You didn't mention if its a regular beer or an NA beer. I haven't had a real beer since Christmas, but I've had 3 or 4 NA beers in the last few months.
Seriously everyone has a stick up their ass , always trying to argue about anything . Jeeeez.
No one is trying to argue? You were just asked to be more specific in what you were asking. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Also, this topic is one that has been discussed more times than I can count on this board. I would use the search function if I were you, so you can see all of the different opinions.
To answer your question, no. I haven't had any alcohol ever since I got my BFP. That's not to say that I'll enjoy a small glass of wine once I hit the third trimester.
By the way, I don't have a stick stuck up my ass. I just checked. I doubt anyone else has one either. That'd be totes uncomfortable.
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Ladies...all of that was unnessesary. Respond if u want to peoples questions but we are trying to be a non judgemental group here. Dont be so hard on eachother. Carrmenn can ask a question any way she wants too. I know you all dont mean to be mean. Just take it easy on oneanother.
I understood the question. Every once in awhile i have a small mimosa when out for brunch or a half beer with my husband every once in awhile and i sip it over a long period of time.
I read everything and all she asked was a question in her own way. You responded first and set this whole thing in motion. She responded by putting a guard up which she shouldn't have even had to do Because its her question. It was "rude."
Respond to the question in a thoughtful manner or your going to push people out...make them afraid to ask a question because its not up to par for you.
I said "ladies" this is unnecessary so you may have "glazed over" what i said. I didn't say your a mean person. Your blunt which can be great but sometimes blunt can also include some unnecessary additives. This isn't the first question I've seen you respond to similar to this. Its like we have to ask questions on your terms or your going to have an additional comment on how we can improve...just for you...because your the only one who seems to be bothered by all these little details. You don't even have to respond but your choosing to.
Personally I've abstained, but I think a small glass of beer or wine should be fine. Also, I'm with @BrooklynBroussard. Vague questions gon' git you vague answers.
@ellasnow I know @BrooklynBroussard was just trying to be helpful. The way that the question was worded would make it so that people would either skip the thread entirely or just respond with simple answers, more like a poll answer.
Some people are on here more than others so we start to see similar threads pop up and which ones normally get answered while others just seem to slip by. She is one of the most helpful Oct 15 mamas, so seeing the OP respond like that is really discouraging.
ETA: I personally abstain from all alcohol. I am not much of a drinker to begin with so it really isn't much of a change from my daily life. However, there are previous threads that have some really insightful information on the occasional drink during pregnancy or abstaining completely.
I never doubted the fact that she was trying to be helpful. Its all in the responders approach. Its not her question...so who's to judge on how a personal question is asked. Answer the question or don't answer it...but don't judge on how the question is asked. Why are we judging how a question is asked? This is a free and hopefully safe place where anyone can ask a question, any way they want, and how ever many times they want.
I use my iphone to read these threads and its not always easy to look back at past posts and what if you want to respond to a thread way back when and ask a question further...no ones going to see it because its an old post.
uhm...there are many threads on this but I have abstained. I did have a glass of champagne last weekend though- we were celebrating our 1st anniversary. But..it just made me want more so not again
Really? You can't call someone rude for asking you to elaborate. Also, not sure what else you can be looking for since you asked basically the exact same question last month.
Really? You can't call someone rude for asking you to elaborate. Also, not sure what else you can be looking for since you asked basically the exact same question last month.
I have chosen not to drink while I have kids in my house AT ALL. So while in my belly is a big not happening. I was a big drinker in my 20's, and if I can't go 9 months without a drink, I feel that's a problem. Been stone cold sober for over 5 years now and don't miss it a bit.
You know that look on a puppy's face when it gets scolded for something dumb and it doesn't understand why? That is how I feel for @BrooklynBroussard and really all of the regular O15 posters right now.
Second, we love having discussions about our experiences in pregnancy, and that includes debatable topics that require research for support. People are merely curious about the direction of your question so they can best give an answer to suit your needs. The way your post and your responses currently read, it seems like you thought, "Eh, it's Friday and I'm bored, why not stir the pot?" Rather than coming across as generally inquiring about a pregnancy-related concern or curiosity. Being a part of a community involves more investment than you chose to engage in your post.
Really? You can't call someone rude for asking you to elaborate. Also, not sure what else you can be looking for since you asked basically the exact same question last month.
Good catch! Not sure why OP is asking the same thing again. Can't wait to hear her response to that.
