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February 2016 Moms
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GTKY
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Just for fun 
STM+ :What are some things you said you'd NEVER do as a parent and wound up guilty.
FTM: what are some things you "will never do" ?
STM+ :What are some things you said you'd NEVER do as a parent and wound up guilty.
FTM: what are some things you "will never do" ?
Re: GTKY
I said I would never allow myself to be one of those parents whose child is talking through a binky.
This transition has proven to be the most difficult one for us!
This time around, I'll say never say never because each child has proven to be extremely different and what worked for my first 2 probably won't work for #3!
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
Kiddo #1 = 10 cycles of trying, 1 CP and is now a toddler
Thankfully I ended up not needing them but the thought is beginning to cross my mind again for when I have two 2 year olds and a newborn.
Also I didn't think I would ever co-sleep. I also gave that up real fast. After 3 months of lost sleep over cradles and cribs I let her sleep in my bed, the only place she was content.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
And photo courtesy of my happy child at the aquarium yesterday, on his leash (yes, it is a crappy photo, and I will only post crappy ones since the bump thinks they own my photo)
Once upon a time I thought leashes were horrible. Haven't had to use one with DS but it is very very tempting, he's crazy fast.
I think the one I stuck to was that I would never take him out in public in super dirty clothes/just a onesie/with a snotty, messy face. I stick to that. I hate when infants and toddlers look like they aren't taken care of. C is always wearing a full outfit and he's clean. I'm sure when he gets older and plays outside all the time that might change, though.
I'm sure I had other "I will never"s that were just adorable, but I can't think of any more right now.
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
I will never...
-Let me toddler walk around the house naked or only in a diaper. I'm all about teaching them about boundaries like this early on. I also don't think it's appropriate to shower with your child or anything like that. Private parts are private.
-Breast Feed after age 1. Ill prob pump and feed them from the bottle after like 8 months if I can. An older baby sucking on my nipples makes me want to vom right now (again, will prob eat my words!)
- talk "baby talk" to them
- let them get away with using "baby words" for things. Like "go potty" ummm it's "go to the bathroom"
- let them ride in a stroller if they are over the age of 4
I can go on and on I'm sure...
TTM here and we formula fed the first, breastfed the second... I just wanted to make it to a year breastfeeding then fully intended to wean. We are almost 21 months old and still nurse in the morning and night times. Though I am in the middle of weaning because I don't want to tandem nurse. Once that baby is here all your "Never's" and "Intent's" go out the window.
I try very hard not to judge other mothers and never say never... I agree with a PP above, cant remember who it was but they said what works for child #1 may not work for child #2 and so on and so on. This is very very true. We never bed shared with the first because it was something you just "didn't do" but tried with the second because we were nursing and it was just way easier. However, that little dude likes his personal space and really, so do I so that only lasted until 7/8 months.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
I was also very confident that I would only gain 25 pounds during pregnancy, since I'm generally thin and eat well...about 50 with each of my first 2 pregnancies. (Lost it in the first 4ish months, so whatever. I'm doing my best to not be consumed with stress on that one.)
Oh, and NO WAY would I be diapering my walking, talking 2 year old. Gross. I'll just patiently explain that we use the potty and they'll do it;) dear heavens, praying he picks it up before he's 3...
1. It's like 87 degrees in my house and we aren't going anywhere. We have no AC. I'm not stuffing my kid into a shirt and shorts because he's much cooler in a diaper, and there's nothing inappropriate about it.
2. We usually bathe him separately, but sometimes life is crazy and he showers with us. It's quick and easy. It all depends on your comfort level. My kid isn't even two yet, so I don't think there is ANYTHING inappropriate about nakedness at this age. I'd rather him see my normal, imperfect mom body and get used to that than think all women are skinny airbrushed hairless models. No disrespect if nudity makes you uncomfortable. I used to think very differently, but I've changed my mind.
3. BF is very personal and up to you. I didn't think I'd BF past one, but here we are JUST weaning (and not that well) at 21 months. He doesn't feel like this huge kid attached to my nipples, he's still my baby.
