OP, just a helpful tip. Saying something like "I apologize. I didn't realize I was going against community norms and didn't intend to come across as AWish" will be much better received than defensiveness and name calling.
OK for all those telling OP "just post whatever you want!" imagine for a moment what this board would be like if every member posted individual threads for every fleeting thought or "major, earth shattering announcement (that only impacts me)". Now imagine you had a genuine question or needed advice/support from a group of women who can relate or who have been there. I believe you might get pretty frustrated if your thread was almost immediately bumped off page 1 without a single response as the onslaught of AW posts bumped them down which could have otherwise been communicated through a shared thread for sex of the baby announcements (or any other such topic). I think the larger issue is that many ladies here aren't thinking beyond themselves. Some folks see this as their personal FB page or Twitter account. There are other outlets for folks who don't want to contribute to the community, but rather post AW announcements with little regard for what is going on to others around her. There are guidelines to this board for a reason and it is requested (within TB guidelines also sticky at the top of the page) that you take time to familiarize yourself with the community before posting and search for already discussed topics. The "Team green", "Team Blue" and "Team Pink" threads were pinned for a reason. This is a community... you can go communicate there on these topics. You will get a better reception and more topical responses by doing so.
Today I found out that Pizza Hut pan pizza gives me the runs
It shows you posted this at 9:07 AM my time. Pizza Hut would give me the trots at that hour too!
Clearly I'm not in college anymore
I miss those days. I have a wonderful memory of marathoning House, drinking from a 2-Liter, and killing a stuffed crust cheese pizza by myself.
Why, oh why, did you have to mention stuffed crust pizza?! And with that gif? I'm going to gain 20 lbs before my next appointment!
I'm at my apt waiting right now for the news on how much I've gained as well, oy. And on that note I want stuffed crust for breakfast. Dammit.
I got reminded at my appointment today to "watch my weight". ruh roh. I guess no chili cheese fries, jelly beans, or ice cream sandwiches for me this week.
I got a similar warning at the appointment after my a/s. I had been holding steady at the first few appts., but I gained 8 lbs. between 16w and 20w. I've been trying to choose more healthy snacks since then, but fruit has just not been filling me up. (
Congratulations! Ignore everyone who is being rude. It's true there is a search function but it doesn't always work on mobile systems. Honestly, if people have enough time to police everyone who double posts then it seems like they have enough time to read the multiple posts and just be quiet about it
Just FYI, the announcement threads that people are referring to are stuck at the top of the board. No search required.
Today I found out that Pizza Hut pan pizza gives me the runs
It shows you posted this at 9:07 AM my time. Pizza Hut would give me the trots at that hour too!
Clearly I'm not in college anymore
I miss those days. I have a wonderful memory of marathoning House, drinking from a 2-Liter, and killing a stuffed crust cheese pizza by myself.
Why, oh why, did you have to mention stuffed crust pizza?! And with that gif? I'm going to gain 20 lbs before my next appointment!
I'm at my apt waiting right now for the news on how much I've gained as well, oy. And on that note I want stuffed crust for breakfast. Dammit.
I got reminded at my appointment today to "watch my weight". ruh roh. I guess no chili cheese fries, jelly beans, or ice cream sandwiches for me this week.
I'm just glad my doctor doesn't know how much I gained before my first appointment! But whatever carbs keep me from puking!
I'm a little confused here. I spend a fair amount of time on this board and am aware of pink and blue and green threads. However last week we had 2-3 posters who created separate threads and all was positive. Perhaps I'm missing something but I was confused by that and again I'm confused by this. Unless I missed something it seems a little inconsistent.
Anyways--congrats on the boy op.
There are times when the members who are annoyed by those threads open them, eye roll, and close them without making any commentary.
This. When the thread subject is clearly a sex announcement, I blow over it. posting a vague thread title gets you whatever opinions you get, because vague titles are obnoxious.
Sometimes this is collectively done and sometimes it's not done at all? Eh...I don't like these posts either and I don't reply to them generally.
