I'm a teacher so I won't see my boss until early August. I plan to tell her then after the 12 week u/s.
I work at a school and we don't go back until August as well. But I did tell her a week ago so she wasn't completely thrown off by this announcement. I have worked at another Catholic school, but it's my first year at this one. I was really worried she'd reconsider hiring me. But she was super great about it! Said she'd hope to have a daycare at the school by then. I felt much better getting it off my mind!
I work in a mail order pharmacy, so we do a lot of work on the phone. I had to tell my supervisor 2 weeks ago because I was having such bad morning sickness and was running to the bathroom so often that it's affecting my desk time. She was SO excited for us! I've sworn her to secrecy until August. My team may have their suspicions, but I'm not planning on telling them until after 12 weeks.
I told my boss bc he likes to watch over everyone's time and had problems with doctors appointments in the middle of the day. So it's nice that he can't say nothing about my situation now!
I also work at a school and won't see my principals until past my first trimester... We're friends on Facebook and eager to spill the beans after trying to keep it secret. I don't want them to find out on Facebook.. We text at times.. Is that unprofessional to text them the news? Or should I try to meet with them? Same with other co-workers. I know we could delay putting it on Facebook even longer but that's a long time to wait! Thoughts??
I also work at a school and won't see my principals until past my first trimester... We're friends on Facebook and eager to spill the beans after trying to keep it secret. I don't want them to find out on Facebook.. We text at times.. Is that unprofessional to text them the news? Or should I try to meet with them? Same with other co-workers. I know we could delay putting it on Facebook even longer but that's a long time to wait! Thoughts??
I wouldn't text a boss that kind of news, IMO it's unprofessional. I'd call (since you're not really seeing them currently) or set up a time to meet in person. Coworkers I'd say are ok to text if you have that kind of friendly relationship but anyone that you barely talk to that could be kind of weird. Maybe tell the coworkers you're close with and let the others find out through word of mouth or Facebook, unless you happen to see them in person.
I also work at a school and won't see my principals until past my first trimester... We're friends on Facebook and eager to spill the beans after trying to keep it secret. I don't want them to find out on Facebook.. We text at times.. Is that unprofessional to text them the news? Or should I try to meet with them? Same with other co-workers. I know we could delay putting it on Facebook even longer but that's a long time to wait! Thoughts??
I wouldn't text a boss that kind of news, IMO it's unprofessional. I'd call (since you're not really seeing them currently) or set up a time to meet in person. Coworkers I'd say are ok to text if you have that kind of friendly relationship but anyone that you barely talk to that could be kind of weird. Maybe tell the coworkers you're close with and let the others find out through word of mouth or Facebook, unless you happen to see them in person.
I disagree - it depends entirely on your relationship. My bosses and I text all the time and have shared some pretty important things over text.
I am a Director in a school system and I'm struggling on when to tell. I just started back in Jan. I will have my ultrasound at 7 wks 4 days on Monday so I am going to see what happens. I feel like I'm ready showing some, which I'm not use too! With my first I didn't need maternity clothes until right at 20 wks but this one is going to be a different story!! I had a MC at 10 weeks back in Nov. so I don't want to tell too early just in case!!
I'm waiting until I'm out of my first trimester. My old boss recently left and my new one doesn't start until July 6th. I just didn't want to have to tell 2-3 people since I have a "floating" boss right now. I've had a lot of nausea but luckily I haven't been getting sick at work. ** Fingers crossed that I didn't jinx myself!!! I also get to work from home once a week, so I've just scheduled appointments on that day.
I'm telling my exec team soon (9-10 wks) and will tell everyone else at 2nd tri.
It's really hard not to say something sooner but I don't want it to be a distraction either. Luckily we have a very flexible work from home policy and a general "we don't care what your hours are as long as work gets done" atmosphere, so Dr's appts haven't been an issue. Avoiding happy hours has been much trickier! I'll be glad when everyone realizes I'm not being anti-social.
I also work at a school and won't see my principals until past my first trimester... We're friends on Facebook and eager to spill the beans after trying to keep it secret. I don't want them to find out on Facebook.. We text at times.. Is that unprofessional to text them the news? Or should I try to meet with them? Same with other co-workers. I know we could delay putting it on Facebook even longer but that's a long time to wait! Thoughts??
I would call and let them know. A text seems a bit tacky but I don't think you need to schedule a face to face meeting. I'm in the same boat but I will see my boss at a training when I'm 13 weeks so it works out.
I haven't really decided but it will be after the summer. I know from experience that as soon as she finds out she will retaliate. the last 2 times I was pregnant she took multiple vacations and called out constantly which means I get stuck doing everything. I just don't need the added stress right now
I started telling most people this week. I told a couple close people since they knew we were TTC. I work in a hospital with a bunch of moms and I know I can trust them. I also have to take time off for appointments so I had to make it a little known that I was going to be gone.