I can't ever drink beer (recovering alcoholic here). Booooooo! I keep realizing that there won't be a magical day when I can resume drinking again and it makes me sad. That said, it was easy to hide my pregnancy at first because nobody noticed that I wasn't drinking.
So, I personally haven't had beer while pregnant, but I think it's okay to have one every now and then if the glass is small (<8 oz.) and if it is done on rare occasions. I probably wouldn't, though, because I'd hate to worry about it having adverse effects. This is coming from a person who doesn't understand why people would drink beer in small quantities ever, so take it with a grain of salt.
Second, we love having discussions about our experiences in pregnancy, and that includes debatable topics that require research for support. People are merely curious about the direction of your question so they can best give an answer to suit your needs. The way your post and your responses currently read, it seems like you thought, "Eh, it's Friday and I'm bored, why not stir the pot?" Rather than coming across as generally inquiring about a pregnancy-related concern or curiosity. Being a part of a community involves more investment than you chose to engage in your post.
I don't usually open these drinking post because I'm a person in recovery (11 years) and I agree with @FrozenMommy if you can't abstain for 9 months you may want to look into that. But today I was feeling daring and I opened anyways.
@BrooklynBroussard ya, I've tried the smiley face thing before (in real life too) and it doesn't really seem to help. Personally I think you're all good and some people just want to be mad. I actually did initially click on this because I was considering posting depending on what the actual intro said and then got annoyed. Now that sad puppy has calmed me down:
I will have a couple sips of beer here and there off my husband's, but not a whole bottle or glass simply because I don't drink crap beer, so the alcohol content is always different. Even a sniffer of DFH World Wide Stout is going to be way more alcohol than a saison, and I'm not going to sit there and do the ratio calculations of % to oz to see how much I think is safe to drink. Plus I feel like different beers affect me differently. No science there, it's just that I always pay attention not only to quantity (this is when I'm not pregnant too) but also what my body is telling me.
I had some Champagne on our anniversary because the hotel had it waiting in our room (thank you IHG Platinum: the only good thing about a traveling husband!), and I have maybe had two glasses of wine on separate occasions since my 1st trimester ended? Regardless, I drank them over a period of 4 hours each. I couldn't handle the smell let alone taste of pretty much anything before then.
I really dislike the argument that if you can't stop drinking for 9 months you might have a problem. I don't think people mean it nastily, but it can come off sounding like if I decide to indulge I might be an alcoholic. I have never considered drinking alcohol to be something done to get drunk and always consider taste and experience to be the priority. So when I have a bit of beer or wine during pregnancy, it isn't because "Oh God, I just need me some booze," it's just that I like the flavor, and based on the risks I've weighed, it doesn't seem to be a factor worth stressing over in the amount I have consumed. Honestly if someone actually had a problem, I don't think one slow glass of wine in 2 months would be what that would look like during pregnancy at all...
I will drink in front of my children and in fact I'll make a point of it as I feel like it is the same as sexuality: making it taboo and a dirty thing does way more damage than demonstrating its use in a healthy lifestyle.
It gets me when ppl ask this same q over and over again, even if you have only asked it once but we have all seen the answers on here about this topic...but no we go and ask it twice!?!? Really like mb some have changed their tunes or is it just because they want to feel better about their choices....I say u wanna drink go ahead,.you don't wanna drink then don't...!!!! At the end of the day you will be the only one that will honestly know what's best for you..asking us isn't going to do much for anything! @BrooklynBroussard your 100% right in your comment.... no need to add a smiley face ...ask in a certain way and your get answers in that way ,too damn bad!!! We're not here to sugar coat everything, and I'm the first tonsay be nice but really U B NICE!!!!..........now me I haven't touched any kind of alcohol since last summer ! I wanted to healthy and fit and now I'm abstaining!
Rude .
It's pretty clear what question I'm asking. You understood what I said so there's no need to type an essay.
I was going to type out a thoughtful response with my beliefs re: drinking while pregnant, but considering your rude response to @BrooklynBroussard , I'm thinking it's not worth my time.
"BrooklynBroussard"
I read everything and all she asked was a question in her own way. You responded first and set this whole thing in motion. She responded by putting a guard up which she shouldn't have even had to do Because its her question. It was "rude."
Respond to the question in a thoughtful manner or your going to push people out...make them afraid to ask a question because its not up to par for you.