I've noticed some posters get zero negative responses while others get quite a few. I was wondering if there was a specific reason but I guess not. I'm wondering if it has to do with who is posting.
I'm a little confused here. I spend a fair amount of time on this board and am aware of pink and blue and green threads. However last week we had 2-3 posters who created separate threads and all was positive. Perhaps I'm missing something but I was confused by that and again I'm confused by this. Unless I missed something it seems a little inconsistent.
Anyways--congrats on the boy op.
There are times when the members who are annoyed by those threads open them, eye roll, and close them without making any commentary.
This. When the thread subject is clearly a sex announcement, I blow over it. posting a vague thread title gets you whatever opinions you get, because vague titles are obnoxious.
Sometimes this is collectively done and sometimes it's not done at all? Eh...I don't like these posts either and I don't reply to them generally.
I've noticed some posters get zero negative responses while others get quite a few. I was wondering if there was a specific reason but I guess not. I'm wondering if it has to do with who is posting.
It's probably got more to do with timing than anything else.
I'm a little confused here. I spend a fair amount of time on this board and am aware of pink and blue and green threads. However last week we had 2-3 posters who created separate threads and all was positive. Perhaps I'm missing something but I was confused by that and again I'm confused by this. Unless I missed something it seems a little inconsistent.
Anyways--congrats on the boy op.
There are times when the members who are annoyed by those threads open them, eye roll, and close them without making any commentary.
This. When the thread subject is clearly a sex announcement, I blow over it. posting a vague thread title gets you whatever opinions you get, because vague titles are obnoxious.
Sometimes this is collectively done and sometimes it's not done at all? Eh...I don't like these posts either and I don't reply to them generally.
I've noticed some posters get zero negative responses while others get quite a few. I was wondering if there was a specific reason but I guess not. I'm wondering if it has to do with who is posting.
Not for me.... since most of the people who post them haven't been around long enough to establish a rapport. Again, if your thread is "It's aBOY!!!!! SQUEEE!!!!!" i'm probably just going to ignore it. If it's "I have to talk to someone..." I'll probably open it. And when i do and it's another pinterest fail announcement and OP gets all defensive about not using the threads i have to scroll past EVERY TIME I go to look at these boards, it annoys me. And I say so.
I'm a little confused here. I spend a fair amount of time on this board and am aware of pink and blue and green threads. However last week we had 2-3 posters who created separate threads and all was positive. Perhaps I'm missing something but I was confused by that and again I'm confused by this. Unless I missed something it seems a little inconsistent.
Anyways--congrats on the boy op.
There are times when the members who are annoyed by those threads open them, eye roll, and close them without making any commentary.
This. When the thread subject is clearly a sex announcement, I blow over it. posting a vague thread title gets you whatever opinions you get, because vague titles are obnoxious.
Sometimes this is collectively done and sometimes it's not done at all? Eh...I don't like these posts either and I don't reply to them generally.
I've noticed some posters get zero negative responses while others get quite a few. I was wondering if there was a specific reason but I guess not. I'm wondering if it has to do with who is posting.
In my case, I generally will move on unless the OP decides to cop a special snowflake attitude (and even then, I try to be informative and supportive at the same time without being rude). Nothing to do with the specific person, since the ones who post repeat threads tend to be people who haven't made a significant contribution to the boards prior. As such, I haven't been able to form an opinion of them one way or another.
Talk about vague titles.. The other post was titled "We just found out... " which is very similar to this title. It wasn't about timing either, the other post was posted on the 14th and the last comment was on the 18th. It obviously hung around a while and NO one said anything about the sticky posts at the top to her. I simply don't understand.. I've also seen a couple posts regarding names and they've been told to go to the sticky posts but then others like the one about her husband liking the name Richard received no such comments. It really is confusing. She got a ton of comments and a lot of feedback while those who actually posted in the sticky thread received like 1 or 2 responses so it's no wonder why people try to create their own thread.
Okay. I guess I don't really see much of a distinction but I can appreciate that some of you do. Is the "rule" for lack of a better term then not simply that we don't post sex announcements in separate threads? Is the rule rather that it's frowned upon to do it but the more telling the title the less posts about it one will receive?
