your regulars. Newbies, to me, are those people who come on here overly excited that they are pregnant, and who post an introduction without bothering to look that there is an intro thread, and then the next post is their symptoms without posting on the symptom thread, etc. they just start posting without trying to figure out how the board works first. You don't have to be a newbie, but it does take a while before you are a regular.
Your last question has been answered before, and the best answer I have ever read to it is we don't want losses buried and missed by a bunch of special snowflake posts. We all have symptoms, we all have ultrasounds. There have been 600+ people who have introed on this board. If everyone makes their own post, the important stuff gets lost.
Hope that answers your questions. Lurking is the best way to get used to the boards and see how they work.
You may want to check out another website.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
Edit not finished typing accidentally submitted.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
And I feel like a broken record because I have said all of this before.
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks
BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
Expecting Saulie O 2.12.2016
Feb16 August Siggy Challenge
Favorite TV Mom
Going to find a British equivalent, might be easier for me to be understood.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
Feb16 August Siggy Challenge
Favorite TV Mom
Can you close this thread to future replies please?
BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks
BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16