I said "ladies" this is unnecessary so you may have "glazed over" what i said. I didn't say your a mean person. Your blunt which can be great but sometimes blunt can also include some unnecessary additives. This isn't the first question I've seen you respond to similar to this. Its like we have to ask questions on your terms or your going to have an additional comment on how we can improve...just for you...because your the only one who seems to be bothered by all these little details. You don't even have to respond but your choosing to.
You know what's great about the internet & public forums? Everyone gets to post what they want provided they are complying with the TOU, which means neither you nor the OP get to dictate how people respond to the one word question that was posed (or any other thread).
I really dislike the argument that if you can't stop drinking for 9 months you might have a problem. I don't think people mean it nastily, but it can come off sounding like if I decide to indulge I might be an alcoholic. I have never considered drinking alcohol to be something done to get drunk and always consider taste and experience to be the priority. So when I have a bit of beer or wine during pregnancy, it isn't because "Oh God, I just need me some booze," it's just that I like the flavor, and based on the risks I've weighed, it doesn't seem to be a factor worth stressing over in the amount I have consumed. Honestly if someone actually had a problem, I don't think one slow glass of wine in 2 months would be what that would look like during pregnancy at all...
I will drink in front of my children and in fact I'll make a point of it as I feel like it is the same as sexuality: making it taboo and a dirty thing does way more damage than demonstrating it's use in a healthy lifestyle.
Quote box fail!! My response---
I will agree to disagree with you. I think it's reckless to put alcohol (or drugs) in your system while pregnant. But the drinking that you describe doesn't really sound bad to me. It doesn't sound like you seek out alcohol while pregnant (clearly you don't have a problem). But I would give you a side eye if I saw you out drinking pregnant. Sorry!
And to say that making drinking a healthy lifestyle looking to your kids is what you thinks works is great. Except for the fact I was raised in a Portuguese family where wine was acceptable and shown only to be drank with dinner (healthy right). I was a drunk by 18 with wonderful examples of drinking so I'm not sure that argument works across the board. But I totally agree about sexuality! Nothing taboo or dirty about that.
Total side note: @jefinley1 can we be drinking buds?! DFH World Wide Stout is so tasty! We aren't too far from the brewery and typically do their Dogfish Dash each year and you get to do some sampling after the finish line! Seeing as I'll be nearing my due date during this year's run, we are gonna save that race till next year
Do you know Flying Dog brewery where you are? They have a great session IPA that's like, 4.2% or something like that called Easy IPA. I've definitely split one of those with DH while chilling by our fire pit and it was divine!
@Krysta6 Haha! That's fine. Frankly if everyone agreed with me all of the time it would make me nervous and I would get really bored. I also think that life experiences play a big part in how we form our opinions, so I'm never surprised that some decisions during pregnancy offend or upset some people more than others. I will sip, and I mean sip a taste of my husband's beer when we are out to dinner just so that I can know what he is talking about if he really likes it and I do it very discretely. But I never order my own serving in public simply because I am aware that different people have different experiences and opinions, and the side-eyes would really piss me off as it's my body, my baby, my research, my choice. But I don't feel like dealing with it, so I just avoid the scenario. Plus I've had no desire anyway. If I did get a side-eye simply because someone saw one of the tiny sips, I would probably deliberately make eye contact and take another sip while holding up my middle finger. But then I would smile.
I think that just like the sexuality topic, as much as I think that great lifestyle examples are definitely more helpful than trying to hide things from your kids (they will still one day find out that alcohol exists; I'd rather have some part in that discovery), our children will still make choices that directly contradict how we raised them and it doesn't reflect on our parenting at all. My sister and I have made very different life choices and while I feel like the good things my parents did certainly affected me positively, they did nothing to royally screw her up.
@krysta6, nice to hear I am not alone. I grew up where every family party was a booze fest. I too was a drunk, by about 15 years old. I choose not to have alcohol around my children, and I have told my family that I just don't want to be around them if they are drinking. Even the smell now makes me sick. The reason I decided not to have my kids be around it at all, well at a family party once, someone leaves a glass of wine on a small side table, where my toddler can get it. I pick up the glass and move it to a tall counter. Rather than just being like, "thanks for moving my glass cousin, so your child didn't accidentally drink it or break it", it was "teach your child not to touch things that are breakable"...Ummmm, what? So that's my choice, not to be around it, and I shouldn't be looked down on for it.