Okay. I guess I don't really see much of a distinction but I can appreciate that some of you do. Is the "rule" for lack of a better term then not simply that we don't post sex announcements in separate threads?
Is the rule rather that it's frowned upon to do it but the more telling the title the less posts about it one will receive?
No because your suggestion helps with one issue but not another. Creating new threads constantly about the same subject matter pushes down important topics and questions. That's the reason regular posters remind newer posters to add to the existing threads. A second issue is when someone posts something like "we just found out..." regular posters want to read it to see if they can help out or learn something themselves. Then it gets super annoying when it's just the 7th post in a row about the sex of their baby.
Okay. I guess I don't really see much of a distinction but I can appreciate that some of you do. Is the "rule" for lack of a better term then not simply that we don't post sex announcements in separate threads?
Is the rule rather that it's frowned upon to do it but the more telling the title the less posts about it one will receive?
In my mind, the "rule" is Don't be an AW if you don't regularly contribute to the community. It's pretty simple.
Okay. I guess I don't really see much of a distinction but I can appreciate that some of you do. Is the "rule" for lack of a better term then not simply that we don't post sex announcements in separate threads? Is the rule rather that it's frowned upon to do it but the more telling the title the less posts about it one will receive?
In my mind, the "rule" is Don't be an AW if you don't regularly contribute to the community. It's pretty simple.
Well that's pretty much my point. I have no issue with no posts like these. I would prefer that no one post this stuff. However, like I said we had 2-3 posts like this last week with nothing but positive feedback. I'm just confused as to why no one commented about posting to the main threads there but so many are here.
Okay. I guess I don't really see much of a distinction but I can appreciate that some of you do. Is the "rule" for lack of a better term then not simply that we don't post sex announcements in separate threads? Is the rule rather that it's frowned upon to do it but the more telling the title the less posts about it one will receive?
No because your suggestion helps with one issue but not another. Creating new threads constantly about the same subject matter pushes down important topics and questions. That's the reason regular posters remind newer posters to add to the existing threads. A second issue is when someone posts something like "we just found out..." regular posters want to read it to see if they can help out or learn something themselves. Then it gets super annoying when it's just the 7th post in a row about the sex of their baby.
Okay....look I don't like the threads either. I am not questioning why comments ARE made on posts. I'm confused as to why some people post about sex of The baby and have no comments about using the main threads and some have pages of them.
This isn't my way of attacking anyone. I am wondering if I'm missing something.
Okay. I guess I don't really see much of a distinction but I can appreciate that some of you do. Is the "rule" for lack of a better term then not simply that we don't post sex announcements in separate threads?
Is the rule rather that it's frowned upon to do it but the more telling the title the less posts about it one will receive?
No because your suggestion helps with one issue but not another. Creating new threads constantly about the same subject matter pushes down important topics and questions. That's the reason regular posters remind newer posters to add to the existing threads. A second issue is when someone posts something like "we just found out..." regular posters want to read it to see if they can help out or learn something themselves. Then it gets super annoying when it's just the 7th post in a row about the sex of their baby.
Okay....look I don't like the threads either. I am not questioning why comments ARE made on posts. I'm confused as to why some people post about sex of The baby and have no comments about using the main threads and some have pages of them.
This isn't my way of attacking anyone. I am wondering if I'm missing something.
I know you're not attacking and think you're asking a valid question. I don't know the actual answer. I think it really does come down to timing though as some others have mentioned, either from the number of posts we've received already that day on the same subject, or just dependent on who's reading the threads at that time. But I don't think there's an exact science to it.
Okay. I guess I don't really see much of a distinction but I can appreciate that some of you do. Is the "rule" for lack of a better term then not simply that we don't post sex announcements in separate threads?
Is the rule rather that it's frowned upon to do it but the more telling the title the less posts about it one will receive?
In my mind, the "rule" is Don't be an AW if you don't regularly contribute to the community. It's pretty simple.