If everything goes well at my u/s i plan on telling my boss in the next week or so. I feel like he needs to know because my assistant's already putting items on my calendar as far out as december. Don't plan on telling the co-workers though till at least 12 wks. Plus, I've already had one mc, so i feel like if something bad happens and I need to not be at work for a bit - or always have my door closed or what have you - I would want at least my boss to know why.
A big part of the reason I wanted to tell them as well is that I'd need to say something and take some time off if I had a MC. I have no idea if it's true, but I feel it would be easier to let them know I lost the baby rather than tell them I was pregnant and now I'm not. But I could be totally wrong.
Exactly my thoughts... I told my boss and told him that I was filling him in so that if I had an mc or any issues it wouldn't be awkward. He thanked me for that, and now asks how my 'tummy' is doing every week, it's nice that he takes an interest.
I'm waiting until 12 weeks. I'm a manager so no need to get everyone worked up just yet. It's going to be difficult to be on maternity leave & I know it'll be on everyone's minds.
One of my mother in laws didn't tell her work she was pregnant with my husband until she was 6 months! She just wore baggy clothes. I think that's pretty wild!
I'm hoping to hold off as long as possible (ie. until I can't hide a bump or pass it off as "putting on a few lbs"). I'm aiming to get through the first tri before spilling the beans. I just prefer to keep it to myself for awhile as I've had a m/c in the past & want to feel 100% confident about it before sharing with co-workers, etc.
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Well since I'm looking for work for the first time in 8 years I am not saying anything til I know that this little one is going to stick. I wouldn't be looking if DH didn't have so much uncertainty at work. But I rather be prepared just incase the floor falls out underneath us.
I'm starting a new job in August (beginning of 2nd trimester). I want to give some time for them to get to know me and see I'm a hard worker before telling them. I'm worried they could let me go or not give me the specific job location I want if they know. My new boss is already touchy that I took a month to fill out the hr paperwork and scolded me for not submitting it within the week
I do not think it's awful. I did not tell my work about my last pregnancy until it was unavoidable, and intend to do the same with this one. I believe under FMLA you only have to give 30 days notice.
I told my boss yesterday and it was so awkward. I don't know why, but I was so nervous. He questioned all of the leave slips I've been submitting so I figured it was time to tell him. I was shaky and fumbling on my words. Lol, I'm weird! I did ask him to not speak of it to anyone else and he did say he would let me tell others when I was ready.
Would it be awful to wait until 3rd trimester to avoid being treated differently by new boss & new coworkers?
I think you'd run into the issue of it becoming obvious and by you not mentioning anything, it could cause issues. They are not allowed to fire you or mistreat you as an employee due to being pregnant, but if you lie, they can fire you for that.
FWIW, I was obviously pregnant before 20 weeks. No way I could have hidden it.
I have a kinda weird situation. I'm the sole Pastor of 2 churches. (United Methodist) So I'm sorta the boss and have to take care of my maternity leave (get Pastoral care and Preaching coverage) and make sure everything is all set up so I can take one. I am also getting huge (8th kid, so stretched out mama elastic) and have already had a few sideways glances. I am having my first appointment tomorrow and my first u/s Thursday, so I am going to announce it at the end of worship on Sunday. I think people will be excited but anxious. They have never had a pregnant Pastor before. I also have to call my District Superintendent and I'm not sure if he or I let the Bishop know. I also have to call the Chair of the Board of Ordained ministry and let them know. It feels really complicated. With my other kids I was a SAHM or in seminary so I just had a baby and had no one else to worry about. <sigh>
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I'm waiting until 12 weeks just because I seem to attract bad luck and I'm super nervous with this pregnancy (took us 2 years and a medicated IUI to conceive). I have to plan this strategically though because between mine and DH's family we have some talkative parents lol. We have to tell them and make them swear to secrecy until I tell my boss. The last thing I want is for my boss and co-workers to find out on Facebook through our parents.
I'm waiting until 12 weeks just because I seem to attract bad luck and I'm super nervous with this pregnancy (took us 2 years and a medicated IUI to conceive). I have to plan this strategically though because between mine and DH's family we have some talkative parents lol. We have to tell them and make them swear to secrecy until I tell my boss. The last thing I want is for my boss and co-workers to find out on Facebook through our parents.
I hear ya! My family hasn't had a baby in the family for 30 years (ie before social networking) so they will need to be told explicitly by DH & I "no postings!".
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I told my boss early on last time and it seemed pointless... Ended up miscarrying though.
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It's really hard not to say something sooner but I don't want it to be a distraction either. Luckily we have a very flexible work from home policy and a general "we don't care what your hours are as long as work gets done" atmosphere, so Dr's appts haven't been an issue. Avoiding happy hours has been much trickier! I'll be glad when everyone realizes I'm not being anti-social.
One of my mother in laws didn't tell her work she was pregnant with my husband until she was 6 months! She just wore baggy clothes. I think that's pretty wild!
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I hear ya! My family hasn't had a baby in the family for 30 years (ie before social networking) so they will need to be told explicitly by DH & I "no postings!".