4. Baby talk... yeah, I think you're going to talk some baby talk. Have you ever been around an infant? It's almost impossible not to, at least every once in awhile.
5. "Let" your kid say potty instead of bathroom? News flash, kids are going to say what they say. Maybe you'll have a super talkative kid who is easy to correct and will use the proper words for everything, and maybe my son is going to become an astronaut and fly to Mars next year. Haha. Kids say what's easiest to say. Bathroom is a much harder word for a potty training toddler to pronounce than potty.
6. The stroller thing, IDK. My kid isn't even two yet. But if in two years, I have space in a double stroller and we're at the zoo all day and he wants a break from walking, I can't imagine telling him no on principle.
eta: I wanted to clarify that I'm not offended or butthurt. Just amused.
Bunny: 10.9.13
Jellybean #2 Due: 2.1.16
F16 July Siggy Challenge: Favorite Summer Activity
Hiking and Baseball Games with the Fam
I never thought I would feel comfortable breastfeeding past 1, let alone at all, but I bf my twins till 18 months because I loved it! It's so different than what you think it'll be like. You may change your mind about that one. Like @HBirdie said, your baby is still a baby to you even when he's older than 1!
Good luck not baby talking to your baby! Sometimes you don't even realize you're doing it. I still baby talk to my toddlers cause why not??
1. It's like 87 degrees in my house and we aren't going anywhere. We have no AC. I'm not stuffing my kid into a shirt and shorts because he's much cooler in a diaper, and there's nothing inappropriate about it.
2. We usually bathe him separately, but sometimes life is crazy and he showers with us. It's quick and easy. It all depends on your comfort level. My kid isn't even two yet, so I don't think there is ANYTHING inappropriate about nakedness at this age. I'd rather him see my normal, imperfect mom body and get used to that than think all women are skinny airbrushed hairless models. No disrespect if nudity makes you uncomfortable. I used to think very differently, but I've changed my mind.
3. BF is very personal and up to you. I didn't think I'd BF past one, but here we are JUST weaning (and not that well) at 21 months. He doesn't feel like this huge kid attached to my nipples, he's still my baby.
4. Baby talk... yeah, I think you're going to talk some baby talk. Have you ever been around an infant? It's almost impossible not to, at least every once in awhile.
5. "Let" your kid say potty instead of bathroom? News flash, kids are going to say what they say. Maybe you'll have a super talkative kid who is easy to correct and will use the proper words for everything, and maybe my son is going to become an astronaut and fly to Mars next year. Haha. Kids say what's easiest to say. Bathroom is a much harder word for a potty training toddler to pronounce than potty.
6. The stroller thing, IDK. My kid isn't even two yet. But if in two years, I have space in a double stroller and we're at the zoo all day and he wants a break from walking, I can't imagine telling him no on principle.
eta: I wanted to clarify that I'm not offended or butthurt. Just amused.
Check back with me in a year! Like I said, I'll prob eat my words!
I fully admit I'm probably being unrealistic - it's easy to judge when you're not in the position but these are the intentions I'm going in with. We'll see!
Fyi I think you'll 100% be right about the baby talk. I even catch myself doing it to my kittens lol. We know what they say about the best laid plans...
And I do hope you're right about breastfeeding. Right now I can't imagine it, but I hope it will feel more natural.
We have air conditioning and I'm usually in sweaters in my house because my dh keeps it so cold but, regardless, before a certain age, I'm sure it won't make a difference but once they're more aware, I don't think it's appropriate to be around your house in your underwear at least. I come from a very private family in that respect
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
I would give breastfeeding a chance! Some people don't like it, others love it! And there's nothing wrong with bottle feeding, but personally I hated pumping!!! Was way more unnatural feeling and time consuming!
Oh, and we have a very strict "no electronics" at the dinner table and no one can get up until everyone is finished. Its always been this way and I will pride myself on it staying this way