Well that's pretty much my point. I have no issue with no posts like these. I would prefer that no one post this stuff. However, like I said we had 2-3 posts like this last week with nothing but positive feedback. I'm just confused as to why no one commented about posting to the main threads there but so many are here.
No idea. I didn't see the other threads. maybe others didn't either.
Not for me.... since most of the people who post them haven't been around long enough to establish a rapport. Again, if your thread is "It's aBOY!!!!! SQUEEE!!!!!" i'm probably just going to ignore it. If it's "I have to talk to someone..." I'll probably open it. And when i do and it's another pinterest fail announcement and OP gets all defensive about not using the threads i have to scroll past EVERY TIME I go to look at these boards, it annoys me. And I say so.
For me it really does come down to timing. We all have lives and none of us is the board police. If I've got the time to say something I usually do, if I don't I'm not going to sweat it.
For me it really does come down to timing. We all have lives and none of us is the board police. If I've got the time to say something I usually do, if I don't I'm not going to sweat it.
THIS - If I don't express my displeasure for this type of post on every offending thread, rest assured that either a) I simply wasn't around while it actively receiving responses or b) the title was beyond clear and despite the fact that I find it annoying, I scroll past.
Unrelated sidebar, but I suppose part of my personal struggle with these threads is that don't get it and find little value in them to the greater community. We're all excited about our babies, but why do some ladies HAVE to have their own threads when we have sticky threads for these type of announcements??? I respect the excitement, but the attitude of "Hey! Look at me and how exceptionally special the sex reveal of my baby is that I need my own thread rather than sharing" just makes my stomach turn. I'm Team Green so if I don't care to find out the sex of my LO prior to birth, I don't know why strangers think I'll care about what their LOs are equipped with in AW threads. I just wish for everyone to have a healthy baby and birth experience.
Okay. I guess I don't really see much of a distinction but I can appreciate that some of you do. Is the "rule" for lack of a better term then not simply that we don't post sex announcements in separate threads?
Is the rule rather that it's frowned upon to do it but the more telling the title the less posts about it one will receive?
For me personally, I would rather there not be any repeat posts. However, if you must AW, just own it (which, it seems, more seasoned members tend to do). You might still get some eye rolls, but if you acknowledge your AWing instead of acting like we should all bend over backwards for you because you don't want to follow the rules, your post will likely be better-received. If you openly admit to not using the search function and adding to an existing thread just because you don't want to scroll (or some something of that ilk), your post is probably going to get quite a bit of snark. If you start off with something along the lines of, "Okay, forgive me because I know this is a total AW..." your post will probably go over a lot better.
You know what, do what ever you want! Don't listen to these nasty ladies! Congrats to you!! be happy with your news!!! Xx
This is so worrisome to me. "Do whatever you want"??? Only since the advent of social media has this level of narcissism not only permeated our society, but been so accepted and encouraged by the masses. So those of us exhibiting common courtesy and respect for guidelines/rules are nasty? How will some of you with this mentality raise your children to respect rules at school and in society when this attitude of entitlement to do and say what you want when you want is placed in such high regard while ignoring the impact on those around you?
OK for all those telling OP "just post whatever you want!" imagine for a moment what this board would be like if every member posted individual threads for every fleeting thought or "major, earth shattering announcement (that only impacts me)". Now imagine you had a genuine question or needed advice/support from a group of women who can relate or who have been there. I believe you might get pretty frustrated if your thread was almost immediately bumped off page 1 without a single response as the onslaught of AW posts bumped them down which could have otherwise been communicated through a shared thread for sex of the baby announcements (or any other such topic). I think the larger issue is that many ladies here aren't thinking beyond themselves. Some folks see this as their personal FB page or Twitter account. There are other outlets for folks who don't want to contribute to the community, but rather post AW announcements with little regard for what is going on to others around her. There are guidelines to this board for a reason and it is requested (within TB guidelines also sticky at the top of the page) that you take time to familiarize yourself with the community before posting and search for already discussed topics. The "Team green", "Team Blue" and "Team Pink" threads were pinned for a reason. This is a community... you can go communicate there on these topics. You will get a better reception and more topical responses by doing so.