@Inord7 Oh my gosh, yes I want to be drinking buddies after that! Haha. We wanted to make a little weekend trip to the Dogfish Head brewery while I was living in Philly, but it never came to fruition. We were able to go to their brew pub in Gaithersburg, MD just a couple weeks ago and I totally had a taste of their black and tan with the IPA. So yummy! I used to go down to Frederick, MD all of the time, as it is right along the route we would take to DC from where I grew up, and it is just a fun little town. But Flying Dog relocated there right before I moved to Pittsburgh, so we haven't gotten out that way again until just recently. I miss that whole strip of the country so much. You can just hop from one awesome town/city to the next.
We were actually considering a brewery visit and tour there in spite of my pregnant status as I felt my husband had earned it (this was a tag along on a business trip journey) and they're always fun. But they were closed the day we were in town. I will have to see if our local bottle shop has it.
@FrozenMommy That wasn't a judgement. I completely understand, hence the comment on differing experiences effecting our parenting decisions. Both of my grandparents grew up in the Philly slums with alcoholic dads. The whole experience was awful and so compounded by that destructive lifestyle. There was NO alcohol in their house EVER and my parents were always very careful to not talk about having a beer or wine if they ever had an occasional glass just to be sensitive to that. I continue to do that around my Gram as well.
So I have no judgement for parents who based on their experiences, the way their extended family behave around alcohol, or any other factor, choose to do things differently than I will. I was just articulating why analytically I thought it was the best for me and my family.
Re: Occasional beer ?
It's pretty clear what question I'm asking. You understood what I said so there's no need to type an essay.
I haven't had a real beer since Christmas, but I've had 3 or 4 NA beers in the last few months.
Ok do any ladies of you drink an occasional beer while pregnant ? Doesn't matter what kind. And if so comment below . Thanks
To answer your question, no. I haven't had any alcohol ever since I got my BFP. That's not to say that I'll enjoy a small glass of wine once I hit the third trimester.
By the way, I don't have a stick stuck up my ass. I just checked. I doubt anyone else has one either. That'd be totes uncomfortable.
I understood the question. Every once in awhile i have a small mimosa when out for brunch or a half beer with my husband every once in awhile and i sip it over a long period of time.
I read everything and all she asked was a question in her own way. You responded first and set this whole thing in motion. She responded by putting a guard up which she shouldn't have even had to do Because its her question. It was "rude."
Respond to the question in a thoughtful manner or your going to push people out...make them afraid to ask a question because its not up to par for you.
I said "ladies" this is unnecessary so you may have "glazed over" what i said. I didn't say your a mean person. Your blunt which can be great but sometimes blunt can also include some unnecessary additives. This isn't the first question I've seen you respond to similar to this. Its like we have to ask questions on your terms or your going to have an additional comment on how we can improve...just for you...because your the only one who seems to be bothered by all these little details. You don't even have to respond but your choosing to.
I use my iphone to read these threads and its not always easy to look back at past posts and what if you want to respond to a thread way back when and ask a question further...no ones going to see it because its an old post.
I don't usually open these drinking post because I'm a person in recovery (11 years) and I agree with @FrozenMommy if you can't abstain for 9 months you may want to look into that. But today I was feeling daring and I opened anyways.
Quote box fail!! My response---
I will agree to disagree with you. I think it's reckless to put alcohol (or drugs) in your system while pregnant. But the drinking that you describe doesn't really sound bad to me. It doesn't sound like you seek out alcohol while pregnant (clearly you don't have a problem). But I would give you a side eye if I saw you out drinking pregnant. Sorry!
And to say that making drinking a healthy lifestyle looking to your kids is what you thinks works is great. Except for the fact I was raised in a Portuguese family where wine was acceptable and shown only to be drank with dinner (healthy right). I was a drunk by 18 with wonderful examples of drinking so I'm not sure that argument works across the board. But I totally agree about sexuality! Nothing taboo or dirty about that.
@jefinley1 can we be drinking buds?! DFH World Wide Stout is so tasty! We aren't too far from the brewery and typically do their Dogfish Dash each year and you get to do some sampling after the finish line! Seeing as I'll be nearing my due date during this year's run, we are gonna save that race till next year
Do you know Flying Dog brewery where you are? They have a great session IPA that's like, 4.2% or something like that called Easy IPA. I've definitely split one of those with DH while chilling by our fire pit and it was divine!