Maybe my timing was bad. But every time I posted a thread (health issues) and that happend a max of 3 times it got pushed really back. I gave up. Sometimes I piggyback on other threads or just answer with the little (or maybe on the spot) experience that I have.
You know what, do what ever you want! Don't listen to these nasty ladies! Congrats to you!! be happy with your news!!! Xx
This is so worrisome to me. "Do whatever you want"??? Only since the advent of social media has this level of narcissism not only permeated our society, but been so accepted and encouraged by the masses. So those of us exhibiting common courtesy and respect for guidelines/rules are nasty? How will some of you with this mentality raise your children to respect rules at school and in society when this attitude of entitlement to do and say what you want when you want is placed in such high regard while ignoring the impact on those around you?
Lol, who cares. This lady didn't know and you have decided to tell her (in a not so nice way) im sure she understands now, but there was no need for the way it was said.mshe was so happy to tell you all about her news and you shut her down. Was just sad.
P.s, school is years away so the rules etc will be changed, will cross that when the time comes so please don't try talking about our "mentality"
Sometimes it is not what you say but how you say it. I agree that guidelines should be followed but I don't see why such pleasant and happy news people would find annoying. What happened to the simple "congrats for you healthy baby boy! You should join the discussion team blue!"
I mean even if it has happened many times, it isn't with the same person...
I am someone that may not post and comment as much as some of you others but I would hope there is still a common support as we are all going through the same thing here. At worst a mutual respect-
At least this is something I have to offer...
I see pregnant women all the time I don't know and am happy for their news if it is a boy or girl- most strangers I come across with my pregnancy are happy as well. They ask "how far along, do you know the sex, congrats ... Etc" I mean come on- it's life changing.. There should be admiration in that...
You know what, do what ever you want! Don't listen to these nasty ladies! Congrats to you!! be happy with your news!!! Xx
This is so worrisome to me. "Do whatever you want"??? Only since the advent of social media has this level of narcissism not only permeated our society, but been so accepted and encouraged by the masses. So those of us exhibiting common courtesy and respect for guidelines/rules are nasty? How will some of you with this mentality raise your children to respect rules at school and in society when this attitude of entitlement to do and say what you want when you want is placed in such high regard while ignoring the impact on those around you?
Lol, who cares. This lady didn't know and you have decided to tell her (in a not so nice way) im sure she understands now, but there was no need for the way it was said.mshe was so happy to tell you all about her news and you shut her down. Was just sad.
P.s, school is years away so the rules etc will be changed, will cross that when the time comes so please don't try talking about our "mentality"
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"The rules at school will be changed"? That's your defense? Wow. Being a considerate person will get you farther in life. That is something that won't change
You know what, do what ever you want! Don't listen to these nasty ladies! Congrats to you!! be happy with your news!!! Xx
This is so worrisome to me. "Do whatever you want"??? Only since the advent of social media has this level of narcissism not only permeated our society, but been so accepted and encouraged by the masses. So those of us exhibiting common courtesy and respect for guidelines/rules are nasty? How will some of you with this mentality raise your children to respect rules at school and in society when this attitude of entitlement to do and say what you want when you want is placed in such high regard while ignoring the impact on those around you?
Lol, who cares. This lady didn't know and you have decided to tell her (in a not so nice way) im sure she understands now, but there was no need for the way it was said.mshe was so happy to tell you all about her news and you shut her down. Was just sad. P.s, school is years away so the rules etc will be changed, will cross that when the time comes so please don't try talking about our "mentality"
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As a teacher, I can tell you there is more than enough narcissism seen in schools. If the rules change to allow more, I'm out.
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Sometimes it is not what you say but how you say it. I agree that guidelines should be followed but I don't see why such pleasant and happy news people would find annoying. What happened to the simple "congrats for you healthy baby boy! You should join the discussion team blue!"
I mean even if it has happened many times, it isn't with the same person...
I am someone that may not post and comment as much as some of you others but I would hope there is still a common support as we are all going through the same thing here. At worst a mutual respect-
At least this is something I have to offer...
I see pregnant women all the time I don't know and am happy for their news if it is a boy or girl- most strangers I come across with my pregnancy are happy as well. They ask "how far along, do you know the sex, congrats ... Etc" I mean come on- it's life changing.. There should be admiration in that...
Except there are over 200 women on this forum. If each and every one of them wants to do their own special thread on here about every step in their pregnancy journey it becomes a bunch of pregnancy blogs/facebook. As I said before, walking into a maternity store and shoving your announcement photo in everyone's face is rude. This is no different. It is especially rude when it's someone who has made no previous attempt to join or be a part of the community. It's just "Hey! I don't know you people, but congratulate me for doing the exact same thing the rest of you are doing right now." It comes off as attention starved and narcissistic.
Super Cute! Congratulations on your little boy. I asked a question a while back and was told to lurk first as it had been repeated Whoops haha. There are a lot of people on here that are happy to read your post
You know what, do what ever you want! Don't listen to these nasty ladies! Congrats to you!! be happy with your news!!! Xx
This is so worrisome to me. "Do whatever you want"??? Only since the advent of social media has this level of narcissism not only permeated our society, but been so accepted and encouraged by the masses. So those of us exhibiting common courtesy and respect for guidelines/rules are nasty? How will some of you with this mentality raise your children to respect rules at school and in society when this attitude of entitlement to do and say what you want when you want is placed in such high regard while ignoring the impact on those around you?
Lol, who cares. This lady didn't know and you have decided to tell her (in a not so nice way) im sure she understands now, but there was no need for the way it was said.mshe was so happy to tell you all about her news and you shut her down. Was just sad.
P.s, school is years away so the rules etc will be changed, will cross that when the time comes so please don't try talking about our "mentality"
I fail to see how anything I posted on this thread was nasty or "not so nice" so you'll need to provide greater context as to what you're referencing here. That said, I am a firm believe that parenting begins day 1 and a major part of parenting is instilling manners, courtesy and respect for those around you. It is unfair to both my child and other children exposed to him if I wait until he is 5 or 6 to begin teaching said values. For example, we took our 15 month old to a park this weekend. He loves the slide, but there was a line. I wouldn't let him go until it was his turn and admittedly this prompted some initial meltdowns. I explained to him (as best anyone can explain to a 15 month old) that you need to wait your turn and be courteous. At first he was upset, but he got the hang of waiting in line it pretty quickly. You would be amazed what kids pick up at such a young age when you reinforce and lead by example. These are important concepts to instill and sadly I don't see as many parents taking the time to do it nowadays. I see this same attitude at times on this board when people comment "do what you want! who cares about the rules and others here!" and I find it discourteous to those of us trying to enjoy the community and follow requested Bump guidelines. So yes, I will callout a concerning trend regarding mentality if I see it.
Wow, I'm pretty sure all of you are grown women and should probably act like it. There are no damn rules, however guidelines to steer people in the right direction. I'm appalled that you women are acting like bullies over a post that is so genuinely positive. You should probably get off of your high horse, considering this a community blog, and none of you own the site or company. If she wants to post pictures of her ultrasound everyday, she's entitled too, unless an actual employee of the site asks her not do so, not you.
Congratulations on your sweet baby boy! We are expecting one as well!
Oh, and for all you "rule followers" read the guidelines.
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Wow, I'm pretty sure all of you are grown women and should probably act like it. There are no damn rules, however guidelines to steer people in the right direction. I'm appalled that you women are acting like bullies over a post that is so genuinely positive. You should probably get off of your high horse, considering this a community blog, and none of you own the site or company. If she wants to post pictures of her ultrasound everyday, she's entitled too, unless an actual employee of the site asks her not do so, not you.
Congratulations on your sweet baby boy! We are expecting one as well!
Thank you for your many positive contributions to the community. Oh wait, you've made 5 replies. 2 of which have been bashing people. When you have been a supportive member of the community please come back and I will pay attention to your opinion.
Wow, I'm pretty sure all of you are grown women and should probably act like it. There are no damn rules, however guidelines to steer people in the right direction. I'm appalled that you women are acting like bullies over a post that is so genuinely positive. You should probably get off of your high horse, considering this a community blog, and none of you own the site or company. If she wants to post pictures of her ultrasound everyday, she's entitled too, unless an actual employee of the site asks her not do so, not you.
Congratulations on your sweet baby boy! We are expecting one as well!
Wait... what??? I'll just leave this here so that we're on the same page.
I think this is where we differ I guess- I have always been genuinely excited for other pregnant women and to be honest I have had other doctors than my own, pharmacists all ask me what I'm expecting / how far along and genuinely be excited about it too. People generally are all warm eyed over pregnant women-
Maybe she felt the bump was a place she could do this. Especially as we can all relate to the excitement. Of course we are different people but as I said, we are all going through the same thing and I do think we should have a mutual respect for it. Following guidelines on one end and kindly guiding them when mistakes are made-
I just don't think it is fair to say that someone announcing the sex of their baby is narcissistic. Just my opinion- the two of you have exchanged so little time together-
Just as someone shouldn't shove their announcement into another's face I also believe the other person wouldn't look at it and say you are a narcissist and attention seeker.
Just let her be excited about it. It's a far greater worth than taking it away from her to me. Even if it is annoying I mean come on, there are far worse things to be mad and annoyed about than a baby announcement no?
Nonetheless just my thoughts for the day!
I don't even know what I'm having and doubt I would ever share it on here- just out of a personal preference. Do you know what you're having? ( I dare not to ask don't worry )
I have noticed the posts on the site seem to be dwindling down- I guess it is a good sign for healthy pregnancies.
@VexyMommy
I think this is where we differ I guess- I have always been genuinely excited for other pregnant women and to be honest I have had other doctors than my own, pharmacists all ask me what I'm expecting / how far along and genuinely be excited about it too. People generally are all warm eyed over pregnant women-
Maybe she felt the bump was a place she could do this. Especially as we can all relate to the excitement. Of course we are different people but as I said, we are all going through the same thing and I do think we should have a mutual respect for it. Following guidelines on one end and kindly guiding them when mistakes are made-
I just don't think it is fair to say that someone announcing the sex of their baby is narcissistic. Just my opinion- the two of you have exchanged so little time together-
Just as someone shouldn't shove their announcement into another's face I also believe the other person wouldn't look at it and say you are a narcissist and attention seeker.
Just let her be excited about it. It's a far greater worth than taking it away from her to me. Even if it is annoying I mean come on, there are far worse things to be mad and annoyed about than a baby announcement no?
Nonetheless just my thoughts for the day!
I don't even know what I'm having and doubt I would ever share it on here- just out of a personal preference. Do you know what you're having? ( I dare not to ask don't worry )
I have noticed the posts on the site seem to be dwindling down- I guess it is a good sign for healthy pregnancies.
I do and it's a little girl. Thank you for asking. This is interacting and getting to know people and socializing within a community. That's a big part of having mutual respect in a community. If we're talking and having a conversation of course it's fine to bring it up. It's a very different thing to just post it and then get upset when not everyone OOOHS and AAAAHS over you. Especially when you do not contribute to the community in other ways by providing support for women going through tough times or even having conversations such as this with the other ladies on here.
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Saying something like "I apologize. I didn't realize I was going against community norms and didn't intend to come across as AWish" will be much better received than defensiveness and name calling.
I'm at my apt waiting right now for the news on how much I've gained as well, oy. And on that note I want stuffed crust for breakfast. Dammit.
I got reminded at my appointment today to "watch my weight". ruh roh. I guess no chili cheese fries, jelly beans, or ice cream sandwiches for me this week.
I'm just glad my doctor doesn't know how much I gained before my first appointment! But whatever carbs keep me from puking!
This. When the thread subject is clearly a sex announcement, I blow over it. posting a vague thread title gets you whatever opinions you get, because vague titles are obnoxious.
Sometimes this is collectively done and sometimes it's not done at all? Eh...I don't like these posts either and I don't reply to them generally.
I've noticed some posters get zero negative responses while others get quite a few. I was wondering if there was a specific reason but I guess not. I'm wondering if it has to do with who is posting.
Is the rule rather that it's frowned upon to do it but the more telling the title the less posts about it one will receive?
In my mind, the "rule" is Don't be an AW if you don't regularly contribute to the community. It's pretty simple.
In my mind, the "rule" is Don't be an AW if you don't regularly contribute to the community. It's pretty simple.
Well that's pretty much my point. I have no issue with no posts like these. I would prefer that no one post this stuff. However, like I said we had 2-3 posts like this last week with nothing but positive feedback. I'm just confused as to why no one commented about posting to the main threads there but so many are here.
Okay....look I don't like the threads either. I am not questioning why comments ARE made on posts. I'm confused as to why some people post about sex of The baby and have no comments about using the main threads and some have pages of them.
This isn't my way of attacking anyone. I am wondering if I'm missing something.
No idea. I didn't see the other threads. maybe others didn't either.
This x a million.
Lol, who cares. This lady didn't know and you have decided to tell her (in a not so nice way) im sure she understands now, but there was no need for the way it was said.mshe was so happy to tell you all about her news and you shut her down. Was just sad. P.s, school is years away so the rules etc will be changed, will cross that when the time comes so please don't try talking about our "mentality"
I mean even if it has happened many times, it isn't with the same person...
I am someone that may not post and comment as much as some of you others but I would hope there is still a common support as we are all going through the same thing here. At worst a mutual respect-
At least this is something I have to offer...
I see pregnant women all the time I don't know and am happy for their news if it is a boy or girl- most strangers I come across with my pregnancy are happy as well. They ask "how far along, do you know the sex, congrats ... Etc" I mean come on- it's life changing.. There should be admiration in that...
Lol, who cares. This lady didn't know and you have decided to tell her (in a not so nice way) im sure she understands now, but there was no need for the way it was said.mshe was so happy to tell you all about her news and you shut her down. Was just sad.
P.s, school is years away so the rules etc will be changed, will cross that when the time comes so please don't try talking about our "mentality"
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As a teacher, I can tell you there is more than enough narcissism seen in schools. If the rules change to allow more, I'm out.
Except there are over 200 women on this forum. If each and every one of them wants to do their own special thread on here about every step in their pregnancy journey it becomes a bunch of pregnancy blogs/facebook. As I said before, walking into a maternity store and shoving your announcement photo in everyone's face is rude. This is no different. It is especially rude when it's someone who has made no previous attempt to join or be a part of the community. It's just "Hey! I don't know you people, but congratulate me for doing the exact same thing the rest of you are doing right now." It comes off as attention starved and narcissistic.
I asked a question a while back and was told to lurk first as it had been repeated
There are a lot of people on here that are happy to read your post
Congratulations on your sweet baby boy! We are expecting one as well!
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I think this is where we differ I guess- I have always been genuinely excited for other pregnant women and to be honest I have had other doctors than my own, pharmacists all ask me what I'm expecting / how far along and genuinely be excited about it too. People generally are all warm eyed over pregnant women-
Maybe she felt the bump was a place she could do this. Especially as we can all relate to the excitement. Of course we are different people but as I said, we are all going through the same thing and I do think we should have a mutual respect for it. Following guidelines on one end and kindly guiding them when mistakes are made-
I just don't think it is fair to say that someone announcing the sex of their baby is narcissistic. Just my opinion- the two of you have exchanged so little time together-
Just as someone shouldn't shove their announcement into another's face I also believe the other person wouldn't look at it and say you are a narcissist and attention seeker.
Just let her be excited about it. It's a far greater worth than taking it away from her to me. Even if it is annoying I mean come on, there are far worse things to be mad and annoyed about than a baby announcement no?
Nonetheless just my thoughts for the day!
I don't even know what I'm having and doubt I would ever share it on here- just out of a personal preference. Do you know what you're having? ( I dare not to ask don't worry
I have noticed the posts on the site seem to be dwindling down- I guess it is a good sign for healthy pregnancies.